John Darnielle of The Mountain Goats on abuse, from WTF with Marc Maron (https://crimelordsbackup.wordpress.com/2016/06/07/when-an-abuser-dies/):
"I ask survivors when they come up to me at the merch line, 'has your abuser died yet?' And they will say, 'no' and I will say, 'I want you to be ready, cause it is, I hate to say this (I don’t wish death on anybody), it is wonderful when your abuser dies. It’s wonderful, it’s like nothing in the world. It’s like you are free.' There’s a feeling that you will never be free of what you were, you know, there’s that…But to know that the person who used to hurt you no longer can is very very very deep. It’s unbelievable."
fuck X. I will not rejoice in his death, and wish he'd seen justice properly served instead of a senseless murder, but to mourn him validates and burnishes who he was and what he did. to celebrate his life is to spit in the faces of those he abused. I hope those people can find peace now.
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