In person and as soon as you possibly can. Get away from the crazy bitch while you still can

[QUOTE=comptonassrobert]In person and as soon as you possibly can. Get away from the crazy bitch while you still can[/QUOTE]
Hey now, she isn't so bad i just kind of like this other girl n my gf is kind of obnoxious...thanks for the in person tip tho

Honestly Luke, make it quick and face-to-face. Just explain to her that though you two get along as friends, you argue way too much and don't hold enough common ground to keep dating. Best to just quietly let it go and move on with your lives.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Honestly Luke, make it quick and face-to-face. Just explain to her that though you two get along as friends, you argue way too much and don't hold enough common ground to keep dating. Best to just quietly let it go and move on with your lives.[/QUOTE]

For not much experience with these matters, you give quite good advice :-P

Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]
It's time for you to make a choice.

Either you can bite the bullet and tell her about your feelings, which means you're gonna have to stop being so shy, and then if she did have those feelings for you, then something might work out. Now, there's no guarantees. She may still get with this other guy, but if you sit back and say nothing, then there is no chance for you.

Now, if you don't do that, you can sit back, say nothing, and watch her go with a guy who is clearly wrong for her.

Do you see? You're shy, so in all actuality, both of those options really do suck, however, if you take option one, then there is a high chance that it will benefit you, whereas there is no possible benefit from the second option.

To Luke -

Just tell her to her face. You said it yourself. You're 14, these relationships don't last. You'll look back on this years from now and realize how pointless these relationships from about 12-15 really can be. Explain to her that you dont think its working out and that you still would like to be friends.

To SecretNinja -

The only thing you really can do in this situation is tell her how you really feel. If she's constantly on your mind like you say, sitting back and knowing that she's with some guy that wrong for her is just going to bother you more and more. The sooner you talk to her the better. I don't know if I'd go as far to tell her how much you love her and such, simply because that might scare her off. Just make it clear that you're still interested in her and hopefully she still has feelings for you. The sooner the better so find the courage and get in contact with her asap.

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]

I think you answered your own questions, hunny.

"I need to do soemthing about this"

"I wanna tell her how I feel"

"I love her"

I took out all the other talk about you being so scared and all.

To put it in the simplest terms, if you care about her so much..what do you have to lose if you tell her honestly how you feel?
If you dont do it, you will never know.

Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]

Yeah. It's in the past. Not even in your past, so it has nothing to do with you. If you keep focussing on it, you'll destroy what you have at the moment.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]
Yes, that's normal. But there's nothing you can do about it, so try to put it at the back of your mind so you don't screw anything up. Personally, past boyfriends and experience is a subject that bothers the living hell out of me. ><

Just don't let it bug you.

I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)

Then what's the issue of thinking about the past? If you guys are happy together, don't live in her past, and don't force yourself (or be willing to) live in her past.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yes, that's normal. But there's nothing you can do about it, so try to put it at the back of your mind so you don't screw anything up. Personally, past boyfriends and experience is a subject that bothers the living hell out of me. ><

Just don't let it bug you.[/QUOTE]


It really bugs me too.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)[/QUOTE]
Oh, I was thinking you were thinking about other things, not the fact that she was hurt in the past. :/

You're just being overly sensitive. No offense intended.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Should it bother me to think about my girlfriend's previous boyfriends?[/QUOTE]
it's fine, just dont worry about it

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]I don't obsess over it. I think it just bothers me a little that she was hurt you know? But it's not like a big enough deal to make me mess things up. We're doing great right now and always have been actually :)[/QUOTE]

Well, just keep in mind that she apparently didn't like the relationship she was in before, so she's with you instead. :D

There was some talk about homsexuality and bisexuality yesterday, so I just want to say a few things about when I came out to my friends.

I went to a very diverse High school, and I knew a bunch of people from most of the groups. I knew some jocks, I knew the nerds, I knew the goths, I knew the gay male cheerleaders. Basically, I was an antisocial kid with a ton of friends.
When I came out to my closest friends, all but two were cool with it. Those 2 said they were cool with it, but they avoided me for along time. John, and Greg. So after a while, I talked to them, and the said that they were avoiding me because they thought I would flirt with them all the time. I told them I would never do that to a friend, and then they stiil avoided me for a while, and then that year of school ended, and after summer break, we hung out again like usual.

I'm pretty lucky to have good friends who understand, or forget about it and not care about it.

Well, this has nothing to do with love, but I talk to you guys about things the most.

I'm about to throw up out of worriedness.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well, just keep in mind that she apparently didn't like the relationship she was in before, so she's with you instead. :D[/QUOTE]

Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?

[QUOTE=Tillius]Well, this has nothing to do with love, but I talk to you guys about things the most.

I'm about to throw up out of worriedness.[/QUOTE]

Elaborate if you don't mind.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Elaborate if you don't mind.[/QUOTE]
All I can say is that I think my past is about to catch up to me.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?[/QUOTE]


It does. But are there more important things to worry about. I hate worring so i try not to think at all. its really easy.

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Good point. I mean I know she's definitely happy with me and vice versa; it's not that I'm worried or anything. I just severely hate the thought of someone doing something that hurt her. Does that make sense?[/QUOTE]

Yes, but just as long as you make her feel special and wipe away her tears when she cries and all that, you'll be just fine.

What did her previous boyfriends do, may I ask?

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Yes, but just as long as you make her feel special and wipe away her tears when she cries and all that, you'll be just fine.

What did her previous boyfriends do, may I ask?[/QUOTE]

Slept with one of her best friends....And I hear he's just generally an as[B][I][/B][/I]s hole and they fought a lot.

Well, then, the chances of you and her staying together are very high. :thumb:

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Well, then, the chances of you and her staying together are very high. :thumb:[/QUOTE]

I could've told you that :p I can't foresee any problems in our relationship. Coicidentally the aforementioned friend of hers is one of my good friends too. Before we started dating (or when it became more apparent that we "liked" each other) the friend started being more....umm affectionate towards me. I thought nothing of it as usual; but apparently my girlfriend was made uneasy by it.

I'm not sure if they ever actually talked about it or not but my girlfriend and I talked about it and I assured her that I'd never cheat on her. So I'm pretty sure we'll be together for quite some time. That was dangerously close to being off topic so I'll stop now.

[QUOTE=Eggo]For not much experience with these matters, you give quite good advice :-P[/QUOTE]

I make it my business to know people. I may not be a been-there-done-that sort of guy, but that doesn't mean I don't know what's going on.

/shrug

[QUOTE=_ThisSecretNinja_]Okay so I started talking to this girl from work about 4 months ago...we got on great you know and we were always talkin and going out and stuff, and she DEFIENTLY liked me.

The thing is I was too shy and didnt do anything about it...and now over time we have slowly drifted apart...we hardly ever do anything anymore, she never calls me or returns my messages, and when she does it seems to be the biggest effort in the world.

The thing is im pretty sure she now likes some other sleaze bag...and it kills me to see her with someone whose only gonna hurt her when I know I love her and could treat her so much better.

I need to do soemthing about this...shes on my mind from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep and this is really starting to effect my uni work...I just cant concentrate.

I wanna tell her how I feel...but I'm too scared that its too late and will only make things even more awkward between us and drive us even further apart.

Our 'relationship' has been goign down hill for the past month or so. Have I left things too late? Can I make her like me again? I just dont know what to do...I need some help.[/QUOTE]

You're gonna hate me when I'm done.

Did you ever see the movie Sideways? Miles spent the entire movie trying in vain to come out of his shell because in front of him was the perfect woman for him and she clearly was interested. But by the time he finally got his act together, she had already moved on.

You are Miles in this scenario. She was interested, but instead of biting the bullet then and taking some action, you let it slowly peter out until she came to the conclusion that [i]you[/i] weren't interested in [i]her[/i].

Telling her now that you love her won't help all that much. In her mind, you're lodged too firmly in the just-friends zone.

But that's not to say you should give up on her. If you still care about her, you still need to find a way to keep her from making a mistake like dating selfish prick. I can't tell you how to do that. But it is time for you to take a stand.

[QUOTE=Tillius]All I can say is that I think my past is about to catch up to me.[/QUOTE]


How so?

wait, was it you.. with the girlfirend trip, and the mom. and the fininding out?



Edit- VVVVVVVVV Yeah, jom, you're right VVVVV
(I fayle at down arrows)

Nah, that wasn't him, that was ~grif~, I think.

I have Kristen on the phone aww-ing over all the pics on Cuteoverload.com. How do I make it stop? Haha

[b][size=300]HANG UP THE PHONE, GENIUS.[/b][/size]

Heh.

