[QUOTE=Chaindrive]The chances of a teacher making a comment like that are not very likely.

So, what can actually be inferred is that your sister offered up the information that you had lost weight without prompting because she's proud of you.[/QUOTE]
I was down the hallway and she said to the teacher," Here's my brother" and then I heard her mumbling something but couldn't hear the words, and then my sister was like "Noooooo he lost a lot of weight!" In like this gitty voice. It's easy to tell what she said.

That teacher should be reported then.

[QUOTE=allalone]All right, I think it's pretty obvious what she said. And what the hell are you talking about. I have been fixing my own problems. I know she was talking about my weight. It's easy to tell. I'm used to it all the time. I'm done arguing with you. Whatever. I just want a way to get my confidence up.[/QUOTE]

We're all trying to help you with your confidence but you're not listening. You're just complaining. Look back at your posts.

Didn't you read that Kimmie was explaining that perhaps your sister was proud of you for your progress? You should have focused on that and felt better. But no, you decided to focus on what you imagined someone else said and let that get to you.

I'm not arguing with you by any means. I'm trying to get you to understand that you're being superficial and allowing other people to define who you are rather than showing the strength of character to internalize a positive mindset of yourself and follow through on it.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]That teacher should be reported then.[/QUOTE]
Naw. It's all right. I can't help what people think. It's just the people like that that I don't like. I hate when people make easy judgements on me. But everyone does it. I've done it to a lot of people too, but then when I actually meet them and talk to them. I realize that they are really nice people.

For all you know, she could've said "I thought your brother was much heavier".

Lord..this topic so far is extremely interesting to say the least.
OK, if this bloody girl is affecting you life so much....I mean....is that going to happen all the time?
Will having a 'perfect' body make you happy? Like seriously...A body will make you happy?
Girls who only look at looks and nothing else are not worth to be with (I'm a personality girl ;)
One small step at a time - not bloody huge ones. Small ones as they add up to big ones in the end.
To get your confidence up, you need to know why it is so low? Does it relate completely to your body...?
I think Steerpike speaks a lot of sense, you need someone blunt.
Everyone speaks advice, maybe one should take some of it and ask yourself some serious questions instead of moping round like...I dunno, a dog who's lost his bone.
Complaining won't help - a small dose is alright but they way you are going on it is extreme. People are giving advice. Don't get me wrong I want to help you, not have a go at you but be honest with yourself here.

[QUOTE=allalone]Naw. It's all right. I can't help what people think. It's just the people like that that I don't like. I hate when people make easy judgements on me. But everyone does it. I've done it to a lot of people too, but then when I actually meet them and talk to them. I realize that they are really nice people.[/QUOTE]

Then why the hell are you taking all these superficial judgments so personally?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]We're all trying to help you with your confidence but you're not listening. You're just complaining. Look back at your posts.

Didn't you read that Kimmie was explaining that perhaps your sister was proud of you for your progress? You should have focused on that and felt better. But no, you decided to focus on what you imagined someone else said and let that get to you.

I'm not arguing with you by any means. I'm trying to get you to understand that you're being superficial and allowing other people to define who you are rather than showing the strength of character to internalize a positive mindset of yourself and follow through on it.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, you're right. I just wish that I could be likeable to everyone. I guess that's how I feel. I want everyone to look at me and not feel something negative about me like "He's fat" or something. I've always felt this way ever since my brother and his friends started making fun of me.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]For all you know, she could've said "I thought your brother was much heavier".[/QUOTE]
Well she never met me before. But who knows?

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Then why the hell are you taking all these superficial judgments so personally?[/QUOTE]
Because I [I]hate [/I]it. I hate when people judge me.

Dude, whenever you think about something bad, just tell yourself "feck it, doesn't matter." and force yourself to think abot the situation is a posi way.

Even when you aren't happy, sort of pretend you are, and eventually you will be. Trust me, it works.

[QUOTE=allalone]Yeah, you're right. I just wish that I could be likeable to everyone. I guess that's how I feel. I want everyone to look at me and not feel something negative about me like "He's fat" or something. I've always felt this way ever since my brother and his friends started making fun of me.[/QUOTE]

You're not going to please everyone, to paraphrase the old adage.

I've met people who don't like me because I have long hair. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who don't like me because I'm into metal and sing in harsh vocals. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who think I'm dangerous and unstable because I wear black. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who think I'm really cool for the fact that I've never stopped evolving as a person, and are right beside me in these efforts. Those are the people I hang out with.

Stop trying to please everyone else. It's okay to be selfish in a way. There's no one more worth living for than yourself.

[QUOTE=allalone]Because I [I]hate [/I]it. I hate when people judge me.[/QUOTE]

So do I. But instead think (for people who judge you in future)
"This person doesn't know me...haha what they so is not true as they don't know me. And I don't know this person so I don't want to be friends with"

[QUOTE=allalone]Because I [I]hate [/I]it. I hate when people judge me.[/QUOTE]

Their problem, not yours.

And on that note, I must be off. Lunch.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Dude, whenever you think about something bad, just tell yourself "feck it, doesn't matter." and force yourself to think abot the situation is a posi way.

Even when you aren't happy, sort of pretend you are, and eventually you will be. Trust me, it works.[/QUOTE]
I guess so. I think I know what the real reason for this is. I don't know how to talk to girls. I have no self-confidence to talk to girls either. So I guess that if I have a nice body then more girls will come up and talk to me. Because I can't talk to girls. I can't go up and talk to them.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Their problem, not yours.

And on that note, I must be off. Lunch.[/QUOTE]
Well thanks for talking with me anyways. I've learned a lot.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]You're not going to please everyone, to paraphrase the old adage.

I've met people who don't like me because I have long hair. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who don't like me because I'm into metal and sing in harsh vocals. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who think I'm dangerous and unstable because I wear black. F[size=2]u[/size]ck 'em.

I've met people who think I'm really cool for the fact that I've never stopped evolving as a person, and are right beside me in these efforts. Those are the people I hang out with.

Stop trying to please everyone else. It's okay to be selfish in a way. There's no one more worth living for than yourself.[/QUOTE]

Here here :chug:
Seriously, there this girl at our school who wants to be liked by everyone and everyone knows it.
Why do you want to be liked by everyone? Will it give you that much pleasure?
That attitude makes people run from you, not to you.

[QUOTE=allalone]I guess so. I think I know what the real reason for this is. I don't know how to talk to girls. I have no self-confidence to talk to girls either. So I guess that if I have a nice body then more girls will come up and talk to me. Because I can't talk to girls. I can't go up and talk to them.[/QUOTE]
Nike gives the best advice in this situation. Just do it.

[QUOTE=allalone]I guess so. I think I know what the real reason for this is. I don't know how to talk to girls. I have no self-confidence to talk to girls either. So I guess that if I have a nice body then more girls will come up and talk to me. Because I can't talk to girls. I can't go up and talk to them.[/QUOTE]

As a girl, listen up sexy ;)
If a guy has a nice body, it is nice but it is definitely not the number one thing girls look for in a guy. And the girls who are all body girls are players and aren't worth to be with.
Girls will talk to you whatever your body is like. I don't know what 145lb but by the way you are going it sounds as if yer body is great. Girls who are worth to be with look at more simpler things like eyes, hair, lips or things like that. Well that's what I look at - I'm more of a personality. You can't be with someone you can't talk to.
A body of a God won't make you God's gift. But keep fit and you'll be great. don't fret. Your point in life can't be to please girls.
Chin up and listen!

I know everyone has been saying this but, confidence does work wonders. I have a friend who is very overweight himself. But he doesn't think of it. He's very confident and it shows.

I guess the whole thing that sparked the weight loss thing was because of prom. I just wanted to look good in a tux and at least get a prom date. And then I met this girl and I know she didn't care about my weight, but I still wanted to look good for her. Now I just have this huge obsession. I guess I'll stop. I guess I just need to get laid or something. I've only had one girlfriend which only lasted like a week and wasn't even serious. It was like 4 years ago too. And I've only kissed one girl which was at a party and I was really drunk and didn't even know what was going on so I guess it really wasn't a kiss. I don't know, it just seems like everyon'e more experienced than me too.

[QUOTE=allalone]I guess the whole thing that sparked the weight loss thing was because of prom. I just wanted to look good in a tux and at least get a prom date. And then I met this girl and I know she didn't care about my weight, but I still wanted to look good for her. Now I just have this huge obsession. I guess I'll stop. I guess I just need to get laid or something. I've only had one girlfriend which only lasted like a week and wasn't even serious. It was like 4 years ago too. And I've only kissed one girl which was at a party and I was really drunk and didn't even know what was going on so I guess it really wasn't a kiss. I don't know, it just seems like everyon'e more experienced than me too.[/QUOTE]

So many people worry whether they are experienced, lots of my friends do. It isn't new and lots of people worry bout it and if yer with a lovely girl, and she isn't experienced either, then you'll both be nervous. And if she is more experienced and she is nice, she won't mind at all to be honest.
It's hard to let go of the past but you have to, over time. It is hard but we are now the present and the future.
You don't need to get laid just to make you feel happier. It isn't that big a deal according to my mates who have, they didn't know what the hype was and regretted sleeping with that person at that time.
Just wait for that girl.
And you don't need to go to extremes to please yer girl anymore. YOU GOT HER. SHE LOOKED AT YOU. SHE'S WITH YOU. You don't need to change, why do you need to if she is yours already?
Don't go out of your way to please you future girlfriend if she is already with you. Of course, flowers never hurt anyone.

You're right. I just... need something to boost my confidence.

[QUOTE=allalone]You're right. I just... need something to boost my confidence.[/QUOTE]

Well, you know... :thumb:
Honestly, you'll find that confidence booster, but don't rely it on a girl to boost yer confidence.

[QUOTE=franpgb]Well, you know... :thumb:
Honestly, you'll find that confidence booster, but don't rely it on a girl to boost yer confidence.[/QUOTE]
Hopefully.

[QUOTE=allalone]Hopefully.[/QUOTE]

Wrong answer. Cor.
Steps To Be Confidet, Number 1:
Don't say hopefully
YES YOU WILL.
Say yes you will to yourself everyday and you'll beleive it and it will happen one day.
Does no one have relationship problems? This may turn into a problems thread!!...have to re-name it.

But if I feel confident then I feel conceited and I hate people who are conceited.

[QUOTE=allalone]But if I feel confident then I feel conceited and I hate people who are conceited.[/QUOTE]
There's a big difference between confidence and conceit.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sorry, son, I didn't see this last night.

If you're not sleeping, eating, breathing this girl then it's not really love. And probably won't ever be. The fact that you get sick of her tells me that to pursue a life with her would be disastrous.

Leave it, and move on.[/QUOTE]
Thanks :) I'm wary of trusting other student's thoughts on the subject, even if they're all consistent.

[QUOTE=allalone]I guess so. I think I know what the real reason for this is. I don't know how to talk to girls. I have no self-confidence to talk to girls either. So I guess that if I have a nice body then more girls will come up and talk to me. Because I can't talk to girls. I can't go up and talk to them.[/QUOTE]

That's another fallacy. Woody Allen was right when he said 90% of success is just showing up. Women won't come to you. You need to go to the women.

And in either case, you still need to give them a reason to stick around other than your buns of steel.

As I've said, women place a higher value on personality than looks.

Talk to women you already know. Just say hi to women you don't know but made eye contact with. The first time you make eye contact with [i]anybody[/i], hold it until they look away first.

[QUOTE=allalone]But if I feel confident then I feel conceited and I hate people who are conceited.[/QUOTE]

That's a myth that needs to be done away with. People who are conceited think that they are perfect already and never seek to continue evolving as a person. They think the world revolves around them. They think that they are the most fascinating subject in the world.

A confident person has a realistic assessment of their strengths and weaknesses, and knows how to maximize the strengths and minimize the weaknesses. A confident person will speak boastfully of himself, but in a joking way that shows he's not being serious. He'll tease other people, but not in a mean way, but in a friendly way.

Millions of years of evolution have gone into making men non-stop machines of ball-busting bravado. We're designed to strive for self-improvement at every step and compete with one another in a form of friendly rivalry. Our ultimate goal is to become so secure in our skills, talents, and abilities that we assume the role of leaders in our respective packs, guiding others of our species to the higher levels we achieved through hard work and passing on our strong genes and ethics onto the next generation.

So be a man the way nature intended you to.

^ Informative.

Hi, guys.

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