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g°®† 07-23-2006 04:48 PM

nah dude ... when I'm in a bad mood, I say things that put other people in bad moods.


*[i]will call her tomorrow[/i]*


3 days is fine ... any longer than that, it might get iffy

purplefeet 07-23-2006 04:50 PM

Yah, one day doesnt make much of a difference.

Hope it goes well when it happens babe!

DreamWorld 07-23-2006 04:52 PM

I wonder what kind of legal action would happen to an 18 year old if he\she slept with a 17 or a 16 year old.

AmericanWeiner 07-23-2006 04:52 PM

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]I wonder what kind of legal action would happen to an 18 year old if he\she slept with a 17 or a 16 year old.[/QUOTE]

it's according to the local laws.


up to 10 years in prison in the usa

DreamWorld 07-23-2006 04:56 PM

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]it's according to the local laws.


up to 10 years in prison in the usa[/QUOTE]

That's really messed up if it's consensual.

g°®† 07-23-2006 05:03 PM

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Yah, one day doesnt make much of a difference.

Hope it goes well when it happens babe![/QUOTE]


Thanks :)


[QUOTE=DreamWorld]I wonder what kind of legal action would happen to an 18 year old if he\she slept with a 17 or a 16 year old.[/QUOTE]


prolly the same thing that would happen to a 17 year old and a 22 year old.

:-/



It's all good. I think the legal consent age here in PA is 16.

*[i]wikipedia's it[/i]*

nobodyblossomsforever 07-23-2006 05:08 PM

yea in my state its 16 til you can get it on

AmericanWeiner 07-23-2006 05:28 PM

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]That's really messed up if it's consensual.[/QUOTE]

they have to draw the line somewhere

g°®† 07-23-2006 05:35 PM

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]they have to draw the line somewhere[/QUOTE]



yes ... some higher power out there is testing man's ability to restrain himself. The girls today are boatloads hotter than they were in previous decades (it might just be the way they're dressing but it's all the same).

DreamWorld 07-23-2006 05:37 PM

There was rumors going around in my high school about a 20 year old that got a 13 year old pregnant...Now that's really messed up...

[QUOTE=g°®†]yes ... some higher power out there is testing man's ability to restrain himself. The girls today are boatloads hotter than they were in previous decades (it might just be the way they're dressing but it's all the same).[/QUOTE]

Dude, It IS the way they're dressing.

Compare todays chicks with chicks from the 1960's, you'll see a big difference.

g°®† 07-23-2006 05:38 PM

My friend ([I]so to speak[/I]) started dating my sister when she was 17. He was 20 at the time.


They're planning on getting married ... she's only 19 right now (soon to be 20)


:-/

DreamWorld 07-23-2006 05:41 PM

[QUOTE=g°®†]My friend ([I]so to speak[/I]) started dating my sister when she was 17. He was 20 at the time.


They're planning on getting married ... she's only 19 right now (soon to be 20)


:-/[/QUOTE]


I don't see anything wrong with that. I think the age of consent should be 16 not 18.

tumples 07-23-2006 06:42 PM

man, i just need to type about this girl, dont have to reply if you dont want, i dont think i have a problem, just need to write it down what im thinking if that makes sense, i know the next part wont

i went to a local music festival last night with my friends, got talking to this girl, who was slightly drunk, and we got along pretty well. went home and we stayed up having a massive msn convo together.

I know i like her, i recognise what im thinking enough to know i do. thing is, shes part of the "emo" lot, and they call us indie kids, which we find hilarious, but anyway. she and a few of her friends have been hanging about with us more this week, which is cool, but her hxc emo friends have fallen out with her for it now. I feel like ive caused her to lose some good friends but i know i havent, its just her friends being narrow minded.

Anyway, she told me she thinks im "fit" and that, and i get the impression she likes me and that, but Im gunna have to wait and see because she keeps giving off weird signals a lot of the time, like she doesnt like me, even though its only been a couple of days

Anyway, im gunna see how it goes this next week, and maybe write back

cheers guys

Chaindrive 07-23-2006 06:44 PM

Yeah, waiting's your best bet because it hasn't been that long.

Jom 07-23-2006 07:29 PM

[QUOTE=DreamWorld]I think the age of consent should be 16 not 18.[/QUOTE]

Um, it depends on which state you're in if you're in the US. It's as low as 14 and as high as 18. In my state, it's 16.

Jo Shoe Wah 07-23-2006 07:46 PM

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Well, the complex answer is that people are conditioned by an unhealthy pop culture mentality that negatively reinforces the stereotype that worthwhile people have relationships. This is pounded into us from a very early age.

People think they need a relationship to validate themselves and prove to others their worth, which actually decreases their self-worth. [B]When a relationship ends, this leads to negative overcompensation such as incessant bitching about their ex to make themselves look good (which in reality, totally backfires).[/B]

The thing is, very few of these people ever figure out that true leaders don't need the opinions of others or a relationship to validate themselves as they are already secure in their identities.[/QUOTE]

Man oh man do i hate seeing this. Particularly among my group of friends it seems that the only option after a breakup is to convince themselves and everyone around them that their ex was the sluttiest most annoying ugly bitch to walk the earth, when in reality alot of them are genuinely nice people whom they just got bored of. Somtimes the way our minds work really does s[size=2]hit[/size] me.

