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heck 04.04.26	best friend who I'm in love with is going back to her abusive ex, what are yall up to?
Gfunk839 04.04.26	Bro, don't be in love with someone you consider a best friend, if you can't be with them. it's a recipe for disaster and self destruction. - source: me. Walking away for your own good can be the right thing to do. Easier said than done I know . It is NOT a healthy dynamic.
arthropod 04.04.26	[DATA EXPUNGED]
heck 04.04.26	"Bro, don't be in love with someone you consider a best friend, if you can't be with them. it's a recipe for disaster and self destruction. - source: me." trust me man I know. I've been in similar situations numerous times before. unfortunately the nature of my BPD makes it hard for me not to get attached to and fall for people I'm close with.
budgie 04.04.26	AND I FEEL A CHAANGE IN MY LIIIIIIFE IM NOT ALONE, WHEN IM STRONG INSIDE AND III REEEALIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIZE EVERYBODYS GOT A REEEASON TOOO LIVE, BAAABYYY EVERYBODYS GOT A DREAM, AND A HUNGER INSIIIIIDE EVERYBODYS GOT A REASON TOOO LIIIIVE BUT IT CANT BE YOOUR LOVE
JoyfulPlatypus 04.04.26	I like my new job because there's more responsibility and more people depending on me but also fucking hate my new job because there's more responsibility and more people depending on me and it's stressful as hell lol. But other than that I'd say things are going pretty well.
heck 04.04.26	I feel that brother, same thing's going on at my current job. it's weird because it's nice to be respected and have people who rely on you but also fuck that it's overwhelming lol
heck 04.04.26	arth why did you expunge your data, it was pretty good data. didn't need to be expunged
JWT155 04.04.26	What career are you in? How physically fit are you? Do you have any hobbies outside of music you can sink time into? As a married guy now with kids who also struggled dating when I much younger, it’s cliche advice but concentrate on making the best version of you and then opportunities will appear, whether it’s dating, career, etc. If you’re not happy with who you are then how can you expect a stranger to be.
heck 04.04.26	I feel like if I answer that I'm just going to get some manosphere bullshit lmao
efp123 04.04.26	getting sober has been huge for me
NudeTayne 04.04.26	get to the point where you're just in love with yourself and then push every opportunity for love away when it presents itself is the best advice I have for you
heck 04.04.26	hard to love myself when I suck
NudeTayne 04.04.26	that's the thing is you gotta learn to love the parts that suck, you're just a human bro we're already born with a band hand
efp123 04.04.26	self hatred is a hard thing to break away from
NudeTayne 04.04.26	you can get there duder keep your chin up, life uh....... finds a way
budgie 04.04.26	that quotes about dinosaurs changing their own sex to impregnate themselves cuz they cant get laid rly bad advice in this context
heck 04.04.26	I mean... it's not the worst idea I've heard today.
NudeTayne 04.04.26	well... there it is
constantchange 04.04.26	Feel bad lately. Have had no drive but at the same time im not happy with my lack of productivity. Nice to stumble on this.
heck 04.04.26	sorry to hear that brother (gender neutral). feel free to let it all out here
RVAHC13 04.04.26	Work doesn’t pay me to think
heck 04.04.26	I always read your name as HVAC13 and it reminds me of my late father who worked on air conditioners.
efp123 04.04.26	That’s cause hvacr wails. Best decision eva
RVAHC13 04.04.26	In fairness I considered a career in HVAC at one point
efp123 04.04.26	It has been very rewarding! Every time I see your username it crossed my mind hah
Tunaboy45 04.04.26	That first comment hits hard, I'm having to sit by and watch one of my oldest friends trap themselves in a controlling relationship because they're too afraid to be alone, hope your friend manages to get out of that situation
Koris 04.04.26	Currently 114 days into deployment, with no port visits during any of that time... just been out at sea the entire time. It's wearing me down a bit, and on top of that, I'm now in my first supervisor role I've ever had. So I basically just got thrown straight into the fire with this new command, lol. But I'm making the best of it... lost 55 pounds in 4 months, and I'm getting back into a lot of my old hobbies (especially playing music). Feeling better, both mentally and physically, than I have in quite a few years (sobriety is helping a lot with that too) But also, I'm intending to separate from the Navy after this tour. And this deployment is doing nothing to deter me from doing so... if anything, it's making my choice easier
cloakanddagger 04.04.26	Not doing too badly at the moment but I've been dealing with horrible impostor syndrome for about a year combined with some of the worst writers block I've ever had. I've also finally got an appointment about ADHD after having 7 months of sick leave from work last year due to poor mental health so I'm hoping I'll be able to get some answers for that.
ChoccyPhilly 04.04.26	Horrible horrible anxiety from the state of the world, not just politically but the AI bullshit that I’m forced to consume in my job But thanks for asking 🙂
cloakanddagger 04.04.26	"Horrible horrible anxiety from the state of the world, not just politically but the AI bullshit that I’m forced to consume in my job" My work is introducing AI and I'm stubbornly refusing to use it for as long as I can manage.
zakalwe 04.04.26	Thought mental health was bollocks until the sput servers went down the toilet. Anxiety through the roof it was.
arthropod 04.04.26	@heck late response, but that's another thing about me. I sometimes have episodes when I expose my mental state to others but I tend to avoid it as much as I can. I need to fix my sleep schedule, it's the primary cause of my personal problems. There's also the question of that one friend with self harm tendencies, but I've accepted that all I can do is give them care and attention, and hope they resolve that on their own.
Sowing 04.04.26	Sometimes the best thing to do is lay all your cards on the table. Tell her how you're feeling, in person, and that while you don't expect anything to happen, you just needed her to know. Then while she thinks it over and things sink in over the days/weeks, move on -- as hard as it is. And by that I mean actually move on -- don't wait around for confirmation. She'll either pick you or she won't, and that will be your answer. Nothing worse than being strung along. This isn't me giving generic advice, it's what I did when I was in similar shoes myself and it worked.
bighubbabuddha 04.04.26	It's physical health not mental but I have a polyp in my asshole and it's bumming me out
Dedes 04.04.26	That sucks ass I have pus filled inflamed tonsils and I'm pretty sure the infection spread to the back of my throat Anxious constantly cause I'm exceptionally broke after hitting a quad with my car when the dude decided to barrel through the laundromat late at night with no lights on and ofc at the time I was uninsured since I couldn't afford insurance from the damage of more car problems and a layoff lmao
RVAHC13 04.04.26	Damn dedes that stinks. Wishing you a speedy recovery. My boss just had his car totaled and his insurance company faulted him (he got swept up in a road rage incident he wasn’t involved in the first place) but he found a good deal on a new ride not too long after. I hope your luck turns around soon and don’t ever get Allstate
Scoot 04.04.26	currently at our family cabin decompressing working for a small business is fucking terrible
Scoot 04.04.26	efp i work in the HVAC/mechanical space, design build and equipment rep
TheSonomaDude 04.04.26	I am alive
Asdfp277 04.05.26	wishing y'all da best !!!
Faraudo 04.05.26	I lost my job in early January, and things were pretty shitty for a while. Worked for that company for 5 years, only to be brushed aside in a sec. The tech industry is merciless. Fortunately, I got a new (better) job a month and a half later, and things are starting to look up now. Fuck me if that month and a half wasn't dire, though. I can only say that I'm super fortunate to have found a new job as quickly as I did.
evilford 04.07.26	Life kinda sucks atm. Working a lot and have some bullshit going on with my family that I don't really want to get into super deep rn. And my hypersomnia is acting up the last few weeks. I suppose things could be worse.
unclereich 04.07.26	I love you all
NudeTayne 04.07.26	we love you too, chef
efp123 04.07.26	Always
Ectier 04.07.26	Am managing no major meltdowns for awhile and suicidal ideations at a low atm
efp123 04.07.26	Good. It’s a terrible mindset that pops up when you don’t even expect it
efp123 04.07.26	Shit is really mentally rough right now
Gfunk839 04.07.26	I'm not in any country directly affected by the ongoing wars and tensions, but it does weigh on me heavily.. I wish for a world where all effort goes towards building prosperity and growth, not facilitating destruction. But I have witnessed human nature long enough to know that that will never be the case.
Ectier 04.07.26	Im in Aus and shits still terrifying, my mental healths been a lot better last few months buy as always its touch and go.
efp123 04.07.26	I am seriously about let go. Fuck all this shit
Ectier 04.07.26	Be safe and reach out to friends and family or an emergancy helpline if need to or available.
heck 04.07.26	I had a good day for the first time in a while yesterday and had the chance to talk to my friend about some things. I'm still not happy she's associating with her ex to begin with, but at least she says they're not gonna be best friends or anything and she's keeping him at a distance. to make things more complicated I'm going to be moving into her apartment building next week. this was planned several months in advance when she and her ex were still no-contact (aside from his creepy stalking and harassment tactics). now I'm lowkey worried I'm gonna see him there sometimes. he entirely blames me for ruining their post-breakup friendship in the first place and I just despise him because he's a shitty, dishonest, narcissistic, predatory, immature, unstable person. he's ugly as fuck inside and out.
Gfunk839 04.07.26	Heck I'll say this, not as advice per se, but as my own lived experience. Walking away from situations like that leaves you feeling like a traitorous, disloyal friend. There is no saving some people from themselves (that is if she insists on interacting with this dude), and you only burn yourself up in the effort of trying to. In your situation this is doubly complicated because you love your friend, and will probably go to great lengths to assist her however you can. Make sure you are not being played for a fool, or used as a 'soft landing place'. There comes a time when you have to show the kindness you would endlessly show people like her, to YOURSELF. Think on that mate.
Koris 04.07.26	117 days into deployment now, and I'm getting pretty restless. I'm already not a people person, and spending four months with no ports with 5,000 people all crammed into one vessel is stressful as fuck. I'm gonna be happy about a lot of things when I get home, but the main thing I'll be excited about is getting the hell away from people for a while. And just being able to get some personal space in general
Ectier 04.08.26	I hope EFP is okay. Take care Koris i hope itll be okay, that sounds like hell.
Winsomniac 04.08.26	Things could be better for me, but life ain't too heck. I miss the loved ones I've lost, but I hope all of you lovely sput users stick around with us. Mostly I just feel embarrassed and sad about the state of the world today. I feel like us Millennials were raised to dream of world peace, exploring space, societal progress, and instead we got whatever tf this timeline is...
Futures 04.08.26	^ -seth putnam
budgie 04.08.26	"One night, we were jamming and Seth and this other guy stumble into our room, absolutely completely blotto... carrying a deli tray. The deli tray had obviously come from somebody's 40th birthday party as evidenced by the "Happy 40th" plastic decorations impaling the meat. The other guy passed out face-down on the floor while Seth drunkenly yelled "ROAST BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEF" while smearing roast beef all over the guy's face while the rest of us made sandwiches. " lmafo
Faraudo 04.08.26	"Mostly I just feel embarrassed and sad about the state of the world today. I feel like us Millennials were raised to dream of world peace, exploring space, societal progress, and instead we got whatever tf this timeline is..." I feel you, this whole situation with Iran, the US, and the other illegitimate state is truly draining. I can only imagine how the people from Iran must be feeling, though. To have that maniac openly say that he's going to exterminate you must be horrible. These past weeks have been rough.
Faraudo 04.08.26	Like, my fiancée wants to have a kid, and to me, it seems impossible given the state of the world. It's an incredibly cliched train of thought, but I get it now.
Gfunk839 04.08.26	No, I think that thinking carefully before just popping out kids is one of the wisest things one can do. Not cliche at all. Most people treat it too casually.
Donchivo 04.08.26	These past weeks have been rough? Well for any modern, free thinking Iranian (especially women) the past decades have been rough. I don't know how you would call the January massacres on protesters? This war is terrible, but don't act as if Iran was a happy free country before that... There is a reason why many Iranians cheered when the war started, somehow expecting that these two inhumane populist governments were really about to help them or even care about them...
Gfunk839 04.08.26	^ Two things can be true at once mate. Ayatollah and the IRGC are completely fucked and no tears are shed for every one that kicks the bucket. However, the way the American/Israeli regimes are dealing with it, will lead to thousands of primary Iranian deaths, followed by potentially orders of magnitude more from destabilization, infighting, famines, economic collapse. In addition, the global vital supply chains of oil and fertilizers hang in the balance. The whole situation is fucked. It's a clusterfuck of unimaginable proportion. Add to that the Eastern Europe war, the threat of China on Taiwan, and we are closer to a global war than we have ever been in my lifetime. Made worse by an abundance of absolutely awful leaders all around. Obviously, most people care about the plight of the average Iranian citizen, but this whole picture is getting bigger by the day.
Donchivo 04.08.26	I agree... the war has been a disaster for virtually anyone involved (and many people around the globe not involved at all) except the Mullah Regime. 'Two things can be true at once mate. Ayatollah and the IRGC are completely fucked and no tears are shed for every one that kicks the bucket. ' This is exactly what I was going at... the post above made it sound like everything was fine in Iran except the past weeks, which is terribly apologetic to the Mullah regime. But that doesn't make this attacking coalition any bit better of course.
smaugman 04.08.26	anyone got suggestions for fun activities? preferably outside/sports n stuff
unclereich 04.08.26	metal detecting is awesome
Donchivo 04.08.26	Yeah, you could use the new Gaerea, spin it and try to detect Metal should be a fun challenge!
keaton_86 04.08.26	I'm doing alright. Just got back to Berlin from Djing at a lil' festival in Ecuador which was super fun but my personal life is still a shambles because of my drug addicted BPD wife so I should probably sort that out at some point.
RVAHC13 04.08.26	Life’s a gas It stinks lol
heck 04.08.26	things went nuclear last night with my friend. she made her choice and it wasn't me. I told her when her abusive ex ruins her life again that I hope she has someone who wants to help her as much I did. tried to kill myself but it turns out 11 pills isn't enough.
arthropod 04.08.26	could you please not, it ain't worth it But for real. Can't help another if you can't help yourself.
RVAHC13 04.08.26	She’s not worth throwing it all away for man, there’s 8 billion people on this planet, that’s a pretty big chance you’ll find someone who’s better for you
arthropod 04.08.26	Also, you told her man. I mean, if her life choices look like this... maybe let's just treat it as natural selection. Almost 100% of relationships in my area are toxic or openly abusive, and those few women who got out of them for good only did so after getting hurt one too many times opened their eyes. When she's still in such relationship, you won't be able to pull her out no matter how hard you try. Rationalizing and all.
Ray91 04.08.26	started Jiu Jitsu a year ago, which enormously boosted my mental healt, got a lovely new girlfriend who is also into metal big time after a hurtful break-up last year, started a new band. Could be worse although pretty close dad of my best friend got brain cancer which sucks. Job is still annoying and stressful atm but other than that deffo some great months personally. Heck, don't do stupid shit like that over a girl who doesn't want you. wasted time
JWT155 04.08.26	Yall need Jesus
Sevengill 04.08.26	have you tried like...betterhelp
mindleviticus 04.08.26	I workout and run virtually every day and rarely drink or do drugs and am still overwhelmed by life. Anyone else in a situation where there are too many things happening at once and your mind cannot seem to calm down to rationally deal with each of them in a way that makes sense?
Sevengill 04.08.26	yep, and I say that even as someone who got lucky on the financial side. there's still so much prodecedural garbage in life that it seems like the day has 14 hours in it or something. what happened to weekends being decompression days? now they're when EVERYTHING has to happen. (follow-up note, betterhelp was good but Grow takes insurance #tmyk)
JWT155 04.08.26	mindleviticus: yep. I’ve got a fairly demanding career, two kids, looking to sell our house and move so handling all those logistics, every day is a rush. I don’t know what sleeping in or having free time is anymore, so for those here in the dumps just appreciate some of those pleasures and freedom others of us don’t have.
pyroflare77 04.08.26	You also can't help someone that doesn't want to help themselves. It could just be a permanent flaw in them. Like my ex and I are still on good terms, but like it's crystal clear she listens to everyone except the people that care about her, and that's been a constant for years. Nothing I can do except help if I'm reached for.
pyroflare77 04.08.26	Don't let heated emotions cloud everything, either. Like said ex tried hooking back up with me again, promised forever, and gave me the ol' spicy summer fling instead. We've been friends since middle school, I'm not throwing that away because she's fucking ass with romance. But I don't do third chances because that vault is sealed to protect myself now. All you can do is love her from a distance. Not in the sad stalker way.
pyroflare77 04.08.26	My biggest issue right now besides the eternal depression is feeling unwanted by the few people I can talk to. I've pretty much given up on ever finding someone to mend me, I just want to be less lonely and have more friends. But things never follow through, which makes me feel unwanted. I'm really good at entering that defeatist state. But like it seems to be near universal that people are fucking ass at maintaining text conversations? I've even told one friend that getting ghosted makes me feel real shitty, but that doesn't matter. I'm there when she does want to talk. Love from a distance. Feels like all this self-defensive behavior altering is going to make me like an emotionless husk because if I open up I'll end up dying idk
Ectier 04.08.26	My complicated relationships gone silent last few days, which has left me a bleh and a lot of my anxieties on high. They have health issues and working a lot so rational me is going: probs burn out, migraine and they arent great. Irrational anxiety me is screaming doomy bullshit. So am in the balancing act and need to keep myself busy sp i dont fret. People are complicated especially when both parties have old wounds and struggle with mental health issues.
Asdfp277 04.09.26	saw a moth, three cats, and a dog today. things are going great!
NudeTayne 04.09.26	"People are complicated especially when both parties have old wounds and struggle with mental health issues." I spent the better half of my life getting too involved in people's lives and I've found all you really have is yourself, and I mean that in an endearing way. Maybe someday I'll meet my better half but I'm not counting on it anymore and in ways that sentiment is freeing. I like myself and my dog and my cat and I'll work hard when I need to in order to keep things afloat, and that makes me happy. New friends are always pleasant but people come and people go and that's just the nature of people I've come to realize. God knows I've certainly been a drifter in people's lives at times and although it sucks to part ways, sometimes it just has to happen for the betterment of yourself and for them.
Faraudo 04.09.26	"These past weeks have been rough? Well for any modern, free thinking Iranian (especially women) the past decades have been rough. I don't know how you would call the January massacres on protesters? This war is terrible, but don't act as if Iran was a happy free country before that..." Nobody is acting that way, I'm just saying why these past few weeks have been rough. It's not about talking about the decades of oppression in Iran in some comment section. I just said that it's been shitty lately, and the prospect of nuclear war isn't particularly enticing. Don't get all "morally superior, mr high horse" all of a sudden. I know history.
bighubbabuddha 04.09.26	Guys guys guys, just fart it out Peace and love to the farters out there
keaton_86 04.09.26	preach
bighubbabuddha 04.09.26	Also nuke the muslims
RVAHC13 04.09.26	heck are you alright?