Your chances are not necessarily shot to hell, but do not try to hang around her or get to know her better until the prom is over. You have to play the waiting game, unfortunately. When the prom is over, you can check out your options. In the meantime, see if there are some other girls that you might like to date, and see where that takes you. :)

[QUOTE=Drone]Your chances are not necessarily shot to hell, but do not try to hang around her or get to know her better until the prom is over. You have to play the waiting game, unfortunately. When the prom is over, you can check out your options. In the meantime, see if there are some other girls that you might like to date, and see where that takes you. :)[/QUOTE]

Yeah i guess...too bad prom isnt until the 28th. Oh well.

[QUOTE=Sep]So basically I'd really like to talk to her or something. I've seen her play tennis at the local club a couple of times so that's cool (I play tennis too. \m/). What I was thinking of myself was to look up on the internet how to say a little sentence or something in Hungarian, try to impress her :p. For example I could say something like "I am a little fairy", and then act all "oh! I thought it ment "hey, how are ya?"!. I dunno if that'd make her laugh at all though.

Anyway, if anyone could help me out here. How/where should I approach this girl? As I said I find it hard to just start a random conversation with a random person as I'm quite shy. Please feel free to ask for any other info. Thanks![/QUOTE]

Do [i]not[/i] attempt to impress her with your ability to use Babelfish. There's no faster way to have the word "loser" branded to your forehead.

Just ask her to practice with tennis with you. Flirt with her a bit, tease her, be funny. But for god's sake don't act as if her decision will make or break you. You have to be secure, ready to move on instantly should she decide she doesn't like you. Don't act needy or clingy around her. Hell, try to tease her to make it look like she's trying to pick you up.

Do not act like the fact that she's beautiful makes her a superior being. Because she's beautiful, she gets guys hitting on her all the time. You have to be different.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Do [i]not[/i] attempt to impress her with your ability to use Babelfish. There's no faster way to have the word "loser" branded to your forehead.

Just ask her to practice with tennis with you. Flirt with her a bit, tease her, be funny. But for god's sake don't act as if her decision will make or break you. You have to be secure, ready to move on instantly should she decide she doesn't like you. Don't act needy or clingy around her. Hell, try to tease her to make it look like she's trying to pick you up.

Do not act like the fact that she's beautiful makes her a superior being. Because she's beautiful, she gets guys hitting on her all the time. You have to be different.[/QUOTE]
This is very very good advice. Well done.
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[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]This is very very good advice. Well done.
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Straight from the horse's mouth. All the relatives you have telling you that you have to worship the ground a woman walks on right from the start are more than likely trying to compensate for what they percieve as the guilty pleasure in all the things they found attractive in their husbands. And I know everyone has relatives like this.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Dont break them up. Just wait it out otherwise you will end up in a pickle.

Evening all...[/QUOTE]


Its morning here.

Whats up?

Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.[/QUOTE]
Well, that is the whole point of friends with benefits. You can do a bunch of stuff that you'd do in a normal relationship without it actually being a relationship.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]Me and this girl are "friends with benefits". I think it's going to be fun, but I don't really know what to do. She's not my girlfriend so I don't know if I'm supposed to kiss her everytime I see her or what. Should I? Oh, and I'm not going to have sex with her, but we are going to do everything that comes before it.[/QUOTE]
Nah you just tend to act normal when you're not doing stuff. My mate has a 'friend with benefits' and they just act like normal mates when they're not at it. It's fine as long as you both agree you won't get emotionally attached and you're safe (although that doesn't really apply if you guys aren't having sex).

cool thanks.

Yeah I just don't want to end up like one of those teenage kids that screwed up their life by having a kid when they're 16.

[QUOTE=KurtCobain2902]cool thanks.

