[QUOTE=EizingerIsGod]Try talking to her about it and if youre into this girl go at a pace shes comfortable with. It will be worth it in the end.[/QUOTE]
i don't agree with this really

i think you should just build the sexual tension til she jumps on top of you

talking about it just seems like it would kill the passion. i guess it depends on what kind of relationship you want with her.

[QUOTE=mikethecoug]Hey im in a prettty gurd relationship with a really nice girl atm, but its just she's a bitt hesitant about doin stuff. I mean when we're hangin out i kiss her and stuff but its like hard to get her to make out with me. anyways i could resolve this ya think?

im thinkin i should jus go to the cinema with her then i guess the ice will be broken sorta?[/QUOTE]


Well, is it ofeten, or just once? Maybe she wasn't feelling well. and you should have to "get her" to do anything, just relax, and hangout, then wait for a bit, and see what happens.

Also- anything to my post above. I mea, its no biggie, life is going good on a whole, but i miss having a relationship. ANd it doesnt help that my friend has his GF hang out with us all the time, though. but thats okay, becuase shes cool to hang out, and stuff, so... yeah

TO GRIF:

You should have been more precautious and have your priorities at a higher stake in this situation. See the volunteering first, then checking on Sierra. What could have happened if you saw her a few minutes less? Or even hours, or whatever.

Anyhow, All the thing that happened... I didn't get it very well... :-|

What I understood was that your mom called and they found out and now Sierra is in trouble... (sorry don't know about the background of the story)... I'd just talk about it with my mother... nonetheless, teenage years distant love isn't the greatest idea. Especially overseas AND with money given by someone that isn't you, for other reasons.

I suppose it was all a matter of getting your priorities going.


***

In a completely different setting of mind, I'd like to ask for suggestions/help/comments on my little... issue. I asked for it a while ago, but it wasn't a satisfactory answer. Not here, of course. Anyhow, here's my story.

I haven't had a girlfriend in ages. I think I haven't even had one, maybe something going on in elementary school, but nothing really worth talking about. Anyhow, this is my senior year, and I want to leave town, as soon as possible. In my group of friends, Im the oddball of the pack. Anyways, and regarding relationships: I've had very, very few real attempts at getting a girlfriend. The last one was with a girl with whom I related to fantastically, but things just didn't seem to work out, on any form. That pretty much sums up in the fact that I have a very hard time relating to people I want to care about, because I hate getting hurt emotionally.

Nonetheless, there's so much good about that game of love. There's fun, there's tears. There's everything. And I kinda like it. Problem is, I don't have any time to get things started with another person at my pace (3 months, tops) and I certainly don't want to be involved with a skank just for my "girlfriend resumé". So I guess the question is, what's the best thing to do in my situation?

Of any data that was given is at any point useless in the answer you're giving, just ignore it. Thanks.

[QUOTE=TojesDoLan]TO GRIF:

You should have been more precautious and have your priorities at a higher stake in this situation. See the volunteering first, then checking on Sierra. What could have happened if you saw her a few minutes less? Or even hours, or whatever.

Anyhow, All the thing that happened... I didn't get it very well... :-|

What I understood was that your mom called and they found out and now Sierra is in trouble... (sorry don't know about the background of the story)... I'd just talk about it with my mother... nonetheless, teenage years distant love isn't the greatest idea. Especially overseas AND with money given by someone that isn't you, for other reasons.

I suppose it was all a matter of getting your priorities going.

[/QUOTE]

I was precautious, and she didnt ring them, she sent them an email that she got off the site. She is just so nosey in what i do.

Its not some teenage love thing.

Granted i got my mom to pay for the trip but was only on condition that i sell my surfboard that i spent 6months saving for to pay her back.

Sierra was confronted about it, only thing was said if she "knew anything" and she just played dumb.

I know what i have to do - im just going to have to come out and say to the volunteers what i did, i do not want to get her in trouble so im going to leave her out of it saying she knew nothing, i told her to say the same. I have this whole idea of an email in my head i wil lsend them

Only problem now is them cotacting my mom and my mom throwing me out of the house. I wouldnt blame her honestly.

