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what specificallly is wrong? anything?

[QUOTE=The Fonz][url]http://nowtowns.com/media/photo/16943-5670-sadpanda_thumb_large.jpg[/url] ?

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what specificallly is wrong? anything?[/QUOTE]


Well most of my friends deserted me or we just dont talk anymore. Me and my gf just broke up and i just feel like sh[B]i[/B]t

ahhh, i see, yeah, that can tottaly suck. i went through a thing like that. but then, out of neccesity, i became much more social, and have bunch of cool friends now.


...ohh kimmmiieeeeeeee whhhheeerrrreee arrreee youuuu

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]Well most of my friends deserted me or we just dont talk anymore. Me and my gf just broke up and i just feel like sh[B]i[/B]t[/QUOTE]

Lately ive realised alot of my old friends no longer wanna hang out with me, and alot of the ones i still have are usuallys arseholes alot of the time, it sucks i know man.

Have you got any mates who still hang out with you? Just spend time with em and try to have a good time. If not try making some new friends, when i moved schools i had to make new friends all over but it usually happens pretty quick.

Why did your friends just desert you?

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Lately ive realised alot of my old friends no longer wanna hang out with me, and alot of the ones i still have are usuallys arseholes alot of the time, it sucks i know man.

Have you got any mates who still hang out with you? Just spend time with em and try to have a good time. If not try making some new friends, when i moved schools i had to make new friends all over but it usually happens pretty quick.

Why did your friends just desert you?[/QUOTE]


There arseholes.

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]There arseholes.[/QUOTE]

Ahh i see, sounds alot like the ones i used to hang out with. So are there other friends you can hang out with? And what happened with your girl?

So, because of the whole parent thing, Pamela and I ALMOST broke up. We talked to eachother about it and decided to stay together.

I talked to her parents, and they've agreed to let me go over to their house and her come over to mine, just a little less often, seeing as I was over there pretty much everyday.

So yeah, go me. :)

[QUOTE=Tillius]So, because of the whole parent thing, Pamela and I ALMOST broke up. We talked to eachother about it and decided to stay together.

I talked to her parents, and they've agreed to let me go over to their house and her come over to mine, just a little less often, seeing as I was over there pretty much everyday.

So yeah, go me. :)[/QUOTE]

That's good to hear.:thumb:

OOOHH!!!! I'm so happy, Elyse's parents decided not to punish her because they found it unfair and wouldn't help matters, and just make them worse if she couldn't see her friends. So we both plan to go to the mall this weekend like originally. SO HAPPY!!!! :D

[QUOTE=Pazz]That's good to hear.:thumb:[/QUOTE]
Yeah.

Apparently her mom talked to a [I]male adult[/I] whose [I]good friends[/I] with me and heard nothing but [I]good things[/I].

yay for both of ye :D
*grif goes and smokes a mayfair*

Aint it good when things work emselves out. Good to hear both of you.

[QUOTE=~grif~]So sierra just rang me up and i dono what im feeling or anything but im just like :confused:
She was at the pub tonight with friends and she was telling me how she needs my advice on what to do - and tells me she was talking to this canadian guy with the group all night, and at the end he asked her out on a date and she thinking it was with everyone says yea and then she tells me "she realised" it was just him and her.
And im like ? how could you miss that ?
I didnt really say anything on it I was just kinda pissed or something. She was asking me if she should Stand him Up and i just said "do what you want to do" and then we started talking about how drunk she was, then i had to go and she was feeling sick anyawy. A 15min phonecall, prolly one of the shortest phonecals ive ever had with her and right now ive got this gut feeling in my stomach about it and yea.
Told her i had to go, just said bye and hungup the phone real fast. Well yea she was feeling sick so hopefully she is alright :upset:[/QUOTE]

She needs to get ahold of this Canadian guy and tell him she didn't realize that the date would be just her and him, and that she has a boyfriend.

[quote=The Fonz]...ohh kimmmiieeeeeeee whhhheeerrrreee arrreee youuuu[/quote]

I'm here, but I'm leaving in like 10 minutes to go home from work.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]She needs to get ahold of this Canadian guy and tell him she didn't realize that the date would be just her and him, and that she has a boyfriend.



I'm here, but I'm leaving in like 10 minutes to go home from work.[/QUOTE]

If you had to say, would the best way to get some "sort of friends" as in, new ones, who are friends witha friend, you like you more, and they were all badgering you know, "you wanna give me one" "PFTT no" would the best way to handle it be to just be nice, and give in, or stand my ground, but still give in every so often so they dont think im a jerk (george washington style)

Im sorry its so porrly typed. I'm tired and bored out of my mind.

haha, wow, thats really hard to read. sorry. just ignore it. Its not a big problem. and its slowly working itself out.

Okay.

