So this is how that would go:

Me: "Hey, how's it goin'? You like (band on shirt or something)?"
Her: "Yeah"
Me: "Umm, me too"
*silence*
*I walk off*

[QUOTE=Wizard.]So this is how that would go:

Me: "Hey, how's it goin'? You like (band on shirt or something)?"
Her: "Yeah"
Me: "Umm, me too"
*silence*
*I walk off*[/QUOTE]

No, it's "Hey how's it goin'? You like (band on shirt or something)?"
Her: "Yeah"
You: "Well, I've (read, heard) this about them (insert fun fact here).
Her: "Really?"
You: "Really. And, also, this band reminds me of (some other band) whom I really like. Have your heard any of their stuff?"
Her: "No."
You: "Well it sounds like (here you give your opinion) and I like it because (here you give another opinion). Do you think you might like that?"
Her: "I don't know. Tell me more".
You: "Yadda, yadda".

It really isn't that hard to keep a convo going here.

lol, I'm too self-concious to be [I]that [/I]open and talkative with someone I just see standing around. I guess it never hurts to try though.

Maybe you gotta grow into it.

But, that's how I'd handle it.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Next, you need to become the most interesting person you can be. Were you here to see my whole schtick on keeping a journal?[/QUOTE]

BTW, you gave me that advice about keeping a journal with pros and cons about my personality etc like 6 months back. I think its really helped me become more confident in situations with talking to people, and in general. Thanks man. :wave:

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]No offense, but if you two stick to an only in school relationship, it won't be too fun/last very long.[/QUOTE]

I get to see her when I'm not at school, I just cant take her out.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]So this is how that would go:

Me: "Hey, how's it goin'? You like (band on shirt or something)?"
Her: "Yeah"
Me: "Umm, me too"
*silence*
*I walk off*[/QUOTE]
Sadly enough I've had a many conversations like that. :(

Don't be like me, give actually talking a try.

[QUOTE=Lightning13]Sadly enough I've had a many conversations like that. :(

Don't be like me, give actually talking a try.[/QUOTE]
I don't think I'm going to be able to make small talk, lol. Mt stomach gets queasy just thinking about it. I got an ulcer, so being quesy is a very bad thing for me. It would blow to go up to a girl, trying to start conversatin, then have to run off to blow chunks, haha.

alright so, I'm just gonna talk. read/don't read. Its really just for me.

Okay, so This saturday, I realized something, and its made me really happy. Even happier then it was before. And this is what it was.( i tried to fin a picture that would show, but i'll just tell you) What it was, was that my nails were a little less than 1/2 cm long. Stupid, right? No, i never realized this but ever since i entered MS, when your social life is as simple as it was, I've bitten my nails alll the time, i wasnt very popular, i was always trying to make friends, mostly to no avail. and i was always nervous. I never made the connect between the two untill now, when i realized how long they were, usually, theres no white, i would always bit it off, but now(weel i got rid of them, because they were really long) they're long. And i realized, for the frist time in a reallllly long while. I'm comfortable with my social life.
I have my friends now, enough so that i actually over book weekends sometimes, something thats never happened to me before. And not just novelty friends. Friends that actually stick up for me when i need it, help me out and the such. Its pretty cool, and I just thought I'd share.

Anyway, yeah. Thats pretty much it, except for the one girl, who I'm friends with, who i'm starting to want to go out with. but, hey, its spring break, I'm just gonna have a good time, and not worry about it.


Alright, I'm done.


Edit: To wizard(i think), yeah, I have a sarcstic sense of humor. it sucks, beacuse most people dont get it, and you look like and idiot or jerk, and you ahve to try to explain your sarcasm, yeah. I'm trying to loose it.

[QUOTE=The Fonz]alright so, I'm just gonna talk. read/don't read. Its really just for me.

Okay, so This saturday, I realized something, and its made me really happy. Even happier then it was before. And this is what it was.( i tried to fin a picture that would show, but i'll just tell you) What it was, was that my nails were a little less than 1/2 cm long. Stupid, right? No, i never realized this but ever since i entered MS, when your social life is as simple as it was, I've bitten my nails alll the time, i wasnt very popular, i was always trying to make friends, mostly to no avail. and i was always nervous. I never made the connect between the two untill now, when i realized how long they were, usually, theres no white, i would always bit it off, but now(weel i got rid of them, because they were really long) they're long. And i realized, for the frist time in a reallllly long while. I'm comfortable with my social life.
I have my friends now, enough so that i actually over book weekends sometimes, something thats never happened to me before. And not just novelty friends. Friends that actually stick up for me when i need it, help me out and the such. Its pretty cool, and I just thought I'd share.

Anyway, yeah. Thats pretty much it, except for the one girl, who I'm friends with, who i'm starting to want to go out with. but, hey, its spring break, I'm just gonna have a good time, and not worry about it.


Alright, I'm done.


Edit: To wizard(i think), yeah, I have a sarcstic sense of humor. it sucks, beacuse most people dont get it, and you look like and idiot or jerk, and you ahve to try to explain your sarcasm, yeah. I'm trying to loose it.[/QUOTE]
Sounds cool :thumb: Glad to hear someone's happy :)

[QUOTE=The Fonz]alright so, I'm just gonna talk. read/don't read. Its really just for me.

Okay, so This saturday, I realized something, and its made me really happy. Even happier then it was before. And this is what it was.( i tried to fin a picture that would show, but i'll just tell you) What it was, was that my nails were a little less than 1/2 cm long. Stupid, right? No, i never realized this but ever since i entered MS, when your social life is as simple as it was, I've bitten my nails alll the time, i wasnt very popular, i was always trying to make friends, mostly to no avail. and i was always nervous. I never made the connect between the two untill now, when i realized how long they were, usually, theres no white, i would always bit it off, but now(weel i got rid of them, because they were really long) they're long. And i realized, for the frist time in a reallllly long while. I'm comfortable with my social life.
I have my friends now, enough so that i actually over book weekends sometimes, something thats never happened to me before. And not just novelty friends. Friends that actually stick up for me when i need it, help me out and the such. Its pretty cool, and I just thought I'd share.

Anyway, yeah. Thats pretty much it, except for the one girl, who I'm friends with, who i'm starting to want to go out with. but, hey, its spring break, I'm just gonna have a good time, and not worry about it.


Alright, I'm done.


Edit: To wizard(i think), yeah, I have a sarcstic sense of humor. it sucks, beacuse most people dont get it, and you look like and idiot or jerk, and you ahve to try to explain your sarcasm, yeah. I'm trying to loose it.[/QUOTE]

I bite my nails, but not of stress or anything. It's just a habit and it's faster than trimming them. Oh, and I do it real neat. :p

So today was the first day in school since my break up. It went better than i would've thought. Me and my ex still walked down the hall talking like we usually do, minus the holding hands n' stuff . However the fact that we broke up came as a major suprise to many people. One of my friends said she would get people to jump my ex if i wanted, i declined cause i'm nice like that.

Glad it wasn't horribly awkward.

wow i have a lot to tell but i wont be able to until after work

but in other news i just got contacts, took me about 10 min to put the first one in, my problem is putting them in, taking out is easy

im going to get an updated prescription in a week because i have a stigmitism or something so its going to take a few tries

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]wow i have a lot to tell but i wont be able to until after work

but in other news i just got contacts, took me about 10 min to put the first one in, my problem is putting them in, taking out is easy

im going to get an updated prescription in a week because i have a stigmitism or something so its going to take a few tries[/QUOTE]
He he contacts are always interesting the first time. Just make sure your eye is wide open and you just need to place the contact just touching your eye and it should just stick on. Careful you don't blink if there's still a bubble in it though, just swivel your eye around until it goes; then you're sorted.

[QUOTE=Bee Sharp]He he contacts are always interesting the first time. Just make sure your eye is wide open and you just need to place the contact just touching your eye and it should just stick on. Careful you don't blink if there's still a bubble in it though, just swivel your eye around until it goes; then you're sorted.[/QUOTE]

heh yeah, cant wait for waking up early tomorrow morning so i can do it again!

Putting in contacts and taking them out is like tying a shoe or riding a bike. It takes a lot of time the first couple attempts, and then it becomes second-nature.

All this eye talk makes me remember that I need to be saving up for Lasik as well as for school costs next year :-\

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Glad it wasn't horribly awkward.[/QUOTE]

The actual only ackward part of the day was when some of my friends, who didn't know about the break up, asked why i looked sad. And i guess a blank expression on my face is sad to them...

and there is the whole thing about me, you know, liking to be with a girl. But i'm not sure if i want to bother with a relationship or just have one of my female friends come over my house, pop in a movie, bust out some rum, and see what happens.

You don't absolutely [i]have[/i] to have a relationship. There's plenty of time for that.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You don't absolutely [i]have[/i] to have a relationship. There's plenty of time for that.[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Sure, it's nice, but you don't have to feel obligated at all to be in one all the time.

haha

I have a dumb question about Myspace. if someone comments me saying I'm cute or whatever, how the hell do I respond to that? "Thanks, you're cute too" isn't going to cut it if I'm actually trying to start conversation with people.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You don't absolutely [i]have[/i] to have a relationship. There's plenty of time for that.[/QUOTE]

heh. my friend is having his girlfriend over his house on saturday, and we both think it could be possible that if she brings her friend and i go as well that me and her could hook up.

Course i still like my ex...

[QUOTE=Wizard.]haha

I have a dumb question about Myspace. if someone comments me saying I'm cute or whatever, how the hell do I respond to that? "Thanks, you're cute too" isn't going to cut it if I'm actually trying to start conversation with people.[/QUOTE]

You don't have to respond if you don't want too....

But, I want to respond, even though comments like that annoy me. I'm trying to be social and all that mumbo-jumbo. What the hell could I possibly say in response?

See: my blurb about mySpazz from yesterday.

I have had a lot of girls tell me I'm cute, but I'm certain that they send a mass message to everyone who lives in my state/city/has the same relationship status as I do, so I don't think much of it.

Sometimes I respond to them, sometimes I don't.

Recently, I was asked if I was in need of a sugar daddy.

I wish I was kidding.

I didn't even understand that bit you said about Myspace yesterday.

I normally get irritated with poeple who go aroudn going "you're hot" to every guy they see, but I just want to be friendly, but I don't know what I could say to that kind of comment, that wouldn't be something along the lines of "thanks, you too" or whatever.

[QUOTE=Jom]See: my blurb about mySpazz from yesterday.

I have had a lot of girls tell me I'm cute, but I'm certain that they send a mass message to everyone who lives in my state/city/has the same relationship status as I do, so I don't think much of it.

Sometimes I respond to them, sometimes I don't.

Recently, I was asked if I was in need of a sugar daddy.

I wish I was kidding.[/QUOTE]
:lol:

Dude, I congratulate you on getting one of the only real laughs out of me in a few days.

God damn, all I did was say some girl was pretty and I got this comment:

[QUOTE]So, there was this girl named Camille, and she thought this guy named Damien was pretty cool. They talked on MySpace, and eventually Camille talked him into coming to London and hanging out with her and her awesome friends Tasha and Whitley.

The End.

Good story?[/QUOTE]

I thought I would be ok trying to talk to girls, but if I were to go hang out, I'd be dreadfully nervous. Like I said, every girl I've ever even flirted with has been handed to me on a silver platter, so I'm not sure how to react. Gah... I feel like a 12 year old boy trying to talk to his first crush, and all she's asking to do is hang out or whatever. :[

I'm lame as hell.

No, you're not lame as hell...it's just that Brit snatched all your self-confidence from you. It'll come back, don't worry.

But, I'm confident with girls I already know, just new ones are going to make me nervous.

Anything I can do to build back my confidence, without actually going by trial and error?

Confidence mostly comes from within. If you know you can talk to girls, etc. you'll do fine.

Otherwise, fake it 'til you make it.

Years ago when my band really started playing for keeps I was very nervous onstage, but I acted totally relaxed up there. Now I don't even think twice, I [i]am[/i] totally relaxed up there.

Try some of what Steerpike has to say. About making eye contact and letting her look away first. It'll work.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive][B]Confidence mostly comes from within[/B]. If you know you can talk to girls, etc. you'll do fine.

Otherwise, fake it 'til you make it.

Years ago when my band really started playing for keeps I was very nervous onstage, but I acted totally relaxed up there. Now I don't even think twice, I [i]am[/i] totally relaxed up there.

Try some of what Steerpike has to say. About making eye contact and letting her look away first. It'll work.[/QUOTE]

Excellent thought! So true! Couldnt agree more! ^^ 123

So yea. On the topic of confidence, I once had to give this speech in front of the entire junior high and parents, along with half of the high school... I was scared sh**less and i had my notes and everything with me all day, and when it finally came time to go up to the podeum, I left my whole speech on the table. All that pain, the month or so of worry, and I didnt have it. Yet it all went perfectly, I had the best speech of the day, I had a great time, and they wanted me to do more.

Bottom line being that you are only as confident as you are prepared and are only prepared if you have no fear. Enjoy wahtever it is you may have a problem with in life, as hard as it may be, and dont worry.

There are a lot of books that have helped me. Not in the sense of gaining confidence, but enlightening me on the different perspectives of life and how to approach situations. The more you try to put yourself in others' shoes and how they see the world, the more that helps me as a writer or whatever.

I hated public speaking in middle school and partway through high school. You sit up there in a freakin' science class going, "A plant cell is different from a non-plant cell because plant cells have cell walls and non-plant cells don't" and it's the most simplistic stuff yet for some reason I would throw in a bunch of umm's and uhh's and hang on's because I was too scatter-brained to work it out.

As you read more, I think, you pick up on language, aesthetics, and linguistics quite a bit. One book that helped me out was a book by Pat Riley, called [i]The Winner Within[/i]. It's a solid book because it helped me find focus not just in sports but beyond sports and into school and relationships (not necessarily love relationships, but in everyday ones) and all that other stuff.

And nowadays, I'm the freaking man at public speaking because it came with practice. Singing along to a song with no one just for the hell of it helps - you'd be surprised. The more and more you just talk to people and the more and more you read and write, things become easier to break down. You go up there with a purpose (if it's improv, it's to make people laugh / if it's public speaking, it's to blow people away / whatever).

Sometimes, you just have to have a rather unhealthy way of approaching public speaking... sometimes I say, "You know, fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] these people and what they are thinking right now. Just go up there, impress the hell out of them, get it over with, and don't think about it afterwards." If people were affected by your performance, they'll let you know about it, even if it's just presenting a Shakespearean scene from [i]Hamlet[/i] or something.

Well, what it comes down to is, you only need to please yourself. How others perceive you doesn't matter at all.

I thought I said that, just in a roundabout, long-winded manner.

You did, somewhat, but I broke it down even further.

Gimme Ginger.

I finally read Steerpike's email. Most of it I already knew pretty much, but it made me think about some things more. I already know how to put on a cocky mask and parade around like I'm just a killer dude. I [I]am[/I] male after all, and males all have some kind of arrogance in them.

I need to work on being funny though. That seems pretty important, and would probably be one of the reasons I think I'm so boring. My nervousness and quite behavior is something I can just suck up and get over, but being witty or funny is something I'll have to work for. I may go buy that book he suggested, "Comedy Writing Secrets" by Melvin Helitzer. Sounds like something I'd be interested in reading in my spare time anyways.

What are some smaller things I can do to improve my humor and wit? Stuff that I can do in every day conversations, or things I can look for when I'm talking to someone.

A word to the wise, because I am a girl.

Do not be cocky. Teen girls might think that's cool (I never did, however) but in the end it's not. Confidence ftw, not cockiness.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]A word to the wise, because I am a girl.

Do not be cocky. Teen girls might think that's cool (I never did, however) but in the end it's not. Confidence ftw, not cockiness.[/QUOTE]

I didn't tell him to be an arrogant jack-[size=2]a[/size]ss.

An example of what I was telling him (included in the email) was that occassionally, people tell me I'm really sarcastic. I usually respond by saying [i]in a joking manner[/i], "Yeah, I am a smart[size=2]a[/size]ss. That's what makes me cool." Sometimes embellished with a Buddy Christ pose. Without fail, everyone laughs.

I'm taking what would normally be an arrogant statement, and made it funny. That's what I'm telling him to do.

Okay, but smartassedness/arrogance/cockiness is a turn off, for me at least.

You better have that smartassedness honed to perfection before I'll even listen to it.

When I say cocky, I mean confident and witty and yadda yadda, not arrogant or anything. I don't see being cocky as a bad thing, but arrogance is.

But I'm going to work on my funny for now, and worry abot other stuff later. After all, making a girl laugh really is half the battle when you're dealing with teenage girls. :/

What exactly should I say to this girl on Myspace? This is one of those situations where I just can't think of the rigth thing to say, and still keep it interesting. She said that thing I posted earlier about a story where she got me to hang out with some of her friends, and I responded something like "Surely that won't be the end of the story", and she says:

[QUOTE] Sure it isn't the end of the story, we just haven't written the rest yet.[/QUOTE]

I just don't know what to say. Argh, this is the thing I'm trying to fix. I just take forever to think of a good response, and if i were to be talking to this girl in person, I would be needing to deciding what to say on-the-spot. With Myspace and MSN and things, I have opportunity to think about what I say, so it's going to help me out a little, I think.