[QUOTE=Destined_for]Yes, I have. like well im not sure that i love her. but i have know this girl for like 10 years. We have been friends so for so long. and lately i think that i have been going pretty fast. I think im just confused about everything. ugh.[/QUOTE]
girls











who needs them

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think you need to step back and take a breath, Jon.[/QUOTE]


I think so too. I just want to take a break and now i cant and im freaking out.


:(

You NEED that break. Tell her so.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You NEED that break. Tell her so.[/QUOTE]


Okay. Thanks for the advice.

Well here it goes :upset:

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm thinking that she does only want a friend at school. But if she's really touchy there I'd tell her to quit.[/QUOTE]

What do you mean, "tell her to quit." ?

Tell her to quit being touchy feely with you...

Hints, mixed messages and all things misleading suck.

[QUOTE=Ibasslikethis!]Hints, mixed messages and all things misleading suck.[/QUOTE]


I like ur avatar.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Tell her to quit being touchy feely with you...[/QUOTE]

but I like it :mad:

[QUOTE=kevinaro]but I like it :mad:[/QUOTE]

It's not helping the situation, though. It's sending mixed messages.

She needs to either hang out with you, or get her hands off you.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]No im not with her anymore. Im with a new girl. I just moved on really fast. I have always been that way with girls.[/QUOTE]

Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.[/QUOTE]


Everybody has problems. Thats why this thread is here. Dont act like an a[B]s[/B]s

And it is a real problem if it wasnt i wouldnt of brought it up.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]It's not helping the situation, though. It's sending mixed messages.

She needs to either hang out with you, or get her hands off you.[/QUOTE]

hmm makes sense

REPOST:

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Okay, I'm gonna explode if I don't ask for advice, and please, I don't want this strictass crap like "Suck it up" or "Stop bitching" or any of that. Please hear me out and give me some decent advice.

There's this girl that I just think is amazing, and I just can't stop thinking about her. She's already my friend, but she isn't as close as most of my friends. She already knows that I really like her (I think I may love her since I care about her so much), but she doens't share the same feelings towards me. Now, I know I could just forget about her and look for someone else, but I don't want to. When I think of her I feel great, anytime I'm depressed and I think about being with her, everything feels wonderful. Now, I know that there's been people who liked girls that said they'd never like the people that like em', but somehow, they end up being together, and I'm hoping this'll happen with me and her. Problem is, I don't know what to do.

I want to do something that'll show her how much I care for her, and may get her to wake up and realise that I should be with her, but I don't want to do something that'll annoy her, because I don't want to ruin our friendship. Like, I don't want to keep begging her, not that I have, but I want to do something that could make her maybe change her mind and maybe even fall in love with me. According to her, it's not my looks she doesn't like, she just for some reason does not like me that way.

Please guys, give me some good tips to where I can get her. Please.[/QUOTE]

dam, strong bad has my problem pretty much

I'm not going to answer that, because you can't force someone to like you in "that way".

And, doing something that'll show her how much you care for her is almost a bribe. She knows how you feel about her already.

I don't want to force her. Right now she just thinks I have a crush on her and nothing more. Even if she never wants to have anything to do with me, I still want to show her that I care for her, just because that's the kind of guy I am. I don't want to do it necesarrily to make her mine, but I do care about her and want her to know that.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I don't want to force her. Right now she just thinks I have a crush on her and nothing more. Even if she never wants to have anything to do with me, I still want to show her that I care for her, just because that's the kind of guy I am. I don't want to do it necesarrily to make her mine, but I do care about her and want her to know that.[/QUOTE]
If you really care for her, the way you say you do, then you should probably be caring about her, not you, and if she does just want to be friends, then try not to hurt her, and screw up that friendship with pressure for something more

It seems to me that you should be concentrating on turning your relationship into an amazing friendship, as it seems the perfect candidate for it.

You're not as close to her as you are with your other friends, but regardless of her not liking you in a sexual way, you dont wanna cut her out of your life, because she makes you happy?

I think it would be stupid to push things and ruin what you've got already, this girl makes you happy when you're feeling down, you don't get many people like that in your life. It'd also be stupid to push her away, for the same reason.

What I would do is start spending some [I]quality[/I] time with the girl, just you and her, but in a completely platonic way. Go do stupid things you would never do with a gf with her, and turn the friendship into something special, one of those friends that effects your life forever.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.[/QUOTE]

This is your one and only warning.

Say something like this again, and you're going to take a vacation.

You must have a terrible memory or something: Destined_for's fiancé bailed on him. How is that not a problem, again?

Banning or not banning you doesn't faze me at all, but I will not tolerate one user telling another to essentially fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] off in this thread.

I'm sure he was joking, Jom. :/

Okay, seeing as you all know I'm in a relationship, I'd like to make it clear that this is for a friend, and for once, I don't really know what to say to him, seeing as all people involved are my friends in this one.

Okay, my friend Jon likes a girl at school named Elora. Like I said, both of them are my friends. However, our other friend, J.D., went out with Elora first, and he has made it clear that he does not want Jon to be with her. However, J.D. has only been at our school for awhile, while Jon has been here forever, and has liked Elora for as long as I can remember, which is MUCH longer than J.D.
So, what should he do?
I mean, J.D. still has feelings for her and, like I said, has made it clear that he doesn't want Jon to be with her, but Jon likes her so much.

If they're friends, he should back off the girl for his bud. Bros before hoes, ya know.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]If they're friends, he should back off the girl for his bud. Bros before hoes, ya know.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but he's liked her much longer, and from what I can tell, he likes her much MORE than J.D.

He's just never had the courage to say anything.

Are Jon and J.D. friends? How does Elora feel about J.D., and how does she feel about Jon? If it's over between Elora and JD, then he needs to learn that it's over and it's time to let go.

EDIT: didn't see the above posts. Bros before hoes.

And I have a petty question...what's the best way to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. I haven't had one since last summer. I don't know if "will you go out with me?" is too middle school, or "will you be my girlfriend?" is better? So yeah, stupid question, but I just don't know. I'm not saying it's just between those two, but any suggestions?

[quote]Okay, I'm gonna explode if I don't ask for advice, and please, I don't want this strictass crap like "Suck it up" or "Stop bitching" or any of that. Please hear me out and give me some decent advice.

There's this girl that I just think is amazing, and I just can't stop thinking about her. She's already my friend, but she isn't as close as most of my friends. She already knows that I really like her (I think I may love her since I care about her so much), but she doens't share the same feelings towards me. Now, I know I could just forget about her and look for someone else, but I don't want to. When I think of her I feel great, anytime I'm depressed and I think about being with her, everything feels wonderful. Now, I know that there's been people who liked girls that said they'd never like the people that like em', but somehow, they end up being together, and I'm hoping this'll happen with me and her. Problem is, I don't know what to do.

I want to do something that'll show her how much I care for her, and may get her to wake up and realise that I should be with her, but I don't want to do something that'll annoy her, because I don't want to ruin our friendship. Like, I don't want to keep begging her, not that I have, but I want to do something that could make her maybe change her mind and maybe even fall in love with me. According to her, it's not my looks she doesn't like, she just for some reason does not like me that way.

Please guys, give me some good tips to where I can get her. Please.[/quote]

Essentially, what you are doing is putting 'the pussy on a pedestal' to borrow a line from the goat man in the Steve Carell movie.

Liking someone or loving them from afar is no real reason for you to be the right person to be with said person. You're idealizing what might be. Way before anything has happened to suggest that this is a real possibility, you're making judgments based on the little you know of her. You already said she isn't your closest friend and that she isn't interested in you atm. That does not mean you hold out hope that she means 'I will grow to love you in the future even though I don't now'. What it means is 'I don't love you right now'. That's about all it means. If you've made your case already, leaver her be. If things are to work out, they will. Trying to woo her now is not going to leave either of you with a good feeling about each other.

[quote]And I have a petty question...what's the best way to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. I haven't had one since last summer. I don't know if "will you go out with me?" is too middle school, or "will you be my girlfriend?" is better? So yeah, stupid question, but I just don't know. I'm not saying it's just between those two, but any suggestions?[/quote]

I'm going to assume you're at least a high school junior or older or else ignore what I have to say. Don't ask her in such terms. Tell her you're going to get some coffee and you'd like her to come with you. Have a great time there and if things turn out well, she'll ask you and you won't have to worry. If not, you can tell her you had fun and would like to go out with her.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Okay, seeing as you all know I'm in a relationship, I'd like to make it clear that this is for a friend, and for once, I don't really know what to say to him, seeing as all people involved are my friends in this one.

Okay, my friend Jon likes a girl at school named Elora. Like I said, both of them are my friends. However, our other friend, J.D., went out with Elora first, and he has made it clear that he does not want Jon to be with her. However, J.D. has only been at our school for awhile, while Jon has been here forever, and has liked Elora for as long as I can remember, which is MUCH longer than J.D.
So, what should he do?
I mean, J.D. still has feelings for her and, like I said, has made it clear that he doesn't want Jon to be with her, but Jon likes her so much.[/QUOTE]

It is Jon's turn. JD had his chance and blew it. He does not control Jon and Elora's lives.

Thats my take. Hello thread again. Long time no post, again. *is sad*

[QUOTE=Jom]This is your one and only warning.

Say something like this again, and you're going to take a vacation.

You must have a terrible memory or something: Destined_for's fiancé bailed on him. How is that not a problem, again?

Banning or not banning you doesn't faze me at all, but I will not tolerate one user telling another to essentially fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] off in this thread.[/QUOTE]
I guess I didn't read that post...

I'm sorry, I have the slowest computer ever. Unlike you guys who can zip through the pages of the thread and read every post in a matter of seconds, it takes like 5 minutes just to load up one page, so I never have the time to read everything, so I prolly overlooked his problem.

I thought that he was complaining because his girlfriends previous boyfriends fingered her, and now he comes out saying that he's fingered her too, but doenst care because he now has a new girlfriend. It just seemed to me like he was posting that crap for the sake of boosting his postcount or somethin, plus I was a bit steamed that I was being ignored, like I always am.

But YOU always manage to haunt me and tell me how crappy my posts are and all that crap. ALWAYS. If you have a problem with me, then just f[size=2]ucking[/size] ban my always will be single a[size=2]ss[/size].

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Are Jon and J.D. friends? How does Elora feel about J.D., and how does she feel about Jon? If it's over between Elora and JD, then he needs to learn that it's over and it's time to let go.

And I have a petty question...what's the best way to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. I haven't had one since last summer. I don't know if "will you go out with me?" is too middle school, or "will you be my girlfriend?" is better? So yeah, stupid question, but I just don't know.[/QUOTE]
Yes, Jon and J.D. are friends, that's where the problem is coming from. And, I think Elora may have feelings for Jon, too.

Now let's help you out here.

There is no right or wrong way to ask a girl out, nor is there a good or a bad way. When you're about to ask her, just speak from the heart and the best thing will probably come out.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Yeah, but he's liked her much longer, and from what I can tell, he likes her much MORE than J.D.

He's just never had the courage to say anything.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, J.D. needs to get over her, but Jon really needs to back off and be sure his pal is ok with it first. Friends are much more important than girls. Jon should lay low until him and J.D. can work it out, and he can get over the girl. It's not worth risking it IMO.