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Also suggestion dont focus on the entire world, because thats fucked up beyond belief. Focus on your immediate reality, whats around you not the massive picture, the small picture for now. Getting helps nothing to be ashamed about.

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If nothing else use this shit fire of a thread for reflection on how you have reactes and what you could do differently. On that note someone if possible lock this shit fire thread

Like with any wound, you begin at what caused it, how did this happen, when? Where?. If the therapy isn’t working, it’s usually an incompatibility between the patient and therapist. Whether the practice or the practitioner, you can only get what you give, but you need a good therapist too. If they suck, that’s not therapy being crap, it’s your therapist.

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Man I'd love to go back to being able to focus on the immediate but considering like 6 months ago some psycho shot up an LGBTQ+ nightclub in MY STATE and killed 5 people - that could've easily been me in that 5 - i feel like i need to be hyper-aware of what's going on.

Even if therapy worked (which, again... 10 years and still no radical transformation...) its way too expensive. There's a non-zero (albeit slim) chance that within the next year, I could go homeless. I can't afford therapy. And talking to a complete stranger about my problems is beyond awkward to me. I can't open up for shit if I'm not comfortable with them. The fact you guys got it is a miracle in itself lol

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Venin need to shop for a mental pro to discuss stuff thats clearly causing you issues. As MoM said finding the right person is key, if one doesnt work for you, move on to the next one to find someone who works for you. Have a look around your area at whats available. Id wager most LGBTQ+ centers will be able to direct you to LGBTQ+ friendly mental health services

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I mean that opens up another can of worms imo because first off, not every therapist charges the same rate so there's the risk of me spending even more for worse care, and second off, the process of opening up is difficult for me if I'm not familiar with the person so it may just be a me thing. I don't want to blame the therapist for me not just immediately trauma dumping everything for them to try to fix. Music's helped me exponentially more than most other forms of therapy and it's free* so that's another bonus.

* I use the free version of Spotify

Agreed with Ectier. I’ve worked through my shit and i feel great. That’s not meant to be self-congratulatory or anything, but merely to say it CAN work. Not all therapists practice the same way.

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Try journalling your thoughts and feelings whats going on, get it out of your head and use that as a process to establish how to express these issues your struggles to people who can help you.



MOST IMPORTANTLY look and see what supports are around for you accsessible or not make an effort to look so you know whats around



READ- There are hundreds of books that can help or guide you or help understand your mental health



These suggestions are open ended because we dont know your irl circumstances.

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Yeah Vernin, tbh I still take my fair shot of shots from other users here over my taste or opinions but don't let it eat at you. Unless they're being assholes about it or purposely trolling most aren't being serious, if anything most just want discussion. Granted, for the ones that do treat you like shit or try to get a rise out of ya, just ignore. Usually if I don't ignore it I kind of just play along with it so it doesn't get hostile. Everyone takes a little ribbing now and again

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On an unrelated note, as obvious as it might be. Even just going for a walk can really help. I walk mostly daily and it has significant improvements over days where I don't get some form of activity.

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Second on the walk there Fear

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@ectier: honestly i usually just distract myself long enough to try to live life as normally as I can at this point. these are good pieces of advice though, usually i write my music as that journal if i'm honest. and sometimes a heartfelt melody can get through that message a lot clearer than any piece of lyricism at all. that's where my more recent love of instrumental post-rock/post-metal came from. the ambient leads and soaring pianos just get to me in a way that words just can't sometimes.

@fear: yanno, fair enough. and yeah absolutely, walks are good for the mind and soul.

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It's insane how much walking helps my depression/anxiety. I'll go for one and feel really good after...sometimes so good I want to crash and take a nice ass nap lol.

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But try and journal your thoughts/feelings/things out. Also walks are a great time to jam music as well

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Keeping up with your hygiene helps a lot for me too. It's often hard to because sometimes I'll go shower and then come back to a bunch of people who needed me at that precise moment in time and then feel like crap for not being there lol, but that's why I usually set aside time for when everyone else is fast asleep.

"Also walks are a great time to jam music as well" Pale Folklore is a go-to when I'm just casually strolling!

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"Here, sure, but in the outside world it's hell"



I completely get that, and I'm a dedicated ally to trans individuals (as someone who's part of the LGBT+ umbrella myself), but why have you constantly been so combative in this thread? I think it's pretty clear that Sput is a safe space for expression and discourse, but I feel as though you've been on the offensive since the beginning.



Take it from somebody who's not only been to therapy, but also rehab - which is why I was absent from Sputnik earlier this year - sometimes it's best to step away for a while, so you can cool down and formulate a more rationalized reponse, rather than responding on impulse. I do respect you for bringing your opinions out there so candidly, but I also think you're shooting yourself in the foot by attacking others for their differing opinions on this thread

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Everything koris said. Im starting therapy again heavily now and have been suicidal for months also understanding my own position under the lgbtq+ umbrella. Koris i hope you are in a better place now and things are picking up



Let me make this clear: if people really wanted to tear you to shreds here they would have been far crueller to you and you would know it. Take a moment and a breath before responding to people

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i'm going to copy paste a previous comment that i feel answers that first question, koris.

"i'm naturally combative if i feel like i'm being gaslit into being someone else's vision of me, and that's something I've been trying to work on for some time. that's not a healthy reaction, i'm fully aware. but if i've got people on my ass dogpiling it's overwhelming and, i've always been taught that if I leave then I'm a coward afraid to face what I've said and done."

i often feel like i can't step away because everyone's just going to look at me like i'm a coward and say i "backed down". and if people are lying about me like that, why wouldn't i feel hurt and angry, so to say? so it's a never ending cycle. especially in the era of "you have to be held accountable for EVERY bad thing you've ever done in your entire life" social media.

and seconded ectier i hope you're doing better koris

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Main thing is to stop reacting immediatly and take the time to think clearly before responding. Identify the a problem: Why where people dogpiling you here multiple times? Because of how you have initally reacted to people. Those inital reactions have turned a discussion about the music into an aggresive discourse of bullshit and also opened you up to being easily riled up and trolled and have people have jabs at you knowing you will bite back.

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Harsh truth: This thread could be condensed by a good chunk if the discourse born from your defensive reactions was deleted or didnt happen.