heck: sputnik mental health check-in

heck 04.04.26	best friend who I'm in love with is going back to her abusive ex, what are yall up to?
Gfunk839 04.04.26	Bro, don't be in love with someone you consider a best friend, if you can't be with them. it's a recipe for disaster and self destruction. - source: me. Walking away for your own good can be the right thing to do. Easier said than done I know . It is NOT a healthy dynamic.
arthropod 04.04.26	[DATA EXPUNGED]
heck 04.04.26	"Bro, don't be in love with someone you consider a best friend, if you can't be with them. it's a recipe for disaster and self destruction. - source: me." trust me man I know. I've been in similar situations numerous times before. unfortunately the nature of my BPD makes it hard for me not to get attached to and fall for people I'm close with.
budgie 04.04.26	AND I FEEL A CHAANGE IN MY LIIIIIIFE IM NOT ALONE, WHEN IM STRONG INSIDE AND III REEEALIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIZE EVERYBODYS GOT A REEEASON TOOO LIVE, BAAABYYY EVERYBODYS GOT A DREAM, AND A HUNGER INSIIIIIDE EVERYBODYS GOT A REASON TOOO LIIIIVE BUT IT CANT BE YOOUR LOVE
JoyfulPlatypus 04.04.26	I like my new job because there's more responsibility and more people depending on me but also fucking hate my new job because there's more responsibility and more people depending on me and it's stressful as hell lol. But other than that I'd say things are going pretty well.
heck 04.04.26	I feel that brother, same thing's going on at my current job. it's weird because it's nice to be respected and have people who rely on you but also fuck that it's overwhelming lol
heck 04.04.26	arth why did you expunge your data, it was pretty good data. didn't need to be expunged
JWT155 04.04.26	What career are you in? How physically fit are you? Do you have any hobbies outside of music you can sink time into? As a married guy now with kids who also struggled dating when I much younger, it’s cliche advice but concentrate on making the best version of you and then opportunities will appear, whether it’s dating, career, etc. If you’re not happy with who you are then how can you expect a stranger to be.
heck 04.04.26	I feel like if I answer that I'm just going to get some manosphere bullshit lmao
efp123 04.04.26	getting sober has been huge for me
NudeTayne 04.04.26	get to the point where you're just in love with yourself and then push every opportunity for love away when it presents itself is the best advice I have for you
heck 04.04.26	hard to love myself when I suck
NudeTayne 04.04.26	that's the thing is you gotta learn to love the parts that suck, you're just a human bro we're already born with a band hand
efp123 04.04.26	self hatred is a hard thing to break away from
NudeTayne 04.04.26	you can get there duder keep your chin up, life uh....... finds a way
budgie 04.04.26	that quotes about dinosaurs changing their own sex to impregnate themselves cuz they cant get laid rly bad advice in this context
heck 04.04.26	I mean... it's not the worst idea I've heard today.
NudeTayne 04.04.26	well... there it is
constantchange 04.04.26	Feel bad lately. Have had no drive but at the same time im not happy with my lack of productivity. Nice to stumble on this.
heck 04.04.26	sorry to hear that brother (gender neutral). feel free to let it all out here
RVAHC13 04.04.26	Work doesn’t pay me to think
heck 04.04.26	I always read your name as HVAC13 and it reminds me of my late father who worked on air conditioners.
efp123 04.04.26	That’s cause hvacr wails. Best decision eva
RVAHC13 04.04.26	In fairness I considered a career in HVAC at one point
efp123 04.04.26	It has been very rewarding! Every time I see your username it crossed my mind hah
Tunaboy45 04.04.26	That first comment hits hard, I'm having to sit by and watch one of my oldest friends trap themselves in a controlling relationship because they're too afraid to be alone, hope your friend manages to get out of that situation
Koris 04.04.26	Currently 114 days into deployment, with no port visits during any of that time... just been out at sea the entire time. It's wearing me down a bit, and on top of that, I'm now in my first supervisor role I've ever had. So I basically just got thrown straight into the fire with this new command, lol. But I'm making the best of it... lost 55 pounds in 4 months, and I'm getting back into a lot of my old hobbies (especially playing music). Feeling better, both mentally and physically, than I have in quite a few years (sobriety is helping a lot with that too) But also, I'm intending to separate from the Navy after this tour. And this deployment is doing nothing to deter me from doing so... if anything, it's making my choice easier
budgie 04.04.26	god damn koris i fuckin hate that orange fat sack of shit dont get merked by some miserable towelhead
cloakanddagger 04.04.26	Not doing too badly at the moment but I've been dealing with horrible impostor syndrome for about a year combined with some of the worst writers block I've ever had. I've also finally got an appointment about ADHD after having 7 months of sick leave from work last year due to poor mental health so I'm hoping I'll be able to get some answers for that.
bighubbabuddha 04.04.26	I like cheese farts and budgie
ChoccyPhilly 04.04.26	Horrible horrible anxiety from the state of the world, not just politically but the AI bullshit that I’m forced to consume in my job But thanks for asking 🙂
cloakanddagger 04.04.26	"Horrible horrible anxiety from the state of the world, not just politically but the AI bullshit that I’m forced to consume in my job" My work is introducing AI and I'm stubbornly refusing to use it for as long as I can manage.
zakalwe 04.04.26	Thought mental health was bollocks until the sput servers went down the toilet. Anxiety through the roof it was.
arthropod 04.04.26	@heck late response, but that's another thing about me. I sometimes have episodes when I expose my mental state to others but I tend to avoid it as much as I can. I need to fix my sleep schedule, it's the primary cause of my personal problems. There's also the question of that one friend with self harm tendencies, but I've accepted that all I can do is give them care and attention, and hope they resolve that on their own.
Sowing 04.04.26	Sometimes the best thing to do is lay all your cards on the table. Tell her how you're feeling, in person, and that while you don't expect anything to happen, you just needed her to know. Then while she thinks it over and things sink in over the days/weeks, move on -- as hard as it is. And by that I mean actually move on -- don't wait around for confirmation. She'll either pick you or she won't, and that will be your answer. Nothing worse than being strung along. This isn't me giving generic advice, it's what I did when I was in similar shoes myself and it worked.