[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Elaborate if you don't mind.[/QUOTE]
All I can say is that I think my past is about to catch up to me.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?[/QUOTE]


It does. But are there more important things to worry about. I hate worring so i try not to think at all. its really easy.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?[/QUOTE]

Yes, but just as long as you make her feel special and wipe away her tears when she cries and all that, you'll be just fine.

What did her previous boyfriends do, may I ask?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Yes, but just as long as you make her feel special and wipe away her tears when she cries and all that, you'll be just fine.

What did her previous boyfriends do, may I ask?[/QUOTE]

Slept with one of her best friends....And I hear he's just generally an as[B][I][/B][/I]s hole and they fought a lot.

Well, then, the chances of you and her staying together are very high. :thumb:

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well, then, the chances of you and her staying together are very high. :thumb:[/QUOTE]

I could've told you that :p I can't foresee any problems in our relationship. Coicidentally the aforementioned friend of hers is one of my good friends too. Before we started dating (or when it became more apparent that we "liked" each other) the friend started being more....umm affectionate towards me. I thought nothing of it as usual; but apparently my girlfriend was made uneasy by it.

I'm not sure if they ever actually talked about it or not but my girlfriend and I talked about it and I assured her that I'd never cheat on her. So I'm pretty sure we'll be together for quite some time. That was dangerously close to being off topic so I'll stop now.

[QUOTE=Eggo]For not much experience with these matters, you give quite good advice :-P[/QUOTE]

I make it my business to know people. I may not be a been-there-done-that sort of guy, but that doesn't mean I don't know what's going on.

/shrug

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]

You're gonna hate me when I'm done.

Did you ever see the movie Sideways? Miles spent the entire movie trying in vain to come out of his shell because in front of him was the perfect woman for him and she clearly was interested. But by the time he finally got his act together, she had already moved on.

You are Miles in this scenario. She was interested, but instead of biting the bullet then and taking some action, you let it slowly peter out until she came to the conclusion that [i]you[/i] weren't interested in [i]her[/i].

Telling her now that you love her won't help all that much. In her mind, you're lodged too firmly in the just-friends zone.

But that's not to say you should give up on her. If you still care about her, you still need to find a way to keep her from making a mistake like dating selfish prick. I can't tell you how to do that. But it is time for you to take a stand.

[QUOTE=Tillius]All I can say is that I think my past is about to catch up to me.[/QUOTE]


How so?

wait, was it you.. with the girlfirend trip, and the mom. and the fininding out?



Edit- VVVVVVVVV Yeah, jom, you're right VVVVV
(I fayle at down arrows)

Nah, that wasn't him, that was ~grif~, I think.

I have Kristen on the phone aww-ing over all the pics on Cuteoverload.com. How do I make it stop? Haha

[b][size=300]HANG UP THE PHONE, GENIUS.[/b][/size]

Heh.

Big meanie. :p

She's been doing this for thirty minutes! rofl

Okay, Captain Manbitch of the SS Whipped...

God, come on guys, stop the spam.




<_<
>_>
cuteoverload.com ftw.

One can't help but laught at your situation. But I'd be there too if my girlfriend found something like that while on the phone with me.

This is a message from the recently banned Tojes, as he cannot say it himself:

[Quote=TojesDolan] To Kimmie (and whoever was offended by me in this ocassion: )


I have to start by saying I am profoundly sorry for being a prick in S&L. The reason I made that demeaning post was in a joking way, and was never demeaning to the capacity of Kimmie to make a critique.

However, putting myself in her place, being a complete newbie at there, it must be hard to find some sort of friendly environment, and I failed at trying to be funny, and somehow show her "hey kimmie we are friends arent we? lol hey joke"

I completely understand that Kimmie may have felt bad for my improper response in S&L, which I understand was immature and completely out of context.

Kimmie, I hope you didn't take it the wrong way: I'm no one to go talking trash about people on the internet. I don't have the right nation, internet service or cultural elements to even misdemean a person in the internet, and I hope you understand I was just joking around with you, in a very, very harsh way, I must add.

In all seriousness, I hope you see that this answer was true and it wasn't just to get my account back. If I had known you'd take the message the wrong way, I'd have never done it in the first place.

Cheers, and thanks for the read.

EDIT: Yes I know I passed the 15 minutes but it took me forever trying to register a new account, and my computer died for a second, so it took me about half an hour. :- /[/Quote]

well.Wow.That was a let down. Today I FINALLY decided to tell my good friend that I liked her for liek the past year I ahve been meaning to do this/ask her out, but iw as never sure. FINALLY, I told her today, becaue I wa SURE, SURE, she liked me now.so Yeah we were talking (we are really good friends) and yeah ,we got onto the good old memories, of when we got a week off of classes this year, because Her old boyfriend try'd to rape her and me and her just at out n the hall and talked all day everyday for a week then the teachers made us go back to class. But yeah ,then i finally told her after we ate Pizza and stuff (we do it every Friday).When i todl her, I was expecting like a Hug or a kiss. Something affectionate. I just got this Sad look towards me, and then she said "Jeff> Yesterday Ryan Asked me out (a guy at her work). THat was folwed by another sadder look. then "I'm sorry, but I like him." well yeah I learn to deal with what happens in the wrold around me/to me, but this was just wierd, I actually didn't know what to say to her to make her feel better (I felt really bad to have to put her throguh that) but i just couldn't I just looked straight forward as she hugged me, then she ran off crying.

The only thing that im really mad about is that I ruined our friendship. We had a wicked friendship. WE could Talk about anything we wanted, and in a moment. I ruined it. But mroe surprising, I was sad that when she was crying, I couldn'tthink of anything to make her feel better, My mind wa blank, usually I can jsut say one Quote or something of mine. but I ahd nothing.

What do i do, Im sure as hell not going to call her, thats just a sad way of repairing things, I gotta talk to her in person, and right now, as we speak, she is on a date with him. its really bothering me.

You didn't ruin anything, man. You told her how you felt, there's no shame in that.

Here's the thing: it seems like she knew this was coming one day, but she never prepared for it because she didn't actually expect it to happen.

Do you ever play things out in your mind, like you're rehearsing them? She probably rehearsed that that would happen, but she never expected you to say it the day after some guy from her work asked her out.

Hence, when you finally said it, she was like, "This can't be happening," and her only reaction was to cry.

Here's another thing: maybe the date won't go well.

Things are going to be a bit awkward, naturally, but things will calm down if you guys are as cool as you say. You guys can still be good friends after the butterflies and nerves expire.

Sorry to hear that man, and you didnt ruin anything

Truth be told, she's probably having a crap date, becoz she is upset and keeps thinking about you, and its probably pissing her date off, and then they'll get in a fight about it, then they'll storm out (no1 paying the bill) she'll drive over to your house, you will comfort her and calm her down then you can <insert nughty action here>

good plan, huh :naughty:

[QUOTE=The Fonz]How so?

wait, was it you.. with the girlfirend trip, and the mom. and the fininding out?



Edit- VVVVVVVVV Yeah, jom, you're right VVVVV
(I fayle at down arrows)[/QUOTE]
I wish it was that simple.

[QUOTE=dazmo]Sorry to hear that man, and you didnt ruin anything

Truth be told, she's probably having a crap date, becoz she is upset and keeps thinking about you, and its probably pissing her date off, and then they'll get in a fight about it, then they'll storm out (no1 paying the bill) she'll drive over to your house, you will comfort her and calm her down then you can <insert nughty action here>

good plan, huh :naughty:[/QUOTE]

If anything tha would make me feel worse. because of what I did I ruined her night lol. But you guys are right. I didn't do anything wrong, Its just I can't help but feel I did.

[QUOTE=White]If anything tha would make me feel worse. because of what I did I ruined her night lol. But you guys are right. I didn't do anything wrong, Its just I can't help but feel I did.[/QUOTE]
You didnt do anything wrong, and you know how to make her night better:naughty:

Just be her friend. She'll need to know that you still want to be there for her like you always where. The comfort will make her feel better about the situation

random rant about how i feel about life right now
Well, I like to be in relationships. I like having someone to be close to, and it is almost always cool to make out. I want to want the person, I want to love the person, but I dont want to need the person to survive. Needing someone to wake up happy hurts when the person is gone.
I'm looking forward to going back to college, and going to parties and stuff, and meeting new people. I worked for a while, and I took a quarter at the comunity college, but I didnt really do much, and mostly focused on learning my instrument better.
I dont really want to fall in love with someone yet. I have been hurt, and I dont want to hurt again like that anytime soon.
Right now, life is pretty calm. There are some family problems, and some not so good things going on, but they will be over soon, and things will mellow out again.

So yeah, I dont know. I needed to write a bit, and I did, and I'm not sure if it made a bunch of sense, but i needed to say all this.

/end rant

I'm throwing in the towel here.

A few weeks ago this girl that I've liked for [i]months[/i] (yes I do still like her somehow... which is plain obsessive but let's not get into that) was at the local pool with me and a few of her friends and she literally completely ignored me, not even looking at me. The next day her friend told me that the night before she was saying "I hope Werny doesn't come to the pool... he's so creepy" and a whole lot of presumably worse stuff that I wasn't told.

This girl used to 'like' me (I was too much of a sissy to do anything) and we would talk on the phone everynight even after she stopped liking me.

Another girl used to think of me as a good friend and I used to get along with her better than anyone else I know.

Tonight she told me that she thinks I'm gutless and can embarass me/make fun of me as much as she wants because she never sees me in person, thus it's guilt-free.

I don't know how I've changed over the past months, I really don't. But yeah... obviously I have somehow.

Me and the first girl still get along pretty well nowadays, although she doesn't want to talk to me on the phone. It's so ridiculous... I began to think that I'd stop liking her and I instead like a girl in my art class but then we have a big talk and I realise that it is pointless; I'm never going to stop.

Sorry but I had no other place to vent, and this seems like the ideal thread.

I suppose I can't ask for advice on how to stop my creepy obsession with this girl, because I've gone for weeks without seeing or talking to her and it still did nothing.

But yeah... this is the biggest depression I've been in for a long time and I just needed to vent so bad.

Sorry.

[QUOTE=Muse_]This is a message from the recently banned Tojes, as he cannot say it himself:[/QUOTE]

Just so everyone knows, I didn't take offense from Orlando's post. The banning was a joke between Jom and me.

All is well. :)

[QUOTE=dazmo]

Just be her friend. She'll need to know that you still want to be there for her like you always where. The comfort will make her feel better about the situation[/QUOTE]

Take it from me. That's the best way to go right now, unless she comes back to you. This will at least give you the satisfaction of being able to help out someone you really care for in their times of need.

And to the other dude, a few months is nothing. I liked this girl for almost 3 years before I got the courage to tell her.

So that same girl that I talked about a while back that I've liked for a long time, is now dating my friend Jonny. I had a party last night and they were there and it sucked to watch. This is the fifth time they've dated... There's no one else I like, like at all, so I guess I'm kinda screwed for now. Oh well, Go, Jonny I suppose, eh?

[QUOTE=Werny]Sorry but I had no other place to vent, and this seems like the ideal thread.

I suppose I can't ask for advice on how to stop my creepy obsession with this girl, because I've gone for weeks without seeing or talking to her and it still did nothing.

But yeah... this is the biggest depression I've been in for a long time and I just needed to vent so bad.

Sorry.[/QUOTE]

Well now you have the awareness of issues in your behavior and you can set about fixing them.

[QUOTE=Werny]I'm throwing in the towel here.

A few weeks ago this girl that I've liked for [i]months[/i] (yes I do still like her somehow... which is plain obsessive but let's not get into that) was at the local pool with me and a few of her friends and she literally completely ignored me, not even looking at me. The next day her friend told me that the night before she was saying "I hope Werny doesn't come to the pool... he's so creepy" and a whole lot of presumably worse stuff that I wasn't told.

This girl used to 'like' me (I was too much of a sissy to do anything) and we would talk on the phone everynight even after she stopped liking me.

Another girl used to think of me as a good friend and I used to get along with her better than anyone else I know.

Tonight she told me that she thinks I'm gutless and can embarass me/make fun of me as much as she wants because she never sees me in person, thus it's guilt-free.

I don't know how I've changed over the past months, I really don't. But yeah... obviously I have somehow.

Me and the first girl still get along pretty well nowadays, although she doesn't want to talk to me on the phone. It's so ridiculous... I began to think that I'd stop liking her and I instead like a girl in my art class but then we have a big talk and I realise that it is pointless; I'm never going to stop.

Sorry but I had no other place to vent, and this seems like the ideal thread.

I suppose I can't ask for advice on how to stop my creepy obsession with this girl, because I've gone for weeks without seeing or talking to her and it still did nothing.

But yeah... this is the biggest depression I've been in for a long time and I just needed to vent so bad.

Sorry.[/QUOTE]

If I was in that situation, I'd try and find out what it is that she thinks is creepy about you, that way you can go on about changing it. I know how you feel though, this girl I really like doens't like me the same way, and I've tried to get over it, but I just can't stop thinking about her. I'd try and find out what's wrong with you though. I'd be crushed if I found out the person I like thinks I'm a complete weirdo.

OK. White:

This thing that's troubling you gave me some problems last week, with one major difference: I never told the girl in question that I liked her. Maybe she figured me out for herself, I don't know, I'll come back to that in a minute. But my point is, you told her. There are a great many people, myself included, who couldn't have done that, so I have to just say well done to you for that.

Werny:

If you're going to throw in the towel, as you say, then you have to do just that. Don't worry about liking girls for the moment; you'll live to see another say and you can deal with girls later. Take a break from "liking" people, and take some time to sort yourself out. You'll probably find that this time next week everything will be much more clear.


And just something I need to vent about me:

For the past year or so I have considered certain young lady to be one of my best friends, if not my very best friend. I DID want to go out with her, but something happened in the summer which I won't go in to; suffice to say it made me very confused as to whether or not I wanted to date her anymore. And of course, I never talked to her about any of it. Not only would it potentially ruin our friendship, but we both share pretty much the same circle of friends who would NEVER let me forget if it didn't go my way. Such matters resting on my shoulders made me very unwilling to ask her out.

And about this time last week, I learned that I no longer have that option. I went round to her house, (there were several of us that were supposed to be meeting there and then going up town... I don't know why I was there because nine times out of ten whenever I go up town something happens which really makes me wish I'd stayed at home...) and her younger brother told me that she had a boyfriend.

Now you're probably all thinking, "Jealousy!" and you might be right. Personally, hope it isn't. I would be lying if I didn't confess to a small amount of envy, but that isn't jealousy. Jealousy is when I start giving the person of whom I am jealous a hard time, which I have no intention at all of doing. I met her boyfriend later that night, not for very long but he seems almost impossible not to like. Very friendly. And of course, the girl being one of my best friends, I wouldn't like to vent any of my bile on either of them. So I hope I'm not jealous.

[I]Something's[I] bothering me though because I haven't been able to stop thinking about them. And that night, I was hit with one of my insomnia attacks. It only happens once in a blue moon these days, but when it happens, it happens. I was very tense, I kept thinking about them and what I ought to think, mostly I think I was upset because a girl I had liked for a very long time, (some of that time against my better judgement but there you are,) was now pretty much lost to me because I just didn't recognise the oppourtunities I had. I didn't sleep the whole night, and I had to go in to work the following day. I didn't enjoy it.

So that's what happened to me last week, make of it what you will. Any feedback on this would be appreciated. Cheers.