RouteOne 07-23-2006 08:25 PM

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Let's get our technical terms straight. Flirting is not the same as messing around. Messing around implies the swapping of a few fluids and some activities behind closed doors. [B]Flirting is just playful banter and teasing.[/B][/QUOTE]
Which is wrong for a GF to do with another male. I'm not saying that it's not ok for females to have fun with other guys, but once it gets to teasing then things start to happen. Flirting with another person is like saying "hey, I want you but i'm with another guy".

Steerpike 07-23-2006 08:29 PM

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Which is wrong for a GF to do with another male. I'm not saying that it's not ok for females to have fun with other guys, but once it gets to teasing then things start to happen.[/QUOTE]

Like you have any authority to tell what she can and can't do, anyway? Trust me dude, some girls are just very open that way. It doesn't mean anything is going to happen, regardless of what those paranoid little demons in your head are saying.

And if something does happen, you can just say, "Okay, he's all yours," and dump her.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Flirting with another person is like saying "hey, I want you but i'm with another guy".[/QUOTE]

To you, maybe.

Jom 07-23-2006 08:38 PM

I dunno, man (EDIT: Ron). I'm one of the few guys at my work because a lot of servers are girls (and I'm not a server), and some of them are just openly friendly. This one server girl is dating one of the bartenders, but she gives me and lots of other guys hugs because that's how she is: her hug is basically her handshake. And we (the guys) all like the bartender guy because he's a solid dude, so it's a general understanding from all parties that a) she's not going to be running off with some other guy at work, b) bartender dude is cool with his girl hugging people, and c) we don't look into hugs as 'oh man she's totally flirting with me.'

I'm not saying that flirting = innocence, but not all flirting can be construed as bad, as far as I know.

I Am a Hat 07-23-2006 08:40 PM

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Which is wrong for a GF to do with another male. I'm not saying that it's not ok for females to have fun with other guys, but once it gets to teasing then things start to happen. Flirting with another person is like saying "hey, I want you but i'm with another guy".[/QUOTE]
you're going to drive your girlfriend into the arms of another man while shes in europe

RouteOne 07-23-2006 08:41 PM

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Like you have any authority to tell what she can and can't do, anyway? Trust me dude, some girls are just very open that way. It doesn't mean anything is going to happen, regardless of what those paranoid little demons in your head are saying.

And if something does happen, you can just say, "Okay, he's all yours," and dump her.



To you, maybe.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I might have overstated that, but I just don't think flirting with other guys is appropriate. I see it as disrespect.

RouteOne 07-23-2006 08:42 PM

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]you're going to drive your girlfriend into the arms of another man while shes in europe[/QUOTE]
Thats not true, nor was that Necessary.

Doop 07-23-2006 08:43 PM

I can't get a girl friend
help me plz

Steerpike 07-23-2006 08:48 PM

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Yeah, I might have overstated that, but I just don't think flirting with other guys is appropriate. I see it as disrespect.[/QUOTE]

Uh huh. Now how would you feel if your girlfriend started setting restrictions on how you behave around other girls, accusing you of being disrespectful?

[QUOTE=Doop]I can't get a girl friend
help me plz[/QUOTE]

What do you think the problem is?

RouteOne 07-23-2006 08:50 PM

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Uh huh. Now how would you feel if your girlfriend started setting restrictions on how you behave around other girls, accusing you of being disrespectful?



What do you think the problem is?[/QUOTE]
I don't see it as setting restrictions...I see it as common sense for that person to have.

I Am a Hat 07-23-2006 08:52 PM

some people are just naturally flirty. not everyone can walk around being asexual all the time

RouteOne 07-23-2006 08:53 PM

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]some people are just naturally flirty. not everyone can walk around being asexual all the time[/QUOTE]
Not being flirty with other people doesn't make you "asexual". :p

Steerpike 07-23-2006 08:57 PM

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]I don't see it as setting restrictions...I see it as common sense for that person to have.[/QUOTE]

I hate that phrase. Common sense. It's perhaps the most nebulous cliche in all of modern English. What is common sense to one person, is bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t to another. Common sense can only ever be really applied in situations like "Don't stick your tongue in electric sockets." In those cases, the outcome is fairly predictable and is meant to avoid that predictable, and often unpleasant outcome.

However, you never, never tell a girl how she's supposed to behave when you're dating. She will resent you for it. You may not see your decision as controlling, but she will. You're not thinking from the perspective of a woman, you're thinking from the perspective of a very territorial male. And it [i]will[/i] hurt your relationship.

I Am a Hat 07-23-2006 08:59 PM

his relationship wouldn't sound so lame to me if she knew he had other options. god i would be so bored if i was her

RouteOne 07-23-2006 09:00 PM

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I hate that phrase. Common sense. It's perhaps the most nebulous cliche in all of modern English. What is common sense to one person, is bullsh[size=2]i[/size]t to another. Common sense can only ever be really applied in situations like "Don't stick your tongue in electric sockets." In those cases, the outcome is fairly predictable and is meant to avoid that predictable, and often unpleasant outcome.

However, you never, never tell a girl how she's supposed to behave when you're dating. She will resent you for it. You may not see your decision as controlling, but she will. You're not thinking from the perspective of a woman, you're thinking from the perspective of a very territorial male. And it [i]will[/i] hurt your relationship.[/QUOTE]
I can garuntee you, I have never told my gf how to act around other people. I don't even have the problem of her flirting because she sees it as wrong. I was just coming from a perspective most people on this earth have: Flirting with others while you are taken is disrespectful.


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