Crap! Allergies suck. I'm really only allergic to work. I don't sneeze but I suddenly get the urge to slack and I get very lazy. It's a good thing I sit at a desk all day.

I'm sorry to hear you have allergy problems though. Must make sleeping a nightmare when it's pollen season.

Hey Chaindrive..Long time since I've been in here..Whats up? Hows it going?

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]Crap! Allergies suck. I'm really only allergic to work. I don't sneeze but I suddenly get the urge to slack and I get very lazy. It's a good thing I sit at a desk all day.

I'm sorry to hear you have allergy problems though. Must make sleeping a nightmare when it's pollen season.[/QUOTE]

Spring's a little rougher but I have allergies all year long...it sucks.

Nothing that a very large glass of Merlot wouldn't help, though.

Oh...and some...um...grapes.

:D

[quote=Lightning Strikes Twice]Hey Chaindrive..Long time since I've been in here..Whats up? Hows it going?[/quote]

Where you been? It's going okay.

Route 1: I say talk, straight to his face!
It will not be easy for either of you, but if he's a good friend I really think you should tell him.

I ask anyone in this thread to step forward if they would rather not know if their lover was acting that way, and not want to know..?

My guess is no.

So.. don't let it be, it will fester in you and it will fester in their relationship.

Truth > All.

Good luck.

He'll catch her at it eventually. I say don't get involved.

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]I can honestly say I've fallen in love with her.[/QUOTE]

"And just when you stop believing in it, it looks like love is gonna show it's face"

/sings.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]He'll catch her at it eventually. I say don't get involved.[/QUOTE]
Personally, if I had a girl that tried somethign with one of my friends, and they didn't tell me, I would be pissed as hell at them for not telling me. I'm sure I'm not the only person who would be pissed either.

He shouldn't talk about stuff she does with other guys though, just whatever she tried with him.

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]Well in that case maybe you imagined the chemistry on her part.[/QUOTE]

Here's an update: She called me today and we talked for about an hour. We both agreed we would go hang out with each other on Friday. Apparantly she was in North Carolina and forgot to bring her phone with her, heh. I get paranoid of people ignoring me. Oh well, things are good once again for me :)

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]That's fairly odd. Sneeze a lot?

I can remedy that. I mean, you probably wouldn't sneeze a whole lot with your mouth full right?


From feeding you grapes silly! Hardy har!

No?[/QUOTE]
:lol:

I think I can give some insight. I met a girl on here two years ago. She lives in the Netherlands and lurked in the L&R, from where we started to be great pen pals. We'd write ten page e-mails every other week for a good while. She got in trouble, whatever, we were still able to talk after some time. And last fall I went to England for the fall semester.

By fluke and her good timing a friend and I were able to stay at her house for a three-day weekend. Despite having a girlfriend for the previous year, I had always tinkered with little ideas of hitting it off with this girl, even though it was far-fetched and all. I was pretty sure it wasn't reciprocated, and it wasn't (so the relevance is only in part), but I was looking for some kind of spark to at least feel like I had something left in me; don't want to be put to pasture so quick.

We finally met in Amsterdam, her waiting at the train station. And right off I knew there was nothing. Beyond that we would barely talk in person--what we could write and IM about for hours was nothing without the physical appeal to something, friendship or otherwise. By the end of the trip we ended up talking a bit more and became comfortable, but since we haven't talked that much (either her being busy or loss of mystique or something). But there that went.


As for the singleness and ****ing: I passed up so many opportunities Friday night because I feel guilty about it meaning nothing (besides being a little attached to the ex I recently dumped). Now I'm being a hawk for a reasonable rebound, which won't happen and is terrible, but hey, I'm young.



And good luck, man :) (it took forever to load this)

yeah so i got dumped last night, and i'm actually kind of depressed, even though I only dated this girl for about a month

wtf is wrong with me, im pathetic.

i always end up getting too attached to girls, it's so stupid.

[QUOTE=thisistj]yeah so i got dumped last night, and i'm actually kind of depressed, even though I only dated this girl for about a month

wtf is wrong with me, im pathetic.

i always end up getting too attached to girls, it's so stupid.[/QUOTE]
You're not pathetic man. This stuff happens to everyone.

yeah, but the fact that i only dated her for such a short amount of time really bugs me....why should i care so much?

i guess the reason i'm so bummed is because i liked her for so long before i actually had the guts to ask her out, but still...it really irks me that i'm letting it hurt me.

girls are dumb.

[QUOTE=thisistj]yeah, but the fact that i only dated her for such a short amount of time really bugs me....why should i care so much?

i guess the reason i'm so bummed is because i liked her for so long before i actually had the guts to ask her out, but still...it really irks me that i'm letting it hurt me.

girls are dumb.[/QUOTE]


yes they are. I can toally agree with that statement, but not all are :)

Sometimes. And, then again, sometimes not.

Good on you that you had the guts to ask her out, but...stuff happens.

[QUOTE=thisistj]yeah, but the fact that i only dated her for such a short amount of time really bugs me....why should i care so much?

i guess the reason i'm so bummed is because i liked her for so long before i actually had the guts to ask her out, but still...it really irks me that i'm letting it hurt me.

girls are dumb.[/QUOTE]
Well, the trick is not to get too into her at first just incase this does happen.

Why did she dump you?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Sometimes. And, then again, sometimes not.

Good on you that you had the guts to ask her out, but...stuff happens.[/QUOTE]


I think the better quote is s[B]h[/B]it happens.


So i broke up with her. She understood and we are staying friends.

Im still upset though.

:upset:

I know it was for the best though.

[QUOTE=The Profit of Maine]:lol:

I think I can give some insight. I met a girl on here two years ago. She lives in the Netherlands and lurked in the L&R, from where we started to be great pen pals. We'd write ten page e-mails every other week for a good while. She got in trouble, whatever, we were still able to talk after some time. And last fall I went to England for the fall semester.

By fluke and her good timing a friend and I were able to stay at her house for a three-day weekend. Despite having a girlfriend for the previous year, I had always tinkered with little ideas of hitting it off with this girl, even though it was far-fetched and all. I was pretty sure it wasn't reciprocated, and it wasn't (so the relevance is only in part), but I was looking for some kind of spark to at least feel like I had something left in me; don't want to be put to pasture so quick.

We finally met in Amsterdam, her waiting at the train station. And right off I knew there was nothing. Beyond that we would barely talk in person--what we could write and IM about for hours was nothing without the physical appeal to something, friendship or otherwise. By the end of the trip we ended up talking a bit more and became comfortable, but since we haven't talked that much (either her being busy or loss of mystique or something). But there that went.[/QUOTE]

So she was really really freakin' ugly? oic :p

[QUOTE=Jom]So she was really really freakin' ugly? oic :p[/QUOTE]
Hehe. No, she's quite pretty, but I can't send you the pictures to prove it :p

(Don't want to violate whatever trust that is.)

Ok, just a question for anyone to answer here, my mate likes this chick right but didn't tell anyone, so me and her got it on and then he got all pissed at me (that was when I found out he liked her) Is he within his rights to have a go at me for this?

well, if he didnt tell you, its not like you have a crystal ball. Id say if you slept with her first, then you have dibs on her

Deal

if she sucks in the sack, throw the bone to your mate then :lol:

Lmao, I'm sure I will

He always gets sloppy seconds

haha good friend

Hell yeh

Continued from a couple of pages ago: She has a girlfriend.

We met up together at 4 like she said. She waited a whole hour after college just to meet up with me. We chatted together and had a laugh, it felt like I had known her for ages. There was alot of flirting going on and touchy feely stuff. (Nothing sexual, just mucking around). Then I gave her my MSN addy. She added me and I went onto her MSN Spaces thingy, and there was a comment on there from a girl saying something about putting her status as single when she actually had a girlfriend. I emailed her about it, asking her whether she did indeed have a girlfriend or not, and she does. She replied today and said that they've been together for 2 1/2 years, but that she can't get me out of her head and she can't stop thinking about me, etc etc.

I just emailed her back saying that I'm not upset about it and that I dont want her to feel pressured into ending anything or doing anything harsh just for me. I told her that whatever happens I still want to be her friend.

So yeah. That's that then.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Where you been? It's going okay.[/QUOTE]
Well my mom didn't like me talking to strangers on the computer, so she kicked me off Mx. But now it's spring break and I'm home alone all day so I get to go on.

I've got an L&R question for ya, just to see if you've got any good advice still :P

Ok, Well lately I've been thinkin' I like this girl. And she's really cool and stuff, but..She was my first girlfriend. Now that was like 2-3 years ago so I'm wondering a couple of things. How do I start talking to her more? We talk and get along awesome but we're not really intrested in any of the same stuff. Second thing is..Do you think it's gonna' feel weird trying to go out with a girl who was my first girlfriend? Do you even think it's a good idea?

kthxbye lol

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Continued from a couple of pages ago: She has a girlfriend.

We met up together at 4 like she said. She waited a whole hour after college just to meet up with me. We chatted together and had a laugh, it felt like I had known her for ages. There was alot of flirting going on and touchy feely stuff. (Nothing sexual, just mucking around). Then I gave her my MSN addy. She added me and I went onto her MSN Spaces thingy, and there was a comment on there from a girl saying something about putting her status as single when she actually had a girlfriend. I emailed her about it, asking her whether she did indeed have a girlfriend or not, and she does. She replied today and said that they've been together for 2 1/2 years, but that she can't get me out of her head and she can't stop thinking about me, etc etc.

I just emailed her back saying that I'm not upset about it and that I dont want her to feel pressured into ending anything or doing anything harsh just for me. I told her that whatever happens I still want to be her friend.

So yeah. That's that then.[/QUOTE]
Aww gutted :( But then she has admitted that she likes you, so there's hope, right? I know you're sensible enough not to try and break them up, but that doesn't mean something can't happen.

I didn't realize that Becky was bi. Congrats/good luck with this girl, duder. At least you have nothing to lose because she's your newfound bud.

[quote=Eli]Hehe. No, she's quite pretty, but I can't send you the pictures to prove it :p

(Don't want to violate whatever trust that is.)[/quote]

Hah, I wouldn't want you to anyway. I was just kiddin'.

[QUOTE=Route 1]Well, the trick is not to get too into her at first just incase this does happen.

Why did she dump you?[/QUOTE]

well she gave me the "it's not you, it's me", which pretty much makes me think that she had a reason that she didn't want to tell me.

she also said that she originally thought that she wanted to be in a relationship, but then realized she didn't want to.

then, she told me that she didn't feel like she couldn't be fair to me because she is so busy (lots and lots of school work, and she has good friends that she wants to keep up with)

and that's basically it. so yeah, i feel like a douche.

[QUOTE=Lightning Strikes Twice]Well my mom didn't like me talking to strangers on the computer, so she kicked me off Mx. But now it's spring break and I'm home alone all day so I get to go on.

I've got an L&R question for ya, just to see if you've got any good advice still :P

Ok, Well lately I've been thinkin' I like this girl. And she's really cool and stuff, but..She was my first girlfriend. Now that was like 2-3 years ago so I'm wondering a couple of things. How do I start talking to her more? We talk and get along awesome but we're not really intrested in any of the same stuff. Second thing is..Do you think it's gonna' feel weird trying to go out with a girl who was my first girlfriend? Do you even think it's a good idea?

kthxbye lol[/QUOTE]

2 or 3 years ago is a long time, so it shouldn't feel weird.

There's got to be something that the two of you are both interested in...find out what it is and go from there.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]Aww gutted :( But then she has admitted that she likes you, so there's hope, right? I know you're sensible enough not to try and break them up, but that doesn't mean something can't happen.[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, well I don't want them to break up or anything. I feel kinda sorry for her to be honest because she's racking her brains worrying about it. Even if we're just friends I don't mind, she's a lovely girl.

[QUOTE=Jom]I didn't realize that Becky was bi. Congrats/good luck with this girl, duder. At least you have nothing to lose because she's your newfound bud.[/QUOTE]

Aah thank you :) Yeah I'm just happy that she finally spoke to me hehe.

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Oh yeah, well I don't want them to break up or anything. I feel kinda sorry for her to be honest because she's racking her brains worrying about it. Even if we're just friends I don't mind, she's a lovely girl.[/QUOTE]

That's a shame she's taken, Beckster.

Yeah it is kinda but it'll all work out ok. :)

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Yeah it is kinda but it'll all work out ok. :)[/QUOTE]

Maybe she has single friends?

Maybe, but I want her. Either way, I'm not upset about it, and I still like her, and she likes me. Anything could happen. We've both agreed to take things really really slowly and just see where it takes us.

Coolio. :)

Kimberley...

Douglas...

Is it snowing on you?

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Maybe, but I want her. Either way, I'm not upset about it, and I still like her, and she likes me. Anything could happen. We've both agreed to take things really really slowly and just see where it takes us.[/QUOTE]
That sounds like a very good idea :thumb: