I need to vent:

Last night I was at a party where I didn't try to hook up with anyone purposely because I didn't want to hurt my recent exes feelings as well as hoping to appear somewhat decent to a girl I'm otherwise infatuated with. I felt good about not doing anything, even if two weeks is a good enough span of time. And just to clarify, I broke up with my ex because I was pretty sure I wasn't in love with her anymore. But now I'm scared.

She's at Kent State right now with a friend. She's normally kind of prude and when we were together wouldn't do a damn thing at these parties. But I'm left here with my imagination and want her to somehow still be there for me and not throw herself at someone.

The whole thing is hypocritical and I should really not care. I do care about her still, it's just not enough compared to how much she cares about me. And I feel terrible for it. Part of me wants her back and for us to be exclusive to each other while another just wants to move on. It'd just be easier if I had something to do on a Saturday night.

I'm not sure now if she would do anything or not; she normally holds back, but I don't know what she'd do with her friend encouraging her or just general wanting to purge me from her system. Bah.

[QUOTE=The Profit of Maine]I need to vent:

Last night I was at a party where I didn't try to hook up with anyone purposely because I didn't want to hurt my recent exes feelings as well as hoping to appear somewhat decent to a girl I'm otherwise infatuated with. I felt good about not doing anything, even if two weeks is a good enough span of time. And just to clarify, I broke up with my ex because I was pretty sure I wasn't in love with her anymore. But now I'm scared.

She's at Kent State right now with a friend. She's normally kind of prude and when we were together wouldn't do a damn thing at these parties. But I'm left here with my imagination and want her to somehow still be there for me and not throw herself at someone.

The whole thing is hypocritical and I should really not care. I do care about her still, it's just not enough compared to how much she cares about me. And I feel terrible for it. Part of me wants her back and for us to be exclusive to each other while another just wants to move on. It'd just be easier if I had [b]something to do on a Saturday night.[/b]

I'm not sure now if she would do anything or not; she normally holds back, but I don't know what she'd do with her friend encouraging her or just general wanting to purge me from her system. Bah.[/QUOTE]

[b]in bold[/b](found it amusing)

its probably that male instict we get, that she was urs and you dont want anyone else to have her because she was yours.

you probably havent let go of her yet - and maybe broke up for the wrong reasons, but you said it was because you arent in love with her anymore, ya sure?

you broke up with her, but did you actually break up with her? if ya know what i mean.

[QUOTE=~grif~][b]in bold[/b](found it amusing)

its probably that male instict we get, that she was urs and you dont want anyone else to have her because she was yours.

you probably havent let go of her yet - and maybe broke up for the wrong reasons, but you said it was because you arent in love with her anymore, ya sure?

you broke up with her, but did you actually break up with her? if ya know what i mean.[/QUOTE]
Heh, that is a little on my mind (hence the hypocrisy).

We broke up. She talked to me a bit afterward, but now she does the whole I-won't-acknowledge-you're-there-and-be-really-awkward thing. Sucks.

I don't know if I'm in love with her anymore or not. I'm pretty sure it's a no because I just get sick of her after three or four weeks together. But I'm never sure if it's just a need for time to get away from people in general or if it's a generally good indicator that things are in the sh[SIZE="2"]it[/SIZE]ter. We did date for almost a year and a half, though, so I'm pretty sure this is normal. Sort of. I don't know, man.

Right I have a kinda wierd sexual question and may be a bit graphic but its not too bad. I know its not allowed but hell just delete it if its too bad.

I've been goin out with my girl for about 6 weeks now and NOTHING has happened besides kissing. Cos shes an innocent little christian girl and didnt wanna pressure her :p Anyways we were in the spa last night and my hands went "down" and inside and I was hella surprises, cos shes loose as.

Now I told you it was wierd. Cos she is a full on virgin, shes only 16 and a christian girl. Though she does a hell of a lot of sports and has been since she was very young. So my question is can all that activity do this to a girl?

Google? I haven't touched anything that loose and as far as I know girls can do exercises to tighten it, so it wouldn't seem like sports would do that.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]So my question is can all that activity do this to a girl?[/QUOTE]

It's been scientifically proven that the whole 'loosey goosey' thing is a myth; the only thing that can loosen a girl's... thingo is child birth (and there's still only a small chance of that happening).

Maybe your hand is just really small......?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]
Well now you have the awareness of issues in your behavior and you can set about fixing them. [/QUOTE]

I thought going 2 weeks without talking to her (meanwhile repeatedly telling myself and everyone else that I'm over her) would do the trick, but it really didn't. Did I mention that I've only seen her 4 times in person?


[QUOTE=Strongbad] If I was in that situation, I'd try and find out what it is that she thinks is creepy about you, that way you can go on about changing it. [/QUOTE]

I didn't need to be told, I figured that it was the frequent compliments (ever been in a situation where you think you're being nice... but you're being [i]too[/i] nice?) and asking her to go to the movies with me everytime I went.

