[QUOTE=Kurrpt]dude, you like it at first, but i guarentee ya the "mean" thing gets old :lol:




:thumb:[/QUOTE]

It's no so much mean like bitchy as it is teasing and playfulness.

She can carry on a good conversation too. Art major, loves literature, has played piano for 15 years, plus she's adorable. Either way I could tell from our first date that she's a really nice person when she's alone.

I guess she's too cool to be nice when we hang out in public. :smash:

Hey Guys, this isn't really a love / relationship problem but I think it still suits here.

I'm finding that im mixing with more people than im used to, it's usually me and my friends but recently i've found myself having to hang around with people i'm not sure and i'm having real trouble coping with it. I think i have a confidence problem because I just can't seem to connect with these people, all I can do is smile or agree and I end up following around like some lonely dog. Is there any advice I can get for improving my confidence as it's really getting my down.

Thanks

i just did basically everything and boned my crush and her best friend...

and it's not awkward at all.

:confused:

Ok, I'm having a very bad night. My ex called me, the one from Florida. We were talking about all the happy memories and how we wish things didn't end so suddenly. She was crying and telling me how she missed me, and tried so hard to forget me, and even with her new boyfriend she doesn't love him nearly as much as she did me. She kept saying stuff like "I wish there was some way to change everything back and fix things" and kept telling me she missed me. She kept making it sound like it was hopeless and that she was miserable now. I don't know what I should do or say to her. I guess we're going to start talking and stuff now. Part of me would like nothing more than to have her back, and part of me knows that's a bad idea. Even if I did want her back, I don't know I would let her know that. Ugh. Advice, please.

Well, why would it be a bad thing if you guys got back together? did you guys fight a lot, or is it something else (family, money, location)?

whatever it is, when you think about her, do you think about the bad more than the good or the good more than the bad?

If it's mostly good and you think you 2 can work it out, all you have to do is talk to her and be a friend, if shes as miserable as she says, just give it time and they'll break up, and you 2 will have another shot.

We were in a long distance relationship for over a year, but visted constantly, I had plans to move down there and would've been there right now if we didn't break up. When I think about her, I remember good things, but I think about how they'l never happen again. I broke up with her, because we were starting to fight alot and she seemed to have this ability to control me and turn me into a total wuss, and I couldn't stand it. But I'm a bit different now, and she seemed a bit more mature too, even though it's only been a few months(5, I think). I'm not sure what I should be doing and feeling about this stuff. I don't know if I want her back ot not.

Eesh, a controlling and long distance relationship.

Honestly, Long distance relationships are just too hard. I couldn't be in one to save my life. I've known people in them that have just broken down.

I dunno, I'd say don't plan or expect anything, just klet whatever happens come to you, dont force it.

If I started it back up, it wouldn't be long distance for very long. gah..

How long distance are we talking about here?

900 miles. But I can move almost instantly. Don't worry about the distance though, it's not really much of a factor. I just want to know if she's wanting to get back together with me or what, and how I should let her know that I want to, if that's what I really want.

yeah aint that a bitch


go fu[I]c[/I]k ten other women


and then you will understand why that fact that you're even considering this is the worst thing you could ever do

Well it sounds like she wants you back dude. I mean if she loves you more than her current boyfriend and can't get you out of her head, and you say you can move down where she lives to eliminate the long distance thing, then I don't see what it would hurt really.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Well it sounds like she wants you back dude. I mean if she loves you more than her current boyfriend and can't get you out of her head, and you say you can move down where she lives to eliminate the long distance thing, then I don't see what it would hurt really.[/QUOTE]

/nods head in agreement

*sigh* It seems like girls always feel awkward talking to me. WHy is that? What can I do to make it where girls can feel comfortable talking to me?

[QUOTE=dynamite!]Ok, I'm having a very bad night. My ex called me, the one from Florida. We were talking about all the happy memories and how we wish things didn't end so suddenly. She was crying and telling me how she missed me, and tried so hard to forget me, and even with her new boyfriend she doesn't love him nearly as much as she did me. She kept saying stuff like "I wish there was some way to change everything back and fix things" and kept telling me she missed me. She kept making it sound like it was hopeless and that she was miserable now. I don't know what I should do or say to her. I guess we're going to start talking and stuff now. Part of me would like nothing more than to have her back, and part of me knows that's a bad idea. Even if I did want her back, I don't know I would let her know that. Ugh. Advice, please.[/QUOTE]


Argh, I dont get it. Everything is fine with your life and then the second someone says they miss you, your world is thrown upside down. Just because someone has a random break down is NOT enough to justify a whole new relationship. Especcccccccccially if there is going to be moving included. Thats ridiculous.
If you had feelings for her, thats different. But to have feelings for someone (maybe) just because they expressed some for you is silly. Like, I know shes your ex man, but shes your ex for a reason.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]*sigh* It seems like girls always feel awkward talking to me. WHy is that? What can I do to make it where girls can feel comfortable talking to me?[/QUOTE]
be yourself



that is seriously brilliant advice but no one ever truly understands it

I am myself, I don't act like someone I'm not, and it doesnt' seem to work.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]*sigh* It seems like girls always feel awkward talking to me. WHy is that? What can I do to make it where girls can feel comfortable talking to me?[/QUOTE]
Be calm and confident. Talk to them about things they're interested. Ask them questions- generic questions though, don't inquire too much into anything you can tell makes them uncomfortable. Avoid talking about politics, money or religion. Find something you both enjoy and stay on that until there's something else to move on to.

If they need to go, let them go and don't follow them around talking to them. Smile when you talk- not a crazy huge maniac smile but just a small one (unless they're talking about something sad, then be sympathetic).

Look into their eyes when they talk so they know you're listening and remember what they say, try to keep the focus on them and compliment them when you can (they love the attention) but occasionally when you have the opportunity drop in an achievement or two of your own (modestly of course, don't come off as an arrogant prick).

If that's too much to remember just think of the three C's "confidence, calm, compliments"

good luck :thumb:

and wear a mesh tank top

don't forget to twist your nipples so they're hard and pointy.

The main concern is, I've been talking to this girl for a few months now, and we used to be able to talk about ANYTHING and she's so easy to talk to. Out of the blue though, she stopped talking to me for a week,then i found out it's because she feels awkward around me and was trying to figure out why. So Im talking to her now, via internet, but even over the friggin INTERNET she feels uncomfortable talking to me and I dont know why.

Have you tried asking her?

I did and she doesn't know why she says.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]The main concern is, I've been talking to this girl for a few months now, and we used to be able to talk about ANYTHING and she's so easy to talk to. Out of the blue though, she stopped talking to me for a week,then i found out it's because she feels awkward around me and was trying to figure out why. So Im talking to her now, via internet, but even over the friggin INTERNET she feels uncomfortable talking to me and I dont know why.[/QUOTE]

Girls are crazy man, simple as that. I dont know how people go from being able to talk about anything to randomly get uncomfortable unless there was some significant change or mishap in your friendship. '

But if she really feels that way, just let it go. I mean, you can't force someone to talk to you. Be yourself, if shes still uncomfortable, just leave it at that and scope the scene of other girls.

Well she talks to me and I don't force her to, but she seems different, and shes told me that its cuz she feels awkward talking to me and she doesnt' know why.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Well she talks to me and I don't force her to, but she seems different, and shes told me that its cuz she feels awkward talking to me and she doesnt' know why.[/QUOTE]

Just stop talking to her for a while. :thumb:

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I did and she doesn't know why she says.[/QUOTE]
She could be interested in another guy and doesn't want to say it.

Well I already knew that, and I'm not trying to get with her, she's just one of my really good friends who I used to have fun with and now that's seemed to die.

Dont try to force anything man. Friendships frizzle out, it happens.

Well if the two of you are in high school, and she's like most girls then, when she finds a guy she's interested in, all of her focus will go towards him. That means ceasing contact with guy friends, unless they're the gay guy friend, or have known them since they were 3, but even then they start getting ignored.