[QUOTE=Chaindrive]How goes it with Pamela, Mitch?[/QUOTE]
It goes well.

I'm on the phone with her right now.

Coolio.

I just broke up with my boyfriend about two months ago after going out for 14 months, and I like another lad now. And it's really complicated because this other lad is friends with my ex and also although i like him a lot, i care about my ex still, but I know I wouldn't be happy with him anymore. And it's pretty confusing. I think this lad i like thinks i'm not over my ex yet. I don't know what to do because nothing is moving anywhere, my ex is still texting me and cos i care about him, i want to be friends with him but he acts like he's my boyfriend when we talk still. Can anybody help? Like any similar situations?

First thing you need to do is make it clear to your ex that he's your EX, not current bf.

Then, if you want to be with his friend tell the friend that you're over the ex.

ultimately, he needs to be aware of where you stand on the situation Jessy. It appears he still harbors the belief that you 2 will eventually get back together

[QUOTE=Che Guevara]ultimately, he needs to be aware of where you stand on the situation Jessy. It appears he still harbors the belief that you 2 will eventually get back together[/QUOTE]

Is Kurrupt perm'd?

Yeah i think he does think we'll get back together, because we broke up after i cheated on him in october and cos he thinks that everything is my fault, he thinks that when he says he wants me back then i'll come running. after october, he said he forgave me and we used to meet up a lot but we argued nearly everyday and he was really mean to me. he would lie and stuff and use me and he used to say we were "rebuilding our relationship" but then i found all these texts on his phone to another girl saying things like "i wanna see you naked" and i was really heartbroken, but he said that we were even so i felt like i couldn't be mad at him but he kept on rejecting me and treating me really badly, so in the end i just couldn't take anymore cos i was just really upset everyday, and when i met this other lad i dunno, he just made me really happy even just as friends. and then my ex got jealous that i was talking to this other lad and meeting up with him so thats why he's got like this now.

wow that was pretty long and morbid, sorry.

Cheating is bad.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Is Kurrupt perm'd?[/QUOTE]


yea, it friggin sucks. Im in the act of getting a merger (hopefully) as we speak. Im optimistic

[QUOTE=Tillius]Cheating is bad.[/QUOTE]

yeah i know. but to defend myself, we were on a break and i was very drunk. and it was only kissing.

[QUOTE=jessy rabbit]yeah i know. but to defend myself, we were on a break and i was very drunk. and it was only kissing.[/QUOTE]
Well, that makes it not as bad...but....still...................
You know..........
But yeah, I'm not here to judge you.
So, about your actual problem, good luck with it.

[QUOTE=Che Guevara]yea, it friggin sucks. Im in the act of getting a merger (hopefully) as we speak. Im optimistic[/QUOTE]

What did you do?

Thanks. i hope it works out for the best. anymore advice? i try to tell the truth all the time. that's a good thing isn't it?

Yeah.

Apparently honesty is the best policy.

I'm of no use here, but did the text actually exactly "I wanna see you naked".

Because that's pretty funny... You shouldn't be with him though. Just make sure he knows there's no chance. If you like the other guy, just talk to him like you would anyone else you were interested in. :-/

*repeats the same info everyone else has given*

lol yeah it did say that, exactly. also a few other things like "i'm going to take you to orgasm town" i was so angry, as well as upset. also i found the texts at school at breaktime and we were in my spanish room, my lesson was just about to start and there were some people in the classroom sat at the desks and we ended up fighting at the front of the room, i slapped him and he was trying to hold me back etc...... i suppose it would have been pretty funny for the people watching

Dang, that's intense.

Any guy who says "[I]I'm gonna take you to orgasm town[/I]" is not worthy of a significant other.

[QUOTE=jessy rabbit]lol yeah it did say that, exactly. also a few other things like "i'm going to take you to orgasm town" i was so angry, as well as upset. also i found the texts at school at breaktime and we were in my spanish room, my lesson was just about to start and there were some people in the classroom sat at the desks and we ended up fighting at the front of the room, i slapped him and he was trying to hold me back etc...... i suppose it would have been pretty funny for the people watching[/QUOTE]
No offense.. but I don't think that guy is very smart. That's not how you woo a lady.

