[QUOTE=~grif~]yea we are hip.
pity shes in england though.

sex on demand though - when she is ere :upset:[/QUOTE]

Sweet.

is it weird to want a child?

[quote=Chaindrive]Is anyone else having the problem of read posts still being marked unread?

Or has my psycho man cast a spell on me alone?[/quote]

Ahem.

Seriously, guys, this is driving me crazy.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Ahem.

Seriously, guys, this is driving me crazy.[/QUOTE]
no dude, think its just you :confused:

[QUOTE=~grif~]no dude, think its just you :confused:[/QUOTE]

Weird.

It happens occassionally. Hopefully it'll fix itself by tomorrow.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Weird.

It happens occassionally. Hopefully it'll fix itself by tomorrow.[/QUOTE]
are you Pressing "back" instead of going to "the pit" and it refreshing itself instead of it going back to what you already saw...
i used to do that.
click refresh
i dono - this probably got you nowhere



So is it weird to want to have a child?

[QUOTE=~grif~]is it weird to want a child?[/QUOTE]

In the future, of course not.

But if you're like fifteen or something and want a child of your own, then you have problems IMO.

Of the eleven most developed nations, the United States is first at poverty at 19.1%. The UK is next at 14.9%, with Australia taking third at 12%.

[QUOTE=~grif~]are you Pressing "back" instead of going to "the pit" and it refreshing itself instead of it going back to what you already saw...
i used to do that.
click refresh
i dono - this probably got you nowhere



So is it weird to want to have a child?[/QUOTE]

I'm refreshing and nothing's happening.

You're, what? 19? That's a little young.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive].I'm refreshing and nothing's happening.

You're, what? 19? That's a little young.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Jom]In the future, of course not.

But if you're like fifteen or something and want a child of your own, then you have problems IMO.

Of the eleven most developed nations, the United States is first at poverty at 19.1%. The UK is next at 14.9%, with Australia taking third at 12%.[/QUOTE]
well im like nearly 19 - and my girlfriend thought she was pregnant a couple weeks back.
but i didnt freak, in all honesty - it would of made things work in mylife.

and i said "id want a girl" just to have a daddies little girl.

is that odd?

[QUOTE=~grif~]well im like nearly 19 - and my girlfriend thought she was pregnant a couple weeks back.
but i didnt freak, in all honesty - it would of made things work in mylife.

and i said "id want a girl" just to have a daddies little girl.

is that odd?[/QUOTE]

What you may want, and what you need are two different things.

What you need to do is be a little more established in your life before having children.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]What you may want, and what you need are two different things.

What you need to do is be a little more established in your life before having children.[/QUOTE]
But thats the thing, i know it may sound so stupid to you - but to me when we were talking about it at a café in Cambridge, we were both so cool about it - wernt like freaking out.

Like being more established - like im not going to College, im doing volunteer work - and if it did happen, i know exactly what i would have to do to be responsible about it.

Id move to America with her and her parents, get a job or two and work hard to get a place. it sounds easy but really i could see myself doing that. Its like a career - you can see yourself doing it.

Interesting though - really made me look at myself "what am i doing" and really i knew exactly what i was saying.
And so did she - she said she'd love a boy. And she was asking "what i would do if she told me if she was" and we had this hour long discussion over one coffee.

Maybe its just with her id know it'd work - but with someone else. no. thats the main point.

Not disagreeing with whatever anybody else is saying on the matter of Grif's question, but I'm of the opinion that just because other people wouldn't do it that a particular way doesn't mean it's wrong. I say this purely from knowing no less than two people who are younger than me and have had a child, and they seem to be doing alright to be honest. I wouldn't have done it that way, (pretty much by default but still if it came up I wouldn't have,) but that doesn't mean I think any less of the two people I know who have, after the intial, er, "pang" of surprise faded away. It's all down to the individual.

I personally think that 19 is a bit young to start thinking about children... but then again, as I said, it's up to you. And your girlfriend, obviously. But thanks for asking us.

[QUOTE=~grif~]But thats the thing, i know it may sound so stupid to you - but to me when we were talking about it at a café in Cambridge, we were both so cool about it - wernt like freaking out.

Like being more established - like im not going to College, im doing volunteer work - and if it did happen, i know exactly what i would have to do to be responsible about it.

Id move to America with her and her parents, get a job or two and work hard to get a place. it sounds easy but really i could see myself doing that. Its like a career - you can see yourself doing it.

Interesting though - really made me look at myself "what am i doing" and really i knew exactly what i was saying.
And so did she - she said she'd love a boy. And she was asking "what i would do if she told me if she was" and we had this hour long discussion over one coffee.

Maybe its just with her id know it'd work - but with someone else. no. thats the main point.[/QUOTE]

If you moved to America you'd end up on welfare with a child, because of health care costs here.

Well its not the fact i was thinking about having children, it just came about that i thought i might be as an "accident" if you will, and could see myself handeling it - not freaking out about it or not wanting it. ya know?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]If you moved to America you'd end up on welfare with a child, because of health care costs here.[/QUOTE]
Welfare is like Child Support here in Ireland?

[QUOTE=~grif~]Welfare is like Child Support here in Ireland?[/QUOTE]

I don't know what Child Support is there.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I don't know what Child Support is there.[/QUOTE]
...either do i actually...:confused:

If it's the same as in the US it's where either the father or mother has to pay whoever the child's living with support payments to help with the raising of the child.

Welfare is different.

EDIT: A quick google informs me that child support here and there mean the same thing.

[quote]Or has my psycho man cast a spell on me alone?[/quote]


*toggles pocket watch mysteriously*


You are sweating veeeerrrry creeeeepy...

[QUOTE=blatherskite]*toggles pocket watch mysteriously*


You are sweating veeeerrrry creeeeepy...[/QUOTE]
Yeah, well, [i]you're[/i] going to be sweating very creepy unless you uncast that spell.

It was happeneing to me too Kimmie.

It also does this thing where it says I've read tons of posts when I haven't.

I haven't had the read tons of posts thing, just the unread thing.

[QUOTE=~grif~]Well man, think back - i dont know how old you are - but when i was 15, 16 - i did it.
Soppose im only nearly 19 now but yea - you have to admit at that age you were doing those kinda things.
Unless im wrong - then just nvm..[/QUOTE]

I've never smoked once in my life, nor have I ever taken narcotics, though I will admit that I considered weed for a time before dismissing it as just another timewaster.

The only times I ever drank were during the holidays with my family until last November when I turned 21. And even now, I only drink on weekends and very lightly. I'm always the designated driver.

I'm also a virgin. Partly because I spent my life as a self-imposed pariah, but also because I came to the decision that casual sex really isn't for me, I prefer to wait until I've found a woman whom I would consider long-term relationship material.

I was raised from day one to believe that whenever you take an action, you must be prepared to accept the consequences.

Respect++ for Steerpike right there.

I didn't say anything to her today, it just didn't feel right. Too early.
After school, I went back to my old school (I switched schools at the beginning of this year due to overpopulation, so they built a new one and due to zoning I go to a new school this year, and there are now 3 high schools within 5 miles of each other. She went to the other school last year, and now goes to my old school) to rehearse for a show that's going down on March 31st, going to be an International Night fest.

She asked me to do something in the show, so I'm covering a song by a Pakistani band, and that's why I'm going there every day after school, just hanging out, jamming, watching her group practice their bhangra dance, having fun.

I think I'm going to wait until right after the show to say something to her, that way I can hang out w/ her some more, and it wouldn't be as awkward. She's actually one of my cousin's best friends, and since my cousin is practically my sister, I know all these great girls through her, and it gets rough at times; they like to gang up on me. :p

Opinions on the timing? I want to wait, just so I know her better in person more. I mean, I see her at the Saturday School/Youth Group every weekend, but never really talk to her, and when I had a MySpace, she added me, and now I talk to her for at least a couple hours every night over AIM for now, she got her phone taken away. What I'm saying is, I don't think she knows me well enough and vice versa for me to say anything and it not become an extremely awkward situation.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Respect++ for Steerpike right there.