Big meanie. :p

She's been doing this for thirty minutes! rofl

Okay, Captain Manbitch of the SS Whipped...

God, come on guys, stop the spam.




<_<
>_>
cuteoverload.com ftw.

One can't help but laught at your situation. But I'd be there too if my girlfriend found something like that while on the phone with me.

This is a message from the recently banned Tojes, as he cannot say it himself:

[Quote=TojesDolan] To Kimmie (and whoever was offended by me in this ocassion: )


I have to start by saying I am profoundly sorry for being a prick in S&L. The reason I made that demeaning post was in a joking way, and was never demeaning to the capacity of Kimmie to make a critique.

However, putting myself in her place, being a complete newbie at there, it must be hard to find some sort of friendly environment, and I failed at trying to be funny, and somehow show her "hey kimmie we are friends arent we? lol hey joke"

I completely understand that Kimmie may have felt bad for my improper response in S&L, which I understand was immature and completely out of context.

Kimmie, I hope you didn't take it the wrong way: I'm no one to go talking trash about people on the internet. I don't have the right nation, internet service or cultural elements to even misdemean a person in the internet, and I hope you understand I was just joking around with you, in a very, very harsh way, I must add.

In all seriousness, I hope you see that this answer was true and it wasn't just to get my account back. If I had known you'd take the message the wrong way, I'd have never done it in the first place.

Cheers, and thanks for the read.

EDIT: Yes I know I passed the 15 minutes but it took me forever trying to register a new account, and my computer died for a second, so it took me about half an hour. :- /[/Quote]

well.Wow.That was a let down. Today I FINALLY decided to tell my good friend that I liked her for liek the past year I ahve been meaning to do this/ask her out, but iw as never sure. FINALLY, I told her today, becaue I wa SURE, SURE, she liked me now.so Yeah we were talking (we are really good friends) and yeah ,we got onto the good old memories, of when we got a week off of classes this year, because Her old boyfriend try'd to rape her and me and her just at out n the hall and talked all day everyday for a week then the teachers made us go back to class. But yeah ,then i finally told her after we ate Pizza and stuff (we do it every Friday).When i todl her, I was expecting like a Hug or a kiss. Something affectionate. I just got this Sad look towards me, and then she said "Jeff> Yesterday Ryan Asked me out (a guy at her work). THat was folwed by another sadder look. then "I'm sorry, but I like him." well yeah I learn to deal with what happens in the wrold around me/to me, but this was just wierd, I actually didn't know what to say to her to make her feel better (I felt really bad to have to put her throguh that) but i just couldn't I just looked straight forward as she hugged me, then she ran off crying.

The only thing that im really mad about is that I ruined our friendship. We had a wicked friendship. WE could Talk about anything we wanted, and in a moment. I ruined it. But mroe surprising, I was sad that when she was crying, I couldn'tthink of anything to make her feel better, My mind wa blank, usually I can jsut say one Quote or something of mine. but I ahd nothing.

What do i do, Im sure as hell not going to call her, thats just a sad way of repairing things, I gotta talk to her in person, and right now, as we speak, she is on a date with him. its really bothering me.

You didn't ruin anything, man. You told her how you felt, there's no shame in that.

Here's the thing: it seems like she knew this was coming one day, but she never prepared for it because she didn't actually expect it to happen.

Do you ever play things out in your mind, like you're rehearsing them? She probably rehearsed that that would happen, but she never expected you to say it the day after some guy from her work asked her out.

Hence, when you finally said it, she was like, "This can't be happening," and her only reaction was to cry.

Here's another thing: maybe the date won't go well.

Things are going to be a bit awkward, naturally, but things will calm down if you guys are as cool as you say. You guys can still be good friends after the butterflies and nerves expire.

Sorry to hear that man, and you didnt ruin anything

Truth be told, she's probably having a crap date, becoz she is upset and keeps thinking about you, and its probably pissing her date off, and then they'll get in a fight about it, then they'll storm out (no1 paying the bill) she'll drive over to your house, you will comfort her and calm her down then you can <insert nughty action here>

good plan, huh :naughty:

[QUOTE=The Fonz]How so?

wait, was it you.. with the girlfirend trip, and the mom. and the fininding out?



Edit- VVVVVVVVV Yeah, jom, you're right VVVVV
(I fayle at down arrows)[/QUOTE]
I wish it was that simple.