outline: Best Friend Losing A Parent

Thane 04.19.12	my best friends mom got cancer a couple years ago. she will die from it, but still has like 10 years left or something. so I dunno if I can help, but when we just found out and he was torn up, what I did was just listen to him, comfort him, you know the usual stuff. Just be there is all i can say...
macadoolahicky 04.19.12	Agreed. Seriously, you being there and being the best friend he's familiar with will do a great deal to comfort him.
Parallels 04.19.12	My friend's dad killed himself a few weeks ago. Wife left him and he got depressed and shot himself on the couch.
Sirob 04.19.12	just be there for him man, do the best you can at least.
johnnyblaze 04.19.12	ya just stay cool bro. nothing you can do or say really..
TomArnoldsArmpit 04.19.12	the thing that bothered me the most when my dad died in february was the constant apologies. I told all my friends to act normal around me, whether I'm at work/home/etc. if your friend feels like talking about it, then be there for him. otherwise, don't bring it up, and don't keep apologizing. people that are grieving need to feel a sense of normalcy... at least that's what I needed. I hope this helps.
KILL 04.19.12	cancer fucking cancerrrrrrr rip
Kubrick 04.19.12	Hm, it's a tough situation. I've been in a pretty similar one... about 2 years ago one of my really close friends lost his dad. He committed suicide, and my friend was the one that found him when he got home. Obviously it was a horrible situation, but I've found that the best thing to do is act normally with your friend. Don't dwell on it or bring it up EVER unless he does. In my experience, my friend rarely ever wanted to talk about it and the best thing I could do was act normally to provide him a way of thinking about other things. Your role as a friend is to bring positive energy, not to constantly console and tip-toe around the trauma. I think the worst thing you can do is change the way you act around him... so much has already changed for him so you don't want to be a contributing factor to that change. If he opens the conversation, obviously be there to have it but otherwise be the same friend you've always been. Hope that helps!
TomArnoldsArmpit 04.19.12	you nailed it, kubrick.
sniper 04.19.12	^
Thane 04.19.12	yep kubrick said it. also while you really shouldn't change the way you act around him, if there's anything in your vocabulary like a swear word you use or something that could make him think about it... you know. I'm gonna sound like a dick for this but i use "cunt cancer" a lot when I hurt myself or something so whenever he's around and it pops out of me i go "cunt cccccream" you know... meh.
Difficult 04.19.12	Tough break. R.I.P.
DeafMetal 04.19.12	very sorry to hear that
Mike08 04.19.12	kubrick said good stuff. My roomate committed suicide, and it was just something I never have dealt with. I appreciated the sympthy, and concern from my peers, but after a while them asking "are you ok, how are you feeling" got really old really fast. Your friend is dealing with a dying dad, so its a bit different. Don't bring it up unless they want to talk about it and dont act cautious to their feelings. Not to sound cold, but when it comes closer to the time, expect him to be distant. Its probably going to happen and don't force his interraction with you. This all being said, it really depends on your relationship.