Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?

[QUOTE=Luster]sure[/QUOTE]

Situation:

Girlfriend 1 that I was pretty close to a few months ago.

Girlfriend 2 that I am pretty close to (or thought I was).

1 & 2 have a radio show together.

1 does some things that hurt me, but she can't see it, and won't ever see it.

2 takes what I said out of context and tells 1 about it; I never expected that.

1 screams at me on Yahoo tonight about staying out of her life.

I delete 1 and don't want to talk to 2 anymore, since I feel this is a betrayal of my confidence to her.

WTF? I don't know what to do. Am I wrong for ditching them both? I just want to add that I much prefer men as friends, because they don't pull that schit.

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Jom's gonna probably punch me for this double post, but the dumping by third party is not classy at all. Go on to the next one.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]1 does some things that hurt me, but she can't see it, and won't ever see it. 1 screams at me on Yahoo tonight about staying out of her life.[/QUOTE] Is there something in particular that you've done or butted in about that would make her so upset? if not, she sounds like a pretty tough person to get along with. It sounds like stepping back might be the right thing to do. It's not worth your energy to establish a close friendship if she hurts you and doesn't appreciate you

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]2 takes what I said out of context and tells 1 about it; I never expected that.[/QUOTE]
Have you talked to her about this? or mentioned that you don't appreciate it? you don't need to chide her, but letting her know that it bothers you might make her aware of what she's doing.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I delete 1 and don't want to talk to 2 anymore, since I feel this is a betrayal of my confidence to her.

WTF? I don't know what to do. Am I wrong for ditching them both? I just want to add that I much prefer men as friends, because they don't pull that schit.[/QUOTE]

agreed on the men thing. as for the two friends, I'd consider not ditching friend two. If you value what you have with her (not counting the talking to friend one) it might be worth pursuing. Again, have you talked to her about how what she's doing is bothering you?

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Just forget about it and move on the best you can. Dumping by the not her is definitely not worth your time.

[QUOTE=Luster]I need advice.

My boyfriend and I care more about Mario 64 than each other.

Is this natural?


Also, he ditches me to go biking with his male lifting-buddy. (all of our friends have dubbed the two "brokeback") We're supposed to hang out, and he ditches me (without calling or informing me) to go biking.

And this doesn't really bother me. It probably should, but I'm happy with the relationship now. I just don't want it to get to me later in our relationship.[/QUOTE]

I'd just tell him not to make a habit out of this sort of thing.

[QUOTE=Scars]Hello,

Just got wind of this place and it's probably a good thing... My g/f just broke up with me today. We were going really well for almost a month, and nothing bad happened. For dates we weren't able to do much though, I had rugby 5 out of the 7 days of the week, and the other two I devoted to her for the most part. Then she just ups and dumps me for no reason. Not only that, she had her friend do it for her, she didn't dump me face to face... What should I do? I still sorta have feelings for her, but I'm upset that she doesn't have a reason, and I'm angry that she wouldn't do it face to face. Can you guys give me advice?[/QUOTE]

Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.

thats idea, then around 11 go to a bar or club , allready a bit tipsy and have a good time with other women. doesnt have to be anything serious of course

[QUOTE=Matas]thats idea, then around 11 go to a bar or club , allready a bit tipsy and have a good time with other women. doesnt have to be anything serious of course[/QUOTE]


No, no women. that kills it. lol.

But yeah, thats happened to me. IF it was just a month, as it seems, you should recover quickly. but having a night of unhaltered(?) maledom is the best.

I used to post avid advice in this type of thread.
But now I feel like I shouldn't give people advice on Love & Relationships because I haven't felt much of the former or had many successful ones of the latter ...

An open question:

Do you ever look back and think about this one ex-bf / ex-gf who you back then dumped [or were dumped by] for a reason you cannot understand in hindsight and every time you think about it and how you would be together now pierces your heart?

My ex-girlfriend and I are still very good friends and we went on a date a week or so ago. We had a good time and she told me friday that she likes me again. She thinks she likes but doesn't think he's good for this other guy. I know her pretty well and I can safely say things won't work out with him/they will even date. He smokes which she hates, he's going to graduate in a few months, he went to rehab etc. I was talking to her last night and asked her to go out again and she said "sure" not in like a "if i have to way" either. Anyway for some stupid reason i told her she could think about it and she said she will. I wish I wouldn't have done that. Do you guys have any advice?

[QUOTE=Rashka]Do you ever look back and think about this one ex-bf / ex-gf who you back then dumped [or were dumped by] for a reason you cannot understand in hindsight and every time you think about it and how you would be together now pierces your heart?[/QUOTE]

Do I look back? Sure.

Does it pierce my heart? Nahhhhhhhhh.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like a good idea. I might just do that, thanks guys. It's strange, because now she doesn't want me to be upset about it. Nothing I can really do there, but thanks to all who offered me advice.

[QUOTE=AC/DC Rocker]

see page 166 for my original full post.
[/QUOTE]

So the plot thickens...some. Well over the weekend we had a little get together at her house with our two other friends. There was lots of alcohol and some weed... the ingredients for a great night and a horrible morning. Well I got into the beer and she got into the pot and before ya know it we were decently wasted...we could fuction and know what we were doing but all barriers were gone which was a decent thing I guess. I've mentioned before that she is very distant and avoids physicall contact with guys, well she ended up on my lap and gave me a small peck on the lips, she pulled away and I pulled her in close and gave her a quick but passionate bigger kiss and we sat there with her laying back against me with her head on my shoulder for a while. We talked a bit and I told her that she means the world to me and that I care about her more deeply than she new, I avoided using the phrase "I love you" for fear of scaring her off. She just smiled and hugged me tighter and our friends came back into the room and we moved away without them realizing what went on. We went through the night at increasing states of wastedness with a typical amount of sexual tension we have between me and her (theres always quite a bit) and eventually fell asleep in our respective spots on the floor, chairs ,beds, what not. The next morning me and her woke up at about the same time, I started cleaning up the mess and she started to wash the dishes. I finished up and came up close behind her at the sink and started massaging her shoulders and I asked her if she remembered what happened during the night she gave a short laugh and said yes. I told her I was glad and kissed her on the cheek. Everyone else started to rise from the dead and the morning went on as normal. So heres the problem now, things are getting strange. The problem is everything is normal. We talked about the night at school with friends but the parts spent between me and her get left out. She acts like nothing happened. Even alone with me she doesnt talk about it or mention what was said. I don't know whether she regrets it or is happy or surprised or whatever else she could be. What I need to know is how to bring it up and what I should do about it.

Sorry for such a long and detailed post, i just couldnt summerize and keep the facts.

[QUOTE]Buy a case of your favorite brew. Invite your male friends over. Rent a couple Tarantino movies. Order a couple pizzas. Spend an entire night being unabashedly male.

Trust me, you'll feel much better.[/QUOTE] QFT.

I jsut wanted to pop in and just say that everything is going well with me and the loved one :)

Its been about 5 and a half months now, and its awesome. We are basically best friends and I love it. I dont think things can get any better right now (between me and him that is).

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I jsut wanted to pop in and just say that everything is going well with me and the loved one :)

Its been about 5 and a half months now, and its awesome. We are basically best friends and I love it. I dont think things can get any better right now (between me and him that is).[/QUOTE]


Well thats awsome to hear. :)

Me and mine are doing quite well too.

[QUOTE=Scars]Sounds like a good idea. I might just do that, thanks guys. It's strange, because now she doesn't want me to be upset about it. Nothing I can really do there, but thanks to all who offered me advice.[/QUOTE]

I'm sure you'll get through it, man! :wave:

[quote=AC/DC Rocker][See page 166 for full post.][/quote]

Heh, that doesn't help me any, seeing as how I'm on page 89.

[quote]So heres the problem now, things are getting strange. The problem is everything is normal.[/quote]

[b][size=300]AHHHHHHHHH![/b][/size]

Heh, just kiddin' with you.

Alright, there's this girl at work. I don't really see her that much, usually only on the weekends. We work in different departments too so we don't really talk much. We've said a few things here and there. Anyway, I think she's been flirting with me. For the past few weeks I've really been noticing her looking at me when I'm not looking. I'll always look back and we make eye contact. Just the other day me and my friend are sitting across from one another in the break room and she walks into the room. She's standing on the other side of the table closest to my friend, and there's a perfectly good chair there, yet she makes it a point to walk around to the other side, take the chair i'm resting my arm on, wipe a bunch of nasty crumbs out of the seat and sit down beside me. And she seems like maybe she's nervous. I don't know. She kind of sighed and then started talking about how she had a bad day the day before. Then she went to clock in, but it was too early so she came back, at which point I had to go. Later that day she passes by my aisle and we lock eyes. She had a smile on her face. It wasn't like a super cheesy smile, but it was a smile none the less. So what do you think?

I think you need to try to get to know her. This sounds good.

Yeah, I think I'm going to ask her out if she's at work this weekend. I just need to get her alone. My Russian friend seems to think that he's attached to my hip.

My ex has a boyfriend.

I'm feeling a little sick. :(

This is a quick question for the experienced lovers here.

A girl I know hasn't lost her vaginity yet and she's heard that using a condom makes it hurt more than when the guy is not; and is asking for my advice. Is this true? Ladies, any truth to this?

I don't know the truth to this so I ask.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]My ex has a boyfriend.

I'm feeling a little sick. :([/QUOTE]

It happens, man. It'll subside soon.

[quote=Burrito]This is a quick question for the experienced lovers here.

A girl I know hasn't lost her vaginity yet and she's heard that using a condom makes it hurt more than when the guy is not; and is asking for my advice. Is this true? Ladies, any truth to this?

I don't know the truth to this so I ask.[/quote]

Uh, well, if she hasn't had sex yet, of course it's going to hurt, regardless if her hymen is still intact or not.

And she should still nevertheless practice some form of safe sex. A condom doesn't prevent all pregancies, but they're a hell of a lot safer than going there pro-boner (Simpsons reference ftw). Having sex minus a condom is not going to bode well if she's not on the pill or on any other contraceptives.

[QUOTE=Jom]It happens, man. It'll subside soon.



Uh, well, if she hasn't had sex yet, of course it's going to hurt, regardless if her hymen is still intact or not.

And she should still nevertheless practice some form of safe sex. A condom doesn't prevent all pregancies, but they're a hell of a lot safer than going there pro-boner (Simpsons reference ftw). Having sex minus a condom is not going to bode well if she's not on the pill or on any other contraceptives.[/QUOTE]


123, and might I recommend lube?

Yeah she's on the pill. She just wants to know whether him using a condom will make it hurt more than without.

[QUOTE=Jom]It happens, man. It'll subside soon.
[/QUOTE]

It's been three months.

I just realized today that I should probably start flirting with girls again. :p

I am starting to feel better, though.

[QUOTE=Kickflip_Burrito]Yeah she's on the pill. She just wants to know whether him using a condom will make it hurt more than without.[/QUOTE]

Have him stick his dong all the way in the lube/Vaseline jar before insertion.

You know...there's lube on the market these days that doesn't require doing that...

Kimmie's sarcasm detector is broken ITT

No, dude. It's detecting everything. But yours, however...I dunno.

Nah, its cool. Eggo better watch out.



to make this post not spam:

i found out long distance relationships wont work for me, and I got a job, so I am going to be be getting out more often.

That guy you liked didn't work out, huh?

But good on you for your job.

Yeah. It didnt work out. If we lived in the same city, then I think it could have, but yeah.

I got a job at Foods Co, so I got money to do stuff again.

Damn, Gregg. That's too bad it didn't work out. Why, if I may ask?

I didnt really like the distance. And he met a girl that he might want to pursue, and there was no way for me to even visit him before June, so I didnt want to tell him to wait for me to come, so I told him that we would just be friends.

Alright so today is my girlfriends birthday and i'm taking her out tomorrow. I'm taking her to a movie, dinner, and then probably back to my house. however i am stuck between a couple different places where to eat. The choices are:

Applebee's
This japanese place that's mad expensive, but they do the thing where they cook the food in front of you.
This Italian place my neighbor owns, but my mom works there.

which place sounds good. Oh and the first two are within walking distance of the theater, the italian place is a 20 minute drive, maybe longer (plus, it's not me driving cause i can't drive.)

Japenese. Deffinetly.
Best food. good times.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]Alright so today is my girlfriends birthday and i'm taking her out tomorrow. I'm taking her to a movie, dinner, and then probably back to my house. however i am stuck between a couple different places where to eat. The choices are:

Applebee's
This japanese place that's mad expensive, but they do the thing where they cook the food in front of you.
This Italian place my neighbor owns, but my mom works there.

which place sounds good. Oh and the first two are within walking distance of the theater, the italian place is a 20 minute drive, maybe longer (plus, it's not me driving cause i can't drive.)[/QUOTE]
The Japanese one.

The japanese.
Its expensive, which will earn you later.
And would you really wanna go on a date in front of your mom?

[QUOTE=Banshee]The japanese.
Its expensive, which will earn you later.
And would you really wanna go on a date in front of your mom?[/QUOTE]

haha my mom would be busy working anyways, and no.

I'm wondering if 60 bucks will be enough to take her to the movies and dinner at that place. Minus about 15 (less really) for the movies.

[QUOTE=Banshee]The japanese.
Its expensive, which will earn you later.
And would you really wanna go on a date in front of your mom?[/QUOTE]


would it be innapropriate you suggest you change your usertitle to "iDrool"
?:)


[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]haha my mom would be busy working anyways, and no.

I'm wondering if 60 bucks will be enough to take her to the movies and dinner at that place. Minus about 15 (less really) for the movies.[/QUOTE]

Probably, if not, share.

OR do what i still do at 15, and pretend to be 12 so you can eat off the kids menue for < halfprice. :cool: