hey thanks alot wizard and JohnnT, those are actually definitions i can understand.

as for Eman, sorry i dont know anything, except be your self, but these other folks will know better then i, so listen to them more. :)

[QUOTE=E_man]OK peeps, I'm in a bit of a rut.

I've been going out with this girl for about a month or so now, and although I am really attracted to her, I feel nothing. So, obviously i want to end things but there are problems, we both have a similar set of friends and I dont want it to be awkward if we meet up or whatever and I know for a fact that she really REALLY likes me and from her friends telling me she has never been happy. How do I end it without tarnishing my reputation and not making my mates mad.

Cheers MX guys[/QUOTE]

If your friends are mature enough they'll understand and not judge you for breaking up with her.

It probably will be awkward for awhile around her, though.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Because a crush will pass; the real thing won't.[/QUOTE]

Speaking of crushes...i've had a huge crush on this girl for about 5 months (since the beginning of the school year almost), and i went on for those 5 months in a kind of daze, always thinking about her. I talked to her a little in that time, and asked her out once. She had a basketball game that night so she couldnt go. Last week I asked her to prom and she gave me an extremely nice no. One of her freinds told me that she's going with someone else. So in my mind, my chances are pretty much shot to hell. Correct me if you think otherwise, and ignore the next paragraph as pessimistic BS.

Does anyone have any advice about moving on? I mean, it seems pretty easy, but i've almost obsessed about her for 5 months and trying to move on has been a bi[COLOR="Silver"]tc[/COLOR]h for me, since it's really been hard to stop thinking about her. I've never liked anyone this much, and this is the first time that i've ever been turned down in any way, so i'm a total n00b.

You're right; the chances are pretty much shot to hell. At least for right now.

A new girl will get your mind off of her; so go meet some. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You're right; the chances are pretty much shot to hell. At least for right now.

A new girl will get your mind off of her; so go meet some. :)[/QUOTE]

I'm so reluctant to move onto someone else...i guess that's my only real choice, though.

Anyone else have advice?

[QUOTE=got tool?]I'm so reluctant to move onto someone else...i guess that's my only real choice, though.

Anyone else have advice?[/QUOTE]
If she is turning you down, she obivousley isnt interested. Come to terms with that first.
Dont persue it if you know yourself she probably dosent want to.

Im not telling to go looking for another girl straight away, just not that one.

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I cant understand how people can just fall for one girl, realise it will never happen and go for another girl straight after. Either they are all just really hot or he/she is really horny. My m8 dose it all the time and he says he cant find love. All he wants is sex.

But, Kev, that's really maybe all he wants.

And, yeah, I can relate to going from one to the other. My current psycho man is a direct result of that.

Well if thats all he wants and not what she wants. What can he do about it? Maybe if he tried. But trying might come off to her as trying hard/clingy/annoying.

Agreed.

[QUOTE=~grif~]If she is turning you down, she obivousley isnt interested. Come to terms with that first.
Dont persue it if you know yourself she probably dosent want to.

Im not telling to go looking for another girl straight away, just not that one.
[/QUOTE]

Yeah i see your point...but what's weird is (and i'm not using this as justification that i shouldn't move on...cuz i think i should) after she said no, she asked me if i was still going. And when i said "Probably not..." she looked kinda guilty and said "Oh ok". Whatever. Thanks for the advice, all.

And for the record (i dont know whether i am misinterpreting you, grif, so i'll apologize ahead of time if so), the farthest thing from my mind when i think of her was sex.

so got tool?
you have 2 decisions, either leave it be, or try with good or bad outcomes followed...

is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.

[QUOTE=POINTLESS5448]is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.[/QUOTE]
its your choice

to me, yea, thats bad
to others its cool
to you its great

why do you think it might happen?

if you are from a small area, expect a bad rep.

[QUOTE=POINTLESS5448]is it really bad if i like one girl, am going out with another girl, and ****ing another girl? becasue i think that might happen.[/QUOTE]

I would say that that is a bad thing. We usually call people like you man whores but yea.

If you wanna live for the moment and hurt some peoples's hearts, then go for it.

Evenin'!!

Ugh.

I just spent half the day in an emergency room talking to a psychiatrist.

What happened?

I totally blew a gasket, and somewhere in my rampage I gave my mother the idea that I was suicidal, even though I am not in the slightest. She was trying to get me committed to some program in the hospital where I would basically stay there for a little while and they'd watch me and get me on proper medication and things. It would be lame, but I don't have to go.

