Album Rating: 3.0

"have a keen eye take yours and look them over. That way your photos actually attract women. Generally men tend to take photos in front of their cars, in the gym, with a dead fish in hand, or just simply while doing things that only really attract other men." [2]



i straight up gave my sister free reign to select my pics back in the day, entire camera roll no exceptions. thought she was fucking with me the first time, it was like all my fruitiest looking pics... but the difference in quantity/quality of matches was night and day.

Album Rating: 5.0

Women appreciate men who are comfortable with their sexuality. Like, it's obvious to them that you're a heterosexual male. A selfie in your driver's seat or a picture ignoring rule of thirds that has you staring limply into the camera as if emotion would cause it to attack are dime-a-dozen these days. Your personality shines through when you stop giving a shit about how masculine you appear in images. Generally speaking.

Album Rating: 4.5

“It's surreal seeing dudes sharing actual good advice. In this ever-growing toxic climate of "redpilled" Manosphere dorks that couldn't get a date on a tombstone and aren't even subtle about their hatred for women this is very refreshing. Bravo guys.”

I love that the bar is so low that said advice is “do the bare minimum”



And yes I can promise you that (most) women don’t wanna see the 12 point buck you tagged or whatever dumb fish you caught

I think the critical mistake that dudes make on dating sites is that they tie up way too much of their self-worth into it and get super invested into every match they get. It's understandable and I did it too but I will say that several things made my online dating experience a lot better.

There's definitely an art to dating site pictures but I don't think you necessarily need professionally taken ones. You don't wanna treat it like LinkedIn, as much as it may feel like it if you're trying to min-max your dating. I think the key is to have ones where you look genuinely happy, exhibit some level of emotional vulnerability (so many guys think it's "gay" to be silly), and aren't trying to flex or look cool, hence the negative cliche around guys taking stonefaced selfies in their car, holding fish/some dead animal, or next to their car. Women don't give a shit about that kind of thing. I don't like giving tips on "gaming" dating sites since these are people, not slot machines, but I will say that having a cute dog or cat in your picture helps as well.

Just focus on meeting someone new and having a good time. You don't need to worry that every date will go perfect or have thoughts of "could I marry this girl" the first time meeting them. Just go and enjoy yourself. If you click then great! If not then no harm done.

Be less shallow, seriously. So many guys will bitch about how shallow women are on dating sites but if a girl is 2 pounds over their preferred weight limit they're like "ew no". Just vibe things out. If someone REALLY doesn't do it for you physically then that's fine but you can navigate that gracefully and not be like "no whales allowed hurr". Hate that. For all you know, that "fat girl" might be the coolest chick ever, so just give people a chance like you'd want them to give you.

This sounds so cliche but just be yourself, authentically. It's laughable how many of my friends tried to tell me to act a certain way or put on a certain front to get laid but I got way more dates/partners than they did even as nerdy and goofy as I am. If that causes you to get rejected then good, they're not for you. Just be authentically and unapologetically yourself; it's so pathetic how many guys compromise on their principles or hide their personality so they can find a girlfriend.

tldr just be cool man

Album Rating: 5.0

"This sounds so cliche but just be yourself, authentically. It's laughable how many of my friends tried to tell me to act a certain way or put on a certain front to get laid but I got way more dates/partners than they did even as nerdy and goofy as I am. If that causes you to get rejected then good, they're not for you. Just be authentically and unapologetically yourself; it's so pathetic how many guys compromise on their principles or hide their personality so they can find a girlfriend."



That's the differentiating factor: one sect is just looking to fuck, the other is looking for companionship. You attract women when you demonstrate genuineness, whether that be genuine in your feelings or communicating your feelings, or being genuine with how you treat other people (or being genuine by showing others you're a cat-dad). If you put on an act or some dating facade, eventually that mask will erode and women will see you for who you are. Might as well be comfortable and confident in being yourself rather than masking endlessly to be someone you're not.

i think about my dating profile all the time

Album Rating: 4.0

just be yourself true

Yeah, I just don't know what the endgame is for that act. Like even if the goal is to hook up, you still probably want to have some level of conversation with them, right? I've had one night stands and still actually talked to the girls. I'm still an unabashed megadork with nerdy interests and I talk too much, but as I've gotten older I just care less and less about how I'm perceived because of that. If I'm not someone's cup of tea then oh well, fuck em, I know I'm fun lol. I'm happy that I came to that realization in time to meet my wife because it made communication so much easier and more open, so I could lay out exactly what I wanted and how I wanted to go about it without doing the whole routine of dating site etiquette. "Oh I don't wanna double-text, what if I'm annoying, what if they're not that into me" fuck all that, that's loser shit. Be who and how you wanna be with everyone and eventually it'll just click with someone and you can feel good about it instead of putting up a facade forever.

Also crippling insecurity is an enormous turnoff for both men and women (or at least it should be) so dudes trying to look hard on dating sites for women who just want to eat a sweet treat with them is really funny.

Album Rating: 5.0

I just don't think I could have surmounted the technology barrier. I've disconnected from social media for years and my wife and I have this unspoken agreement that phones rarely, if ever, get used during meals together. I'd hate for my dating presence to be wholly phone-based in addition to the anxiety of making a date seem more interesting than a phone. I get that not every couple cares to talk to each other, but it's crazy how often I see couples eating in silence with their eyes glued to their phone screens. I'm only 36 but sound out of touch as hell, I get it.

Album Rating: 3.5

One of the geekiest things my friends and family considered with me is I started keeping tropical fish again because I loved it as a kid. Even when I was renting and it was incredibly annoying moving it to a new place I kept the hobby up. No one got it.



My future wife came back to my place for the first time and one of the first things she said was 'oh wow, you keep tropical fish too' - she had always kept them ever since she'd moved in to her first flat.



You can't really hide the inner dork, I mean maybe don't go crazy emphasising stuff they may have very little interest in, but yeah - light up that fish tank bros.

Album Rating: 4.0

"light up that fish tank bros." [2]



Walden says hey y'all 👋

Album Rating: 4.5

Private Tinder Hook-ups.

Album Rating: 4.5

And yes, unclereich’s post is fantastic advice. Make yourself stand out enough. It truly doesn’t even take THAT much, but polish it all. Don’t lie either. Make it genuinely you. That stands out.

Album Rating: 4.5

Absolutely no needy/clingy bullshit either. If you go on a first date and act too attached (even if you feel it, don’t show it too much yet), even if they like you, it’s instant kryptonite. I think that’s probably the biggest turn-off for most women. At the least it’s annoying as fuck, at worst it’s dangerous (needy guys can obviously be obsessive and crazy in some instances).

It all just boils down to acting like a normal person and not a fuckin weirdo. I think it's fine to be head over heels for someone after you've gotten to know them and you're actively involved and talking all the time but yeah, getting super clingy and attached after one date is definitely a red flag. I also think it's really important to actually meeting people in person as soon as reasonably possible (again, not being a fuckin obsessive weirdo about it) because it's easy to get in a habit of texting someone for weeks/months on end and then you meet and the chemistry is just off. I had a roommate who matched with a girl and talked to her on the phone for 2-3 days straight and then said he thought he was in love with her. They went on a movie date later and were so awkward that when it was over they just both silently walked to their cars afterward without saying anything.