[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]Yeah, I know that she is pretty responsible buut I guess I just still want to protect her and everything from like when we were going out. :-/[/QUOTE]


I think thats normal. You still care about her.

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]Yeah, I know that she is pretty responsible buut I guess I just still want to protect her and everything from like when we were going out. :-/[/QUOTE]

Yah of course. and it is a natural way to feel nontheless. I mean, when you are use to someone and how they are, (regardless if you break up or not) its still weird trying to think of them changing or doing things they wouldnt normally do.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]I think thats normal. You still care about her.[/QUOTE]

but it sucks :(

[QUOTE=thunderzstruck]but it sucks :([/QUOTE]


Your gonna learn how to not care about her AS much as you used to. It takes time.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]LOL, Kimmie...guess what idiot is sitting like..right beside me on another couch. Yup, Stupidhead.

Ive just going to take your advice and ignore her childish ways. Im not going to let her get under my skin anymore, I would rather laugh at her :)[/QUOTE]

Better late than never, babe. Sorry.

Laugh all you want...and if Shane says one word about it you tell him that you have a life and HE nees to get one...without the Stupidhead from hell.

Ok, well, I spent the night at the movies with Kristen and a couple of her friends and some other people. I didn't end up doing anything at all, which is good because I was worried I would get carried away with her. The only thing that happened was Kristen squeezing my hand during the entire movie, and I'm sure that wasn't because she was scared. :-/

I completely forgot about Brit and the drama for that short time, and as soon as I got home the bad moods hit me all at once. The more I think about what happened, the angrier I get at Brit. She really does seem depressed and sorry about the whole situation. Still, I feel like I don't want to be with her anymore, and at the same time I feel like I couldn't live without her. I can't picture myself with any other girl. I feel guilty, like I'm cheating just when I think about it. I feel like I need Brit, despite our problems. But if I needed her so badly, why is she so easy to forget when I'm out an about with friends and other girls?

Bah, sorry for my melodramatic whining. -.-

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Ok, well, I spent the night at the movies with Kristen and a couple of her friends and some other people. I didn't end up doing anything at all, which is good because I was worried I would get carried away with her. The only thing that happened was Kristen squeezing my hand during the entire movie, and I'm sure that wasn't because she was scared. :-/

I completely forgot about Brit and the drama for that short time, and as soon as I got home the bad moods hit me all at once. The more I think about what happened, the angrier I get at Brit. She really does seem depressed and sorry about the whole situation. Still, I feel like I don't want to be with her anymore, and at the same time I feel like I couldn't live without her. I can't picture myself with any other girl. I feel guilty, like I'm cheating just when I think about it. I feel like I need Brit, despite our problems. But if I needed her so badly, why is she so easy to forget when I'm out an about with friends and other girls?

Bah, sorry for my melodramatic whining. -.-[/QUOTE]

d/w, im sure she whines about you.

dude, brit is just seeking attention, and this means you will be able to move on. just be friends with brit, and if she cant accept that, well its not up to you to father her. shes acting more like your child than your girlfriend

oh and icksnay on telling itbray oabout the ateday
(nicks on telling brit about the date)

Dude, you have to remember that relationships are supposed to be fun and a positive addition to your life. Wtih Brit, it certainly doesn't seem that way. I truthfully think and as hard as it may be, take a break. You will get over it and it could open up to some exciting things you have been missing in your life.

It wasn't really a date though. I was just "meeting up with friends". She knows I went, she just doesn't know who I was with or anything. She'd probably scream at me if she knew who I was with, since she already went through a whole ordeal because she thought I was cheating on her with Kristen.

Being with Brit is fun. We are normally perfect for each other. It's just the last couple of months have been over-the-top screwy. Now the girls keeps ****ing calling me and ends up crying and hanging up on me. That's never going to let us get over one another. And I really don't even want to. I want to be with her, just want to know I can trust her again.

I need a way to see inside her head. She's never been this bad of an attention whore. She always has been, but this has been too much even for her. I would like a way just to get her to stay calm while I talk to her. Any tips on making a girl calm down when she's upset?