I didn't say anything to her today, it just didn't feel right. Too early.
After school, I went back to my old school (I switched schools at the beginning of this year due to overpopulation, so they built a new one and due to zoning I go to a new school this year, and there are now 3 high schools within 5 miles of each other. She went to the other school last year, and now goes to my old school) to rehearse for a show that's going down on March 31st, going to be an International Night fest.

She asked me to do something in the show, so I'm covering a song by a Pakistani band, and that's why I'm going there every day after school, just hanging out, jamming, watching her group practice their bhangra dance, having fun.

I think I'm going to wait until right after the show to say something to her, that way I can hang out w/ her some more, and it wouldn't be as awkward. She's actually one of my cousin's best friends, and since my cousin is practically my sister, I know all these great girls through her, and it gets rough at times; they like to gang up on me. :p

Opinions on the timing? I want to wait, just so I know her better in person more. I mean, I see her at the Saturday School/Youth Group every weekend, but never really talk to her, and when I had a MySpace, she added me, and now I talk to her for at least a couple hours every night over AIM for now, she got her phone taken away. What I'm saying is, I don't think she knows me well enough and vice versa for me to say anything and it not become an extremely awkward situation.[/QUOTE]

In my opinion, you should wait until it feels like the right moment. Sounds vague but let me explain.

After the show you two might just be hanging out and beign good friends and just slip it in there. Not too awkward but still sincere. Dont rush it but dont wait too long.

Evening thread!

[QUOTE=pohl_56]In my opinion, you should wait until it feels like the right moment. Sounds vague but let me explain.

After the show you two might just be hanging out and beign good friends and just slip it in there. Not too awkward but still sincere. Dont rush it but dont wait too long.

Evening thread![/QUOTE]

That's exactly what I was hoping to be able to do, because I don't really want much more than a really good friend and someone I can really trust out of this relationship, not so interested in sex and crap, that's useless junk right now.

Hi, Jay and Adnan.

I'm worthless here, tonight.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I've never smoked once in my life, nor have I ever taken narcotics, though I will admit that I considered weed for a time before dismissing it as just another timewaster.

The only times I ever drank were during the holidays with my family until last November when I turned 21. And even now, I only drink on weekends and very lightly. I'm always the designated driver.

I'm also a virgin. Partly because I spent my life as a self-imposed pariah, but also because I came to the decision that casual sex really isn't for me, I prefer to wait until I've found a woman whom I would consider long-term relationship material.

I was raised from day one to believe that whenever you take an action, you must be prepared to accept the consequences.[/QUOTE]
See, I may only be 16, but this is pretty much me. I went through a phase of about a month where I did drink to get drunk, but I never really got smashed. I realized that though I do like being drunk (it's a nice feeling) I didn't really need it and honestly, I did NOT need it. I gotta stay focused on school and my art, to get out into the world.
I also have never smoked or done any drugs. I thought about doing pot but I was always a step away. I just...don't need it.
And yes, virgin. That's mostly just because I don't want to be pregnant at age 16.

[QUOTE=Junooni]watching her group practice their bhangra dance, having fun.[/quote]
Bhangra? HOT.
[QUOTE=Junooni]
Opinions on the timing? I want to wait, just so I know her better in person more. I mean, I see her at the Saturday School/Youth Group every weekend, but never really talk to her, and when I had a MySpace, she added me, and now I talk to her for at least a couple hours every night over AIM for now, she got her phone taken away. What I'm saying is, I don't think she knows me well enough and vice versa for me to say anything and it not become an extremely awkward situation.[/QUOTE]
If you feel like you need to get to know her before you can say anything, then by all means, do it. :)

It's okay, Kimmie. We're used to it. :p

Basically, Tess, everyone's agreeing with me, so I know I'm doing the right thing now.

:whew: Thanks guys.

[QUOTE=Junooni]It's okay, Kimmie. We're used to it. :p

[/QUOTE]

*slinks off into the sunset*

I've had a week. Bear with me here. :p