I talked to that dude for hours. He doesn't think I'm suicidal, but he's going to send me to a regular psycologist and put me on some medicine or something, and give me some methods of relieving stress.

I don't even know what I have to be so stressed about, my life is pretty good.

Sometimes there are things happening below the surface, D, that you don't know are there.

Yeah, I have suppressed depression or some bullpoopy. Doctor pretty much told me I'm an attention whore, depressed, bi-polar, have dependancy issues, have strong anxiety, and I'm schizofrenic, well, he said I had signs of some of those, which is why he's sending me to another doctor. He's going to put me on medication for most of that, but I hate medicine. I actually feel worse now that I've talked to the doctor. I didn't even feel bad before until I exploded, but apparently I always just force myself to be happy. I'm going to go spend time with my mom for the next few days down in Nashville. See ya guys later.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yeah, I have suppressed depression or some bullpoopy. Doctor pretty much told me I'm an attention whore, depressed, bi-polar, have dependancy issues, have strong anxiety, and I'm schizofrenic, well, he said I had signs of some of those, which is why he's sending me to another doctor. He's going to put me on medication for most of that, but I hate medicine. I actually feel worse now that I've talked to the doctor. I didn't even feel bad before until I exploded, but apparently I always just force myself to be happy. I'm going to go spend time with my mom for the next few days down in Nashville. See ya guys later.[/QUOTE]

Seeing a therapist will help. Both my parents had undiagnosed clinical depression for years and it was pretty miserable at times. Eventually they were both diagnosed and things got better.

at what point does it become minor depression and not just teenage-angst/ being pissed off with the world?
...i don't say this as a piss take or anything, really i wanna know.

[QUOTE=oogaboogabooga]at what point does it become minor depression and not just teenage-angst/ being pissed off with the world?
...i don't say this as a piss take or anything, really i wanna know.[/QUOTE]

There really is no specific criterion or criteria one can use to evaluate him or herself - that's why it's to be left to the clinics, the psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, and so on. Depression is a biological illness. People that go on severe guilt trips, have a loss of energy, enthusiasm, pleasure, and so on, and have periods of irregular diet and sleep patterns oftentimes have depression.

People who say they have "situational depression" are full of crap if they think that their "illness" is chronic. It isn't. I'm not contesting that situational depression doesn't exist, I'm just saying that people who have chronic depression are not situationally depressed.

Basically, if you have the symptoms, then statistics clearly have shown that you have the disease. It's a biological illness, while possibly bolstered by a situation, but a biological illness in and of itself. People who become chronically depressed over a psycho-stressor will have the biological seeds planted, even if it's unbeknownst to them.

When people get stressed out, people without depression recover - not through medicine or psychotherapy - but by just getting support from friends, family, or even a place like MX. People with depression have to go through medicine, therapy, and the like. But just because someone is upset because of a stressor does not make him or her depressed.

Hey everybody. I am having huge problems with jealousy. I get so jealous when my friend even talks to my gf. Just when he even talks to her. Ahhh i need help.

Is this the ex?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Is this the ex?[/QUOTE]


yes but we got back together. We gonna try it again.

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]yes but we got back together. We gonna try it again.[/QUOTE]

Good luck with that. About the jealously thing, all you can do is try to keep it under control.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Good luck with that. About the jealously thing, all you can do is try to keep it under control.[/QUOTE]


K thanks. I also have another problem.

Well like 1 year ago i almost went out with this girl. We still have been friends. Then about 1 week ago i told my friend Patrick that i wanted to bone her. he told her then she texted me and said that she would have sex with me. I was like "okay" but i got a gf right now. Then she accidently forwarded the wrong text message to one of my friends that talks to my gf on myspace. I told him not to tell and that i wouldnt do it in the first place because i love my gf. But if he does tell her, i have just planned to play stupid and tell her that i never did and that my friend is jealous of us(which he is)

Does that sound like a good plan?

Sounds like you needn't make excuses, because weren't you broken up with your girlfriend a week ago?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sounds like you needn't make excuses, because weren't you broken up with your girlfriend a week ago?[/QUOTE]


Well to be exact it was 3 days ago and we got back together like 7 days ago. Me and my stupid mistakes. :upset:



Am i f[COLOR="Red"]uc[/COLOR]ked?

Maybe. But you did tell her not right now because you had a girlfriend.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Maybe. But you did tell her not right now because you had a girlfriend.[/QUOTE]


Ya. But even if my friend does tell my gf. Im just gonna say that he is jealous and that i never did. Is that okay to do? I know its not honest.

I don't think I'd lie.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I don't think I'd lie.[/QUOTE]


Well okay. But i did tell him not to tell my gf. And we shook on it and i told him that i would litterly kill him if he did. I saw fear in his eyes. And i told her girl to tell him not to tell because she wants me to stay with my gf and she is happy for me. I think im just gonna have to save myself by saying that i never said that even though it is not the right thing to do. I really appreciate the help Kimmie. A lot a lot.

:upset:

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]My girlfriend, who I love and have been with for a year, just broke up with me yesterday. For no real reason. We were having some really minor relationship problems, but nothing we couldnt have fixed with a little time. But this is the weird thing guys and I want your comments and feed back. She still plans on getting back with me eventually, actually in about a month and a half. She wants us to just be "friends" right now for like a month. THen she wants to work out our minor problems before we get back together. BUt right now I can only talk to her everyother day or something and I cant care about her (like a boyfriend) or love her (like a boyfriend), well right now. Why does this all seem so weird to me? Oh and this just happened randomly. SHe just decided it out of the blue...with nothing to provoke or influence her.[/QUOTE]


Well I have more to add to this, sort of an "update". If you want to know everything I said I believe it is on pages 163-165 or so.

Well I talked to her last thursday and she changed her story up a bit. Now she says that its not to fix our relationship problems or anything like that. It is now that she decided that she didnt want a boyfriend at the moment and also that she has "not been feeling good lately" (she said that its not emotionally but just kinda mentally/physically?....and no she isnt pregnant or on her period).

Well I asked her if she plans on getting back with me when she wants a boyfriend again and she said "i dont know....we'll see". Well I get that it is a hard thing to say or decide but the way she puts it makes me feel as if she absolutely has no plans to get back with me. I asked her if I had to do anything with the breakup and she said that I didnt do anything wrong and that i've been great. I know I havent done anything wrong so its not really me. The thing is i'm just so used to her being honest and telling me everything and it seems like she doesnt feel like being with me or talking with me.

I know that we broke up and I still love her. I hope things get better....I bet they will get at least a bit better. I know I have to "get over" this but I will never stop loving her or thinking about her. eh....it all sucks and is confuzing. What I hate the most is just the way she talks to me and treats me. SHe treats/talks to me like i'm a friend she's barely known for a couple weeks even though out of all the friends she knows I have known her the second longest (5 years). She is nicer to her friends from school who she has known for 3 months. I know we arent together anymore but I feel its messed up of her to treat me that way.

OH well.

i dislike that girls at school flirt with me even though they all know that I just broke up with my girlfriend....i find it distasteful...( i dont think I spelled that right).

Well thanks for listening guys, technically reading.

Cool take care:thumb:

If for some reason our relationship gets better, or if we get back together (that would be nice) then I'll post again.:wave:

I need advice.

My boyfriend and I care more about Mario 64 than each other.

Is this natural?


Also, he ditches me to go biking with his male lifting-buddy. (all of our friends have dubbed the two "brokeback") We're supposed to hang out, and he ditches me (without calling or informing me) to go biking.

And this doesn't really bother me. It probably should, but I'm happy with the relationship now. I just don't want it to get to me later in our relationship.

is Mario 64 really that great, the game right? I mean I like it and all but damn. yeah thats not really natural.

hmmm well its not that nice for him to ditch you. Well at least if he is ditching you then he is just doing it to go biking not to go with other girls ha ha ha. Well tell him that if he makes changes in his plan he should inform you. He really likes biking huh?

[QUOTE=TheCrimsonKing]is Mario 64 really that great, the game right? I mean I like it and all but damn. yeah thats not really natural.

He really likes biking huh?[/QUOTE]

He has a $1500 bike, and spends his free time with his friends going to the local bike shop. The day they ditched me, they biked 43 miles.

And as far as mario goes, it was an exaggeration, but in essence, it's how our relationship works. We both respect each other and let one another do whatever. I make fun of him like crazy, and we both point out each other's insecurities and harp on them. (for example: my left eye doesn't go up, so he'll stand on his tiptoes and patronizingly smile at me knowing that it makes me comfortable. I'll retalliate by saying how cute his eyes are and how they look like shark eyes or tickle-attack his hips.)

I think we've both established that our relationship is abnormal - but we both seem to really enjoy it.

Here's what I think happened with you and your boyfriend: You've now become so comfortable with each other that whatever each of your other interests are sometimes take precedence.

Not a big deal.

Luster, you're a girl...can I ask you something?

So Kimmie my friend promised not to tell.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Luster, you're a girl...can I ask you something?[/QUOTE]

sure