Shoot her?

seriously though, i know you picture yourself with this perfect girl who makes you happy blah blah blahbity blah. Dude, wake up, she doesnt make you happy anymore, shes changed, she isnt committed like you are, instead of just talking to you, and trying to be rational, she does stupid things, she doesnt respect you and she sounds like shes trying to take the easy way out.


Sorry for being brutal

I don't mind brutality rght now. I just want answers and ideas. :-/

What's she trying to get out of? If she's wanting to get rid of me, she wouldn't be pulling all these attention whoring stunts and constantly calling me and shizz.



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Bah, nevermind my posts. I just realized I'm just an attention whore too, but I'm finding other ways to suit my needs than she is. For one, posting here isn't really doing anything. I'm just whining and polonging my decisions. I guess to get sympathy or whatever. I don't even know. Maybe I should get therapy too. I'm supposed ot be going soon for OCD anyways.

I'll just screw around with this other girl since we are officially broken up, and let fate take it's course. Brit will ge tpissed and want to have nothing to do with me, and I won't have to worry about any of this.

I'm just as bad as her.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I don't mind brutality rght now. I just want answers and ideas. :-/

What's she trying to get out of? If she's wanting to get rid of me, she wouldn't be pulling all these attention whoring stunts and constantly calling me and shizz.



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Bah, nevermind my posts. I just realized I'm just an attention whore too, but I'm finding other ways to suit my needs than she is. For one, posting here isn't really doing anything. I'm just whining and polonging my decisions. I guess to get sympathy or whatever. I don't even know. Maybe I should get therapy too. I'm supposed ot be going soon for OCD anyways.

I'll just screw around with this other girl since we are officially broken up, and let fate take it's course. Brit will ge tpissed and want to have nothing to do with me, and I won't have to worry about any of this.

I'm just as bad as her.[/QUOTE]
Ok firstly ur not as bad as her. and ur not doing this for attention. ur using this as a way to vent, and a way to get answers for the questions that r going through your head. I'm not saying that she's trying to get rid of you, she's trying to get attention, but in a childish, immature way, that is getting the attention she so desperately wants. This isn't your fault, and if people didnt want to hear about your probs, they wouldn't open this thread:p dont feel guilty for being with this other chick, at least she is treating you right. and if you feel like you need to get therapy, then you could if you want

I've been lurking around here for ages, now I have a question.

This girl I like, well, I overheard her telling her friends that she has a "soon-to-be" boyfriend. How am I supposed to interpret this? Should I still go for her?

[QUOTE=Werny]I've been lurking around here for ages, now I have a question.

This girl I like, well, I overheard her telling her friends that she has a "soon-to-be" boyfriend. How am I supposed to interpret this? Should I still go for her?[/QUOTE]
Of course you should.

I mean, does she know how you feel yet? If not, that could change things completely if she found out, because there's always the possibility of her feeling the same.

Damien:

[b][size=5]THIS GIRL IS MILES AND MILES AWAY FROM YOU IN A PSYCH WARD. SHE IS NOT GOING TO COME KICK YOUR AS[FONT=VERDANA]S[/FONT] IF YOU GO OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS WHO TREAT YOU FAR BETTER AND AREN'T CUTTING THEMSELVES.

FOR THE LOVE OF JEBUS, HAVE SOME FUN WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND STOP BEING A COMPLETE VAG ABOUT THIS.[/B][/SIZE]

:-D

mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance

[QUOTE=crazycool]mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance[/QUOTE]

Well, if your girlfriend is going to act that way, Im guessing she is very insecure and immature at the same time.

I also think that if she likes you and respects you, she would tell that other kid to back off, as it is bothering you.

You just need to talk to her and tell her how you feel.

yea purplefeet is right, if she is going to be immature about it, flirting with some guy just because she thought you were looking at other girls, you should take the mature approach - talk about it.

you could think really deep into what she is doing as i sometimes do :( lol but im sure you are young? so its just some girl.

nvm actually

purplefeet is right.

Wow, this story looks familiar, too.

With me, the Korean kid knew that I could beat the shi[font=verdana]t[/font] out of him if he tried anything, so as soon as he saw me he would back off.

And I always condone fights ;)

Just kidding. But as long as you're assertive when you talk to your girlfriend, as purplefeet said, you should have some notion as to where she stands with you.

she was jealous and more attracted to you at that moment because of it

don't screw up by being insecure

if you're not even worth the effort of trying to make you jealous and beta-ize you THEN you have a problem. but this is normal stuff. i don't even think its worth talking about or treating as a problem.


but if you're girlfriend gets jealous just because you [I]look[/I] at other girls you need a better screening process for girlfriends

Wow new L & R thread; I've been away for too long. First of all how are you guys? To bring any of my old friends up to date on what's going on with me: I finally got one of those girlfriend things I've been hearing so much about. Going on 3 weeks now and it's the best.

I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]
I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?[/QUOTE]

u just gotta let him know the truth
once he realizes that then it wont be that hard on him
i have the same dilemma so i know excatly what your talking about

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Wow new L & R thread; I've been away for too long. First of all how are you guys? To bring any of my old friends up to date on what's going on with me: I finally got one of those girlfriend things I've been hearing so much about. Going on 3 weeks now and it's the best.

I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?[/QUOTE]
Well, try to make it clear to him that he doesn't have a chance. Don't just go right out with it and say "You don't have a chance." That would be mean. Just try to, er, sway him away.

[QUOTE=crazycool]mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance[/QUOTE]

what do i do about the korean?

So i saw this girl.

I've heard from my friend she was givin me the eye one day.

How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?

[QUOTE=crazycool]what do i do about the korean?[/QUOTE]
if you have a goodlooking girlfriend there will always be guys looking at her and attempting to flirt with her. treating them all as threats and being insecure about her giving other guys attention is not going to help you.
[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]
How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?[/QUOTE]
why do you need to hide that you [I]might[/I] be interested in her

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]So i saw this girl.

I've heard from my friend she was givin me the eye one day.

How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?[/QUOTE]
Go up to her, start a conversation on what is going on around ye. like "ha trust that guy to fall over" or something, she'd laugh - ye talk so on...
I dono - go with the flow as they say.

So things seem to be picking up with that girl, lets call her Julia (Yes, the one that is 3 years older than me). About 15 minutes or so ago I was bored and was looking at her sister's myspace (I knew her first, we've been friends for about 5 years). Then I was looking at Julia's. There was a post that some guy left today. This is it word for word, I copied and pasted it:
"Hey there baaaabeee!!! I can't wait to see you tomorrow, going to be a good time!! Now if only we could get something to drink to make it that much better ;) "
This guy is her age, and is in college, I'm pretty worried/confused about this. I asked her what she's doing tomorrow, and she said she has a volleyball tournament until 5, and tonight she's out with her volleyball team. I don't know what to think about this. Technically we aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. But she's said things like "don't worry no one is taking me from you", but that was last weekend. I don't want to just call her up and be like, who/what the fvck is this? Thanks for any advice.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]
"Hey there baaaabeee!!! I can't wait to see you tomorrow, going to be a good time!! Now if only we could get something to drink to make it that much better ;) "
This guy is her age, and is in college, I'm pretty worried/confused about this. I asked her what she's doing tomorrow, and she said she has a volleyball tournament until 5, and tonight she's out with her volleyball team. I don't know what to think about this. Technically we aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. But she's said things like "don't worry no one is taking me from you", but that was last weekend. I don't want to just call her up and be like, who/what the fvck is this? Thanks for any advice.[/QUOTE]


If there is solid proof on her myspace, ask her about it. It isn't like your just being paranoid or something, because you've seen the message so I think that you'd have the right to ask about it.

it could be a myspace conversation or something.

Ask her about it is the best thing - not to jump to concluesions and get a direct answer...