Yeah I just don't want to end up like one of those teenage kids that screwed up their life by having a kid when they're 16.[/QUOTE]
Yeah just be careful. Buy some condoms just in case you guys get caught up in the heat of the moment.

quick question, its not that important i dont think. but ive been really distant from everyone lately, like freinds that i would always talk to is just like akward silence or if there is alot of people im really quiet unless something comes up that i have strong feelings on like music and stuff like that.i dont know if my friends hate me or not, they say they dont but it seems like they do. because i think they hate me, most of the time i try not to talk to them cause i dont want to be that kid who everyone hates but no one is willing to the tell em. yet when i do avoid them they get mad at me, so ill try to talk to them but again they dont say anything to me, and i feel like they dont want me there.
i can be passive-aggresive (i think its called), i can get really defensive, and and i can be a huge jerk. ill make fun of people i like, even when i know it'll piss them off. or ill make fun of them about something that they see as really important. its really annoying and i end up regretting it but i wont really say anything cause they wont talk to me for a day then it goes back to normal. This may be why they hate me so much.

I've never had a close relation with my family and im fine with that.
im 15 so is this just like a teenage thing that just suksass.im also really paranoid about people so is it just that. its been like this now for like last october.

o one more thing,i dont want to ask them if they hate me cause it'll be strage and if they dont itll be worse.also i dont like confrentation so i try not to bring it up.

[SIZE="1"](if theres any grammer/spelling errors srry, tell me and ill fix it. also srry if its really confusing any questions just ask)[/SIZE]

edit: learn how to write

yea like i said sorry abot the crappy posting, when im trying to write/say something thats in my head its all comes out really messed up, and incoherent. so srry. also with spelling ive never been good it at.

[QUOTE=mullets suk]quick question, its not that important i dont think. but ive been really distant from everyone lately, like freinds that i would always talk to is just like akward silence or if there is alot of people im really quiet unless something comes up that i have strong feelings on like music and stuff like that.i dont know if my friends hate me or not, they say they dont but it seems like they do. because i think they hate me, most of the time i try not to talk to them cause i dont want to be that kid who everyone hates but no one is willing to the tell em. yet when i do avoid them they get mad at me, so ill try to talk to them but again they dont say anything to me, and i feel like they dont want me there.
i can be passive-aggresive (i think its called), i can get really defensive, and and i can be a huge jerk. ill make fun of people i like, even when i know it'll piss them off. or ill make fun of them about something that they see as really important. its really annoying and i end up regretting it but i wont really say anything cause they wont talk to me for a day then it goes back to normal. This may be why they hate me so much.

I've never had a close relation with my family and im fine with that.
im 15 so is this just like a teenage thing that just suksass.im also really paranoid about people so is it just that. its been like this now for like last october.

o one more thing,i dont want to ask them if they hate me cause it'll be strage and if they dont itll be worse.also i dont like confrentation so i try not to bring it up.

[SIZE="1"](if theres any grammer/spelling errors srry, tell me and ill fix it. also srry if its really confusing any questions just ask)[/SIZE][/QUOTE]
I'm not really sure what you're asking, but rephrase me a question and I'll try to help. :)

yea again sorry about the post. i guess wot im askin is, is this normal? ive been secound guessing weather my freinds are actully freinds or they were just there saying they were my freind. and i cant ask them and so im askin you guys if this is just part of getting older?, the whole Distancing from freinds part.

I think he has the same problem as me. He's just antisocial and doesn't know how to act in coversation, unless the subject is sometign he's passionate or knowledgeable about, like music. He makes fun of people and is passive-aggressive, which puts people off, and he's not meaning it to harm anyone, he's just trying to have fun. If he's like me, he's probabl extremely sacastic too. he's paranoid about other people's intents and actions, and isn't able to really get close to people like he would like, and he's growing apart from his previous friends.

That's what I gathered, and that sounds exactly like me, and I'm doing alright. Don't worry about it mullets. I don't know how to solve the problem, but you get used to it eventually. I literally have no friends, other than some girls, and I've found out they're only my friends because they hae crushes on me. :/

The only thing you can do is try to be less insulting and aggressive, and try to stay positive and friendly. Force yourself to say something in conversations even when you don't know what to say, and don't worry if they don't want you there. if people don't like you, you'll find out and find some new people to hang out with. usually try to find people who have similar interests, such as music tastes or video games or something.