I don't think I believe in love anymore.

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]I don't think I believe in love anymore.[/QUOTE]

why becky?

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]I don't think I believe in love anymore.[/QUOTE]

:eek:

Oh God no! Don't get bitter and cynical before your time. You're still young. :(

You're right about not having enough time (3 months) to get something going, and what if you did? You'd be leaving anyway. So, unless she'd be willing to leave with you, why bother?

What are your plans after high school? College? If so, you'll meet tons of new people and your prospects will be greater.

So, just hang tight for the next 3 months. :)

EDIT: Dammit, a bunch of you got in my way. :p

This was to Tojes.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]why becky?[/QUOTE]

I don't want to go into too much detail, but since October, I've been reeled in, chewed up and spat out again by various guys. Every single time I've put my trust in them, they've let me down, and then I feel stupid for ever loving them in the first place. I guess maybe it's just bad luck. There just always seems to be someone better than me y'know?

Alright. Rant over.

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]:eek:

Oh God no! Don't get bitter and cynical before your time. You're still young. :([/QUOTE]

Yeah you're right. I'm only 18. The best is yet to come right? I guess I've just got hurt feelings at the moment.

Thanks.

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]I don't think I believe in love anymore.[/QUOTE]
what happened?

Or did you just,,, "realize"


Edit- Ohhhh.

Well, it happens, i... suck at advice, I don't know why i post here so much.

All i can say is...i.. don't know, I can only do specific stuff, not general love stuff... I'm still thinking though.

Sorry :upset:

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]I don't want to go into too much detail, but since October, I've been reeled in, chewed up and spat out again by various guys. Every single time I've put my trust in them, they've let me down, and then I feel stupid for ever loving them in the first place. I guess maybe it's just bad luck. There just always seems to be someone better than me y'know?

Alright. Rant over.
[/QUOTE]

So basically you don't believe in love cause some guys are dicks?

You just need to find the right guy.

/insert chick flick

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]So basically you don't believe in love cause some guys are dicks?

You just need to find the right guy.

/insert chick flick[/QUOTE]

Yeah you're right.

Cheers.

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Yeah you're right. [B]I'm only 18. The best is yet to come right?[/B] I guess I've just got hurt feelings at the moment.

Thanks.[/QUOTE]

Anytime Becky. :)

The [B]bold[/B] bit is spot on.

:) Cool cool. I guess I'll start feeling better soon.

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]Yeah you're right.

Cheers.[/QUOTE]

Beckster:

If it makes you feel any better (I caught the "always someone better than me" comment, and I know what you meant) as guys age, if they're not shallow guys, they stop doing the "grass is greener" nonsense. At your age though, it's more apt to happen. It won't always be that way, though. Keep in mind that guys mature much more slowly than girls, so you just gotta wait it out.

It'll be okay. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Keep in mind that guys mature much more slowly than girls[/QUOTE]

Not all of us...

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Beckster:

If it makes you feel any better (I caught the "always someone better than me" comment, and I know what you meant) as guys age, if they're not shallow guys, they stop doing the "grass is greener" nonsense. At your age though, it's more apt to happen. It won't always be that way, though. Keep in mind that guys mature much more slowly than girls, so you just gotta wait it out.

It'll be okay. :)[/QUOTE]

That does make me feel better thank you. I guess I'll just take my mum's advice and just stay away from guys for a while until I've got myself sorted out first. I'm not really in any rush to settle down or anything, I just want to find someone who doesn't either lead me on or get in the process of finding someone better when I'm trying to put my trust in them.

I'm just going to have fun with my friends. Enjoy the single life whilst I can.

Thanks for th advice Kimmie. :-*

[QUOTE=*Blue Haze*]That does make me feel better thank you. I guess I'll just take my mum's advice and just stay away from guys for a while until I've got myself sorted out first. I'm not really in any rush to settle down or anything, I just want to find someone who doesn't either lead me on or get in the process of finding someone better when I'm trying to put my trust in them.

I'm just going to have fun with my friends. Enjoy the single life whilst I can.

Thanks for th advice Kimmie. :-*[/QUOTE]

Anytime, snooks. :-*

[quote=Chrysostom]Not all of us...[/quote]

I should have qualified that with a "for the most part." Sorry. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I should have qualified that with a "for the most part." Sorry. :)[/QUOTE]

Ha ha ha. No worries. It's not like I took offence.*




















*[size=1]hands your pyscho man a chainsaw[/size]

excuse me while i go throw myself off a cliff.

[QUOTE=~grif~]excuse me while i go throw myself off a cliff.[/QUOTE]


( i take the exxageration)

do you say that as a joke to kimmies comment? or becuase of your situation?

[QUOTE=The Fonz]( i take the exxageration)

do you say that as a joke to kimmies comment? or becuase of your situation?[/QUOTE]
because of my situation, sorry i didnt read anything between it. Was just a random comment.

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]Ha ha ha. No worries. It's not like I took offence.*




















*[size=1]hands your pyscho man a chainsaw[/size][/QUOTE]

Don't worry, he's got plenty of chainsaws just lying around looking to be put into action. He'll chainsaw Chaindrive soon enough.

well, a) get off the internet
b) sit down, and think about the right way to handle it, prepare for the consequences, and think about how you can help the situation out.

Is your best bet. imo

Edit- to grif

[QUOTE=smart blockhead]I just got off the phone and everything went fine. She still wants to go on the date and we worked everything out. She said that other guy annoys her sometimes too and we talked about our lives in general and had a good time and laughed etc.[/QUOTE]
Ado chap. Sorry, I know this is old news now but... nice one. Glad to hear it's working out OK.

[QUOTE=The Fonz]well, a) get off the internet
b) sit down, and think about the right way to handle it, prepare for the consequences, and think about how you can help the situation out.

Is your best bet. imo

Edit- to grif[/QUOTE]
a) i have to use the internet
b) ive sent them an email explaining it, putting Sierra in the clear and hopefully not ****ing up things with me and the Volunteering.

[QUOTE=~grif~]a) i have to use the internet
b) ive sent them an email explaining it, putting Sierra in the clear and hopefully not ****ing up things with me and the Volunteering.[/QUOTE]

What did you tell your mom?

[QUOTE=~grif~]a) i have to use the internet
b) ive sent them an email explaining it, putting Sierra in the clear and hopefully not ****ing up things with me and the Volunteering.[/QUOTE]


The "get off the internet" was for advice, not as a GTFO my inratwebs, remark.

And howd you pull that e-mail off?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]You're right about not having enough time (3 months) to get something going, and what if you did? You'd be leaving anyway. So, unless she'd be willing to leave with you, why bother?

What are your plans after high school? College? If so, you'll meet tons of new people and your prospects will be greater.

So, just hang tight for the next 3 months. :)

EDIT: Dammit, a bunch of you got in my way. :p

This was to Tojes.[/QUOTE]
Yeah this thing moves quite teh fast. :eek:

Thanks anyway Kimmie. My plans are college, indeed, and I suppose that's the best thing to do. But I'll feel alone all this months. meh, I'll just bear. I don't think I mentioned it, but my friends swear they can't think of me with a girlfriend. They can't imagine a female character that's as mentally messed as myself. Yeah, I guess that makes up for it.

***

Regarding on what Becky said, I'd say yes don't have faith in men now. We are in that stage of our lives where seeing a vag¡na still gives us creeps. Once the whole fornication thing becomes boring (eh... i'd give that a couple extra decades... I was thinking of a time when you hav ebetter priorities) we have time for relating to other human beings, and especially giving a damn about others, especially a female.

So yeah I'd wait. But remember, there's always hope. :)

[QUOTE=The Fonz]The "get off the internet" was for advice, not as a GTFO my inratwebs, remark.

And howd you pull that e-mail off?[/QUOTE]
I explained everything best i could to her, i just told her the truth really.