Shut up this is sad.

Oh my God. Boston was my absolute favorite classic rock act. How can someone do something like this to himself, with band reunion gigs in the summer and a fiance?
I'm disturbed right now

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Whoa. I didn't expect that one.

That sucks. I just saw the episode of SPace Ghost where Zorack(sp?) goes off with Boston in that spaceship.

Shut up this is sad.

great singer great band, sad to hear this happen.

Man...this sucks. I love this band. I really wish I could've seen them...R.I.P. Brad Delp.

Hey Spat, where did you get the info on the carbon monoxide poisoning? Can't find it anywhere.... Maybe provide for us a link...?This Message Edited On 03.14.07

Chan said nothing wrong.

whoever deleted my last comment, please i really see no reason for it. just because i was critical of this guy for checking out like a coward and leaving loved ones behind at the ripe old age of 55 doesn't mean my statement wasn't sincere and perhaps a sentiment shared by some others. yes, anyone who commits suicide so selfishly at that age is a loser who has learned nothing about life or how to live it. singer for Boston or not. i would say the same of Daltrey, Townshend, or Joe Shmo if they did the same. its just pathetic and i say good riddance...suicide is for kids and junkies, not 55 year old men who are counted on by family and friends just to be there another day.This Message Edited On 03.15.07

shut up, SOP. it was neither and an honest opinion. why not just do your service and clean up the spam and the trolling and leave honest comments alone however offensive or ignorant you may find them. don't be such a puss.yThis Message Edited On 03.14.07

Thanks Spat.

I also think it's cowardly to commmit suicide but that's all I'm gonna say. They were an AWZOME band!

Everyone saying that suicide is cowardly, fuck you with a knife! It's not about bravery and cowardice, and it's not about logic and reason. It's a decision made under phsychological instability, the only thing that can override your self-preservation instincts.
I've contemplated suicide before. The reason I didn't go through with it is because I was too so god damn depressed that it sounded like too much work. It's not because I'm a lion-hearted SOB that I pulled through, it's because I'm completely head-fucked and the depression passed like it always does.
So before you shoot your god damn mouths off, maybe you should actually do a little research before making a black and white decision about such a grave issue.

Good point, Steerpike. I have never personally contemplated suicide and therefore have no say in any psychological beliefs on the subject. However, I have come to the conclusion that no matter what, life is always the better choice and obviously holds more rewards (suicides go to Hell according to the Bible).

But either way, this shit is weak.

well Steeerpike lets hope you get over that by the time you are 55 years old and let down your band, family, and soon to be lovely wife. the man had options, could have sought help, or simply stuck it out. i can't judge him or anyone else but this news is just slightly pathetic. and i don't need to do research as i have an AA in psychology, understand the motives of suicide and know their are reasons. i also know this: it is ultimately a selfish act. perhaps he was tired, perhaps he battled depression all his life ( i don't know if he did), but to pull your own plug at 55 in the face of those who love you is not the way to go.This Message Edited On 03.14.07

If you have the knowledge you speak of, then you should know that you're trying to apply logic to a decision in which real logic never actually enters the picture.
It fucking breaks my heart every time I hear stories like this. I could very well have ended up in a similar situation. So perhaps you can understand why hearing people acting as if they can judge suicide victims and/or people with depression, it touches one hell of a nerve.

With Depression, it doesn't matter what age you are. It is an illness.

i do understand it is an illness, and while my knowledge isn't considerable (obviously as an AA is really just the tip of the iceberg in the study of psychology) i cannot simply look upon this mans decision with complete compassion. for his family, yes, of course. but suicide is beyond the pale and as serious as it is and as tragic it is also a very selfish last effort on the depressed persons part. i think his age bothers me most of all. if it had been someone younger and with different circumstances i would be more ready to understand. someone older and perhaps sick, in pain and lonely, again, i would understand.

but you know 55, a rockstar, children, an ex wife, a future wife and an upcoming tour with a much beloved rock band and its hard for me to grasp why one takes it that far. perhaps he was in some real trouble? maybe he had other mental problems? those things have not been reported and who knows enough right now to say? but i do know this: he was old enough to know to get help. modern medicines work wonders and treatment is very effective these days. no one in a position like this man has to lose their lives and sometimes it helps when people say "enough is enough" instead of trying to understand something so awful and wrong.

my mom is 55 years old, no stranger to depression, brought up two kids on her own, was a victim of domestic violence and had what most would consider a tragic childhood. she worked through it, made something for herself and is a happy grandmother today. she learned in her life to appreciate those things that could help fulfill her and she has the things in her life that help her have a life worth living. family, work, and a satisfaction that she has overcome a past that would devastate most others for many lifetimes. taking her own life is out of the question because in her 55 years she has learned the true value of life, rock star or not.

this is most tragic because the man had much to live for and seems he was a good guy who had people around him who truly care. from the sound of it he had the support he needed and could have reached out. one last time is all it takes to live another day. if he had been broke, homeless, a has been, sick, drug addicted, in physical pain, or up against something besides his own internal demons i could understand. but he locked himself in the bathroom with two mini barbecues, taped two letters to the door, and checked out. it didn't have to happen and he should have known better. its never too late and people need to know that. suicide is NEVER acceptable or completely understandable and as long as real help exists it should never be considered. This Message Edited On 03.14.07

JXD, neither you or anybody else here is really in a position to judge him. Let's just leave it at that.

no harm. just some thoughts and i certainly don't mean to judge . i really didn't think i was and i don't mean to offend. perhaps i talked too loosely in my initial posts (including the mod deleted) so i just wanted to be clear. This Message Edited On 03.15.07

JXD is the one speaking sense here.This Message Edited On 03.15.07

I can see both sides of the equation as correct. It is truly hard for me to see what his motives were, but you can never really be sure with a suicidal person.
It all depends on how you look at it; a helpless lost individual to whom we should show remorse or in Steerpikes case empathy, or a selfish person whom we should call a coward. I can't decide.This Message Edited On 03.15.07

"However, I have come to the conclusion that no matter what, life is always the better choice and obviously holds more rewards (suicides go to Hell according to the Bible)."

But many people like me are atheists.

JXD is right in the sense that he had a reason to live, there was a happy future for him. i dont know what he was depressed about but its sad he had to leave his family but i wouldnt call him selfish...just really confused with his life. its always sad to hear about this stuff.

It's not sad for who he was, just the fact that he's leaving a family behind when he still had a good 30 years to go

I don't understand how a man in an incredibly successful band for the last 30 years with two children, a new fiancee and (presumably) very well off financially could ever really understand just how bad life can actually be. From where I am, he just didn't seem to have a life bad enough to do this. Terrible news.

There is always two sides to suicide. One it's a selfish and egotistical decision, but you gotta be far down to contemplate it, and you're probably not rational by the time you make the decision.

The trick is not to get that far down. Evidently, we failed him, and not the other way around. If someone kills himself without warning or reason, it's often a sign there's something wrong with the community around him. Doesn't have to be though. It's just that a lot of people are going to ask themselves questions "how could we have prevented this, ensure it doesn't happen in the future etc."

IMO the best way is always be kind to unkind people. They probably need it the most. But anyone probably needs it. =/

Sad, though. Always sad.

Well put Altmer. Really sad news even though I'm not too familiar with Boston's music. I guess I just don't get how one can take their life at 55 years old. Through all those years I can imagine that one would have been through a lot of shit and realize they can survive just about anything in the long run emotionally. Regardless, RIP Delp.

But many people like me are atheists.

Atheism is dumb in my opinion as a Catholic who has read the bible twice,The reason why is,we are here just cuz.