North0House2
10.02.13 | Man I'm just so bloody tired.
It'd be cool if a woman could be faithful to me someday, too. Thus far in life, it's never happened. |
Rowan5215
10.02.13 | "I know it's petty, I could be going through worse."
From the sounds of it you're not being petty at all, it sounds entirely justified. Hope you pull through it, man. |
North0House2
10.02.13 | And I'm done ranting, sorry bros. I'm not a sad sack I swear. Just been a rough month. |
Rowan5215
10.02.13 | It's cool man, it helps to get this stuff off your chest. |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Thanks. Glad you think it's not petty. Lol.
It does help, though. And I can't tell anyone I personally know because I feel so degraded that I just don't even want to bring it up in my personal relationships. |
Cygnatti
10.02.13 | we're here for ya, niggles. ❤ |
Relinquished
10.02.13 | you need your dopamine levels up
exercise bro |
Cygnatti
10.02.13 | "Doesn't help that she's been telling me how all these guys are her new school are trying to pick her up, it's like pouring salt on a big wound."
why the fuck are you still talking to her!? if you want to get over her, you just need her out of your fucking life. |
Cygnatti
10.02.13 | reliquished is right. exercise does wonders for your life. |
North0House2
10.02.13 | I've been exercising, it's helping a lot.
And I'm not talking to her, or trying not to. She has my number though, so I get texts from her where she's trying to talk to me, and I just need to learn not to read them. |
Relinquished
10.02.13 | block them
an answer to one of your problems |
RogueNine
10.02.13 | It's all good man; that's why Sputbros are here. |
Cygnatti
10.02.13 | ^ |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Sput 4 lyf.
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InFiction
10.02.13 | "I could be going through worse."
This state of mind has always helped me through a rough patch. Your situation sounds entirely justified with you being upset, but if you imagine how it could be much worse then it might help take the pressure off a little. You got your Sputbros here for you. m/ |
titlefightmeirl
10.02.13 | Yeah, definitely block her number. I hope things get better for you, man. The best advice I can give you is to just do anything you can to get your mind off things. Exercise, listen to music (that doesn't remind you of her), watch movies, play games, read, shop, sports, anything you can to keep yourself busy. |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Thanks man. I'm finding it helps a bit. I mean, I could have no legs or something. That'd suck lol. Emotions are just temporary, to boot. I just haven't hurt this much in a long time, so I've been struggling to keep myself stable. |
Acanthus
10.02.13 | Sounds like a lot to deal with, looking back at it going to school "just because" was a pretty bad decision even though I met some interesting people; killed my GPA and now I've got loans.
Hope it works out for you man, and I agree with the advice about breaking off contact; keeping you there as an emotional/physical "backup" is cruel and far too common in breakups. The clean break hurts but once you get comfortable being back in your own skin again things will never be the same (in a good way, confidence and self reliance levels through the roof).
It's cool that you've been exercising, I did a lot of that during my breakup and it really helped me get through the tough times (and later on was an added confidence boost when I was ready to move on). Sounds as if you one "friend" is toxic and has his own problems/doesn't really care, and seeing that you're isolated that must make things tough without any support. I tend to believe that people can often get through things on their inner strength, but not everyone is the same; maybe try hitting up some bars/clubs/concerts, or a library/gym/park. Heck, even a coffee shop where you can sit and watch people is better than being stuck inside one room with just your ex's texts and your thoughts.
There's a lot of advice you'll be given I'm sure, I hope you find something that works for you! |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Yeah for sure. I'm trying my best to just work on my music. My goal is to build a guitar by the end of the month too, so that'll help me keep my mind off of it. There's a real cool girl out here I've met too, and that helps as well.
But crap man. I've had some bad breakups, but not like this. |
Acanthus
10.02.13 | I've only had one so far, it was more than enough. |
Rowan5215
10.02.13 | Yeah get a hobby man that should help you out, although I've never been in this situation so I can't say for sure. Watch a TV show from start to finish or something. |
TwigTW
10.02.13 | Block her number [3] |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Thanks for the advice Acanthus. Working out has helped a ton for me. I probably need to make a clean break. It's just hard to make that cut.
And working out has helped a lot. I can look at myself in the mirror now and feel pretty good, which is helping.
And yeah that "friend" sucks. I don't like him much. I can handle it on my own, but it'd be great to have a guy around here to jam with. Music has helped me more than anything. |
Acanthus
10.02.13 | Same, got into a band gig and then DJing after my breakup; cliche but music is always there for you. If you're feeling social hit up some local places with flyers about looking for buddies to jam with, pretty simple and could be effective. |
JokineAugustus
10.02.13 | I've only had one breakup as well. When you think you know someone... I hope you get through this quick. Listening to
music is definitely key, why else would you be here anyway. Getting a hobby is good too, which is seems you already
have with the building a guitar. |
DatBeefPudding
10.02.13 | from one sad dude to another, i feel your pain. we'll pull through it eventually just hang tough man! |
North0House2
10.02.13 | yeah, I've got hobbies and a job, so that'll help. The fall makes me nostalgic for the good times though. |
JokineAugustus
10.02.13 | Your a winter kind of guy too? |
North0House2
10.02.13 | I am. Winter is unbeatable. I live near the mountains again, now too, so I'll hit the slopes a lot when we get some snow, and that'll help I hope.
I freaking love fall, though. But this weather reminds me of her so much that it's been rough. |
JokineAugustus
10.02.13 | Ya. The girl I was with had a birthday in the fall which is annoying to think of. Wish it wasn't so windy in my city. I like ice skating a lot, and am hoping to go play some hockey with a buddy I haven't seen in a while. |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Lol same with mine. I'd be celebrating her birthday with her in 7 days if we were still together. I was already thinking of what I was going to do for her birthday and everything too when she called it quits.
Man the wind can suck, sorry you have to deal with it there lol. Ice skating is cool stuff, and hockey should be great. |
DatBeefPudding
10.02.13 | fuck you guys and your love of winter. i simply hate canadian winters. cold and dreary and long |
chemicalmarriage
10.02.13 | occupy your mind |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Man, it gets cold here in the winter. It can be around -17°F here in the winter months, I hear. I live an hour from Gunnison, Colorado, and that is the coldest town in the entire US (well, mainland US, Alaska doesn't count in that stat). |
MO
10.02.13 | damn sounds shitty you should jam some gorguts |
Dimor
10.02.13 | Cut the contact with this girl, eventually she'll grow off. Keep exercising, and try to find some new project to focus on. For example if your not happy with university and the way your studying, try figuring out a different path to go. Just the effort of reflecting on possible ways to go will get your confidence back up, and thats the most important part. We all have our down-periods, they all get solved eventually. |
SrightryEpic
10.02.13 | find a new girl =>
heartbreak =>
repeat ad nauseam until you die |
North0House2
10.02.13 | Hahaha thanks for the encouraging life outlook Srightry. |
guitarded_chuck
10.02.13 | going through a rough break with my girl right now too - right there with ya bro
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