I tried to put my mind around it but it wasn't happening. :p

[U]In Dis Post:[/U]

I suck at judging whether people like me or not.

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Ahh i see, sounds alot like the ones i used to hang out with. So are there other friends you can hang out with? And what happened with your girl?[/QUOTE]


It something i would not rather explain.

Yeah grif i agree with kimmie that she has to tell the canadian guy about the mixup. It would be unfair on both you and him if she was to leave it. But i wouldn't be too worried yourself about your gf, its pretty obvious she cares a great deal about you and if she had any intention of actually going on the date then she wouldn't have told you. I reckon she probably feels a little guilty and thinks you are upset with her about this. Anyways good luck im sure you two can work it out fine.

EDIT: To John:

Fair enough, sounds like you need some time to just think to yourself, listen to some soothing music and forget about all this crap in your life at the moment. It helps alot, and after that, go out and try to make new friends, have fun and forget about those arseholes.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Okay.

I tried to put my mind around it but it wasn't happening. :p[/QUOTE]

Its made sense up here*points to head*, but when i type it, it just doesnt work out. It happenes alot. I'm tired. sorry. lol

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Yeah grif i agree with kimmie that she has to tell the canadian guy about the mixup. It would be unfair on both you and him if she was to leave it. But i wouldn't be too worried yourself about your gf, its pretty obvious she cares a great deal about you and if she had any intention of actually going on the date then she wouldn't have told you. I reckon she probably feels a little guilty and thinks you are upset with her about this. Anyways good luck im sure you two can work it out fine.
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Thanks man, that made me feel better :) You make sense.

Thanks chaindrive too..

im not going to ask her to explain the mix up or stand him up. She'll know what to do, she'll do the right thing. I know she will.
Maybe il suggest it lol

I feel like my story is probably the typical story of peoples lives but I'm going to vent and maybe someone will have some advice. I've lived in a small town for the past six years and since i started school then in 6th grade I've had this one really close friend who, get this, is a girl. Unbeliveable I know. Shes always been a really good friend and we started to get really close until about 9th grade when due to schedualing we didnt see much of each other for a year.

Its now 11th grade and we are both taking the same class at a vocational school that gets us away from our home school for about 2 hours and a 20 minute bus ride there and back. We spend alot of time together now both in class, on the bus, and on the weekends when we often do things with our 2 other best friends. I guess I should mention that Ive started to have really strong feelings for her. I've been really subtle with letting my feelings show because I dont want her to feel pressured. She had bad experiences with guys using her during the time when we werent in contact (aparently she gives great... but anyway) so now she is afraid of being close to anybody. She puts up huge walls that stop her from being close to anyone or even come in physical contact with guys other than very close friends. I fear that coming right out and telling her how I feel would only push her away or flat out ruin a great freindship. I want to help break down the walls and make her feel like shes the most important thing in the world to me. I dont want her to be uncomfortable or feel used. I know she loves me in at least a platonic way and maybe even more and she knows I love her in the same platonic way but I dont think she knows that my feelings go beyond that. So i guess what im wondering is is a relationship anything to risk a friendship over and what would be the best way to get closer to her. Im not looking for just a quick screw or friends with benifits, in fact its the furthest thing from it. At the very least I just want to make her feel loved and important because I know its what she has always wanted and never had. I dont care if i get anything out of it other than being closer to her and seeing her happy. This sounds very very chessy in a lame highschool way but its true.

Thank you for your time in listening to my crap.

Life isnt easy. Thats for sure.

[QUOTE=~grif~]Thanks man, that made me feel better :) You make sense.

Thanks chaindrive too..

im not going to ask her to explain the mix up or stand him up. She'll know what to do, she'll do the right thing. I know she will.
Maybe il suggest it lol[/QUOTE]

No worries. Hows the sleeping arrangements for her visit going? Convinced her to not sleep on the street yet?

[QUOTE=AC/DC Rocker]Thank you for your time in listening to my crap.[/QUOTE]

First of all it is not crap, its a perfectly reasonable situation to fall for someone you are that close to.

If you really feel that strongly for her, and want to let her know without making her feel pressured, put up walls etc. Just make it painfully obvious that you really care about her, that you're not in it for "a quick screw", and maybe even that you were in fact scared about letting her know your feelings because you didn't want to jeapordise your friendship.

Do it whenever it feels most right and comfortable as it is a risky step and yes, there is a chance she will react in the way you worry about, but there always will be. I can't tell you the best way to tell her about this, you know her best and know about these bad things that have happened to her in the past, just don't be like these other guys. Maybe if you haven't already, before talking to her about it, build up to it by being there to listen and talk to her about her bad experiences, (Im assuming you probably already talk to her about this kinda stuff anyway). Anyway best of luck you'll figure out how to say it.