[QUOTE=mullets suk]yea again sorry about the post. i guess wot im askin is, is this normal? ive been secound guessing weather my freinds are actully freinds or they were just there saying they were my freind. and i cant ask them and so im askin you guys if this is just part of getting older?, the whole Distancing from freinds part.[/QUOTE]
Yes, it's part of getting older. If they didn't want to be your friend, they wouldn't boher with, so don't worry about it. Just go hangout and make as many friends as you can, even with people you don't currently know.

Having friends makes life much easier and less depressing.

Don't worry about it.

Yeah, I'd say it's pretty normal. What you need to realize, though, is that they don't really matter to you. They don't like you? So what. You don't need them to get by. You can do perfectly fine with just yourself to deal with. :)


Edit: Whoa contrasting advice

[QUOTE]I think he has the same problem as me. He's just antisocial and doesn't know how to act in coversation, unless the subject is sometign he's passionate or knowledgeable about, like music. He makes fun of people and is passive-aggressive, which puts people off, and he's not meaning it to harm anyone, he's just trying to have fun. If he's like me, he's probabl extremely sacastic too. he's paranoid about other people's intents and actions, and isn't able to really get close to people like he would like, and he's growing apart from his previous friends.[/QUOTE]congrats for interpreting what he said

That actually sounds quite like me - I'm constantly afraid that I come across as either miserable and taciturn or, when I do speak, just dull and irritating.

dunno how the internets is really going to help

Not contrasting. I just put more words and stuff in mine. We both told him not to worry about it, just i told him how he can make himself some new friends to replace the old, if they do turnout not to like him or something, which I highly doubt.

Well yeah, you told him to make new friends and I was meaning more 'if you prefer being antisocial then don't bother.'

[QUOTE=nowhesingsnowhesobs]dunno how the internets is really going to help[/QUOTE]
The internets don't help at all, probably makes it worse, haha. That's one reason i've stayed off it more lately. I'm piecing together a social life.

One thing I found out, if you hang out with mostly girls, the guys aren't going to like you very much, so try to hang out with guys. lol

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]Well yeah, you told him to make new friends and I was meaning more 'if you prefer being antisocial then don't bother.'[/QUOTE]
He's not happy being antisocial though, sounds like he's wanting his friends. It he's happier being thath way, then just do whatever he wants, if he's wanting to make some friends or improve himself in social situations, follow my advice.

I'm sure someone will come along and give better advice though.

EDIT: these last few posts have so many errors, I'm not going to bother fixing them.

hey thaks for the advice and stuff. also with the sarcasim, i try to advoid it cause im not good at it, and people will take it literal, haha, and so then i have to take time to tell them that i was being sarcastic which suks.so i advoid sarcasim.

2 more days to go :)
sierra will be in Dublin =o

so i decided to go and meet her in Dublin instead of her taking the bus down to me, and since she is there realy early in the morning, we are gonna go around dublin for the day as she has never been.

yay :)

cant wait!

sorry if im intruding on a big discussion. i need a bit of advice.

my girlfriends parents are right pricks. they only let her out once a weekend. and she always has to ask for extentions on her "curfew" so to speak. which then leads to her getting shouted at later on.

theyre rele strict. anyone got any advice? past experiences?

thanks guys

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]sorry if im intruding on a big discussion. i need a bit of advice.

my girlfriends parents are right pricks. they only let her out once a weekend. and she always has to ask for extentions on her "curfew" so to speak. which then leads to her getting shouted at later on.

theyre rele strict. anyone got any advice? past experiences?

thanks guys[/QUOTE]

I've had past experiences, but it didn't bother me as much as it seems to be bothering you. You are just going to have to learn to deal with it.

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]sorry if im intruding on a big discussion. i need a bit of advice.

my girlfriends parents are right pricks. they only let her out once a weekend. and she always has to ask for extentions on her "curfew" so to speak. which then leads to her getting shouted at later on.

theyre rele strict. anyone got any advice? past experiences?

thanks guys[/QUOTE]
You can't really do anything about it. If it bugs you too much and things aren't too serious, then just break up with her. But if you care about her too much, then you'll have to learn to live with it.

[QUOTE=Tess-Tube Baby]You can't really do anything about it. If it bugs you too much and things aren't too serious, then just break up with her. But if you care about her too much, then you'll have to learn to live with it.[/QUOTE]

yeah but surely theres a way around it?

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]sorry if im intruding on a big discussion. i need a bit of advice.

my girlfriends parents are right pricks. they only let her out once a weekend. and she always has to ask for extentions on her "curfew" so to speak. which then leads to her getting shouted at later on.

theyre rele strict. anyone got any advice? past experiences?

thanks guys[/QUOTE]
how old is she?

[QUOTE=~grif~]how old is she?[/QUOTE]

16 on the 26th may

EDIT: and im 16

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]yeah but surely theres a way around it?[/QUOTE]
Not really.

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]16 on the 26th may[/QUOTE]
well there you have it, she is pretty young, as she gets older she will probably get more time to go out.
maybe in her parents eyes she isnt trust worthy when out.
or maybe they are over protective,

as the lads said, learn to deal with it. Nothing you can do.

[QUOTE=~grif~]well there you have it, she is pretty young, as she gets older she will probably get more time to go out.
maybe in her parents eyes she isnt trust worthy when out.
or maybe they are over protective,

as the lads said, learn to deal with it. Nothing you can do.[/QUOTE]

oh fair enough. cheers anyway guys! :)

[QUOTE=ledzeprock]sorry if im intruding on a big discussion. i need a bit of advice.

my girlfriends parents are right pricks. they only let her out once a weekend. and she always has to ask for extentions on her "curfew" so to speak. which then leads to her getting shouted at later on.

theyre rele strict. anyone got any advice? past experiences?

thanks guys[/QUOTE]
Don't worry about. just abide by their rules and show them you're a good kid, and they'll slowly start letting her have more privilages around you. You gotta understand that they probably don't want their daughter out with some kid.

If I had a daughter, I'd probably rip the head off any male that even looked at her. :p

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Don't worry about. just abide by their rules and show them you're a good kid, and they'll slowly start letting her have more privilages around you. You gotta understand that they probably don't want their daughter out with some kid.

If I had a daughter, I'd probably rip the head off any male that even looked at her. :p[/QUOTE]

its early days. but yeah i did get the "omfg bejesus a boy with my daughter" look when i met them. her mum seemed cool though. friendly like

You just got to wait it out and get them to trust you. It's the only thing you can do without causing any trouble.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You just got to wait it out and get them to trust you. It's the only thing you can do without causing any trouble.[/QUOTE]

touche

Ok problem!

This spring break I want to bring some friends down to my grandmas house at the shore, two guys and two girls. I already got the ok from my rents and the one girls parents said no. Its basically cause they dont know me, so I figure I will try and meet them and see if I can get them to change their minds, any help please! I'm dieing here cause I want her to go BADLY!

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You just got to wait it out and get them to trust you. It's the only thing you can do without causing any trouble.[/QUOTE]

i'm in the same boat. Just try to get by with going out when u can. Once a weekend isnt bad. I cant do anything so be lucky.

[QUOTE=AtomShip]Ok problem!

This spring break I want to bring some friends down to my grandmas house at the shore, two guys and two girls. I already got the ok from my rents and the one girls parents said no. Its basically cause they dont know me, so I figure I will try and meet them and see if I can get them to change their minds, any help please! I'm dieing here cause I want her to go BADLY![/QUOTE]
just be nice, be honest.
Im real good with parents for some reason lol.
dont be an idiot.

and dont come off trying to explain what you are doing down there even if it is just swimming or whatever. dont be suspicious even if you are telling the truth ya know.

but good luck - and have fun.