I have a general L&R question. I thought about making a thread, but it's the pit.

[B]Do you think it's a better idea to waste your time on short, meaningless relationships or to hold back until you find a relationship that means something to you, one that you'll get something out of?[/B]

I was thinking about it the other day. I definitely go towards option B, but the majority of people I know go with number one.

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]I have a general L&R question. I thought about making a thread, but it's the pit.

[B]Do you think it's a better idea to waste your time on short, meaningless relationships or to hold back until you find a relationship that means something to you, one that you'll get something out of?[/B]

I was thinking about it the other day. I definitely go towards option B, but the majority of people I know go with number one.[/QUOTE]

Definately option 2. I think... Otherwise you have to go through all the messes of breakups and such but you have to try differnt things in order to find the one, right?

B, Tess. I mean, look at my stupid [size=2]a[/size]ss.

:(
[QUOTE=pohl_56]Definately option 2. I think... Otherwise you have to go through all the messes of breakups and such but you have to try differnt things in order to find the one, right?[/QUOTE]
Yeah. I don't understand why so many high school aged kids go through all the emotional stress of a relationship that they won't remember in 5 years. It's ridiculous.

I wouldn't call Option A "wasting your time [sic]," because how would you learn and be prepared for Option B?

Option B is obviously the one that everyone shoots for, because everyone wants to mean something to people. When it's an intimate one-on-one relationship, then that's the ultimate. However, I don't think anyone can reach Option B without having to go through some crappy Option A's first.

But yeah, Option B is the best option, if it's possible.

I do not think, though, that middle/high school kids should be shooting for Option B. It NEVER works out (as far as I know), and it's just a waste to feel like crap at such a young age.

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]:(

Yeah. I don't understand why so many high school aged kids go through all the emotional stress of a relationship that they won't remember in 5 years. It's ridiculous.[/QUOTE]


Why do you think I don't make any major moves? I see these kids trying so hard in high school, thinking they're gonna marry their girlfriend or whatever, and they break up the next weekend.

Option B would be great though. If I can find a great friend that I know will always be there, or try to be, that would just complete me.

I think the reason highschool people do option A is just for the heck of it and to think that they know what they are doing. In all honesty, hardly anyone rememebrs their HS relationships that I know of so it may be a waste of time, but it is just the way things are. Plus, well, that is a weird age so who knows?

*is speaking as a sophomore in HS with a gf at moment.


EDIT: And as for emotional stress people have... I have no idea. I have a good self esteem level and am happy most of the time so it is hard for me to think the way others do.

It all comes back to that "fit in" thing for most people. Am i saying I am one of those people? No. I dont care if i fit in. Am I saying live life to the fullest... HECK YES!!!!

[QUOTE=Jom]I do not think, though, that middle/high school kids should be shooting for Option B. It NEVER works out (as far as I know), and it's just a waste to feel like crap at such a young age.[/QUOTE]

Okay, you tell that to my guy's parents, who have been married 66 years (this year is 67).

Not working? I don't think so.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]In all honesty, hardly anyone rememebrs their HS relationships that I know of so it may be a waste of time, but it is just the way things are.[/QUOTE]

Heh, I believe that's accurate.

Or, to be even more precise, these kids WANT to forget their HS relationships, but for some reason it sticks to 'em.

Suckers. Bwahaha.

[quote=Chaindrive]Okay, you tell that to my guy's parents, who have been married 66 years (this year is 67).

Not working? I don't think so.[/quote]

[quote=Me]It NEVER works out [color=lime][b][i][u](as far as I know)[/b][/u][/i][/color]...[/quote]

HOLY PARENTHETICALS, BATMAN.

[QUOTE=Junooni]If I can find a great friend that I know will always be there, or try to be, that would just complete me.[/QUOTE]
I know what you mean.
[QUOTE=pohl_56]I think the reason highschool people do option A is just for the heck of it and to think that they know what they are doing. In all honesty, hardly anyone rememebrs their HS relationships that I know of so it may be a waste of time, but it is just the way things are. Plus, well, that is a weird age so who knows?

*is speaking as a sophomore in HS with a gf at moment.[/QUOTE]
See, I'm a sophomore too. I just see it as...I don't want to waste my time and emotions on stupid relationships. I don't think it'd be worth it even in the long run, because if you [I]do[/I] get into a great relationship like option B, then wouldn't the person be understanding if you make mistakes? I mean, if they care so much about you and stuff.

I would rather go into a relationship with a good friend than some random girl, ya know?

I'm actually planning on telling her about my feelings tomorrow after school, if I can work up the courage, that is. Sucks though, she's moving to Richmond soon.

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby](I)f you [I]do[/I] get into a great relationship like option B, then wouldn't the person be understanding if you make mistakes? I mean, if they care so much about you and stuff.[/QUOTE]

If your significant other is receptive to human beings being naturally fallible, then the answer should be yes, since he/she "cares about you and stuff." If not, then he/she's a moron, as that person isn't invincible from making mistakes.

[quote=Junooni]I would rather go into a relationship with a good friend than some random girl, ya know?

I'm actually planning on telling her about my feelings tomorrow after school, if I can work up the courage, that is. Sucks though, she's moving to Richmond soon.[/quote]

I've been tracking your story - I think it would be good for you (and her) to tell her before she moves, just so you guys can still be connected fairly strongly, even after she leaves.

Plus, it leaves the door open for her returning to visit, which would rule for you, right?

And even if it's awkward a little bit, you have nothing to lose.

[QUOTE=Jom]
HOLY PARENTHETICALS, BATMAN.[/QUOTE]

Your green is seriously messing with my eyes.

Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it does.

[QUOTE=Junooni]I would rather go into a relationship with a good friend than some random girl, ya know?[/quote]
Oh, exactly. Everything feels so much..safer with someone you wholly trust.
[QUOTE=Junooni]
I'm actually planning on telling her about my feelings tomorrow after school, if I can work up the courage, that is. Sucks though, she's moving to Richmond soon.[/QUOTE]
:):(. How far away is that?

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]I know what you mean.

See, I'm a sophomore too. I just see it as...I don't want to waste my time and emotions on stupid relationships. I don't think it'd be worth it even in the long run, because if you [I]do[/I] get into a great relationship like option B, then wouldn't the person be understanding if you make mistakes? I mean, if they care so much about you and stuff.[/QUOTE]

I can see it from both sides. Not wanting to waste my time, sure but there is something about having someone to talk to. Though I hate how most poeple put no thought into who they go out with and do get a new person every week, I do like the chance and feeling of having someone that really cares about you and though it may fade away, it was there for a moment. Not every person you find though should be that person.

Check the edit above...

Jom, thanks man. I don't know man, I'm not sure if I can, YET. Maybe next week, but another friend, who is a girl, is pushing me to tell her tomorrow after school. It's crunch time, man.

It's about 3 hours, away, that is.

Man, this thread is turning into a freakin' "Mr. Jones" clinic :p

[i]We all want something beautiful - I know I wish I was beautiful...

... believe in me - help me believe in anything - 'ause I want to be someone who believes...

... Mr. Jones and me tell each other fairy tales, and we stare at the beautiful women

"She's looking at you."

"Ah, no, no, she's looking at me."

Smilin' in the bright lights coming through in stereo...

... when everybody loves you, you can never be lonely...

... I want to be a lion - yeah, everybody wants to pass as cats
We all want to be big, big stars, but we got different reasons for that
Believe in me, 'cause I don't believe in anything
And I want to be someone to believe...

... Mr. Jones and me stumbling through the barrio
Yeah, we stare at the beautiful women

"She's perfect for you."

"Man, there's got to be somebody for me..."[/i]

I want to be Bob Dylan :p

^^^^^

***flicks bic in air and cries

[QUOTE=pohl_56]^^^^^

***flicks bic in air and cries[/QUOTE]

Don't set your hair on fire...

[quote=Junooni]Jom, thanks man. I don't know man, I'm not sure if I can, YET. Maybe next week, but another friend, who is a girl, is pushing me to tell her tomorrow after school. It's crunch time, man.[/quote]

Don't do it on anyone else's terms but your own. You are in control of your emotions and your situation and your thoughts. NOBODY dictates otherwise.

Do this on YOUR terms and when YOU feel comfortable in doing so.

Pretend I was emphasizing certain words that are in ALL CAPS or something.

[QUOTE=Jom]Don't do it on anyone else's terms but your own. You are in control of your emotions and your situation and your thoughts. NOBODY dictates otherwise.

Do this on YOUR terms and when YOU feel comfortable in doing so.

Pretend I was emphasizing certain words that are in ALL CAPS or something.[/QUOTE]

123 to that. I hate when I see people being pushed all the time by people to do things. Some encouragement is needed to get them to act on it but still... Let time take over.

And if this girl is like "I'm her friend I know what to do listen to me," punch her in the face as hard as you can.

She needs to smell what you're cooking.

[QUOTE=Jom]And if this girl is like "I'm her friend I know what to do listen to me," punch her in the face as hard as you can.

She needs to smell what you're cooking.[/QUOTE]

Muahahaha violence. I love it.

Ok. I'm gonna go for the night so peace, love, and harmony all!

Well, she doesn't know her. I don't think tomorrow's a good idea. I'm talking to her right now though. :p

I cook Pakistani food pretty well. /off topic.

[QUOTE=Junooni]
I cook Pakistani food pretty well. /off topic.[/QUOTE]

Mmmm mutton.

:drool:


Take your time with things. You shouldn't have to make important choices when you're stressed.

But she's moving, so I know I'm going to have to rush into it.

I'm trying to drop hints like crazy though.

ie..she thinks my sister's cute, I said, "well, you know, people say we look a lot alike.." and just little stuff like that.

i have another problem
i accidentally slept with the same guy again but i can't quite remember as i was out of it. he told me i did and i asked whether we used condom and he said yes.
what do i do cos i keep sleeping with this guy and i can't help it. it wasn't my fault though.

[QUOTE=mismartini]i have another problem
i accidentally slept with the same guy again but i can't quite remember as i was out of it. he told me i did and i asked whether we used condom and he said yes.
what do i do cos i keep sleeping with this guy and i can't help it. it wasn't my fault though.[/QUOTE]

It was your fault. Stop being so stupid.

Jesus christ, no wonder the UK has the highest teen pregnancy rates in Europe.

hey no need to have a go at the uk.
i am not stupid how is that going to help me? telling me im stupid. meanie.im only 15

[QUOTE=mismartini]hey no need to have a go at the uk.
i am not stupid how is that going to help me? telling me im stupid. meanie.im only 15[/QUOTE]

Your being 15 doesn't make it any less stupid. People aren't telling you you're stupid to be mean or hurtful, its because you should realise you've got to stop acting like this. If you want to stop sleeping with the guy, then stop sleeping with him. Being "out of it" is no excuse, if you are dedicated to your boyfriend, and drugs/alchohol are making a problem such as this, you should start taking more responsibility. If you're going to have sex at such a young age then at least take resposibility for your own actions.