Haha, I said woo.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Any guy who says "[I]I'm gonna take you to orgasm town[/I]" is not worthy of a significant other.[/QUOTE]
bingo. :lol:

Often, guys who claim they want to get even have no actual concept of morality to begin with.

Just tell him flat out that you apologized for what you did and tried to make things right, but all he did was act petty, spiteful, and insisted on a game of one-upmanship. No while technically neither one of you can truly plead not guilty here, the ultimate end of this relationship is largely his fault.

It's his own insecurity and emotional instability that brought things this far, and before he even [i]thinks[/i] about dating another girl, he has a lot of growing up to do.

Yeah lol well. It is complicated and very stressful. And why did they have to be friends anyway? why couldn't i have liked someone who didn't know my ex? that would have been easier.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Any guy who says "[I]I'm gonna take you to orgasm town[/I]" is not worthy of a significant other.[/QUOTE]

There are many many chicks who just look for good sex, and guys who say that don't really look for significant others, just the same as the girls mentioned above. So they both end up happy.
Sluts..

[QUOTE=Wizard.]No offense.. but I don't think that guy is very smart. That's not how you woo a lady.

Haha, I said woo.


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lol, I have a friend that uses "court."

[QUOTE=jessy rabbit]Yeah lol well. It is complicated and very stressful. And why did they have to be friends anyway? why couldn't i have liked someone who didn't know my ex? that would have been easier.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but things like this tend to never be easy.

The girl I'm dating now dated one of my best friends for nearly a year.
Let's just say that things aren't going too well between me and my friend right now.

[quote=ProSeries]There are many many chicks who just look for good sex, and guys who say that don't really look for significant others, just the same as the girls mentioned above. So they both end up happy.
Sluts..[/quote]
Yeah, but the biggest whore I know would laugh in your face if you said you were going to [I]take her to orgasm town[/I].

oh about that, i have to correct myself, the girl texted him saying so when you going to take me to orgasm town like you promised? and he said something like i'll take you to orgasm town anytime you want ;p. so it had been going on a while. he is actually pretty smart in his defence, although i don't know why i'm defending him. he has a knack of turning everything around so it's my fault as well

[QUOTE=Tillius]Any guy who says "[I]I'm gonna take you to orgasm town[/I]" is not worthy of a significant other.[/QUOTE]

People like that almost make me want ot apologize for the male half of the species. Almost.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Often, guys who claim they want to get even have no actual concept of morality to begin with.

Just tell him flat out that you apologized for what you did and tried to make things right, but all he did was act petty, spiteful, and insisted on a game of one-upmanship. No while technically neither one of you can truly plead not guilty here, the ultimate end of this relationship is largely his fault.

It's his own insecurity and emotional instability that brought things this far, and before he even [i]thinks[/i] about dating another girl, he has a lot of growing up to do.[/QUOTE]

wow that's really good advice

[QUOTE=Tillius]Yeah, but things like this tend to never be easy.

The girl I'm dating now dated one of my best friends for nearly a year.
Let's just say that things aren't going too well between me and my friend right now.


Yeah, but the biggest whore I know would laugh in your face if you said you were going to [I]take her to orgasm town[/I].[/QUOTE]

The biggest whores are usually dumb as ****, and wouldn't care what you say as long as they get some.

[QUOTE=jessy rabbit]oh about that, i have to correct myself, the girl texted him saying so when you going to take me to orgasm town like you promised? and he said something like i'll take you to orgasm town anytime you want ;p. so it had been going on a while. he is actually pretty smart in his defence, although i don't know why i'm defending him. he has a knack of turning everything around so it's my fault as well[/QUOTE]
He had still used the words orgasm town.

I'm sorry. I'm sitting here cracking up about that. That's one of the funniest things I've ever heard.

And stop defending the guy.

[quote=Steerpike]People like that almost make me want ot apologize for the male half of the species. Almost.[/quote]
Same here.
It's guys like that that make us all look bad.

[QUOTE=jessy rabbit]he is actually pretty smart in his defence, although i don't know why i'm defending him. he has a knack of turning everything around so it's my fault as well[/QUOTE]

So he's not stupid, he's just a manipulative worm. Men like that should be sterilized.

[QUOTE=ProSeries]Sluts..[/QUOTE]
*sigh* :(

[QUOTE]lol, I have a friend that uses "court."[/QUOTE]
Hehah, that's awesome. I think I'll start using it. :superretro: