Typhoon24: to those with introverted hobbies/interests

Typhoon24 04.18.17	anyone else relate?
Astral Abortis 04.18.17	I hate most people so i avoid most of them. I live with three good friends and my partner is equally as disgruntled about going out and socialising, and we both share similar anxiety issues (though mine is more closely linked to my neurosis and obsessive compulsive tendencies). I'm not a nihilist but I make it clear when I don't want to interact with someone and I don't experience much trouble with it. I'm happy the way I am and don't need to make excuses for why other people can't/won't deal with me.
EphemeralEternity 04.18.17	You're clearly just more of an introvert there's nothing wrong with that ..plus you have a wife which kinda precludes you from having much of a social life anyway . Just listen to music and chill
evilford 04.18.17	I feel ya. I'd usually rather be listening to music than doing anything else. Not huge on social interaction, I don't hate people I'd just rather be doing stuff by myself
Dewinged 04.18.17	I can relate. I generally hate social events. My holidays are me with myself.
Typhoon24 04.18.17	yeah i feel i should redefine "hate" to being unable to relate with on a personal level. like I can be polite and know how to act and stuff, friendly acquaintance shit. as for ephemeral, you'd be surprised about the wife thing, at least with mine. i love her to death but she can't even sit through an album that she likes all the way through. she loves to go out and be social whenever she has the time. so we compromise. lol.
Avagantamos 04.18.17	sputnik is enough social interaction for me
evilford 04.18.17	Agreed
Avagantamos 04.18.17	I usually don't have anything to say, and don't know how to respond to most things people say to me other than saying "yeah, mhmm" etc.
evilford 04.18.17	Yeah mhmm
unclereich 04.18.17	I dont have friends because im not a pleasure to be around
Demon of the Fall 04.18.17	I can understand this, definitely. I get nervous in social situations & often end up drinking just to calm myself down. I do go out & meet people a reasonable amount but most of it is actually with my wife, even though she's much the same I guess we drive each other to do things. Oftentimes it'll just be the two of us though which is cool. Honestly, I'd like to do a little less sometimes but she gets insanely bored if we stay in too much. I like my own space occasionally.
Flugmorph 04.18.17	i see you are a connisseur of de dregonbull µ
EphemeralEternity 04.18.17	Omniverts>introverts>extroverts btw Extroverts can be some of the most insecure insufferable people withe their drivel and need to talk just for the sake of it often with opinions on areas they're completely ignorant in again I'm only talking extreme extroverts I'd say most of the memorable conversations I've had were with people who were initially a little bit reticent , these people often have a lot of hidden depth and interesting shit to bring to a conversation. Just my thoughts but I guess opposites can also attract so who knows
Piglet 04.18.17	i'm an amphivert which means i loike amphitheatres and being ambivalent about eerything hoighly reccomennded shitkunts
brainmelter 04.18.17	80% of sput users are introverts prob
AsleepInTheBack 04.18.17	nah man being introverted / socially anxious in the sense that you described it is nothing to be concerned about in my opinion, and sticking with a few close friends that you can actually stand is much better than spreading yourself thin which a bunch of people you are somewhat indifferent to. sounds like you've got some generally healthy hobbies and if you're wife drags you out now and then that continues to push you to at least try situations you are uncomfortable with then I think you've got a good balance in life
Demon of the Fall 04.18.17	@Ephemeral - agreed there! Why is it that people who talk constantly often having nothing meaningful to say? At least choose not to have an opinion, it's less irritating than blabbering on about something you know nothing about, or talking about inane rubbish like what you bought at the supermarket this week. I don't need to know every minuscule detail about your unremarkable life.
AsleepInTheBack 04.18.17	also yeah I'd add to what some people have said about people you may consider extroverts. Just because individuals appear confident and comfortable chatting with strangers / loose friends about nonsense doesn't mean they feel any less anxious about it than you; from my experience appearing confident and friendly and somewhat fake its a defence mechanism for many (though not all, some are of course legit comfortable with such socialising and damn good at it)
Dedes 04.18.17	"Omniverts>introverts>extroverts btw Extroverts can be some of the most insecure insufferable people withe their drivel and need to talk just for the sake of it often with opinions on areas they're completely ignorant in again I'm only talking extreme extroverts I'd say most of the memorable conversations I've had were with people who were initially a little bit reticent , these people often have a lot of hidden depth and interesting shit to bring to a conversation. Just my thoughts but I guess opposites can also attract so who knows" I'm a pretty hard extrovert although I still internalize most of my important thoughts tbh
SandwichBubble 04.18.17	"dealing with other people and I can't relate with them 90% of the time." Sounds like grounds for a Sputnik meetup. Few of us collect in a seedy bar and we'll talk about how much I hate Gorillaz. Broken glass, making fun of the songs on the jukebox, it'll be cool promise
butcherboy 04.18.17	I can't stand being around anyone for the most part, but I do really really enjoy seeing myself fit in and say the right things and smile in the right place, and no one being any wiser.. is that the sociopath part?
p4p 04.18.17	wow so many losers itt. im an introvert and also a narcissist so my ego is quite high. i learned to fake my emotions and feelings when interacting with people in college. whether you like it or not, socialising is very important for your future. you gotta fake your true self for social values otherwise you will lose on the journey to the middle. just wear a mask, pretend that you care and you'll be fine.
p4p 04.18.17	butcherboy is the perfect example tbh. just fake it.
Divaman 04.18.17	Yeah, people kind of suck sometimes. I have a big old reclining chair in the middle of my living room, central to my TV, music player, etc. And when I'm out in the world, doing the things I have to do, running errands, etc., I feel like I spend my whole life just trying to get back to my nice, safe chair.
butcherboy 04.18.17	long walks with headphones.. perfect middle of not being completely in your own ass, but not suffering company either..
Dedes 04.18.17	Being extroverted can have its perks however. Interacting with people can be fun so long as you have good tolerance. Otherwise a lot of people will feel like a pestilence to you.
Demon of the Fall 04.18.17	"just wear a mask, pretend that you care and you'll be fine" I cannot do this, it feels like an impossibility to me. I would rather die than spend my life being fake, why be blessed with individuality & then choose not to use it? It's strange, I genuinely feel completely incapable of pretending to be something I'm not, even if I wanted to (which I don't, so that's ok).
Dedes 04.18.17	Take pride in who you are. Y'all are some beautiful human beings (especially my man butcherboy here)
MoosechriS 04.18.17	This sounds like me in a nutshell to be honest dude, don't have any major anxiety problems i just can't be bothered with people. My wife is a very social person who also has to drag me kicking and screaming into most social gatherings. My idea of a good day is just chilling out with my wife and kids and getting a bit of time in to listen to music, i don't mind going out and doing things as a family. I just got to a point in my early 20's where i just couldn't smile and put up with other peoples bullshit anymore and thought "why am i doing this?". I spent my time doing stuff and attending occasions that i was usually nagged into going to and then spent my entire time there hating it. In a strange twist of fate i had to stop drinking at 25 and now when people know i don't drink they don't even bother inviting along for things anymore (thankfully). It is also kind of a show of how much some peoples social interactions are purely structured around alchohol.
Dedes 04.18.17	If your social life is structured around alcohol you're probably really boring as a person in my opinion
MoosechriS 04.18.17	Yeah, it's funny being on the outside looking in because most people i work with literally revolve around going to the pub and the bookies every weekend and thats it. Then they look at you like you've got 10 heads when you have actual interests, one of the guys at work couldn't fathom why i would spend a decent amount of money on a rare lp that i wanted and then looked confused when i said "how much money do you spend in the boozer on the weekend?"
butcherboy 04.18.17	Faking it is the wrong way of seeing it.. it can be an interesting observation point.. besides, once you go through puberty, you realize how much of life is precisely faking it in some way or another.. if you split hairs enough, everyone compromises every day..
Dedes 04.18.17	My own friends are nothing like that actually nor are a lot of the people I know, but then again I surround myself more so around people I like and that share similar interests to me.
butcherboy 04.18.17	Well yea, of course, you never have to fake it with the ones you love (hopefully anyway).. but you don't find it fun wandering out into the unknown?
Dedes 04.18.17	How so exactly?
butcherboy 04.18.17	infiltrate other groups and fit in, hating them throughout the whole thing, then disappearing forever.. hahahah..
Dedes 04.18.17	I didn't think anyone found that fun really
butcherboy 04.18.17	it's good for the soul once a year or so, to make sure you havent become a complete savage by stewing in your own juices..
NeroCorleone80 04.18.17	I'm naturally introverted, but I can be extroverted when the need arises, it just depends on who I'm around.
Prancer 04.19.17	You're on a rate & review music forum website. Everyone here is an introvert.
rodrigo90 04.19.17	I read philosophy and some psychology just to understand how the society works or why am I feeling so weird with human relationships
bloc 04.19.17	Yeah I don't like parties or social events too much either
ScuroFantasma 04.19.17	I'm not super keen on parties or whatever, but some of you guys maybe just need to push your comforts a little and see how it goes. Not everyone who is relaxed and ready to be be really social got that way by avoiding social situations. Not saying you have to do it, or that it's necessarily a bad thing for events like that to not be your thing, but if it is something you feel like you'd have fun at and you avoid going because you're uncomfortable, well, practice makes perfect. Just try to keep in mind that most people don't give a fuck anyway and are just as weird, or work on minimising how much you care about what strangers think of you, that works for me.
Dedes 04.19.17	Scuros dropping that Dr.Phil level advice here.
Typhoon24 04.19.17	"fuck girls tbh" they can cause a lot of unnecessary stress and sometimes the cons outweigh the pros. i told my now-wife that once and she said "you worry too much, i can help u relax if u want." that's weirdly why we got married.
NorthernSkylark 04.19.17	My hobby is being an introvert
Typhoon24 04.19.17	and no we didn't have sex she just made tea and left me alone as i watched gangster movies in the bedroom
Sinternet 04.19.17	wow lol this thread