Jayyvon Opens Up About Abuse2016-12-26 by Snide | 36 Comments
|Former performer Jayy Von Monroe and half of the now disbanded Electro-Pop duo 'Blood on the Dance Floor' has released an official statement as to why he left the band, citing not only numerous creative differences, but also heavy physical and emotional abuse ranging from withholding his necessary HIV medication, keeping him from contacting his family, and pushing him to near starvation.|
Jayy Von's Statement:
With respect, and all honesty, I feel that it is only the right of any fan out there to know why I left Blood on the Dance Floor a few months ago.
As an artist who has changed not only how they look physically, but how they think, write, and create, I began to feel constricted and creatively limited by the other half of the group. It's started around 2014 after we had made some progression of having a real message for the young people who made up 80% of the fan base, the music sales started to go down because streaming had become the new way of listening to music instead of iTunes downloads. He panicked and insisted in writing material that was based around the older concept of the group. ( unnecessarily offensive and overly sexual ) when your fan base is made of teens, these are usually subjects you'd want to avoid. When I joined at 18, I didn't feel that inappropriate about it, until I became older, and felt like a pervert singing these songs to kids.
I went a few years touring and working for the band, but Dahvie insisted not paying me. Instead, he wanted to be somewhat of a caretaker and played that role from the beginning. I allowed it, because I was young, and overwhelmed by the glory of being 18, and touring the nation to meet people that enjoyed the same things I did. I was too timid, and with Dahvie's short temper that he had displayed on many occasions by firing his employees with absolutely no reasoning, I feared that I would be next. I didn't want to push his buttons, and be left with nothing. He paid my phone bill, payed my car insurance, my half of the rent, as well as my medical insurance. Instead of just paying me how an employee should be, but I had enough of this weird "daddy" relationship. My mother would always ask why I never had any money, or why I couldn't afford to go see her in my hometown in Florida. It's ruined relationships for me with not just boyfriends, but people that worked for him, and other bands we toured with. I was manipulated to dislike anyone who tried to call him out.
At some point a few years into the band's career, I had a long talk with him about maybe just paying me so he didn't have to take care of me all the time. He gave in, and put me on retainer that was mostly late or incomplete to our agreement. Instead, he kept me under his thumb so as to make sure I couldn't leave and was co-dependent on our relationship. When the band had a manager, He became responsible for paying me, and it lasted for almost a year. Until the manager was fired.
There were times when I literally had nothing yet Dahvie was spending lavishly on ridiculous novelties, custom made clothing, and flying random girls in to stay/live with us.
I finally started to work independently, after "getting permission" from Dahvie in late 2014, and that's how I stayed alive.
About a year ago, I had gotten very sick, for a while, and then shortly after was diagnosed HIV+ and I needed to get medication and medical help started. Yet, there was a tour that was booked for the band. As I saw it, there won't be a tour if I'm physically not up to it, but Dahvie saw it differently. He just kept pushing it in my face that we couldn't afford to cancel the tour, and that any medical help that I need would just have to wait until we came back for my treatment. He couldn't afford tour because the extreme $60,000 debt Dahvie had put himself in (despite having just bought himself a new car.) So, I reluctantly agreed against my better judgment to go out on tour and was dragged all through the country, sick as a dog, and waited it out. The tour ended up being a total bust, the attendance was lower than ever before, the fans were being charged an arm and a leg for a VIP meet and greet that either was late, and rushed because Dahvie was the hotel with a girl. Or was cancelled completely because the shows weren't happening. Dates were cancelled left and right by promoters, and venue owners that had heard about Dahvie's reputation. When we finally got home, I immediately got treatment, and after a few months had passed and a new health routine, I was back to myself. I am now undetectable and healthy, according to my doctors. I am very lucky and especially thankful to everyone who had been there with me along the way.
In October we released "Scissors" the last album we did together. I wrote every song on the deluxe version with the exception of 2. Dahvie paid me $1,000 to write all of that material in less than 2 week period. It was just too much work for too little money and after what happened with the last tour and just a general feeling of being taken advantage of by Dahvie for a long time, I left the band.
I needed a new life. I couldn't live in that situation anymore. Yet, I had no where to go, and he knew that, so he took advantage of what he could until I couldn't take it any longer. So I left. Dahvie ended up abruptly moving to Ohio to be with his then girlfriend and I was left essentially homeless. So I ended up moving back to Arizona with my friend and am living a quiet desert farm life in Tucson while I rebuild my life and start a new career.