And I've stopped that.

Oh... Strong Bad is awesome! "DELETED!!!!"

[QUOTE=mmfan486]Don't worry about liking girls for the moment; you'll live to see another say and you can deal with girls later. Take a break from "liking" people, and take some time to sort yourself out. You'll probably find that this time next week everything will be much more clear.[/QUOTE]

For about a month I was convinced that I didn't like anyone. And yeah, like I said before, I've tried to get the idea in my head that I don't like her or anyone and I didn't talk to her. Didn't work. She's going away for a week, and there's another girl I'm very interested in (I thought I liked her until a few days ago... and I might be seeing her tommorrow)... so if I don't stop this obsession with her this week then it's pointless continuing to try.

Thanks guys.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Right I have a kinda wierd sexual question and may be a bit graphic but its not too bad. I know its not allowed but hell just delete it if its too bad.

I've been goin out with my girl for about 6 weeks now and NOTHING has happened besides kissing. Cos shes an innocent little christian girl and didnt wanna pressure her :p Anyways we were in the spa last night and my hands went "down" and inside and I was hella surprises, cos shes loose as.

Now I told you it was wierd. Cos she is a full on virgin, shes only 16 and a christian girl. Though she does a hell of a lot of sports and has been since she was very young. So my question is can all that activity do this to a girl?[/QUOTE]


6 weeks? wow thats long. The 2nd time i was with my gf i fingered her. She is a virgin too but she was not very tight. She might be loose because she might masterbate a lot or i dont know.

Thats all i have to say.

[QUOTE=Werny]I thought going 2 weeks without talking to her (meanwhile repeatedly telling myself and everyone else that I'm over her) would do the trick, but it really didn't. Did I mention that I've only seen her 4 times in person?[/QUOTE]

That's not fixing things. That's the white bear principle.

The problem here is not with her, it's with you. You need to stop and analyze your behavior. Think of yourself from the perspective of an outsider looking in. You obviously have a lot of social issues you need to work out. Fix those. Nevermind the girl herself, focus on [i]you[/i].

If different people are telling you at the same time that you're creepy, then there's something wrong with [i]you[/i] that you need to get under control.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]That's not fixing things. That's the white bear principle.

The problem here is not with her, it's with you. You need to stop and analyze your behavior. Think of yourself from the perspective of an outsider looking in. You obviously have a lot of social issues you need to work out. Fix those. Nevermind the girl herself, focus on [i]you[/i].

If different people are telling you at the same time that you're creepy, then there's something wrong with [i]you[/i] that you need to get under control.[/QUOTE]

What what whaaat... yes I know there's something wrong with me. I never said there's a problem with her.

I know I'm obsessive and creepy with the way I talk to her, and I've stopped that. That problem has been recognised and is 90% fixed. All I'm trying to do is stop liking her, stop thinking about her etc., and other than cutting off contact with her (which has been unsuccessful) I can't see any other way to do it.

The only solution is to go after/fall for someone else, in my eyes. And I see myself doing that (possibly even by the end of tommorrow).

But hey. Point of this post is that I know I'm the problem and I'm trying to fix that.

[QUOTE=Jom]Okay, Captain Manbitch of the SS Whipped...[/QUOTE]
Dude, you are taking my post way too seriously. I am certainly not whipped by this new girl. Not yet anyway. I'm trying my best not to let that happen. :)

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Dude, you are taking my post way too seriously. I am certainly not whipped by this new girl. Not yet anyway. I'm trying my best not to let that happen. :)[/QUOTE]

Ahoy there, Captain!

I am not allowed to joke on the Internet, apparently!

It was a QC quotation, anyway - I didn't expect everyone to catch the reference, heh.

///

BrownSugar: exercise and tampon usage can make a girl lose her hymen, but it's not going to make her vag canal huge all of a sudden.

Maybe you have small fingers ;)

[QUOTE=Destined_for]6 weeks? wow thats long. The 2nd time i was with my gf i fingered her. She is a virgin too but she was not very tight. She might be loose because she might masterbate a lot or i dont know.

Thats all i have to say.[/QUOTE]

Hmm I know. Had sex with my ex after the first week. Its possible I guess but she doesnt seem the type. Though I guess girls hide a lot lol.

*quotes self*

[QUOTE=Werny]
It's been scientifically proven that the whole 'loosey goosey' thing is a myth; the only thing that can loosen a girl's... thingo is child birth (and there's still only a small chance of that happening).

Maybe your hand is just really small......?[/QUOTE]

Heh yeah saw that after I posted. I have small hands anyway but it just seems larger than any other girl I've been with. Like the first bit is tight but go in a bit more and it opens up a fair bit. :confused: meh.

[QUOTE=Werny]*quotes self*[/QUOTE]

This might be inappropriate here...but I'm REALLY tight.

*ducks the yelling at me*

But, I've not had any children, except y'all.

[QUOTE=Jom]Ahoy there, Captain!

I am not allowed to joke on the Internet, apparently!

It was a QC quotation, anyway - I didn't expect everyone to catch the reference, heh.[/QUOTE]
Oh, my bad then. I thought you were just being mean. :p

Btw, Kristen is here so shush. <.< (she's playing a LOTR game I have, so I'm wasting time until she's done. :upset: )

Alright, I have a problem...it's not with a girl or anything, it's me. Whenever I see my girl (I use this term loosely (no pun intended), because we aren't 'officially' together) texting or getting calls from other guys, I automatically assume something is up with them. Then I start worrying, and my imagination takes me away. I don't want to bother asking because I don't want to come off as a jealous *** hole, which I think I am. My last girlfriend cheated on me, I don't want to go into it, but it left me with trust issues. Can anyone help me get rid of this?

It's natural. And all you can do is go with whatever your gut says...

Well with my last girlfriend, the one that cheated, I always suspected things waay before she actually did cheat. And she lives a little more than a half an hour away, so that didn't help. But we always got into fights because my imagination always gets the better of me, and I don't want that to happen in this relationship.

Imagination is one thing...gut feeling is another.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Heh yeah saw that after I posted. I have small hands anyway but it just seems larger than any other girl I've been with. Like the first bit is tight but go in a bit more and it opens up a fair bit. :confused: meh.[/QUOTE]

Girls all have different levels of... 'tightness'? Yeah.

Basically, yeah, nothing made her go all loosey goosey, it was born that big (wide?)

Mate I used to have this problem as well. You just gotta accept that she will have mates that are guys. And unless you get evidence that shes doing somethin behind your back dont worry about it. If she does actually like you and you picked a good girl there'll be no problem. And if it does happen it happens. Nothing can be done, just gotta be a man and move on, thats life.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Imagination is one thing...gut feeling is another.[/QUOTE]
Thank you, that helps me. I'll try to remember that next time I start imagining sh[I]i[/I]t

EDIT: To Brown Sugar: how did you get over it?

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Thank you, that helps me. I'll try to remember that next time I start imagining sh[I]i[/I]t

EDIT: To Brown Sugar: how did you get over it?[/QUOTE]

The only real way to get over it is to just trust her. It can be bloody hard but you just gotta keep thinking she wouldn't do anything like that and be honest to her yourself. If shes decent she'll see that and then shes less likely to do anything.

Thanks, I'll get working on it

For those of you who have kept up with my story, I've decided to give you an update of what's been going on with me. Yahhhhh, its been awhile.

Anyways, if you care at all, here it is:


The main thing was that girl Wynston. And as of now, it looks like we're just gonna stay very good friends. And you know what? I think I can say....that I'm [B]very[/B] happy and content with that.

Wynston had a boyfriend, he broke up with her, but Wynston still likes the guy, Long and confusing story, and that's just the short outline of it. I'm gonna try all I can to help Wynston get that guy back, and if not, just try and get her through the heartbreak. Cause, I know she loved that guy.

And other than that, this other girl Ellie liked me. A lot. Along with another girl, Brittany. A lot. Ellie's a pretty good friend and all, but she's just not for me. And as far as I know, she dosen't like me anymore(its good to have Wynston as a friend =), hehe). So, that's basically over. And with Brittany....I randomly met her one night. Most of my friends didn't reall approve of her. I did actually like her a little bit. I mean, we get along great. I could go on dates with her and all that, but honestly, just not someone I could have a long-term, meaningful relationship with. Once again, SOOO much to explain, but I won't even go into it. Needless to say....we played truth or dare last night, and she got dared to kiss me. And yah, that was cool and all....but she really likes me again, a lot. And...while I am flattered, I know that I don't want to be in a relationship with her. So, I don't wanna hurt her again by rejecting her(yeah, its happened several times with her). Blah blah blah, I think we'll end up hanging out a lot this Spring Break. I guess we'll just see what happens.


I think, just maybe, I'm having fun being single right now. I wanna screw around. If that 'one' girl comes around, that I could have a true relationship with, then I'll be happier than ever to have something like that. But until then, I'm not gonna stress about not having a girlfriend. I'm jsut gonna have fun until that time comes.

Speaking of having fun(You know it, hahaha):

There's this girl named Breanna. She used to live by my neighborhood, and she's friends with all my friends. Now she's living in South Carolina. But wait!! 1) She's moving back. 2) She's visiting to look for houses. Today. I jsut might get to meet her if I'm lucky. It depends on when I get back home from visiting my mom's place today. *crosses fingers*. 3)Even if I miss my chance(and that will suck), I've been told that she might be coming back down here next week, while she's on her own spring break.

And what's the point of all this?

She seems very cool. And she jokes a lot about wanting to make out and stuff. She flirts sooo much. But the thing is, I don't really think she's completely joking. Knowing what I know, she'll have some fun. She thinks I'm hot and all(yay), so maybe I'll have the chance to have some fun, and jsut make out with some girl this spring break(keep in mind I've never made out before).

One last thing. She's a model.

Normally, i wouldn't post pictures of people I know on this forum, but I really wanan rub it in your faces:

[url]http://i1.tinypic.com/rrr149.jpg[/url]

[url]http://i1.tinypic.com/rrr1a8.jpg[/url]

So, hopefully things work out. It seems like she's interested in me. Oh yeah, except for that fact that I'm shorter than her. Yahh, I'm a shorty. Oh well, hasn't held me back in the past. She said it would be awkward, but if we were really gonna have some fun, I'm sure she'll get over it.



Okay, enough of me blabbing. Its been awhile.

[QUOTE=Dude3]For those of you who have kept up with my story, I've decided to give you an update of what's been going on with me. Yahhhhh, its been awhile.

Anyways, if you care at all, here it is:


The main thing was that girl Wynston. And as of now, it looks like we're just gonna stay very good friends. And you know what? I think I can say....that I'm [B]very[/B] happy and content with that.

Wynston had a boyfriend, he broke up with her, but Wynston still likes the guy, Long and confusing story, and that's just the short outline of it. I'm gonna try all I can to help Wynston get that guy back, and if not, just try and get her through the heartbreak. Cause, I know she loved that guy.

And other than that, this other girl Ellie liked me. A lot. Along with another girl, Brittany. A lot. Ellie's a pretty good friend and all, but she's just not for me. And as far as I know, she dosen't like me anymore(its good to have Wynston as a friend =), hehe). So, that's basically over. And with Brittany....I randomly met her one night. Most of my friends didn't reall approve of her. I did actually like her a little bit. I mean, we get along great. I could go on dates with her and all that, but honestly, just not someone I could have a long-term, meaningful relationship with. Once again, SOOO much to explain, but I won't even go into it. Needless to say....we played truth or dare last night, and she got dared to kiss me. And yah, that was cool and all....but she really likes me again, a lot. And...while I am flattered, I know that I don't want to be in a relationship with her. So, I don't wanna hurt her again by rejecting her(yeah, its happened several times with her). Blah blah blah, I think we'll end up hanging out a lot this Spring Break. I guess we'll just see what happens.


I think, just maybe, I'm having fun being single right now. I wanna screw around. If that 'one' girl comes around, that I could have a true relationship with, then I'll be happier than ever to have something like that. But until then, I'm not gonna stress about not having a girlfriend. I'm jsut gonna have fun until that time comes.

Speaking of having fun(You know it, hahaha):

There's this girl named Breanna. She used to live by my neighborhood, and she's friends with all my friends. Now she's living in South Carolina. But wait!! 1) She's moving back. 2) She's visiting to look for houses. Today. I jsut might get to meet her if I'm lucky. It depends on when I get back home from visiting my mom's place today. *crosses fingers*. 3)Even if I miss my chance(and that will suck), I've been told that she might be coming back down here next week, while she's on her own spring break.

And what's the point of all this?

She seems very cool. And she jokes a lot about wanting to make out and stuff. She flirts sooo much. But the thing is, I don't really think she's completely joking. Knowing what I know, she'll have some fun. She thinks I'm hot and all(yay), so maybe I'll have the chance to have some fun, and jsut make out with some girl this spring break(keep in mind I've never made out before).

One last thing. She's a model.

Normally, i wouldn't post pictures of people I know on this forum, but I really wanan rub it in your faces:

[url]http://i1.tinypic.com/rrr149.jpg[/url]

[url]http://i1.tinypic.com/rrr1a8.jpg[/url]

So, hopefully things work out. It seems like she's interested in me. Oh yeah, except for that fact that I'm shorter than her. Yahh, I'm a shorty. Oh well, hasn't held me back in the past. She said it would be awkward, but if we were really gonna have some fun, I'm sure she'll get over it.



Okay, enough of me blabbing. Its been awhile.[/QUOTE]

Im glad to hear things are going well for you :) Not too much else I can say, which is a good thing, but I hope things keep up the way they are!

[quote=Dude3]http://i1.tinypic.com/rrr149.jpg[/quote]

Bwahaha, robbing the cradle, are you?

[QUOTE=Jom]Bwahaha, robbing the cradle, are you?[/QUOTE]
Haha, true dat.

Just kidding, I'm only 15.

Man we dont have girls like that here. I'm movin to your country.