Tyrael: Dating A Friend

Tyrael 01.01.13	Hey guys I know you guys are all dating experts so yeah, shoot :D
wabbit 01.01.13	BOOOOOOOOOOZE
intotheshit 01.01.13	Rape
Tyrael 01.01.13	Funny guys :]
Calc 01.01.13	literally once a week this topic crops up....
Calc 01.01.13	but pit is on to something
RiffOClock 01.01.13	idk in dilemmas like these i usually put on sea of shit to clear my head
Voivod 01.01.13	Go with your friend out, start flirting other women in front of her and see how she will react to it.
toxin. 01.01.13	I'd go for it. I used the same reasoning to not ask someone out and now I regret it so yeah. If you guys are good friends I'm pretty sure you could move past her rejecting you anyways.
mindleviticus 01.01.13	I'm in the same dilemma, although I ignored her for a few months :]
mindleviticus 01.01.13	Don't do what I did though lol. Just go for it. If worst comes to worst just ask if you can still stay the way you were with her
SgtPepper 01.01.13	I say go for it, Ty. You know each other well it seems, and honestly you don't want to go on living life wondering what if. I know a lot of people are skeptical about dating friends, but most of the time I've found that it works out for the best. The relationship you guys have is already intact, this would just be a logical step forward. The best of luck, man. I wish you the best.
Eclecticist 01.01.13	show her your death metal collection
jesuslover46 01.01.13	what i did was asked one of her friends to find out if she liked me
intotheshit 01.01.13	Are you 12?
ZilbelPing 01.01.13	do er
bach 01.01.13	Sputnik Dating: Take 327.
Pennywise_M 01.01.13	"I say go for it, Ty. You know each other well it seems, and honestly you don't want to go on living life wondering what if. I know a lot of people are skeptical about dating friends, but most of the time I've found that it works out for the best. The relationship you guys have is already intact, this would just be a logical step forward. The best of luck, man. I wish you the best." Paperback said it. Dont try too much though. Try to think of it as an adventure. Try to make your approach feel natural and dont rush anything. You already are good friends, there's no point in rushing anything. Stay cool man, and live the moment.
Douglas 01.01.13	Imma in the same situation at the moment, Except we have been good friends for 3 years now...
Calc 01.01.13	these comments are like answers anime characters give out...
Eclecticist 01.01.13	find out what religion she believes in and defecate on it
ZilbelPing 01.01.13	Sputnik Dating sput: Ask her/do er/punch her in the cunt, tits, throat/porn/religion/politics/show her your dick user: but what if sput: ask her faggot user: but what if she rejects me sput: tl;dr saying ask her user: but... sput: fuck you 2 days later user makes list: depressed
Eclecticist 01.01.13	can't prove the causality
jesuslover46 01.01.13	i am 12 yes
Shimana 01.01.13	"you dtf?"
londoncalling457 01.01.13	have one of your friends try to force her into his car and then show up and smack him around a little. she'll owe her life to you. trust me, i've done this countless times.
apert 01.01.13	use the "does this rag smell like chloroform" chat up line works every time for me
MikeC26 01.01.13	don't be a pussy. go for it.
jefflebowski 01.01.13	u guyz r so inspirational
Tyrael 01.01.13	Haha thanks guys and especially Paperback :]
Chortles 01.01.13	paperback speaks truth
bakkermaarten007 01.01.13	What I would do in your situation: do something together but don't say it's a date. Then add something romantic on top of that (walk on the beach, get 'lost' so you have to walk together back home, get cold and have a warm cup of coffee together, watch a movie you both don't know and it 'turns out' to be a tearjerker). Then watch and 'feel' her body language and see if you can further, if that momentary sparkle is there you'll both feel it. Then again I'm awkward and anxious with women I like so why would you care? =)
CK 01.01.13	I have asked out two people, both of which I have been great or best friends with for over a year. One of them turned me down, we had an awkward phase that lasted about a week or two, the other one said yes and is sitting right next to me, leaning her head on my shoulder. So it could go either way really. I'd say ask, but go in with a dick full of confidence so that way if she says no you avoid as much awkwardness as you can. Good luck!
BrentV 01.01.13	Why do I keep finding these sputnik dating threads? That being said, somebody here needs to give the apocalypse opener a spin. http://www.bristollair.com/2008/outer-game/pua-routines/shock-and-awe-the-apocalypse-opener/
Saturday 01.01.13	go for it.have you ever tried flirting with her or has she with you? any signs that she might be interested in you?
someguest 01.01.13	This never works unless she's a slut.
someguest 01.01.13	It makes plenty of sense.
someguest 01.01.13	Yes, it does.
MikeC26 01.01.13	someguest...have you ever even spoken with a girl before?
someguest 01.01.13	Math class.
someguest 01.01.13	I told her she would be a great addition to my life. She subtracted me right out of the equation.
Tyrael 01.01.13	'This never works unless she's a slut.' what do you mean? 'go for it.have you ever tried flirting with her or has she with you? any signs that she might be interested in you?' Well, nothing obvious... She's hard to read :/. Yea I have flirted with her and she didn't seem to mind but yeah I don't know :P
someguest 01.01.13	"what do you mean?" Girls who 'cherish the friendship' will just weird out on you.
Tyrael 01.01.13	I believe there's a midde ground :/
someguest 01.01.13	Yeah. I'm pretty much a relationship failure, but that's because I'm attracted to psychos.
Sowing 01.01.13	Jeez Ty haven't you learned yet that I know everything about this topic? And here you are consulting Sputnik...psh
Tyrael 01.01.13	@ someguest Have you tried therapy?
someguest 01.01.13	Oh you, Sowing.
Tyrael 01.01.13	Sowing you just got extremely lucky bro ;] ilu
bach 01.01.13	Yes, it does. [2]
someguest 01.01.13	Therapy for what? The last girl I invested time into admitted that she's fascinated with violent acts, but that she can 'control herself'.
Sowing 01.01.13	Have sex with her dad
Tyrael 01.01.13	Well that's not psycho is it just weird everyone's weird :D
someguest 01.01.13	idk I think dying while getting sucked off could be pretty cool
InfamousGrouse 01.02.13	It depends entirely on whether or not you feel she's a friend that you'd be cut up about possibly losing in the future if you dated. If she's a really close friend, I'd probably say it isn't worth it but I guess it depends on everyone's individual situation.
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	"The last girl I invested time into admitted that she's fascinated with violent acts, but that she can 'control herself'." Maybe she has pure-o OCD...
FromDaHood 01.02.13	Masturbate to her facebook pictures until you can drunk hook up
Tyrael 01.02.13	'Masturbate to her facebook pictures until you can drunk hook up' GENIUS but seriously, that's cheating :/
Sowing 01.02.13	^what hood said
someguest 01.02.13	I mean seriously, this girl could kill someone. This makes me want to fuck her more. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Tyrael 01.02.13	Well then I suggest you go get her I don't see the problem :]
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	La petite morte
AtomicWaste 01.02.13	"I believe there's a midde ground :/" You don't want middle ground. Middle ground is there for if she says "no" and you need to lick your wounds before being friends again. Just ask. If she says no, just do everything you can to not get bummed about it, say "Oh well" give yourself a little time and do everything you can to continue the friendship (if that's what you want). Just whatever you do, don't be a whiny bitch and moan "Why naaaaaawt" all the time. If she says no, let it go. She might come around sometime later, but the ball's in her court at that point and she'll know it. Of course, she could say yes. Then you just don't worry about this shit and be awesome.
Tyrael 01.02.13	Well she's in my class so I have to see her like every day, so if it goes wrong I'm gonna have to face her constantly
Sowing 01.02.13	What's more important than who's court the ball is in is to have balls to begin with. If you tell her, don't beat around the bush.
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	How old are you anyway?
Tyrael 01.02.13	I'm 21 man
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	Ah, I was just curious because age matters a little bit in such cases. As girls grow older they act more considerate about such cases. So if she's the same age more or less... From my experience girls still in high school are more cruel lol
jesuslover46 01.02.13	damn sputnik really has gone down the tubes
Kimm 01.02.13	Didn't read the whole thread because it's long so I don't know if you got any real advice or not...but here's my input: Typically, asking out a good friend is going to make things awkward. It's a calculated risk. There's no safe way of doing it, it could make or break the relationship, and you have to decide for yourself if it's a risk worth taking. I wish you the best!
Tyrael 01.02.13	Kimmy! :3 Oh please just tell me what to do :[
AtomicWaste 01.02.13	Classes only last so long, man. In the end, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did.
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	"In the end, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did." This. And the regret, it piles up, believe me.