Recently, Dahvie opted to continue to tour as Blood on the Dance Floor, still selling merch with my name and face on it, signing my name onto posters I've never seen or touched and, obviously, still playing music I wrote for him. On top of not being paid for any of these merch sales using my likeness, he's now saying that he's out on stage performing in my honor, obviously trying to capitalize on my "illness", as he has referred to it to fans.
I feel his statement about me, was insensitive, and unnecessary. I have been through hell and back, and still fighting, and I feel like I'm being mocked by him as some kind of cruel joke.
I've always told fans to not be afraid to speak your mind and embrace your true self, so I'm taking my own advice. My peace is now said I'm closing the book of on it. I still love music and will continue to create. I love all the people who have stood by me all these years and who will still continue to stand with me during these times of new growth.
You're all the only reason I exist. Thank you all.
Tagged: Blood on the Dance Floor
As much as I despise the band's music, this is a really sad thing and I'm glad he at least has an outlet for his emotions as well as a fanbase for support
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I love Jayy's voice, and personality, and it's sad to see that he had to go through this. Dahvie's facing massive backlash now for his actions against Jayy.
This is something I didn't see coming. But good for Jayy I guess.
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Damn, that Dayvie guy is an absolute asshole
It was beneficial for everyone for them to break up
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dude's music is trash but he sounds like a decent guy, wish him the best
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Dahvie has always been a complete prick, not to mention pedophile. Just a horrible person.
I never really disliked Jayy as a person, even though I always hated the music they made together.
More reason as to why Dahvie is a scumbag
Well written statement and I do sympathize with the man. I am glad he is getting his life back on track.
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Is there a reason the other dude hasn't been charged with multiple felonys yet?
this is really old news tho
I'm glad someone else wrote this because I tried to post this a while ago and it didn't get approved lol
I'm glad Jayy finally said something though. For years I wondered how he could overlook a lot of Dahvie's stuff. Now that Jayy has said something, a lot of Dahvie's exes and people that have worked with them in the past are now talking about how terrible Dahvie is and their experience with him. They didn't before just to protect Jayy's career.
why is this in my recent discussions
Hope the guy gets his life together again.
Shit man. His music was obviously pretty bad but no one deserves to go through this. Glad he got out of it and hope Dahvie Vantitty will suffer for this.
I always wondered why he stuck through all the shit. We all know Vanity is a fucking chump but Jay never seemed that way. It's sad to think that for all theee years he was forced to do this.
Dahvie's basically blacklisted from so many different locations at this point. Dude fucked his own career, and luckily it seems as though Jayy wasn't caught in the final crossfire.
Now i feel bad about giving Jayy so much shit for sticking around with Dahvie.
"For years I wondered how he could overlook a lot of Dahvie's stuff."
Same here, glad this clears that up. Hate their music but Jayy always seemed like a nice person and it made no sense to me that he'd stick around someone as detestable as Dahvie. I feel bad for him, sounds like he was as manipulated and abused by Dahvie as their fans were.
what better way to completely disassociate yourself from a pedophile asshole while simultaneously clearing your reputation than to say you were forced along the whole time
I always thought of Javy as "the only tolerable/talented part of BOTDF", and this will not change.
I've always hated BOTDF's music and Dahvie, but never had a problem with Jayy. Glad he got out of a horrible situation and was able to talk about it publicly.
Pff, awful stuff. Good on him for getting out.
I'm just happy that Jayy was able to escape and is independent now.
well i for one am shocked
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Hope he sues the shit out of the other guy and gets the money he deserves
Apparently Dahvie is planning his "response" soon.
Dahvie has done "the truth about Dahvie" style videos three times already, and this would be the fourth time.
I remember the New Years Day singer's post about him like 3-4 years ago and it was fucking awesome, almost in the same vein as this one. His response to that must've been gold.
He didn't even directly respond to the New Years Day one, in every one of his response videos he keeps talking about how some chick gave him a consensual blowjob after a show, as if that suddenly negates the other accusations against him.
Also he fucked around with someone's wife drunk with, on camera - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BC0slnA6RjQ
Damn, what a douchey thing to do. Horrible situation, glad he got out of it finally
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this is good news, 2016 has finally turned around
That girl in that X times 3 video is a hoe lol. I still get baffled when I see girls that aren't underage that are attracted to Dahvie
finally figured why this might still be in the most viewed news articles on the site, some random youtuber used it in a video
ngl was fucking hilarious seeing Snide's name appear out of nowhere
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