[QUOTE=Destined_for]


Then tell her that you like her and you want an honest explaination why she cant hang out.[/QUOTE]

did that, she wont tell me at all, but then she goes to hang out with some kids who don't even look at her in school.

also, i always get random texts duting the day of her just saying whats up

[QUOTE=kevinaro]did that, she wont tell me at all, but then she goes to hang out with some kids who don't even look at her in school.[/QUOTE]


I dont know dude. Apprently from what i know she doesnt even like you. Maybe she just wants a regular friend at school or something like that.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]I dont know dude. Apprently from what i know she doesnt even like you. Maybe she just wants a regular friend at school or something like that.[/QUOTE]

yea idk.

can i get a girls point of view on this?

[QUOTE=ATC]I know what you mean. It's scary. I won't date people that are within my circle of friends, ever. I only date outside my circle and it takes very very long before I let her hang out with my friends but hypocritically, I have no problem hanging out with her friends, not excessively, but still. It's worked out for me so far so probably, they don't need to mix.[/QUOTE]


Ya when they mix. Your ****ed. But my gf knows that i get jealous easily and she just makes fun of him the whole time. She twists his words and makes fun of him constanly. She does that to me somestimes but im used to it and i know she loves me. I just get mad at my friend matt for trying to meet my gf's. I dont tell him anything anymore. Because it just doesnt mix. and i told him if anything happens that i will kill him and torture him but he cant get her anyway because he is a f[B]u[/B]cking drunk and he is a slob. I just get pissed when friends do this. Because i wouldnt do that to any of my friends.

Okay, I'm gonna explode if I don't ask for advice, and please, I don't want this strictass crap like "Suck it up" or "Stop bitching" or any of that. Please hear me out and give me some decent advice.

There's this girl that I just think is amazing, and I just can't stop thinking about her. She's already my friend, but she isn't as close as most of my friends. She already knows that I really like her (I think I may love her since I care about her so much), but she doens't share the same feelings towards me. Now, I know I could just forget about her and look for someone else, but I don't want to. When I think of her I feel great, anytime I'm depressed and I think about being with her, everything feels wonderful. Now, I know that there's been people who liked girls that said they'd never like the people that like em', but somehow, they end up being together, and I'm hoping this'll happen with me and her. Problem is, I don't know what to do.

I want to do something that'll show her how much I care for her, and may get her to wake up and realise that I should be with her, but I don't want to do something that'll annoy her, because I don't want to ruin our friendship. Like, I don't want to keep begging her, not that I have, but I want to do something that could make her maybe change her mind and maybe even fall in love with me. According to her, it's not my looks she doesn't like, she just for some reason does not like me that way.

Please guys, give me some good tips to where I can get her. Please.

[QUOTE=kevinaro]yea idk.

can i get a girls point of view on this?[/QUOTE]

I'm thinking that she does only want a friend at school. But if she's really touchy there I'd tell her to quit.

[QUOTE=Dookie56]is it lame that i am 15 and have never made with out anyone before???:([/QUOTE]

No, there's nothing lame about it. I'm 15 and have never had a girlfriend in my life. People that say you're lame because you've never madeout before are just looking for something wrong with you to take attention away from themselves. When you feel ready to ask people out and perhaps make out, then do it. Don't try and get a girlfriend just because people make fun of you for not having it.

Should i be worried about any of these reasons


1. Before we went out she got fingered a lot just by friends that were guys.
2. She hangs out with boys a lot.


Should i be worried about this kind of stuff? It is in the past and i know she does love me and i trust her. what do u think? Am i just going crazy? Should i just stop worrying?

Destined for, I'd say stop worrying. It's irrational to hold someone's past against them unless they give you a solid reason to think they're still the same person. Unless you've got an absolutely clean past and you made it clear that you were looking only for other such people, that's unfair on the girl. You trust her and are in a relationship with her. That should be all that matters, ideally. And hell, a finger's a finger. She's got fingers too. Fingers are French. The French make croissants. Croissants taste good. Fingers are your friend.

[QUOTE=ATC]Destined for, I'd say stop worrying. It's irrational to hold someone's past against them unless they give you a solid reason to think they're still the same person. Unless you've got an absolutely clean past and you made it clear that you were looking only for other such people, that's unfair on the girl. And hell, a finger's a finger. She's got fingers too. Fingers are French. The French make croissants. Croissants taste good. Fingers are your friend.[/QUOTE]


lol. well im not so clean, but she said it happened like 6 times. and i like like 4 of them were just with friends.

[QUOTE=Dookie56]is it lame that i am 15 and have never made with out anyone before???:([/QUOTE]
no. wait till your with someone you really like.

the first time i made out with someone i was 12, behind our school caffeteria, next to a dumpster:rolleyes:

real romantic

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Should i be worried about any of these reasons


1. Before we went out she got fingered a lot just by friends that were guys.
2. She hangs out with boys a lot.


Should i be worried about this kind of stuff? It is in the past and i know she does love me and i trust her. what do u think? Am i just going crazy? Should i just stop worrying?[/QUOTE]

How 'bout you tell her that you'd never do that crap to her??

[QUOTE=Strongbad]How 'bout you tell her that you'd never do that crap to her??[/QUOTE]


She knows that. I have fingered her. Its not like i think she is a whore or anything. It just kind of shocked me when she told me. Then i told her never to bring anything like that up again.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Should i be worried about any of these reasons


1. Before we went out she got fingered a lot just by friends that were guys.
2. She hangs out with boys a lot.


Should i be worried about this kind of stuff? It is in the past and i know she does love me and i trust her. what do u think? Am i just going crazy? Should i just stop worrying?[/QUOTE]

I'm confused. Are you still with this girl even after she said she didn't want to marry you?

[QUOTE=Destined_for]She knows that. I have fingered her. Its not like a think she is a whore or anything. It just kind of shocked me when she told me. Then i told her never to bring anything like that up again.[/QUOTE]
this sounds a bit...confusing

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm confused. Are you still with this girl even after she said she didn't want to marry you?[/QUOTE]


No im not with her anymore. Im with a new girl. I just moved on really fast. I have always been that way with girls.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]No im not with her anymore. Im with a new girl. I just moved on really fast. I have always been that way with girls.[/QUOTE]

That's very fast. You fell out of love and fell in love with someone new, all in a matter of days?

[QUOTE=Destined_for]No im not with her anymore. Im with a new girl. I just moved on really fast. I have always been that way with girls.[/QUOTE]
Are you sure your not suppressing anything

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]That's very fast. You fell out of love and fell in love with someone new, all in a matter of days?[/QUOTE]


Yes, I have. like well im not sure that i love her. but i have know this girl for like 10 years. We have been friends so for so long. and lately i think that i have been going pretty fast. I think im just confused about everything. ugh.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Yes. I have like well im not sure that i love her. but i have know this girl for like 10 years. We have been friends so for so long. and lately i think that i have been going pretty fast. I think im just confused about everything. ugh.[/QUOTE]

I think you need to step back and take a breath, Jon.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Yes, I have. like well im not sure that i love her. but i have know this girl for like 10 years. We have been friends so for so long. and lately i think that i have been going pretty fast. I think im just confused about everything. ugh.[/QUOTE]
girls











who needs them

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think you need to step back and take a breath, Jon.[/QUOTE]


I think so too. I just want to take a break and now i cant and im freaking out.


:(

You NEED that break. Tell her so.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You NEED that break. Tell her so.[/QUOTE]


Okay. Thanks for the advice.

Well here it goes :upset:

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm thinking that she does only want a friend at school. But if she's really touchy there I'd tell her to quit.[/QUOTE]

What do you mean, "tell her to quit." ?

Tell her to quit being touchy feely with you...

Hints, mixed messages and all things misleading suck.

[QUOTE=Ibasslikethis!]Hints, mixed messages and all things misleading suck.[/QUOTE]


I like ur avatar.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Tell her to quit being touchy feely with you...[/QUOTE]

but I like it :mad:

[QUOTE=kevinaro]but I like it :mad:[/QUOTE]

It's not helping the situation, though. It's sending mixed messages.

She needs to either hang out with you, or get her hands off you.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]No im not with her anymore. Im with a new girl. I just moved on really fast. I have always been that way with girls.[/QUOTE]

Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.[/QUOTE]


Everybody has problems. Thats why this thread is here. Dont act like an a[B]s[/B]s

And it is a real problem if it wasnt i wouldnt of brought it up.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]It's not helping the situation, though. It's sending mixed messages.

She needs to either hang out with you, or get her hands off you.[/QUOTE]

hmm makes sense

REPOST:

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Okay, I'm gonna explode if I don't ask for advice, and please, I don't want this strictass crap like "Suck it up" or "Stop bitching" or any of that. Please hear me out and give me some decent advice.

There's this girl that I just think is amazing, and I just can't stop thinking about her. She's already my friend, but she isn't as close as most of my friends. She already knows that I really like her (I think I may love her since I care about her so much), but she doens't share the same feelings towards me. Now, I know I could just forget about her and look for someone else, but I don't want to. When I think of her I feel great, anytime I'm depressed and I think about being with her, everything feels wonderful. Now, I know that there's been people who liked girls that said they'd never like the people that like em', but somehow, they end up being together, and I'm hoping this'll happen with me and her. Problem is, I don't know what to do.

I want to do something that'll show her how much I care for her, and may get her to wake up and realise that I should be with her, but I don't want to do something that'll annoy her, because I don't want to ruin our friendship. Like, I don't want to keep begging her, not that I have, but I want to do something that could make her maybe change her mind and maybe even fall in love with me. According to her, it's not my looks she doesn't like, she just for some reason does not like me that way.

Please guys, give me some good tips to where I can get her. Please.[/QUOTE]

dam, strong bad has my problem pretty much

I'm not going to answer that, because you can't force someone to like you in "that way".

And, doing something that'll show her how much you care for her is almost a bribe. She knows how you feel about her already.

I don't want to force her. Right now she just thinks I have a crush on her and nothing more. Even if she never wants to have anything to do with me, I still want to show her that I care for her, just because that's the kind of guy I am. I don't want to do it necesarrily to make her mine, but I do care about her and want her to know that.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]I don't want to force her. Right now she just thinks I have a crush on her and nothing more. Even if she never wants to have anything to do with me, I still want to show her that I care for her, just because that's the kind of guy I am. I don't want to do it necesarrily to make her mine, but I do care about her and want her to know that.[/QUOTE]
If you really care for her, the way you say you do, then you should probably be caring about her, not you, and if she does just want to be friends, then try not to hurt her, and screw up that friendship with pressure for something more

It seems to me that you should be concentrating on turning your relationship into an amazing friendship, as it seems the perfect candidate for it.

You're not as close to her as you are with your other friends, but regardless of her not liking you in a sexual way, you dont wanna cut her out of your life, because she makes you happy?

I think it would be stupid to push things and ruin what you've got already, this girl makes you happy when you're feeling down, you don't get many people like that in your life. It'd also be stupid to push her away, for the same reason.

What I would do is start spending some [I]quality[/I] time with the girl, just you and her, but in a completely platonic way. Go do stupid things you would never do with a gf with her, and turn the friendship into something special, one of those friends that effects your life forever.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well Jesus Christ, what are you complaining about? Let us who actually have a problem get our questions answered.[/QUOTE]

This is your one and only warning.

Say something like this again, and you're going to take a vacation.

You must have a terrible memory or something: Destined_for's fiancé bailed on him. How is that not a problem, again?

Banning or not banning you doesn't faze me at all, but I will not tolerate one user telling another to essentially fuc[font=verdana]k[/font] off in this thread.