Tyrael 01.02.13	Damn fine, I'll ask her out then
Kimm 01.02.13	"In the end, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did." Agreed. I mean, I wanna say GO FOR IT but I don't know the situation so I can't. But it's true, there's a good chance you'll regret the not knowing.
InfamousGrouse 01.02.13	#yolo
Tyrael 01.02.13	You guys are fucking depressing lol :P
MiniatureHorse 01.02.13	Only go for it if you're 100% sure that she'd go for it, as well. If not, then it's not such a good idea.
apert 01.02.13	if it all goes to shit, you could always rape her. The option is always open
Tyrael 01.02.13	'Only go for it if you're 100% sure that she'd go for it, as well. If not, then it's not such a good idea.' Dude I have no idea so no?
MiniatureHorse 01.02.13	Ummmm... Just try asking her? I don't know. I've only done this once and it worked. We lasted quite a while, honestly.
Tyrael 01.02.13	Lol okay thanks I guess :P
someguest 01.02.13	"As girls grow older they act more considerate about such cases." lol this guy
Deviant. 01.02.13	"Go with your friend out, start flirting other women in front of her and see how she will react to it." Whatever you do, don't do this
someguest 01.02.13	yeah, don't listen to andcas lol
MiniatureHorse 01.02.13	Who would flirt on other girls in front of the one you actually like? That's just being a pig, imo.
Deviant. 01.02.13	I think it's more the fact that this girl has absolutely no idea that Tyr's gagging for her, so I really can't see how flirting with other girls is really going to suddenly make her realise "you know, I think he really wants to fuck ME"
Tyrael 01.02.13	Deviant hit the nail on the head :]
Deviant. 01.02.13	Just take her out somewhere a little more, idk "romantic" than to a place you normally would. Not a candlelit dinner or anything, but you know, not McDonalds. Don't get all touchy and feely but just start being a little more noticeable by offering your coat if it's cold etc. Just small things, and see how she responds
MiniatureHorse 01.02.13	Haha. True. Hmm. What to do... Dude, just ask her out. What's the worst that could possibly happen? It's not like you're asking her to marry you or anything. If she says no then yeah, just go to your couch and eat some ice cream while watching old Friends re-runs.
Tyrael 01.02.13	Thanks Dev, that's the best advice I've gotten so far :]
silentstar 01.02.13	if you've been friends for this long, it is most probable that such a thought has crossed her mind, even if for a moment. if she's not seeing anyone at the moment, just try doing something with her that you may have not really done before. if things go smoothly, try hinting at the fact that you want to start something with her.
MiniatureHorse 01.02.13	Yeah. What Dev said. Definitely that.
Deviant. 01.02.13	YOU GOTS TO BE CHIVALROUS SON
Calc 01.02.13	i like how dev saying whats already been said in different words is automatically the most eye opening piece of advice given.... must be nice commanding so much blind respect lol
ChopSuey 01.02.13	lists like these always get a lot of comments
ChopSuey 01.02.13	maybe he is.......
Kimm 01.02.13	"if she wanted to be with you like that she would've told you by now." FALSE. So false.
someguest 01.02.13	yeah andcas is wrong. AGAIN!
KILL 01.02.13	gay thread
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	gayer than twilight
someguest 01.02.13	gayer than andcas in a neo nazi orgy in the middle of a Valkyrie reenactment
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	OOOOOHHHH EDWARD SIT ON MY FACE
someguest 01.02.13	lmfao
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	PUT YOUR ARMS AROUND MY SILKY SMOOTH, MILK WHITE TORSO JACOB. HOLD ME. CARESS ME.
SeaAnemone 01.02.13	if there's one thing I've learned from the myriad of sputnik/women/dating lists it's that nobody even comes close to andcas in terms of backwards ideas on dating and women in general, and he's still so intent on dishing out advice
wabbit 01.02.13	it's the pop-punk. the idea of someone's emotions not being on their sleeve is just too foreign for him to comprehend.
SeaAnemone 01.02.13	okay fair enough, I just think it's kinda (incredibly, actually) sad that apparently you think that women are all disgusting parasites or whatever... or that romantic relationships between men and women are fake or destined for failure : ( not trying to be a jerk, it's just sad if you honestly believe the shit you type here re: women/relationships and how you would "enjoy" being a "cynical asshole" is just a foreign concept I don't really get either but whateva to each their own
North0House2 01.02.13	OKAY SO, I ASKED MY FRIEND OUT AFTER WE'D BEEN CLOSE FRIENDS FOR 2 YEARS. Needless to say, best relationship ever. She's my best friend, and I hers. Also, we've been dating for almost 2 years now, it's been beautiful. I say go for it, based on my experience.
SeaAnemone 01.02.13	yeah i know, i do that I'd say it's a pretty fair amalgamation of your posts on lists like this though, could definitely be exaggerating though
Tyrael 01.02.13	Damn, I'm sorry to hear that andcas to the others: hilarious posts guys, thanks :]
Voivod 01.02.13	Ty do what I've told you in my previous comment and see if she will claim you. If she will claim you over other women, she wants you sincerely, if she doesn't, she never wanted you in the first place. How do you reckon? Is she one of those women that can get what they want, if they set their minds to it?
Tyrael 01.02.13	Nah she's a pretty sweet girl, I don't think she'd do that :/
omnipanzer 01.02.13	Attempting to move a friendship into an intimate relationship is always a risky proposition. No matter how many ways you think of that she could respond she probably won't adhere to any of them so don't waste your time over thinking it. You could test the waters in a number of ways (some of which noted above by others). Most of that stuff is a waste of time though and if you are really good friends she'd probably eventually figure out what you are doing. I'd suggest you just be honest with her but prepare for things to maybe get weird between you for a while if it goes south. In my experience women you've never had a friendship with are far easier to date. Once it becomes friends it's just too much of a hassle for them to readjust unless they approach you about it.
Wolfhorde 01.02.13	Not gonna read this list for obvious reasons. Also: Sorry, but why? And fucking lol.
Voivod 01.02.13	What I wrote about is because you want to date her. If I were you, I wouldn't do anything, because men need women as friends, as much as they need them as lovers. I know from a friend of mine working at the European Parliament in Brussels that the Belgian girls are gorgeous, I'm sure there's one of them waiting for you, if you are willing to take the time and look for her.
Voivod 01.02.13	Also what omnipanzer said.
Tyrael 01.02.13	Okay thanks guys
omnipanzer 01.02.13	I only say what I say after numerous failed attempts of my own. Feel free to learn from my mistakes Ty. :-P
Wolfhorde 01.02.13	Defs. what what the old man said. Especially "I'd suggest you just be honest with her but prepare for things to maybe get weird between you for a while if it goes south." this Also, more trust in your dapperness you must have young marxist!
Tyrael 01.02.13	Hahaha Wolf you always manage to cheer me up somehow
Wolfhorde 01.02.13	Seriously though, I meant that last sentence. (even despite the practical benefits from confidence, which basically every 'normal' human being is somewhat 'attracted' to)
someguest 01.02.13	Both women I have tried this with no longer speak to me. lol
North0House2 01.02.13	I still say go for it. But I was freaking lucky with my scenario.
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	Hmm..i never had any friends that were girls growing up till now, only acquaintances...And I never had a girlfriend until 6 months ago, maybe not having those "girls as friends" is why I'm getting chewed the fuck out consistently and why my Wylieism are not being tolerated. Whatever it is I don't feel like i'm compatible dating/relationship wise. Whatever, when I die i'll be drinking Darjelling tea with Audrey Hepburn.
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	"Whatever it is I don't feel like i'm compatible dating/relationship wise." This is me too.
omnipanzer 01.02.13	Here you go balls: http://www.gk2gk.com/
Emim 01.02.13	Don't date a friend you're not willing to lose
omnipanzer 01.02.13	^ that's the long and the short of it.
AtomicWaste 01.02.13	To be honest, of girls I've had an interest in who were friends or friends of a friend, I've gotten "I don't really want to date anyone right now" a few times. I haven't asked that many girls out from that pool, mind you, but one did go out with me and the other that I ended up dating didn't really start with a date... But from the "I don't want to date anyone right now" pool, two of them started dating other guys within a month. If I wanted to maintain a friendship with said girl, I did. I could've maintained friendships with all of them, but I decided that one girl's total slutitude and just general shitty demeanor wasn't worth me wasting time hanging around her if she was going to be such a lying, ungrateful bitch. Moral of the story is, if shit doesn't work out, it's been my experience that even if things cool and you don't hang for a while, you can still be friends without much of an issue afterward. That's the bet line. If you ask me, you may as well take it.
FromDaHood 01.02.13	Oh make sure she's not a lesbian. I had a lesbian friend profess her love to her (straight) best friend and now they don't talk.
DrMaximus 01.02.13	lol "Dating a Friend FromDaHood" is how I read it on new comments.
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	"have one of your friends try to force her into his car and then show up and smack him around a little. she'll owe her life to you. trust me, i've done this countless times." Priceless xDD
Observer 01.02.13	depending how well you and a friend can act, its a good idea.
someguest 01.02.13	It's a good thing I have a big dong.
YankeeDudel 01.02.13	i thought you were asexual
someguest 01.02.13	lol yeah I thought the same thing reading through this list guess he found a springer
Wizard 01.02.13	Don't date her, date one of her friends. Seriously, listen to me on this one.
Hyperion1001 01.02.13	the wizard knows all
someguest 01.02.13	Wizard, should I pick up a girl at the bar, or the gas station? I'm having a really hard time with this one...
anarchistfish 01.02.13	"i thought you were asexual" I thought this too
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	Oh im pretty sure fapping all day long still makes you asexual.
Tyrael 01.02.13	'Don't date her, date one of her friends. Seriously, listen to me on this one.' Huh? Why? 'i thought you were asexual' she's pretty much perfect as far as personality goes
YankeeDudel 01.02.13	yea but i thought you were asexual
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	Arent we all
Tyrael 01.02.13	Doesn't mean I can't fall for someone god damn I like her because she's the nicest and most fun person I've ever met is that so hard to understand
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	Lol, idk if that was for me, but im just fucking around mate. I left my honest opinion here yday
Crysis 01.02.13	obv go with the dryden approach http://i.imgur.com/OFViu.png
Tyrael 01.02.13	Hahahahaha kyle
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	Hahaha awesome lol.
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	I'd love to be asexual but frankly I love porn too much.
anarchistfish 01.02.13	porn isn't even that good
YankeeDudel 01.02.13	im numb to porn at this point i need to see some midget fuckin dogs drinking camel semen in clown outfits rolling around in ketchup to get me off now
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	With all due respect AnarchistFish....and I mean this in the best, non offensive way, you're a good guy and all but......fuck you...
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	Midget porn is pretty entertaining I will say.
anarchistfish 01.02.13	I mean it was interesting when I was like 13 for about 2 months after I discovered it but these days it's just same old same old
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	Seems like someone needs to subscribe for HD porn.
anarchistfish 01.02.13	hd porn's the worst. at least there's something interesting and slightly taboo about amateur porn
Tyrael 01.02.13	No offense AF but I thought such things didn't matter as long as the girl in the porn movie is hot as fuck?
YankeeDudel 01.02.13	extremetube.com shemale surprise is about all i watch
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	Honestly, all porn can learn a thing or two from my own imagination.
EaglesBecomeVultures 01.02.13	"Don't do what I did though lol. Just go for it. If worst comes to worst just ask if you can still stay the way you were with her"' So so so so sooooooo sososos false
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	So when are you asking her?
Tyrael 01.02.13	Might see her on monday, gotta bring in our assignments So idk
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	Ask her if she wants to partake in a orgiastic fourway with you, ReccSpecs and another gentleman.
Tyrael 01.02.13	I'd ask if you were volunteering but just I remember you have your own lady now, wylie
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	Keep it airy when you ask her though
Pennywise_M 01.02.13	"Seems like someone needs to subscribe for HD porn." DING DING DING
ShadowRemains 01.02.13	yes kyle classic
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	Well, at some point i'll probably forget to put the toilet seat/lid down and get stabbed to death in my sleep
anarchistfish 01.02.13	"No offense AF but I thought such things didn't matter as long as the girl in the porn movie is hot as fuck?" which they usually aren't. either way, if I just wanted to look at a hot girl I wouldn't watch a video of her being fucked by another guy and pretending to enjoy it x10 more than she actually does going off topic here
BallsToTheWall 01.02.13	You're a strange one Anarchist.
ShadowRemains 01.02.13	lol
Tyrael 01.02.13	Fantasy works in weird ways guv
DrMaximus 01.02.13	That was beautiful, andcas.
bakkermaarten007 01.02.13	Awwww
Tyrael 01.02.13	But it was! Now where's my handkerchief...
YankeeDudel 01.02.13	andcas BURNING NICCAS SINCE 07
toxin. 01.02.13	"if she says no then there might always be an awkwardness in the air once it's out in the open" unless you're weird about it I'm not sure it'd be such a big deal. I mean if you say "hi ____ I've loved you since we first met, plz take me" okay yeah it'll be awkward forever. But if you ask her out with something that doesn't make it sound like you're obsessed with her and she says no, then she knows you can move on so it won't be weird. One of my best friends told her best friend she liked him and he reacted horribly (didn't talk to her for like a month) but they're now just as good friends, three years later.
Tyrael 01.03.13	all right, good to know :]
Deviant. 01.03.13	"Arent we all" Am questioning whether you know what asexual means
oltnabrick 01.03.13	ask for her hand in marriage .
JWT155 01.03.13	Drink together, get drunk, make a move, only one of 2 things can happen then: 1) You both make out, know she has more then just friend feelings for you, charge forward or 2) She says no, apologize and blame the alcohol in the morning.
oltnabrick 01.03.13	yeah or dont
Deviant. 01.03.13	Apologize and blame HER in the morning
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	"Am questioning whether you know what asexual means" I'm questionign whether anyone who brought that up in here even knows what asexual means, because it doesn't look like it. "You're a strange one Anarchist." Actually no, his reasoning is perfectly logical.
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	Chloroform will do the trick.
Jash 01.03.13	I've been dating a close friend from highschool for almost 2 years now, mind you there was a couple year period in which she moved away and we didn't stay in full contact before we started dating, but regardless we were each others best friend for a while and it's worked out great, it's so much easier being with someone who's also your best friend.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	"Chloroform will do the trick." Can you explain me how we got from porn to rape. Also, I find it to be hilarious that some people apparently assume that pesonal experience in this matter is analytical advice.
Relinquished 01.03.13	"it's so much easier being with someone who's also your best friend." agreed, life gets so much easier that way
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	I find it hilarious that I've gone from midget porn, to self enlightenment to chloroform rape. If there was a technicality in valhalla/heaven/whatever you wanna call it for all the jokes i've made, i'm pretty sure id be fucked.
Relinquished 01.03.13	hahaha
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	On a serious note I'm pretty positive that I'm not livnig up to my girlfriends high expectations/can't be good enough for my girlfriend. I suppose the age difference is too much after all. No regrets though, I am who I am, for better and worse.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	Wait.. how old is your girlfriend? And you focus too much on your savage aspect I presume. You can be hard and manly and gentlemanly and educated at the same time. You 'Mericunts have good examples of this throughout history.
J0ckstrapsFTW 01.03.13	Show her ur cock INSTA WET PUSSY
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	You're way too late, dude.
J0ckstrapsFTW 01.03.13	Ur late brosiedon
YankeeDudel 01.03.13	J0ck$tr@pZzzZFML with the sound advice
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	8 years older than me. My complacent state doesnt help matters. Im pretty conservative, she expects me to be charming managers left and right to get jobs, going out every day to find jobs, dress nice and things like that don't appeal to me. Already have one gig and im searching for another but apparently i'm being too slow.
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	I'm happy with finding a steady, basic job and having a small studio for 300ish or 400, something like that a month. A minimalist lifestyle is fine for me. I'd like to sell my car, and just ride my bike to work/beach/gym/coffee shops and call it a day.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	"Ur late brosiedon" Wow, kindergarden comebacks. I thought Sputnik has not yet gone there. Guess I was wrong. "8 years older than me. My complacent state doesnt help matters. Im pretty conservative, she expects me to be charming managers left and right to get jobs, going out every day to find jobs, dress nice and things like that don't appeal to me. Already have one gig and im searching for another but apparently i'm being too slow." Doesn't sound like either of you would be too happy with how things are quite frankly. Also, how old are you again? 22? 23?
J0ckstrapsFTW 01.03.13	"J0ck$tr@pZzzZFML with the sound advice" Yup that's why I'm here. Call me montell all back up in this bitch
YankeeDudel 01.03.13	"I'm happy with finding a steady, basic job and having a small studio for 300ish or 400, something like that a month. A minimalist lifestyle is fine for me. I'd like to sell my car, and just ride my bike to work/beach/gym/coffee shops and call it a day." Sounds like the good life to me. Cheers.
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	23 going on 24. Maybe not. At this point I have no interest in obtaining a degree or having a career. It can change and i'm sure it will at some point but that's the beauty of it, i'm still young, I have plenty of time left unless I die soon. I'm happy the way it is. More-so when I have that said studio and can support myself fully. I don't need much else.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	Well, then there's a definitive discrepancy if she can't accept that. 'Cause, y'know - there's as fine line between making compromises for a relationship and changing the life you're happy with.
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	The benefit to this lifestyle is I can still continue my hermitic ways nad live under a rock, have no tv/cable/etc and if we break up I can ultimately give up my cellphone and live even simpler.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	Well, if that's what you want - go for it. The point is where a relationship (IMO) makes sense is when there's the common component where both partners are part of each other's idea of a happy life without having to completely sacrifice integral parts of this idea. If this isn't the case, then - oh well..
YankeeDudel 01.03.13	Yea the downside obviously is that lifestyle might not be attractive to most women but Im sure you could find some down to erf chill as fuu quasi hippie whod be down to pound.
BallsToTheWall 01.03.13	Agreed. I'm going to be who I'm going to be, I'm going to go at my own tempo regardless of whomever's dismay. I'm not going to be a suave modern man, I'm not going to put on fake smiles and a charismatic act for corporate suits. Getting away from my family is key too. Been around them for too long.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	Now mind you, I'm not saying don't make compromises in any way. Being able to make compromises, receive and give (constructive) criticism is an integral part of human live if you're not seriously going to be a hermit and live lonely on a mountain. But, don't sacrifice integral parts of your vision of what your own life - your own happy life especially should be for someone else. The only good change is change you can be happy with.
Emim 01.03.13	"agreed. it could get weird either way the situation swings. if she says no then there might always be an awkwardness in the air once it's out in the open. if she says yes I hope you're both close and mature enough to remain friends if things were to ever run its course. I'd say that if you feel that strongly about her the gamble is worth the risk. there's no sense in holding back how you feel since it'll just eat you up inside. and who knows, she might just be the girl you end up settling down with for the rest of your life. so there's my actual sincere take on the subject at hand. " woah...did we just touch tips?
Tyrael 01.03.13	Woah where did this discussion end up lol
omnipanzer 01.03.13	wow yah it done esploded.
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	What'd you expect? It has over 100 comments.
Tyrael 01.03.13	It's sputnik I had no expectations at all
Tyrael 01.03.13	Hey Lakes die
omnipanzer 01.03.13	Yowza!
DrMaximus 01.03.13	Haza
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	Goes hard as the Belgian Luftwaffel.
Tyrael 01.03.13	'Goes hard as the Belgian Luftwaffel.' lol
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	"you have to muster up some confidence in yourself" WOW REALLY NO ONE WOULD'VE EVER THOUGHT OF THAT THANK YOU FOR YOUR INCREDIBLY ENLIGHTENED COMMENT, BODHISVATTA
Wolfhorde 01.03.13	"that's such an easy thing to say but when you are really good friends with the person first it goes wayyy beyond confidence. i had no problem asking my latest chick out because i've known her only for a couple of months and if she would have said no fuck it we're not that great of friends anyway on to the next one..." Perspective, dude. People come and go, both friends and partners. If it happens, it happens - you can't change that. And when shit's out of the bottle the possibility for things to go South even when she's not interested are given.
omnipanzer 01.03.13	"Goes hard as the Belgian Luftwaffel." Lol January 3rd marks the comment of the year.
unclereich 11.25.20	there is nothing to lose in my experience. not many cis male folks I know have many lifelong cis female friends. if they do one of the parties never found the other sexually attractive so one of the them put them in the eternal friend zone. that one party is forever left wondering and bitter so the friendship is never truly that of a best friendship because it is built on the foundation of someone being let down and left asking "what if". you'll likely never truly be best friends with the opposite sex because things get soooo complicated as you get older and people get married(hellooo jealousy!). just go for it I did and failed and that person does not see me any differently because now we have dated and been in love with other people
Pheromone 11.25.20	these pasta's are elaborate
ReefaJones 11.25.20	just show her your massive schlong
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	is she into you?
gschwen 11.25.20	OP could've married and had multiple children since this post
brainmelter 11.25.20	his first mistake was going to sputnikmusic for advice on girls
ReefaJones 11.25.20	"OP could've married and had multiple children since this post" he dodged a bullet then
Deathconscious 11.25.20	I wanna know how this turned out.
SitarHero 11.25.20	I wanna know how this turned out. [2]
Pheromone 11.25.20	some of the comments on this post oh sput!
Pheromone 11.25.20	'Drink together, get drunk, make a move, only one of 2 things can happen then: 1) You both make out, know she has more then just friend feelings for you, charge forward or 2) She says no, apologize and blame the alcohol in the morning.'
unclereich 11.25.20	he was in mezz as of 2018 so he definitely isnt married
Pheromone 11.25.20	lol i hardly went on sput during the mezz era eli5
gschwen 11.25.20	whats mezz
Pheromone 11.25.20	some facebook group of sput d w e e b s
unclereich 11.25.20	i had the lovely fortune on being in mezz for a while thanks to user aok and sniper and man what a bunch of dorks
Pheromone 11.25.20	what did they get up to was it kinda like they'd post a music video and then talk about how much sowing sucks or somethin
unclereich 11.25.20	no not even close lol
Ryus 11.25.20	intotheshit 01.01.13 [Report this Post] Rape
Pheromone 11.25.20	apert 01.02.13 [Report this Post] if it all goes to shit, you could always rape her. The option is always open
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	if you don't feel that vibe that two could be together, then maybe it's best not to tarnish a good thing. friends with benefits doesn't work out either so don't get any ideas lol
Colton 11.25.20	Friends with benefits works out pretty well if it’s what both people want
unclereich 11.25.20	You have lots of exp?
Pheromone 11.25.20	fwb definitely can work well but it definitely can fuck up depends on the people potato / potato this is a music website
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	dost thou speaketh from experience colton?
Pheromone 11.25.20	i know loads of people who've had successful fwb
Pheromone 11.25.20	i also know lots of people heart broken : (
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	same pheromone. i also speak from experience myself, but it didn't end too bad just bittersweet i suppose
Colton 11.25.20	You can’t be that heartbroken about someone if you had sex with them, that makes the story fundamentally less tragic and just some reich
unclereich 11.25.20	I know loads and I know friends and I know you shouldn't be putting loads into friends
zakalwe 11.25.20	A ‘fwb’ is basically an accessible shag because you’re too atomised from a natural romance blossoming in a neutral environment with somebody outside your immediate social circle. A consumerist bonk. Have some self awareness and look at the long term implications. Leave it be and you’ll have no regrets. Either that or have 8 pints and hang out the back of it in pub car-park and be done with it.
Ryus 11.25.20	nah bang all your friends
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	ya live, and ya learn, and then ya die
Pheromone 11.25.20	remember guys nothing is ever that deep
unclereich 11.25.20	You can’t be that heartbroken about someone if you had sex with them Jesus fucking christ at least I can put a face to these comments now
Pheromone 11.25.20	ahah yeah that is a pretty poor quotable
hal1ax 11.25.20	“Sputnik Dating sput: Ask her/do er/punch her in the cunt, tits, throat/porn/religion/politics/show her your dick user: but what if sput: ask her faggot user: but what if she rejects me sput: tl;dr saying ask her user: but... sput: fuck you 2 days later user makes list: depressed“ Lol
LeddSledd 11.25.20	When she sees my big dick. My massive cock. My hulking chode. My mammoth meat. My gargantuan schlong. My behemoth dong.
unclereich 11.25.20	Shell say why are you wearing my strap on
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	pheromone is that what he said?
Deathconscious 11.25.20	@zak lol shut up prude, stop listening to Jordan Peterson.
Pheromone 11.25.20	i think (hope) zak was only saying the first bit to make the joke
Colton 11.25.20	And wasn’t even one of my good pics Reich! Yeah I’m not seeing any negative long term implications of having a FWB. Way more implications from a relationship.
Deathconscious 11.25.20	@phero you never know, zak says some incredibly dumb shit on a regular basis.
Pheromone 11.25.20	ahah yeah zak has a beautiful contrast of genuinely funny n good takes with genuinely fucking stupid n bad takes love him tho
SitarHero 11.25.20	Life's too long to not be having sex with your friends.
ShadowRemains 11.25.20	too bad andcas’ posts are missing from this thread because i bet it was some incel level shit
TheAntichrist 11.25.20	@sitarhero giddy up partner!
Deathconscious 11.25.20	One of my best friends is someone i fuck when we're both single, if you find someone who can handle it i recommend it.
Tundra 11.25.20	Eh, I asked a friend out before, it didnt really go well... we still talk sometimes, but theres still this awkwardness in the air whenever we speak ever since