Snide
06.29.16 | Fuck, tonight's been a long night. |
MyNameIsPencil
06.29.16 | damn, sounds hella shitty but obviously the right move regardless.
check coheed and cambria - the second stage turbine blade |
Asdfp277
06.29.16 | nice prank |
Aerisavion
06.29.16 | Sorry to hear man |
Cryptkeeper
06.29.16 | Only you could feel like shit for kicking out a roommate who habitually steals your stuff [2] |
TheSpaceMan
06.29.16 | you think thats bad? I had a roomate in college who played League of Legends |
50iL
06.29.16 | Shit, that is awful. Reminds me of when a close friend of my aunt's stole a bunch of stuff from people we knew. Everytime he visited them, he sneaked into their house and stole from them. It got very severe at one point. He did it for the monetary value though, so he was not a kleptomaniac. Anyway, you did what was best. It would be very hard to do something like that for me, and you handled it well. Good job. |
CalculatingInfinity
06.29.16 | Only you could feel like shit for kicking out a roommate who habitually steals your stuff. [3]
Feel like you're too nice sometimes, your roommate deserves nothing for what they did. |
ShadowRemains
06.29.16 | "Only you could feel like shit for kicking out a roommate who habitually steals your stuff."
it's a mental/psychiatric disorder, the guy can't help it (and needs professional help) |
Asdfp277
06.29.16 | nobody said it was ok to steal, just that it's normal to feel compassion for a mentally ill person gosh this is so stupid pls ban snide |
ShadowRemains
06.29.16 | he feels like shit because aside from his kleptomania, the guy was apparently a fun person to be around, i don't see why that's hard to understand
that initial remark was shortsighted |
ShadowRemains
06.29.16 | comments like your initial one are for the ignorant |
Asdfp277
06.29.16 | gosh |
MyNameIsPencil
06.29.16 | I put the com in compassion ;) |
Asdfp277
06.29.16 | u put the pencil in mynameispencil |
MyNameIsPencil
06.29.16 | you're not wrong that's for certain |
InFlamesWeThrash666
06.29.16 | sounds like a fun night |
Deathconscious
06.29.16 | similar thing happened to me once. had a close friend living at my place, i found out he was a thief and told him to fuck off. i refused to talk to him until like 3 years later when he finally admitted to it. as far as i know, he doesnt steal anymore, and we're on good terms, but i still keep him at arm's length. |
Snide
06.29.16 | Thank you for all your kind words everyone. As for those saying that he doesn't deserve anything, I can't agree with that. He and I have been there for each other, we've gone through a lot of shit together, all three of us in the apartment have. He's just someone who needs to find his path in life in a way that breaks his habits and addictions. This isn't the first time we confronted him about this, and we gave him multiple chances. This is something that we had to do for our mental health and his as well. He's still one of my good friends, and I'll always be there for him if he calls or needs me, we just can't live with him anymore. |
zakalwe
06.29.16 | Massive case of front it out with the bloke. Headbutt to the bridge of the nose and a possible stamp to the face and say "don't take the fucking piss"
Oh no sorry he has a condition. He can't help nicking stuff and stashing it. He obviously needs help. Bless him, give him 200 quid and send him packing.
Brats. |
Snide
06.29.16 | zakalwe you do know that Kleptomania is an internationally recognized disorder respected and recognized in studies related to mental health right? I'm going to do what I can to help him get through it, in this case kicking him out was the only option at this point. |
Deathconscious
06.29.16 | you sound like a very informed and understanding person, zak. |
zakalwe
06.29.16 | Sociopaths still learn |
ShadowRemains
06.29.16 | to relate this to carissa's wierd, you're an ignorant piece of shit |
zakalwe
06.29.16 | Ignorance is bliss. Naivety and exploitation is hell.
Still could've been worse I spose the cunt didn't pawn it. Could've at least told you that he returned to his old ways and stashed the gear. |
NorwichScene
06.29.16 | You made the correct decision and can still be friends, just can't live together. |
Sowing
06.29.16 | I've always looked at having compassion as a strength, even with those who do things to hurt you. However, this is a little too much even for me. I mean, people can't steal and if he needs to learn that the hard way you're actually doing him a favor. |
BallsDeep
06.29.16 | you should condition him with a shock collar, every time you catch him in the act the fucker gets 3000 volts sometimes you've got to be cruel to be kind |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | "Only you could feel like shit for kicking out a roommate who habitually steals your stuff."
shut the fuck up |
magicuba
06.29.16 | I also have a flatmate constantly playing league of legends. It's a fucking disease, I have come to consider it as aids |
Relinquished
06.29.16 | I wouldn't have had given him the money, but considering you care for the dude and me also going through different shit with close friends then you did the right thing. |
magicuba
06.29.16 | League of legends-> endlessly clicking on the mouse click click click click click for hours + occasionally loudly shouting in italian |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | thank you for your educated opinion Dr. OvDeath
now if you could politely go fuck yourself that would be grand |
Relinquished
06.29.16 | if it was a situation of a friend I got close with but not well enough to learn he was a klepto, then heart be damned cuz I'm gonna wish for the guy to get over his problem and will lead him to help. but that's where snide and I differ cuz if my first couple attempts fail then that's as far as I'll walk that line.
I'd bet you'd feel for the person if they were close to you, not pity or guilt but some level of sympathy or concern. are all of your friends normal, snoxall? |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | im half joking too but the point im giving you shit for specifically is the idea that one should not feel bad for someone dealing with such issues even if they were your friend never mind them being your friend and having to kick them out over it
sure it will probably only help them in the end but it you can still feel upset for them and the situation
also lets not equate kleptos to pedos pls, jfc |
Relinquished
06.29.16 | exactly what chuck said, and we know you're smarter than that after you explain yet you convey yourself ill-mannered where no wonder you still have ways to go
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miketunneyiscool123
06.29.16 | @BlackMalachite You did the right thing even if it was the most painful choice. If you kept the roommate with you, you would be "supporting" his addiction to stealing. Sometimes, the best way we can show care for someone is by letting go. |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | sounds like youre contradicting yourself but anyway whatever |
BallsDeep
06.29.16 | I suppose if he's a good friend and you know exactly where he's going to take your shit you could just accommodate his problem and go and retrieve your stuff at the end of the day. Just another daily chore - put out the bin, feed the hermit crabs, retrieve our possessions from Bills closet etc. |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | ye i edited my post my bad
the concept is the same but the point is i dont think the op would be talking on mx about feeling bad about kicking out his roommate if they were constantly finding that he was sexing le kids |
Pavera
06.29.16 | he feels bad because he was also a friend. It's a difficult situation and it sucks to be forced to push away someone you care about because of their problem. |
BallsDeep
06.29.16 | @guitarded_chuck yeah they're both mental compulsions but one just happens to be much more abhorrent than the other. The fact that pedophiles, serial killers etc will act on their urges when theyre aware of the consequences indicate just how uncontrollable they are. Its still sick and I'd still beat a pedophile to death if i saw one molesting a child but you know they never asked to have these urges its just a combinationof thei nature and nurture. |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | yes but not seeking out help for klepto is more forgivable than not seeking out help for murder or sexing le kids |
BallsDeep
06.29.16 | ye you would hope that a pedo would seek help the minute he feels the urge to have a sexy time with kids although it might be difficult to admit even to a psychiatrist. Kleptomania (if he actually has it and isnt just a sneaky cunt) is pretty serious too though I mean its caused his own friends to kick him out and i cant imagine it would go down well at a workplace so definitely worth getting help for it too |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | yeah 100%, i figure this is the first time its become a serious issue in the dudes life probably cause it seems like they are all pretty young and just starting out, op did the right thing and it should only help in the end |
Conmaniac
06.29.16 | sounds awful and I feel bad.
but BlackMalachite is Snide??? |
Conmaniac
06.29.16 | i had no idea until this list |
Conmaniac
06.29.16 | nah after reading this thread the most obvious thing in the world is that you're an asshole. |
Deathconscious
06.29.16 | lol |
Conmaniac
06.29.16 | at least you admit it |
JAV
06.29.16 | Should have stolen all of his things. |
TheSpirit
06.29.16 | That 250 probably went straight into an arm or a pipe tbh |
Chortles
06.29.16 | honestly didn't know about snide or snox until this thread so thanks guys |
Deathconscious
06.29.16 | me neither. his story is probably horseshit, more attention whoring from snide. |
Snide
06.29.16 | I haven't been trying to distance myself from people knowing I'm Snide.
But at the same time having a different username allowed me in some ways to turn over a new leaf. |
CamiloG
06.29.16 | I just have a doubt. Why would someone in a music site care about you kicking out a roommate? Yeah it must have been a hard time, but what's the need to make stuff that personal public on the Internet, it just doesn't make any sense for me. |
Snide
06.29.16 | "I just have a doubt. Why would someone in a music site care about you kicking out a roommate? Yeah it must have been a hard time, but what's the need to make stuff that personal public on the Internet, it just doesn't make any sense for me."
It's nice to be able to vent to a community that mostly knows you that isn't (directly) connected to your real life, to be able to get advice and vent from a multitude of people who have (probably) gone through similar shit. |
CamiloG
06.29.16 | Ok got it, I respect your opinion but don't share it tbh. |
Snide
06.29.16 | "Ok got it, I respect your opinion but don't share it tbh."
Yeah it's like, I love my in real life friends, but sometimes I just need to hear a multitude of different opinions from people who aren't directly connected to my life (bar like a few people on here but that's another story) |
Tyler.
06.29.16 | Of death comparing kleptomania to pedophilia itt |
torts
06.29.16 | what a drake list to make |
guitarded_chuck
06.29.16 | almost everybody talks about irl on here camilo |
Snide
06.29.16 | I just feel like shit about it, dude was a very good friend of mine.
I know he was trying to change, but things just weren't changing enough. |
lazyeye
06.29.16 | prank or meme? |
Deathconscious
06.29.16 | both |
Snide
06.29.16 | Adolf think whatever you want to think, I needed a place to vent. lazyeye is someone's alt so I'm not even going to bother. |
lazyeye
06.29.16 | you're an alt |
Calc
06.29.16 | any friend who steals from me is one less friend I have. too easy. |
BallsDeep
06.29.16 | You guys complaining about this thread, unless someone put got a gun to your head and is forcing you to read and comment I don't see the problem. I made a thread when my dog got mistakenly put down last month and it felt good to discuss it even if it was just with strangers online, half the lists are about things besides music anyway. |
DirEnRefused
06.29.16 | rofl why do people feel the need to act the big no compromise alpha on the internet. it's a good thing to be a nice person. |
lazyeye
06.29.16 | it's because this guy has a history of lying and then saying it was just a prank bro |
Snide
06.29.16 | "it's because this guy has a history of lying."
No, I have a history of pulling one large prank on the site (and Facebook and in IRL) that you and a few others got salty about. |
lazyeye
06.29.16 | just a prank bro |
TheTripP
06.29.16 | I think if I was in that situation I would have done the same thing... good job on your part. You put thought into your situation and dealt with it in a mature manner which is more than what most people can do/say. I hope this helps you and your existing roomie as well as your bud you had to kick out. It can be tough on both ends... |
brainmelter
06.29.16 | dam dude, $50 would have been generous enough, especially a guy that was jacking shit from u |
alienobserver
06.29.16 | "just a prank bro"
i missed u futures |
lazyeye
06.29.16 | i missed u to son |
Feather
06.29.16 | You gave this dude way too much money, even if hes your friend and hes a "good guy", if hes stealing your shit, you need to kick him out and you owe him nothing for doing that. |
Feather
06.29.16 | Hey my alt friend lazyeye |
Tunaboy45
06.29.16 | 2 is a jam and a half
sounds like a difficult situation but if he was taking your stuff he had to go |
teamster
06.30.16 | Don't touch my shit. |
Lord(e)Po)))ts
06.30.16 | dunno whats goin on in this thread but BlackMalachite you should not feel bad at all dude. its his own fault and even tho ya love him at the end of the day u gotta look after yourself, compromising that for the well being of other people who bring you down is just damaging to your own life.
ive been around multiple experiences comparable to this and yeah feels shitty but man people need to learn to take care of themselves and it shouldnt fall on you. dude needs to figure shit out on his own. |
Lord(e)Po)))ts
06.30.16 | giving him money was even above and beyond what he probably deserved |
sentyrunce
07.26.16 | Hopefully things are better after a month. Good digs though, the new I See Stars is killer. Neck Deep is pretty dope too. |
Snide
07.26.16 | So yeah this month without him in the apartment confirmed a lot of our suspicions. Everything stopped disappearing, and things aren't moving around the apartment anymore.
Unfortunately however he decided to take the immature approach and he's been apparently telling a bunch of people that we betrayed him and half of mine and my best friend's friend group never bothered to ask for our side of the story bar three or four of them. |
ZippaThaRippa
07.26.16 | This is sad |
Parallels
07.26.16 | giving him money was even above and beyond what he probably deserved [2]
Sounds like you did the right thing though, even if you feel shitty for doing it to a friend. It's tough love
2 has some really underrated tracks on it |