Captain North
04.08.12 | Blergh. |
bakkermaarten007
04.08.12 | I'm sorry man. |
Trebor17
04.08.12 | Hope you feel better dude |
DominionMM1
04.08.12 | sucks bro. sorry. just took a peek at your list from last year. you on your feet yet? |
BallsToTheWall
04.08.12 | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1woxkraClg
Keep your spirits high lad... |
TheArkitecht
04.08.12 | That sucks man, sorry to hear that, hope you feel better again soon. |
Satellite
04.08.12 | shit man, that's rough. wishing you the best. |
ILJ
04.08.12 | It especially sucks when you shared a lot of music with each other, then no matter what you do when you listen to it you'll be reminded of everything. I've been there.
Hope you feel better bro. |
thumbcrusher
04.08.12 | :-( |
Spec
04.08.12 | Ahh I'm sorry to hear that man. Those "mutual" breakups still seem silly to me when both people still want to be together. Regardless it somehow happened to me too.
And yeah Jane Doe is a pretty useless breakup album for me too. |
paxman
04.08.12 | After reading your "I'm Now A Paraplegic" list, this list bears more weight, especially the girlfriend of four months portion. Good luck to you, sir. |
foxxxyroxxx
04.08.12 | at least youre consistently depressing |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | That sucks. I'm gonna underline what Wylie posted and rec (if possible) the "stereotypical guy route". (listen to stuff like that, try to have a blast, go out with friends, maybe get shitfaced/high if it helps, do whatever is you like doing and is in the realm of possibilities) |
balcaen
04.08.12 | condolences, mate. we're about the same age and i went through a similar break up of sorts in november after 14 months of what was my first actual relationship. despite it being mutual breaking up always sucks no matter what.
i couldn't really cheer myself up for a long time other than to tell myself that one year is just a needlehead on the overall span of my life and i'm young as fuck and so are other people who are out there waiting for me to meet them.
judging from your "I'm Now A Paraplegic" list though, you're gonna get over this and do other great things with your life soon though. that AND you'll have learnt a fuckton from a tumultuous relationship. |
paxman
04.08.12 | Find the biggest douchebag you can and bash the motherfucker's face in. |
Spec
04.08.12 | I just got mad, said I wasted a year of my life and spent all my time getting fucked up on anything I could get my hands on. That was dumb. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | Well it wasn't that mutual. But she gets the logic behind it.
Thanks guys. @foxxxy, yeah it's a talent @balcaen, ftr I was that friend of a friend who commented about you being a girl on fb |
paxman
04.08.12 | Form Sputnik Fight Club. |
paxman
04.08.12 | Shut the fuck up, Rosa. Nobody cares about your stupid ugly ass. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | I've got a feeling I'm going to fly through battle star galactica in record time just to keep my mind off it. If anyone's interested, check out the poem I posted in the forums. |
balcaen
04.08.12 | i'll fight you if it makes you feel better |
paxman
04.08.12 | Post the poem here you pussy lol |
WeepingBanana
04.08.12 | life goes on bro. the important part is to not dwell on it forever |
Captain North
04.08.12 | It had to end like this, didn't it?
From the moment I stepped out into the embrace
Of a non-existent god,
It had to end like this.
I made you a Lady, a pointless title for a stupid 'nation'
Because we liked that kind of thing.
I'm glad it made you smile, like I'm glad my fingers work
Almost as well as that thing that doesn't anymore.
I'm glad I've made you scream
Almost as often as you've cried.
You gave me a pocket watch the day I left you.
I wrap it round my finger, dangle it in front,
Swing it like the pendulum above my neck,
Scratching at my beard. "Soon",
It whispers in rustles.
"Too late" I reply as I set it aside
We can't have our time again.
So let me forget all that we didn't do.
So let me forget that which I did. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | Gonna get trolled for that but whatevs |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | Roses are red
This story's a bore
Go fuck another one
Because girls are whores |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | My poem is better, pussy |
Captain North
04.08.12 | Come at me bro |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | I'll just kick you until you cry |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | "My poem is better, pussy"
"Come at me bro"
Rap battle, please. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | I'll throw myself out of my wheelchair and make it look like you did it and everyone else will beat you up for me. I'm disabled, I don't need friends. |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | I won my school's Rap Olympics, it's show time |
Fluttertrank
04.08.12 | Jane doe is for when you hate the person you were with with passion. obviously, like you said you didnt hate her.
but man that sucks bro |
This Life is Genocide
04.08.12 | sorry to hear bro. wish you the best |
andcas
04.08.12 | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90e8ryPDKWo |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | "I won my school's Rap Olympics, it's show time"
That's like saying I was the best in the school band/choir. |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | I'm also the second-ranked public speaker at school; I can handle the situation with diplomacy too. |
auberginedreams
04.08.12 | no, that's like saying you won the biggest wigger competition. |
andcas
04.08.12 | @hood, you're also the oldest brokencyde fan. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | Public speaking isn't diplomacy. |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | I don't listen to BrokeNCYDE anymore andcas, that was more a 'last year' thing
@North it's not inherently, but the way I conduct myself is way graceful and diplomatic |
Blackbelt54
04.08.12 | hope you feel better, hang in there and stay positive! |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | "at school"
You recognizing the problem? Even "public speakers" of private/"elite unis" are partly not really good at what they're doing. |
andcas
04.08.12 | me and wolf publicly speak on behalf of chuck norris. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | (ps don't feed the troll guys. No not fromdahood, he's ok) |
FromDaHood
04.08.12 | @Wolf not according to the small group who judge me impartially
And North, your whole situation pretty much sucks, mad props for (apparently) taking it in stride |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | "me and wolf publicly speak on behalf of chuck norris."
*roundhouse 5* |
MoosechriS
04.08.12 | Shit dude that blows, hope your holdin up ok |
Spec
04.08.12 | "That's like saying I was the best in the school band/choir."
Bands best trumpet player mother fucker. |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | lol, winds. |
Scoot
04.08.12 | you are probably the only user who i have legitimate sympathy for
hope you'll be alright |
PayneTiger777
04.08.12 | We got the same birthday. I turned 24 yesterday.
Sorry man. Break ups suck. |
TomArnoldsArmpit
04.08.12 | bummer dude. you're pretty young, good things will come your way. I wish you the best. |
Spec
04.08.12 | Trumpet is a brass instrument is it not. |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | Never said woodwinds did I. |
Tyrael
04.08.12 | 'Converge
Jane Doe
Surprisingly unhelpful'
orly |
Spec
04.08.12 | You Will Not Survive would probably be better. |
Scoot
04.08.12 | fuck the emotional crap, you need to listen to some ska or happy trip-hop
get the arrogant sons of bitches - three cheers for disappointment and weathertunes - palm beach |
Spec
04.08.12 | ASOB is probably the best thing you can listen to at this point.
The song Beer by Reel Big Fish would be awesome too. |
Wolfhorde
04.08.12 | Ska is actually a pretty good idea, especially ASOB. |
Days of Future Passed
04.08.12 | Sorry to hear about that man. Pinkerton, then transition to Since I Left You. |
RosaParks
04.08.12 | btmi-vacation
anything by btmi
asob
stop trying to bring everyone on sputnik down with your emotions |
Blackbelt54
04.08.12 | yeah listen to some ASOB and BtMI! |
Captain North
04.08.12 | I dunno, I couldn't really take happy songs when I was wasn't grieving, I'd imagine it'll just piss me off.
Also..Lowell I'm taking it in my stride kinda. It has been 9 months now, enough time for me to be able to function in society. That first list I made after the accident eas very little tbh, that was when I was drugged up and inspired before 6 months in hospital sucked the will out of me. |
Scoot
04.08.12 | asob aren't happy, they're pissed off. but the music itself is happy. that's the selling point |
VisionsFromTheDarkSide
04.08.12 | Dude just read your 'I'm now a paraplegic' list. My dad was fixing a shed roof once,fell of and broke his lower back. Paralised for life. Hope you're okay man, life sucks sometimes but I guess what doesn't kill you makes you stronger |
taxidermist
04.08.12 | "Thanks guys. @foxxxy, yeah it's a talent @balcaen, ftr I was that friend of a friend who commented about you being a girl on fb"
Oh shit, that was you? Trophy Scars vinyl pic right? |
Fluttertrank
04.08.12 | yep keep your hopes up high and you head down low.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pn-6eOxnEMI |
ILJ
04.08.12 | ALL I WANT IS A PLACE TO CALL MY OWN |
Spec
04.08.12 | "btmi-vacation
anything by btmi
asob
stop trying to bring everyone on sputnik down with your emotions"
You have a choice to comment or not. Sometimes venting is helpful, give the dude a break. |
ILJ
04.08.12 | I concur with spec here. He even said that his main social contact was her, so it makes sense that he wants to vent to his sputnik bros. |
DarthMann
04.08.12 | :[
feel better mate |
Recspecs
04.08.12 | Don't really know you man, but from what I've seen you'll be able to get through this and be a hell of a dude. Basically everything balcaen said, keep your spirits up bro.
Fuck off Rosa, it's users like you that take this site down the shitter. |
andcas
04.08.12 | it's rosa, what did you really expect? |
Recspecs
04.08.12 | I don't hate gays, but I despise faggots. |
PuddlesPuddles
04.08.12 | That's rough. Hope you get better, use friends family music books movies... Reinvent yourself, stay dynamic |
VinVal
04.08.12 | Warning - watching from a distance |
auberginedreams
04.08.12 | "I don't hate gays, but I despise faggots.:
this. rosa is just upset because he looks like a fat middle-aged lesbian. |
Recspecs
04.08.12 | He is just upset that Noctus won't fuck him because he has standards. |
auberginedreams
04.08.12 | lol |
Voivod
04.08.12 | Turned 20 yesterday...
My god you are so young!!!
Are you aware of how many girlfriends you will have until the age of - let's say - 30?
Don't sleep on it, in a month's time, you will be over this, trust me. |
RosaParks
04.08.12 | "Sometimes venting is helpful, give the dude a break."
No |
rockandmetaljunkie
04.08.12 | ^ What Voivod says, even though some times it doesn't matter how old you are. It's just that, if you were with a person with whom you had a good chemistry, and this person really made you happy, it hurts so much when you lose what you had instantly for granted. |
Scoot
04.08.12 | "My god you are so young!!!
Are you aware of how many girlfriends you will have until the age of - let's say - 30?
Don't sleep on it, in a month's time, you will be over this, trust me."
are you aware that he's a paraplegic |
RosaParks
04.08.12 | that is sad |
calgarydude12
04.08.12 | More Than Life- Love Let Me Go.
I am sorry I give you this album, but this will tear you down, so you can rebuild again. |
Fuff24
04.08.12 | Sucks man. You've been through alot though; you can do this! keep your head up and do not listen to these idiots |
MetallicOpeth
04.08.12 | Hope things pick up for you soon man. All the best. |
Captain North
04.08.12 | Picking up gets a bit harder when you're in a chair with a dick that doesnt work properly. There's all these things that she knew from experiencing them with me, that I'll now have to explain to anyone I meet and hope it doesn't scare them off.
And Calgary, yeah I got that album. Not sure I even want to go there. |
Spec
04.08.12 | Don't listen to that album right now. Seriously. |
MetallicOpeth
04.08.12 | damn sorry bro |
calgarydude12
04.08.12 | Not yet. If there is any chance of reconciliation with her, then I wouldn't. But if its done, then let yourself grieve properly, and make yourself better through it. |
North0House2
04.09.12 | Man, I honestly don't even know what to say, that's some bloody rough stuff. You'll get through it though, even though I don't even know you. And hey, you'll find some chick down the road that'll dig a man that survived falling a few stories and managed to keep on going. That takes some serious will power, props to you. |
J0ckstrapsFTW
04.09.12 | You gotta get back on the saddle right out of the gate.
Fuck anything that moves... It'll help |
theacademy
04.09.12 | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KScMRqcsvjo |
Emim
04.09.12 | you sir are a trooper and have my condolences
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ch7bKUlFmjs |
theacademy
04.09.12 | lol^ |
foxxxyroxxx
04.09.12 | dude im so tired |
theacademy
04.09.12 | the world looks better when you're falling |
foxxxyroxxx
04.09.12 | the world looks better when im asleep |
McBabe
04.09.12 | JANE DOE |
Salander
04.09.12 | ^ Fuck Jane Doe, just no.. it just made things worse once it was over. Agreed, surprisingly unhelpful
indeed.
Ska is my solution. |
Aids
04.09.12 | time to listen to La Dispute |
Voivod
04.09.12 | @ Scoot i didn't know man, i thought the word "damaged" referred to the couple's emotional state... |
Aids
04.09.12 | seriously though listen to The Rural Alberta Advantage's album "Departing" it's a great break-up album. and also the obvious ones like For Emma Forever Ago and Blood on the Tracks. |
Aids
04.09.12 | haha when I have the last comment on this thread, the front page reads "Break Up by Aids"
that's one way to do it i guess... |
Captain North
04.09.12 | Voiced, no damaged did mean emotionally. But yeah, paraplegic too, recent accident. Really fucks with life ya know.
Lol break up by aids |
omnipanzer
04.09.12 | Be happy someone was willing to fuck you.
Be happy that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
Be happy your accident happened at at time when you had someone strong enough to see you through it.
Be happy you didn't waste more time in a doomed relationship.
Pout for a week, move on.
You will be stronger for it. |
SCREAM!
04.09.12 | When my gf of nearly 5 years left it was one of the hardest things to go through at first but i started focusing more on myself, hitting the gym, going to shows (which i rarely ever did while with her), trying to see my friends more, and within a little over a month i was pretty much back on my feet. I've doubled the amount of concerts i've been to and am generally a lot healthier because the habit of going to the gym stuck and i've been working out 3 times per week for about 3-4 months now. Feels good. Try to stay positive and keep your head up man, you can get through anything and in the end you'll realise it was all worth it |
Tyrael
04.09.12 | Hmm
I've never had a serious girlfriend but yea whatever SCREAM! said sounds best |
Voivod
04.09.12 | ^^^ What omnipanzer and SCREAM! said.- |
omnipanzer
04.09.12 | Paul Simon - Still Crazy After All These Years (50 ways to leave your lover)
Billy Joel - The Stranger [Movin' Out (Anthony's Song)]
Elton John - Too Low For Zero (I Guess That's Why They Call It the Blues, I'm Still Standing)
R.E.M. - Automatic for the People (Everybody Hurts)
Leonard Cohen - Songs of Leonard Cohen (Hey, That's No Way to Say Goodbye)
Bob Dylan - Blood on the Tracks (whole album) |
Motiv3
04.09.12 | Damn, sorry to hear this man. |
omnipanzer
04.09.12 | Only sure fire cure, stand up comedy. |
Katechon
04.09.12 | Maybe you should listen to Jane Doe. |
Captain North
04.09.12 | Stand up comedy can fix most of mans woes. |
Captain North
09.05.12 | Yeah, so we got back together for a few months but broke up again the other week. Far more amicable this time. Eventually I think we'll remain good friends, but I won't get over her if we remain in contact right now. Which sucks because she was pretty much my entire social contact. But I feel oddly freer and ok now. |
Scoot
09.05.12 | here's a good album for you:
carissa's wierd - songs about leaving |
Scoot
09.05.12 | the misspelling is intentional |
auberginedreams
09.05.12 | carissa's wierd is good.
"I won't get over her if we remain in contact right now. Which sucks because she was pretty much my entire social contact."
ugh i've been there. |
Acanthus
09.05.12 | "Eventually I think we'll remain good friends, but I won't get over her if we remain in contact right now. Which sucks because she was pretty much my entire social contact. But I feel oddly freer and ok now."
Space does wonders for getting back to a healthy mental standpoint. My ex and I didn't really go our separate ways for a long time, and looking back I can see that it just made everything far more painful and drawn out than it had to be.
A few others have mentioned it but what really helped me was getting comfortable in my own skin, when the person you spend the majority of your time with leaves it's shocking at how alone you can initially feel.
You've already found music that makes you cry, try and find some that gives you hope/acceptance or drive. Get into a new hobby or revisit an old one, hit the gym, read, dream... do things that make you remember/realize what you like about yourself and get comfortable in your own skin again.
Was single for over a year once my ex left, gained back what little confidence I had and expanded upon it, also became more self reliant. Current gf and I are at 11 months so far, feels nice.
I wish you the best of luck recovering sir! |
Captain North
09.05.12 | Thanks man. Yeah, tricky thing about getting comfortable in my own skin again is I'm also coming off of a major injury that's left me paraplegic. So it's more a matter of what can I still be of what I used to be...plus, a lot of my social contact before m injury came from drinking which I'm not even remotely interested in anymore. The trouble with living in a drink dominated country hah |
FourthReich
09.05.12 | wow man i am really sorry to hear that. |
Acanthus
09.05.12 | Yeah I can understand/see where that'd be difficult, watching one of my friends get more involved in drinking regularly. It's beginning to change him, though he's over 30 so he knows what he's getting into.
A easy way to socialize is online gaming, preferably on the PC. Teamwork based FPS's and the like really are a fun way to talk to people you don't know, and sometimes squads keep together even after the games done.
Just saying you've got some options, but you already know that so you'll be fine in the end! |
bakkermaarten007
09.05.12 | You guys do realize this thread is a month old right? |
HitlerIsTheBest
09.05.12 | jesus fuck |
DarthMann
09.05.12 | Breakups are hard but something good nearly always comes from them. |
Captain North
09.05.12 | You do realize its my own thread and I bumped it?
|
MetallicOpeth
09.05.12 | if you took the 5 years on sputnik and put it towards a relationship it'll do wonders!! |
Captain North
09.05.12 | Lol. Being on here is the equivalent of checking Facebook, hardly a case of no life |
