[QUOTE=Bee Sharp]Nah we talked about it for ages over lunch and spoke about it at a girlie sleepover we had at the weekend. I know she hasn't told anyone else, and like I said before, it wouldn't matter because there are already rumours flying around about me anyway.[/QUOTE]

So most people are cool about it then? It would be quite stupid if people avoided you because of that. Then again, it depends on how the rumour was spread. Over time, it should become old news..

[QUOTE=ProSeries]So most people are cool about it then? It would be quite stupid if people avoided you because of that. Then again, it depends on how the rumour was spread. Over time, it should become old news..[/QUOTE]
Well no one actually believes the rumours are true- which is the funny part. I've had kids shout at me when I walk past 'Hey look it's the lesbian!' and other stuff. I'm not generally liked at my school anyway which doesn;t bother me, but I'd rather not give them extra fuel to burn with.

Well, speaking from a male perspective, most males dig that sort of stuff, and will try to become more friendly with you. Thus, many females will become jealous, but a lot will also start hanging out with you.
In my opinion, it's a win-win situation.

[QUOTE=ProSeries]Well, speaking from a male perspective, most males dig that sort of stuff, and will try to become more friendly with you. Thus, many females will become jealous, but a lot will also start hanging out with you.
In my opinion, it's a win-win situation.[/QUOTE]
Urgh I hate the attitude that men have towards girls being bi, it really annoys me.

[QUOTE=Bee Sharp]Urgh I hate the attitude that men have towards girls being bi, it really annoys me.[/QUOTE]

Don't hate on men because some think bisexual girls are hot. They're just driven by their sexual tendencies. They just hope, most of them realise nothing is going to happen.

Well, there's always the general stereotype amongst males that a threesome with two chicks at the same time is the ultimate dream bone.*



*Source: Lawrence from [i]Office Space[/i]

[QUOTE=Jom]Well, there's always the general stereotype amongst males that a threesome with two chicks at the same time is the ultimate dream bone.*



*Source: Lawrence from [i]Office Space[/i][/QUOTE]

That's only too true.

[QUOTE=ProSeries]Don't hate on men because some think bisexual girls are hot. They're just driven by their sexual tendencies. They just hope, most of them realise nothing is going to happen.[/QUOTE]
I guess. It probably also fuels the stereotypical bisexual girl aswell that just make out wiht other girls because guys find it hot.

[QUOTE=Bee Sharp]I guess. It probably also fuels the stereotypical bisexual girl aswell that just make out wiht other girls because guys find it hot.[/QUOTE]

Exactly, I'm sure you'd feel the same way if you saw a bisexual girl make out with another guy/girl.

:( it never stops.
 

Hey guys. I'm Luke... i kind of stopped going to the site for a long time but i do need some advice. If you guys can help tonight i wud love it. There's this girl. she's acually my girlfriend. About 5 months. But the problem is, i never really liked her. See I'm 14 so you know how these are...not important really. But here is the delay. I have been going out with her and I get annoyed. she's a tough girl, and she is very loud and has kind of an anger problem. So she is always yelling and being angry. I notice all my friends getting annoyed and i get embarassed. So yesterday in class, i went over to my friend Brittany. I hit her with my sleeve on the back. Not hard at all. And Brittany hit me playfully first, it's kind of what we do. So my girlfriend turns around and yells at me. She said "Stop being a butt." Butt of course becuase it was during school. So i said ,"you don't know what you're talking about we were kidding and she hit me first!" i know, it sounds immature but i was looking for a reason to yell back at her. She said "no she didn't stop being a butthead.!" So i pretty much said ,"would you shutup. I'm not sitting by you." A big deal cuz we always sit by each other. So she sits by somebody else. Then @ lunch we talk. it was a little bit of a verbal fight and I finally realized... i wanna break up. I didn't say anything because i want to give it proper consideration. So we dont have school tomorrow but i am supposed to go over there to practice songs. Band type thing, we suck though. So i want to be her friend still so i can tell he rto shut up when i need to. So i wanna break up b.c she is so mean and loud. Will she still be my friend? And how should i break up? Keep in mind she is kind of crazy but not like crazy crazy, just like mad crazy. So i talked about this with my friend Nicole. (she was on MSN and she is good @ this) she sed break up but she just got dumped so her judgement is like "it'll hurt less if you do it now" So i wanna know where to do it, over the phone or in person, and when. PLEASE help PLEASE! Thanks.

In person and as soon as you possibly can. Get away from the crazy bitch while you still can

[QUOTE=comptonassrobert]In person and as soon as you possibly can. Get away from the crazy bitch while you still can[/QUOTE]
Hey now, she isn't so bad i just kind of like this other girl n my gf is kind of obnoxious...thanks for the in person tip tho

Honestly Luke, make it quick and face-to-face. Just explain to her that though you two get along as friends, you argue way too much and don't hold enough common ground to keep dating. Best to just quietly let it go and move on with your lives.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Honestly Luke, make it quick and face-to-face. Just explain to her that though you two get along as friends, you argue way too much and don't hold enough common ground to keep dating. Best to just quietly let it go and move on with your lives.[/QUOTE]

For not much experience with these matters, you give quite good advice :-P

Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]
It's time for you to make a choice.

Either you can bite the bullet and tell her about your feelings, which means you're gonna have to stop being so shy, and then if she did have those feelings for you, then something might work out. Now, there's no guarantees. She may still get with this other guy, but if you sit back and say nothing, then there is no chance for you.

Now, if you don't do that, you can sit back, say nothing, and watch her go with a guy who is clearly wrong for her.

Do you see? You're shy, so in all actuality, both of those options really do suck, however, if you take option one, then there is a high chance that it will benefit you, whereas there is no possible benefit from the second option.

To Luke -

Just tell her to her face. You said it yourself. You're 14, these relationships don't last. You'll look back on this years from now and realize how pointless these relationships from about 12-15 really can be. Explain to her that you dont think its working out and that you still would like to be friends.

To SecretNinja -

The only thing you really can do in this situation is tell her how you really feel. If she's constantly on your mind like you say, sitting back and knowing that she's with some guy that wrong for her is just going to bother you more and more. The sooner you talk to her the better. I don't know if I'd go as far to tell her how much you love her and such, simply because that might scare her off. Just make it clear that you're still interested in her and hopefully she still has feelings for you. The sooner the better so find the courage and get in contact with her asap.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]

I think you answered your own questions, hunny.

"I need to do soemthing about this"

"I wanna tell her how I feel"

"I love her"

I took out all the other talk about you being so scared and all.

To put it in the simplest terms, if you care about her so much..what do you have to lose if you tell her honestly how you feel?
If you dont do it, you will never know.

Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]

Yeah. It's in the past. Not even in your past, so it has nothing to do with you. If you keep focussing on it, you'll destroy what you have at the moment.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]
Yes, that's normal. But there's nothing you can do about it, so try to put it at the back of your mind so you don't screw anything up. Personally, past boyfriends and experience is a subject that bothers the living hell out of me. ><

Just don't let it bug you.

I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)

Then what's the issue of thinking about the past? If you guys are happy together, don't live in her past, and don't force yourself (or be willing to) live in her past.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yes, that's normal. But there's nothing you can do about it, so try to put it at the back of your mind so you don't screw anything up. Personally, past boyfriends and experience is a subject that bothers the living hell out of me. ><

Just don't let it bug you.[/QUOTE]


It really bugs me too.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)[/QUOTE]
Oh, I was thinking you were thinking about other things, not the fact that she was hurt in the past. :/

You're just being overly sensitive. No offense intended.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]
it's fine, just dont worry about it

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)[/QUOTE]

Well, just keep in mind that she apparently didn't like the relationship she was in before, so she's with you instead. :D

There was some talk about homsexuality and bisexuality yesterday, so I just want to say a few things about when I came out to my friends.

I went to a very diverse High school, and I knew a bunch of people from most of the groups. I knew some jocks, I knew the nerds, I knew the goths, I knew the gay male cheerleaders. Basically, I was an antisocial kid with a ton of friends.
When I came out to my closest friends, all but two were cool with it. Those 2 said they were cool with it, but they avoided me for along time. John, and Greg. So after a while, I talked to them, and the said that they were avoiding me because they thought I would flirt with them all the time. I told them I would never do that to a friend, and then they stiil avoided me for a while, and then that year of school ended, and after summer break, we hung out again like usual.

I'm pretty lucky to have good friends who understand, or forget about it and not care about it.

Well, this has nothing to do with love, but I talk to you guys about things the most.

I'm about to throw up out of worriedness.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well, just keep in mind that she apparently didn't like the relationship she was in before, so she's with you instead. :D[/QUOTE]

Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?

[QUOTE=Tillius]Well, this has nothing to do with love, but I talk to you guys about things the most.

I'm about to throw up out of worriedness.[/QUOTE]

Elaborate if you don't mind.