[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Thank you, my Nicole.

grrls unite.[/QUOTE]


Oh, always.

Im listening to Wild Child by Scorpions..Im in a very good mood now :p

I'm in a okay mood...I had a weird day for some reason...

I've sort of got a problem.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 8 months. I feel like I am very much in love but i feel like this relationship is all me. She isn't doing anything to further it. She hasn't met my parents or even been to my house. She always has an excuse and we haven't gone very far sexually.

I'm always the one that has to call her and she never calls me then gets mad when I don't call her.

When I'm not with her I feel like just letting it all go and just being free without her, but when I'm with her it's completely different.

I'm so confused!:confused:

[QUOTE=enemytopublic2]I've sort of got a problem.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 8 months. I feel like I am very much in love but i feel like this relationship is all me. She isn't doing anything to further it. She hasn't met my parents or even been to my house. She always has an excuse and we haven't gone very far sexually.

I'm always the one that has to call her and she never calls me then gets mad when I don't call her.

When I'm not with her I feel like just letting it all go and just being free without her, but when I'm with her it's completely different.

I'm so confused!:confused:[/QUOTE]

Well it doesn't seem like she's trying to hard to stay with you. Cheat on her, see what she thinks. :thumb:

Nice, Justin. :rolleyes:

You don't always have to be the one to call...so don't.

[QUOTE=enemytopublic2]I've sort of got a problem.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 8 months. I feel like I am very much in love but i feel like this relationship is all me. She isn't doing anything to further it. She hasn't met my parents or even been to my house. She always has an excuse and we haven't gone very far sexually.

I'm always the one that has to call her and she never calls me then gets mad when I don't call her.

When I'm not with her I feel like just letting it all go and just being free without her, but when I'm with her it's completely different.

I'm so confused!:confused:[/QUOTE]

Its not fair that you are the only person who is trying in this relationship.
If you dont call her, she will eventually call you. Maybe you should give that a shot.

Im confused, however, to why she hasnt met your parents yet if you have been dating for almost 2 years :confused: How the hell does that work?

yeah...also, lately (read: for the past 3 months) We haven't seen eachother much or talked. It used to be we get home from school, I call her, and we talk till 8pm. Now we barely talk.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Im confused, however, to why she hasnt met your parents yet if you have been dating for almost 2 years :confused: How the hell does that work?[/QUOTE]

I'd like to know that as well.

So that Jazmin girl that I used to be really fond on sent me a message on myspace telling me she moved back in with her mom in Portland and she wanted me to call her. I called her tonight and we talked for about an hour about everything that's been going on. She recently broke up with her boyfriend (this morning :eek: ) and she said she was really happy that I called her. She told me that she loves the necklace I sent her while I was in Kentucky and she's keeping it forever and she wants to get together and smoke bowls this next weekend.

Jared is getting LAID! YES!

Oh, goody.

Hi Jared.

Hi Kimmie.

[quote=purplefeet]Im confused, however, to why she hasnt met your parents yet if you have been dating for almost 2 years :confused: How the hell does that work?[/quote]

It seems like she always has excuses...

I tried threatening her. I told her that she had a month to come over to my house or else i would completely stop communicating with her unless she said something to me first. I would move out of her locker (we share lockers in school) but i just couldnt go through with it...

[QUOTE=Iscariot]So that Jazmin girl that I used to be really fond on sent me a message on myspace telling me she moved back in with her mom in Portland and she wanted me to call her. I called her tonight and we talked for about an hour about everything that's been going on. She recently broke up with her boyfriend (this morning :eek: ) and she said she was really happy that I called her. She told me that she loves the necklace I sent her while I was in Kentucky and she's keeping it forever and she wants to get together and smoke bowls this next weekend.

Jared is getting LAID! YES![/QUOTE]

Wait..I guess I missed a lot...Lela?

[QUOTE=enemytopublic2]It seems like she always has excuses...

I tried threatening her. I told her that she had a month to come over to my house or else i would completely stop communicating with her unless she said something to me first. I would move out of her locker (we share lockers in school) but i just couldnt go through with it...[/QUOTE]

As much as I hate saying this, I dont see your relationship going very far. I mean, lets face it babe..its been almost 2 years and she still has not met your parents. 2 YEARS! You guys apparently are barely talking, she doesnt call you..and even when you threaten her, it doesnt make her change her behaviour. I think it would be best if you were to move on from this, or maybe have some time apart to see if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.

[QUOTE=Junooni]I don't condone drinking at all.[/QUOTE]
Me either. I don't drink ever, but I just wanted to have fun. :-/ I didn't get drunk anyway. I kind of felt bad drinking when kristen doesn't, and was kind of upset that I was. I spent most of the night kissing and making out with her...

I guess there's no chance of going back to Brit now. :-S

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Me either. I don't drink ever, but I just wanted to have fun. :-/ I didn't get drunk anyway. I kind of felt bad drinking when kristen doesn't, and was kind of upset that I was. I spent most of the night kissing and making out with her...

I guess there's no chance of going back to Brit now. :-S[/QUOTE]
I don't really drink anymore. I just kinda got bored of it. But you realise it's not important.

And y'know, maybe Brit would be a lot happier if you referred to her by name, not by an abbreviation of her country of origin? :p




On a Jonzier note, I've realised I absolutely hate Katy. She managed to send me from being happy, chatty and optimistic to miserable and reclusive in under 2 minutes. Which is like a record or something for her. I really wish there was a way I never had to see her again.

:/

[QUOTE=Jonzey]I don't really drink anymore. I just kinda got bored of it. But you realise it's not important.

And y'know, maybe Brit would be a lot happier if you referred to her by name, not by an abbreviation of her country of origin? :p




On a Jonzier note, I've realised I absolutely hate Katy. She managed to send me from being happy, chatty and optimistic to miserable and reclusive in under 2 minutes. Which is like a record or something for her. I really wish there was a way I never had to see her again.

:/[/QUOTE]


I think a way to do that, would just to ignore her. If she calls dont pick it up. Just forget and go on with life, but of course this will take time.

I sat here for a couple of minutes before I actually knew what you meant about abbreviating her country.

I'm so dumb. :upset:

[QUOTE=Destined_for]I think a way to do that, would just to ignore her. If she calls dont pick it up. Just forget and go on with life, but of course this will take time.[/QUOTE]
Oh, she doesn't ever call. It's mutual hatred I think. Either that or she's constantly PMSing. I have to see her every day. And there's only 5 of us on my course so we always end up sitting together. Usually me and her next to each other since the other guys are either late or don't show up.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Oh, she doesn't ever call. It's mutual hatred I think. Either that or she's constantly PMSing. I have to see her every day. And there's only 5 of us on my course so we always end up sitting together. Usually me and her next to each other since the other guys are either late or don't show up.[/QUOTE]


Does she even talk to you? If she doesnt you could just tell her to stay away from you, or something like that. Tell her your reasons for it too.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I sat here for a couple of minutes before I actually knew what you meant about abbreviating her country.

I'm so dumb. :upset:[/QUOTE]


haha its okay. Everybody has their dumb moments, i know i have had mine :)

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Does she even talk to you? If she doesnt you could just tell her to stay away from you, or something like that. Tell her your reasons for it too.[/QUOTE]
Only talks to me when she has to. Which I try to make sure is as little as possible. I'm just gonna avoid that bitch as much as possible.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Only talks to me when she has to. Which I try to make sure is as little as possible. I'm just gonna avoid that bitch as much as possible.[/QUOTE]

Good idea to do that. It sounds like she's making you miserable.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Good idea to do that. It sounds like she's making you miserable.[/QUOTE]


Ya, she really does. I remember a girl who did that to me. She was bad news. Dont let her get you down.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Good idea to do that. It sounds like she's making you miserable.[/QUOTE]
Definately. Just look at this graph:
[url]http://i2.tinypic.com/rbd2ty.png[/url]

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Definately. Just look at this graph:
[url]http://i2.tinypic.com/rbd2ty.png[/url][/QUOTE]

Damn, that's rough.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Definately. Just look at this graph:
[url]http://i2.tinypic.com/rbd2ty.png[/url][/QUOTE]

Thats no good. :(

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Damn, that's rough.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, MSoffice really went downhill after the 2003 version...

im a firm believer that no one can make you feel any kind of mood you dont choose to feel yourself...


unless you are a pregnant chick, or having PMS :lol:


but even that i could hardly argue as an excuse

[QUOTE=Che Guevara]im a firm believer that no one can make you feel any kind of mood you dont choose to feel yourself...


unless you are a pregnant chick, or having PMS :lol:
[/QUOTE]
I'm both.


:/

well, damn, when you expecting?

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Yeah, MSoffice really went downhill after the 2003 version...[/QUOTE]

:lol:

Help my friend with his girl issue. Here's out MSN conversation:

[QUOTE]
[Prophet 京] says:
I went to Missoula, and didn't really have time to call anyone
• Damien needs a band • says:

[Prophet 京] says:
And now a ton of people are pissed off at me o_O
• Damien needs a band • says:
o.o
[Prophet 京] says:
Including Eva
[Prophet 京] says:
o_o
• Damien needs a band • says:
uh oh
[Prophet 京] says:
Mhm
[Prophet 京] says:
And I haven't even talked to her about it yet.
[Prophet 京] says:
>_>
• Damien needs a band • says:
WHy not?
[Prophet 京] says:
I got in at 9 or so
[Prophet 京] says:
Last night
[Prophet 京] says:
and she wasn't on
[Prophet 京] says:
Meh
[Prophet 京] says:
Anyway
[Prophet 京] says:
The trip was fun
• Damien needs a band • says:
Awesome
[Prophet 京] says:

• Damien needs a band • says:
I forgot why you were going though <.,
[Prophet 京] says:
A friend was having a rough time
[Prophet 京] says:
Really depressed all the time, right?
[Prophet 京] says:
Then I tried to set her up with a friend from here
• Damien needs a band • says:
Oh yeah
• Damien needs a band • says:

[Prophet 京] says:
That ended up hurting her even more, because he's a ****ing douche.
[Prophet 京] says:
And I felt really bad for it
• Damien needs a band • says:
oh shi ><
• Damien needs a band • says:
Setting people up normally doesn't work <.<
[Prophet 京] says:
Because like, I convinced her that he wouldn't
[Prophet 京] says:
And yeah
[Prophet 京] says:
So I went there to cheer her up
[Prophet 京] says:
And I did
• Damien needs a band • says:
you did?
[Prophet 京] says:
And like
[Prophet 京] says:
yeah, I brought Liam and we helped her feel way better
• Damien needs a band • says:
Well, at least she was happy for a little whlie
[Prophet 京] says:

[Prophet 京] says:
Anyway
[Prophet 京] says:
Uhm
[Prophet 京] says:
So like, Eva HATES the girl I visited
[Prophet 京] says:
Because she likes me
[Prophet 京] says:
But the girl, Mia, knows I love Eva and wouldn't do anything
• Damien needs a band • says:
lol, that won't end well. I had the same sort of problem for awhile
[Prophet 京] says:
Before leaving, I told Eva I would call her
[Prophet 京] says:
But then Eva said that she did not want to speak with Mia AT ALL.
[Prophet 京] says:
Well, we were really busy all weekend, and I never really got a chance to be alone for more than 2 minutes.
• Damien needs a band • says:
Don't let the two girls talk...
• Damien needs a band • says:
Seriously, bad idea.
• Damien needs a band • says:
><
[Prophet 京] says:
So I decided not to call, to prevent a fight on the phone and ruin the weekend
[Prophet 京] says:
Good or bad idea?
• Damien needs a band • says:
Not good. girls like being called, no matter what the circumstance, lol.
[Prophet 京] says:
Bleh >_>
• Damien needs a band • says:
She would've felt better if she thought you were thinking about her whiel you were gone
• Damien needs a band • says:
And not the other girl
• Damien needs a band • says:
Since she is jealous
[Prophet 京] says:
gyah
[Prophet 京] says:
But you said not to let them talk, because it was a bad idea
[Prophet 京] says:
And Mia likes Eva
[Prophet 京] says:
And would have asked to talk
[Prophet 京] says:
Mia doesn't know that Eva doesn't like her
• Damien needs a band • says:
Oh, I thought you meant you were trying to get them to talk together
[Prophet 京] says:
Oh, noo
[Prophet 京] says:
I mean, they would have if I called
[Prophet 京] says:
And Eva said she didn't want to talk to Mia
[Prophet 京] says:
And Mia would have asked had I called
[Prophet 京] says:
And yeah, see my problem? >_>
• Damien needs a band • says:
Yeah. if the two girls talk, and Eva doesn't like Mia, they'll just get into a fight. <.< Happened with me
• Damien needs a band • says:
Depending on how volatile Eva is though
[Prophet 京] says:
I just didn't want a fight to happen, and for Mia to think that Eva hates her
[Prophet 京] says:
Then Mia would feel horrible for me even being there
[Prophet 京] says:
And boom, the whole trip would'a been pointless
• Damien needs a band • says:

[Prophet 京] says:
Bah
[Prophet 京] says:
Oh well.
[Prophet 京] says:
>>
[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry that it looks so sloppy. I really don't feel like going through all that and fixing it. If you care to read it, please help him out. I don't know what to say to him.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Help my friend with his girl issue. Here's out MSN conversation:



I'm sorry that it looks so sloppy. I really don't feel like going through all that and fixing it. If you care to read it, please help him out. I don't know what to say to him.[/QUOTE]


I must not be tracking properly this morning because that made no sense to me at all...

Maybe you need to know a bit of the history first. He is a long-distance thing too, and his girl, Eva, is incredibly jealous of his friend, Mia. He went with one of his friends to visit Mia, because she was really depressed and he wanted to set them up or something, and to go cheer her up. Mia likes him, and Eva knows this, but Mia knows that he's completely dedicated to Eva, so doesn't try anything.

Eva is still incredibly jealous, and is upset that he didn't call her all weekend, so she is probably thinking he's interested in Mia. He didn't call, because if he did, Mia would ask to talk to Eva, to assure her nothing's going on, because she wants to be friends with her. Eva doesn't want to have anything to do with Mia, and won't talk to her. My friend thought it would be a bad idea to call, because if Mia asked to talk to Eva and she refused, it may upset her a little, and he was only there to cheer her up, and he didn't want to ruin the weekend.

is that understandable?

Oic, thanks.

Well, he didn't call, and now it's water under the bridge. So he needs to just go from there.

Yeah, I just told him that they'd get over it pretty much, and that he should've called. I just wasn't sure if that was the right thing for me to say. :-/

UGH! I have Brit literally screaming and crying and repeatedly calling me. What do I do? She's going nuts because I gave her a solid answer that we're not getting back together, because apparently I wasn't too clear before.

I don't know what to say to her! I can't handle her being emotional. i can't stand her being sad. >< ****

I'm sorry to just ignore everyone else's posts, but i'm in need of help.

I always come here, and I always get really good advice. I should have probably asked for advice before I made my mistake, as with hindsight i've done the wrong thing.

For the past 2 years or so, i've been in love with this girl. Absolutely, head over heels about her. Thing is, she's also my best friend. This was why I never did want to tell her. I didn't tell her straight off because;

1. She would never have gone for me.
2. She liked someone else at the time.
3. And because she saw our relationship as good friends only.

So, I was stuck with my thoughts, and feelings for this girl for about a year and a half. Come September, she leaves for uni. Me being an idiot, failed an exam, and am now stuck here until this September when I go off to uni. So, it was really sad seeing her go, because I knew from then on it would never be the same between us. Her being over 300 miles away from me could never have helped anything. All this time she's away in uni, I can't stop thinking about her. I just can't ever get her out of my head. We talk a lot on the phone/text/e-mail whenever we can, so there's still good contact. Late late November, a band are playing by her uni, I go to hers to stay over and watch the band.

Thing is though, i've never once thought of 'trying it on' with her, because it's such a silly idea. It would never work out, and she would hate me forever for advancing. But, I can't actually do anything other than think of her. I need to get it off my chest. I tell her on the trip up there, and it's absolutely ruined our friendship (and my life as I know it so far). I thought she would be more understanding, and see that in time I would get over it; I just needed to get it off my chest! But no, she said some really horrible things, in which I retaliated with more horrible words. Left hers in a sour mood, very upset; with a 5 hour train journey to try and salvage any thought on what to do next.

Well, i've tried everything I can, and i'm becoming more apparent as a pest, than a friend. She never talks to me, wouldn't return texts, or pick up the phone. I'm so heartbroken. I've given up on her, and myself. I feel absolutely drained about what's happened. I still can't get her out of my head, and i've only made it worse. She thinks I resent her now, and I do; but only because she wasn't supportive at all. Of course, what I had to tell her was very shocking. But she just didn't understand at all.

I don't know what to do. I need guidance more than anything I guess. In about a months time, she'll be back home, and this is the worst thing. None of our other direct friends know about what happened. I pleaded with her, and she's kept her promise. But it's going to be SO awkward when she comes back, and we're all in the same room together; they're gonna wonder why we aren't talking. I really have no idea what to do, and i'm hoping someone on here can be of some assistance. I think i'm already over the worst of it, but the hardest thing is that I don't want anyone else to know; and I only ever confided in her before now. I have no-one to talk to.

:(

I really dont know what to tell you, All I can say is that it took alot of courage for you to bring it up and tell her and you should be damn proud of that regardless of what happened, Alot of people would have never said a thing, maybe just give her some time to think about it and get over it and maybe things will be different when she comes home.

So I told her I kissed Kristen yesterday, hoping that she'd hate me or whatever now. That's all I told her though.

Didn't help. Now apparently she wants to kill herself and won't answer the phone. She's acting like a moron. Should I call her dad?

Well, thank you - it means a lot. What hurts most is that she seems to not even give a **** about me now. She has a boyfrined in Uni, and loads of great new friends.

She doesn't need me in her life anymore, but I need her more than ever.