The-piper:

Just read this post and they will explain everything

[url]http://musicianforums.com/forums/showpost.php?p=11718079&postcount=2152[/url]

EDIT: There is my story

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]The-piper:

Just read this post and they will explain everything

[url]http://musicianforums.com/forums/showpost.php?p=11718079&postcount=2152[/url][/QUOTE]

Oh man i can't imagine how that must feel. :upset:

Im real sorry for you man, and for all that to happen at once with your
d[SIZE="2"]ick[/SIZE]head mates deserting. Argh thats bad.

A while back my godfathers wife left him and ran off with some other guy, he took it really badly too. He just went out to his piece of land and started working on building a house there and fixing the place up. It really helped him get his mind off things and last time i saw him he was doing great.

All i can suggest is that you get your mind off this mess somehow, focus your attention on something you love doing, your instrument for example. You could try getting rid of these feelings of sadness by either confronting them and maybe write a song, poem etc. Or what i think you could really do with is a good friend to hang out with. Have some fun and take some time out for yourself. There will be other women and you'll get back on your feet eventually.

I know letting go of your feelings for someone who means the world to you can be hard, very hard, but until you do i think this depressiveness will stay along with them. So find a good mate, (im hoping they didn't all leave?) and try to forget about her. As i said, there will be other fish in the sea, as corny and cliche as that is, it is the fundamental thought in a breakup.

Keep us posted on how things are going.

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Oh man i can't imagine how that must feel. :upset:

Im real sorry for you man, and for all that to happen at once with your
d[SIZE="2"]ick[/SIZE]head mates deserting. Argh thats bad.

A while back my godfathers wife left him and ran off with some other guy, he took it really badly too. He just went out to his piece of land and started working on building a house there and fixing the place up. It really helped him get his mind off things and last time i saw him he was doing great.

All i can suggest is that you get your mind off this mess somehow, focus your attention on something you love doing, your instrument for example. You could try getting rid of these feelings of sadness by either confronting them and maybe write a song, poem etc. Or what i think you could really do with is a good friend to hang out with. Have some fun and take some time out for yourself. There will be other women and you'll get back on your feet eventually.

I know letting go of your feelings for someone who means the world to you can be hard, very hard, but until you do i think this depressiveness will stay along with them. So find a good mate, (im hoping they didn't all leave?) and try to forget about her. As i said, there will be other fish in the sea, as corny and cliche as that is, it is the fundamental thought in a breakup.

Keep us posted on how things are going.[/QUOTE]


Thanks for the help.

Right now i am doing pretty bad. But life isnt easy, but im dealing with it. Usually to take things off my mind i just listen to music. Its helps a lot.

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]Thanks for the help.

Right now i am doing pretty bad. But life isnt easy, but im dealing with it. Usually to take things off my mind i just listen to music. Its helps a lot.[/QUOTE]

No worries i hope it helps somewhat. I find music to be very comforting too :)

[QUOTE=The-Piper]No worries i hope it helps somewhat. I find music to be very comforting too :)[/QUOTE]


Why dont u have that much post count? You have been here since april 2005

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]Thanks for the help.

Right now i am doing pretty bad. But life isnt easy, but im dealing with it. Usually to take things off my mind i just listen to music. Its helps a lot.[/QUOTE]

Its normal for someone to be doing bad after that. But ya taking your mind off of things really helps. Like the other day I almost killed a ladies baby (long story0 and I feel terribly guilty about it. I have been trying to help her with her baby and stuff and When I can't help her I'll go running or working on my drums to get my mind off of it. It really helps. I do recommend doing some charity work and stuff, Because when I do that stuff I feel great about myself, and I think it could help you in your situation.

Also. I am in a situation guys. Tell me if this is strange. I like one girl alot and she likes another guy, she happens to be the complete opposite of me, she likes to have fun, but she goes beyond the limits, (like hard core drinking and drumgs) I don't drink or anything and yet I don't mind it at all. but She is still a toatal over achiever aswell, her average is a 94, Mine is a 74 and Im in grd 9 math (Im in grd 10). Her and I are great I mean GREAT friends. And I like her alot, yet she is the preppy popular type that cares alot about what her friends think, And I could care less what ppl think. Also. There is another girl I like, who is just like me, she loves talking about music and musical theory, Her and I decipher meanings to Lyrics and Poems,And Philosophic Scriptures together all the time, We Are both apart of our Green team (Recycling and stuff) and Amnesty International (helping other countries) groups at school. And We like all the same stuff. And yet I like the Popular girl even more than her. I dot get why I don't like the girl who is perfect for me in everyway more than the girl who is what I hate in ppl???

[QUOTE=JohnnyT]Why dont u have that much post count? You have been here since april 2005[/QUOTE]

Haha yeah, when i joined i didn't post that much really, and just now i'm starting to become more active on here. Its funny seeing people with february 2006 join dates who have higher post counts than me.

[QUOTE=White]I dot get why I don't like the girl who is perfect for me in everyway more than the girl who is what I hate in ppl???[/QUOTE]

Attraction can be very strange sometimes, like when some guys would question anothers interests in a physically unnatractive girl. He sees in her ways others don't.

Is your attraction to the popular girl based much on physical appeal?

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Haha yeah, when i joined i didn't post that much really, and just now i'm starting to become more active on here. Its funny seeing people with february 2006 join dates who have higher post counts than me.



Attraction can be very strange sometimes, like when some guys would question anothers interests in a physically unnatractive girl. He sees in her ways others don't.

Is your attraction to the popular girl based much on physical appeal?[/QUOTE]



I really didnt start posting for a while too. I was really lazy in the ol' days.

[QUOTE=The-Piper]



Attraction can be very strange sometimes, like when some guys would question anothers interests in a physically unnatractive girl. He sees in her ways others don't.

Is your attraction to the popular girl based much on physical appeal?[/QUOTE]

That is one thing that is scarring me, it may be because of physical appearance, as much as I don't want it to I can't help but think it is.

[QUOTE=White]That is one thing that is scarring me, it may be because of physical appearance, as much as I don't want it to I can't help but think it is.[/QUOTE]

You shouldn't be scared of being attracted for physical appearance, our main sensory organs are our eyes, so its natural to be attracted to someone good looking. After that its up to you to decide if her personality holds up to what the looks promise. It seems that you are already good friends so im assuming you like her personality already? Everything seems to be in place here, i say go for it.

Yes. I like her personality Alot. But I don't like how she will do anything because her friends say its a good Idea, and she cares so mucha bout how she looks. The aother girl looks Hot and she dresses unique, I love that about her, but she doesnt know I like her yet, And The one I really like does, and she turned me down. so Im wondering whether to give up on her and go for the one whos just like m. or keep trying.

Just an insert here, then carry on.

As you get older appearances don't matter in the least.

[QUOTE=White]Yes. I like her personality Alot. But I don't like how she will do anything because her friends say its a good Idea, and she cares so mucha bout how she looks. The aother girl looks Hot and she dresses unique, I love that about her, but she doesnt know I like her yet, And The one I really like does, and she turned me down. so Im wondering whether to give up on her and go for the one whos just like m. or keep trying.[/QUOTE]

Hmm that makes things a little complicated, but in my experience, when a girl by the description of girl A turns you down, chances are she wont say yes second time round. I don't know this girl so you'll have to decide that for yourself. Stay friends with her by all means, as long as she cares about your interests theres nothing wrong with her being the complete opposite to you.

As for girl B, she sounds perfect for you, and maybe the reason you haven't been as interested in her as girl A is because you liked girl A in the first place?
It's not uncommon to completely miss someone standing right infront of you because you're so into another person.

Its up to you who you think you have a better chance with, but i wouldn't wait around for girl A, especially since she turned you down, when theres a chance for a great relationship in girl B.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Just an insert here, then carry on.

As you get older appearances don't matter in the least.[/QUOTE]

I tell that to my friends all the time.

"When you're 80 are you really going to care about how *insert name here* looks. I think youll be more worried about the personality of such and such at that age"

But nope :(, they're teenagers afterall.

[QUOTE=The-Piper]No worries. Hows the sleeping arrangements for her visit going? Convinced her to not sleep on the street yet?
[/QUOTE]
she is staying in a guest house, but the last night she has nowhere to stay so im gona make her sleep in my bed lol

[QUOTE=~grif~]she is staying in a guest house, but the last night she has nowhere to stay so im gona make her sleep in my bed lol[/QUOTE]

Haha have fun. Hows your parents on that one? Have they agreed to let her stay?

[QUOTE=The-Piper]I tell that to my friends all the time.

"When you're 80 are you really going to care about how *insert name here* looks. I think youll be more worried about the personality of such and such at that age"

But nope :(, they're teenagers afterall.[/QUOTE]

I wasn't one of "those" teenagers" that I can recall. Didn't matter what anyone looked like...it mattered whether I could have fun with them. Funny is of utmost important to me.

[QUOTE=The-Piper]Haha have fun. Hows your parents on that one? Have they agreed to let her stay?[/QUOTE]
Well she really thinks my family hate her for some reason, my mom said something pretty bad about her when i was on the phone to her one time and she heard it, got pretty upset about it and dosent really want to meet my mom. But since everyone goes to school/work in the morning, il just walk up with her at midnight sometime and she can sleep in my room before she flies home :( the following day.

I really hate how we only ever have a week together. Really pisses me off. Knowing that she has to go and that we have limited time.

:upset: