ThyCrossAwaits
11.25.25 | Sorry in advance for complaining…in my experience it just loses me friends but oh well. I’m tired. |
efp123
11.25.25 | sorry to hear. 2025 has been absolute shit for quite a few of us it seems. luckily 10 and 12 exist. keep yer head up, as they say |
RVAHC13
11.25.25 | Sorry it’s been a rough year for you, I hope things turn around for you soon. I’m just starting over again after two years of nothing going right. Sometimes you just have to head back home and go back to the drawing board, nothing to beat yourself up over. At least you’re fortunate enough you have family to fall back on |
arthropod
11.25.25 | My condolences. I don't know what else to say besides come to Poland. Can you tell what was the reasoning behind the ostracism, if any at all? |
unclereich
11.25.25 | im sorry for everything you have endured this past year. having said that try to use the opportunity of moving back in with you folks to your advantage(especially if they go easy on the rent ). look into community colleges/certificate programs and some entry level retail work-if there are community colleges in your area they often have jobs there for students. it may suck in the short term but time has the tendency to go by quicker than we credit it. as for the medical debt look into a payment plan, you can often reduce the total by telling them your situation and what you can actually afford, either that or file chapter 7. good luck sir, once again i am sorry to hear about your bad year. i hope 2026 is better! |
RogueNine
11.25.25 | Seconding reich. There are worse places to be than South Dakota. Better days are ahead! |
efp123
11.25.25 | exactly why unc is one of my favorite users. compassion is everything. you’ll get out of this eventually. I mean that |
smaugman
11.25.25 | Why were you kicked out of bands?
Also, man it must suck to be an american without money, not having universal healthcare and free university education must suck |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.25.25 | In one case my old drummer wanted to restart the band we had a few years ago, but after making a big deal about how “bands don’t live in the same places anymore” he kicked me out because I’m moving. The other was a group of 20-somethings who were looking for someone roughly the same age and I’m pushing 34, so I fudged it and said 28 to get in the door. They found out pretty quickly and were pretty pissed about it. |
Hawks
11.25.25 | You'll get back on your feet brother! Like Uncle said, use this opportunity to find a decent job, save up some cash and get out again. Also looking into a trade or community college isn't a bad idea at all. Love you bro, you got this. |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.25.25 | Thanks everyone. Just stuck in this limbo again where I can’t establish anything in either place because I’m leaving/not leaving quite yet. Blech. |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.26.25 | Someone rec me underrated death metal from this year if there’s any I missed |
RVAHC13
11.26.25 | Don’t know if it’s underrated but that new Voidceremony is pretty dope |
Hawks
11.26.25 | Jam the new Chaos Inception for sure. |
splinter
11.26.25 | Blindfolded and Led to the Woods - The Hardest Thing About Being God Is That No One Believes Me
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splinter
11.26.25 | *The Hardest Thing About Being MEN Is That No One Believes Me
sorry I had to |
AlkemestRedux
11.26.25 | Stick in there man. I know for me the hardest part of getting through shit was feeling stuck or like I was spinning my wheels. Kind of a cliche but it's true, that you're only ever truly stuck if you let yourself stay there. Getting kicked out of your band was bullshit. Maybe it's just because I'm in Seattle, but I feel like at least half of the bands here are manned by people 30+. |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.26.25 | Anyone have advice on jobs that are easy to get? I’ve been rejected from EVERYTHING. Dishwashing, front desk, vet assistant, fast food, cannabis fulfillment, carpentry, electrical apprenticeships, dog poop removal… |
unclereich
11.26.25 | Overnight stocking at Walmart. Unless you’re a felon. UPS or fedex seasonal package handler |
brickhed
11.26.25 | man being kicked out of bands for ageism and moving is some bullshit. when stuff like that happens all i can really do in the long term is accept it, just in general. yesterday i was in a real slump because of my family, but yeah, moving on is all you can do.
wish i could say more but i gotta go |
RVAHC13
11.26.25 | I really don’t think you should go this route but if you’re desperate enough, prisons are always hiring. Otherwise I’d keep looking at BOH kitchen work, shippings warehouses and maybe trucking if you can get a CDL |
RVAHC13
11.26.25 | I’ve tried getting jobs on cargo ships and train companies before, that’s something you might also consider. Keep an eye out for local Craigslist postings, I’ve gotten hired there several times. And yeah in my experience working shipping UPS and FedEx will hire just about anyone. Nice thing about national companies like that is you can transfer somewhere else if they let you |
AlkemestRedux
11.26.25 | Railroads are good work but definitely a career, and pretty backbreaking until you work your way out of the railyard and into the train or an office. But after that it's a golden ticket more or less. Known a couple guys who went that route and they make pretty decent money. |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.27.25 | All interesting. I did an inventory job for a very short time, I had just broken off my 7-year engagement and I hadn’t gotten medicated yet and…yeah it was a whole mess. I don’t think it was something I was bad at or necessarily hated doing, except the travel part. Maybe a stationary stocking job would be something.
I had never considered the rails…at all. Guess how many times I’ve been on a train in my life that wasn’t a tram or monorail? ZERO my friend. Again interesting, the only issue is I really can’t do travel for work as I have animals who I love DEARLY, more than life itself.
Unrelated (long-ass comment) but I replaced Crippling Alcoholism with the new Dead and Dripping which is streaming early. Holy SHIT read my soundoff. It’s amazing. I think Nex came back from the dead for it. |
NorwichScene
11.27.25 | Keep hustling, your skills will be needed by someone. Good list |
ThyCrossAwaits
11.27.25 | Thanks Norwich, I’m glad someone also likes the list lol ;)
Hawks bro this Chaos Inception is a monstrosity |