Sucks

Im supposed to go over to my friends house today but i think im gonna go home and sleep instead.

Hum, well since I'm going to be the new Modermalator in here I'd like to get to know you silly saps. So who ever wants to IM me or something can.

AIM: startrekistehnpc

[QUOTE=Iai]I'm in two minds over whether I got dumped today or not.[/QUOTE]

what was said and how did you end the conversation?

A brief story of my life right now -

Right, so me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 weeks now. We've been friends for over a year, and there's always been sexual tension between us, so despite the fact we haven't actually been dating long, we're not strangers.

Now, she dumped her ex-fiancee to be with me. She dumped him because he cheated on her. Not to mention he's beaten her up and cheated on her before; I guess now that I was single she figured I was a quick way out, or something.

Now here's the problem. Her ex-fiancee can't come to terms with the fact that they've broken up. He's still going around calling her his fiancee, ringing her 6 or more times a day, all this stuff. No matter how much she tells him she doesn't want to be with him, he's ignoring her. So, me and her have had to keep our relationship something of a secret - if nothing else, he's a policeman, and he could easily have me stitched up for something I didn't do.

The kicker in all this is, that her mum also refuses to accept that they've broken up. As far as she's concerned, Juliet (my girlfriend) is just being silly and just getting cold feet. Juliet's told her mum that he's cheated, and that he's beaten her up, but her mum's basically told her to stop lying. Now, Juliet's dad died when she was 8, and her grandfather - her dad's dad - died a couple weeks back. He was the last living relative from her father's side (or at least the last her mum let her see or contact), so now her mum is all she has for a family.

So, of course, her ex-fiancee blackmailed her. He gave her the ultimatum of, if she didn't get back with him, he'd turn her mum against her.

Well, this has now all come to a head this weekend. Juliet's been getting pool lessons from a guy known only as Squidge. Juliet met up with him in the town center (shopping mall.....whatever), and her ex-fiancee confronted them. It ended with a fist-fight between Squidge and him, after he accused Squidge and Juliet, very publicly, of having an affair while he and Juliet are still engaged (which they aren't).

After this, he went straight to Juliet's mum and told her she was having an affair. Put on a real tear-jerker display, from what I hear. Today, her mum was rushed to hospital after having a panic attack as a reaction to the news.

To top all this off, her landlady is getting accosted by some woman who's stalking both myself and Juliet. This woman is trying to force her landlady to make Juliet break up with me, because she's not good enough for me. As far as I'm concerned it's just mind-games from her ex-fiancee, but make of it what you will.

So, I have no idea what's going on. She barely spoke to me all day today. She even flinched away whenever I went near her. I don't know what's going on; all I know is that I'm the only person in her life right now who's not causing her any problems. At least, I don't think I am. But her head's obviously messed up by everything that's going on....like I said, I have no idea. All I know is, she asked my best friend to tell me to stop acting like I'm in a relationship with her. Which, from where I stand, means I'm back on the market again. But meh. Guess I'll find out when I see her.

/L&R thread

So how was your day?

Ah, drama, a double edged sword, adding spice to your life yet tearing it apart. As I see it, you have to fight for what you believe in, no matter how small or how much opposition you are facing. People in this world are too easy to just give up and let things be as they may. You appear to like this girl quite a bit though only 3 weeks into your relationship you seem to be having problems usually not faced in such a short time.

Looking at your opposition (be it the prikk cop, or the insane mum) you have the option of having the officer accused of beating your girl in the past, of which you will need her full support, and simply ignoring the ramblings of a moronic mother, because as much as a mother may disapprove its up the the girl to decide if that's what she truly wants (you must have her tell you how she feels).

Dont let this situation get you down, let it give you strength to keep fighting for her, even if you dont know how things will work in the future. You gotta let your mind focus on what you want and find out what she wants, then work from there, dont let the law get you down, they are just human beings and liars, when it comes to matters of the heart, they do not apply.

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[QUOTE=Master Arkam Kannon]Ah, drama, a double edged sword, adding spice to your life yet tearing it apart. As I see it, you have to fight for what you believe in, no matter how small or how much opposition you are facing. People in this world are too easy to just give up and let things be as they may. You appear to like this girl quite a bit though only 3 weeks into your relationship you seem to be having problems usually not faced in such a short time.

Looking at your opposition (be it the prikk cop, or the insane mum) you have the option of having the officer accused of beating your girl in the past, of which you will need her full support, and simply ignoring the ramblings of a moronic mother, because as much as a mother may disapprove its up the the girl to decide if that's what she truly wants (you must have her tell you how she feels).

Dont let this situation get you down, let it give you strength to keep fighting for her, even if you dont know how things will work in the future. You gotta let your mind focus on what you want and find out what she wants, then work from there, dont let the law get you down, they are just human beings and liars, when it comes to matters of the heart, they do not apply.[/QUOTE]

I'm trying to get her to fight back more against them. I can't really do much though. If I go in all guns blazing with either her ex, or her mum, they're just going to have reason to hate me and will constantly put her under pressure to never see me again.

The thing is, her ex has threatened to commit suicide over her. That's bulls[SIZE=2]h[/SIZE]it - I've known enough suicidal people to know when someone's geniunely on the edge, and he's not. It's an empty threat. But it's not a chance she's ready to take, because if he does anything to himself, it'll be all her fault (or at least that's how she sees it), and she doesn't want that on her conscience.

Right now I'm the only person who's NOT putting her under pressure to do something. If I do start putting pressure on her, she'll kick back against it. I know her well enough to know that.

The advice is appreciated, though. You're right in what you say.

i had the same thing happen to my ex (concerning the suicidal situation). She had wanted to break up with her boyfriend of almost 2 years, whom she had "loved" and treated her like crap. But everytime she tried to get away he would say that he would kill himself, he never did, but she kept with him and even after they had been on a semi break, he had sex with someone else and it broke her heart but made her want him that much more. Women dont make sense, trust me, neither do most relationships in general.

Your girl may want something better for herself but no matter what she may want she may not think she deserves it and may think she was better off getting hurt again and again cause she thinks she deserves the pain. Let her know that its not true. The best of luck to you.

Thanks man.

[QUOTE=no peros calentes]Hum, well since I'm going to be the new Modermalator in here.[/QUOTE]

Good lord, they really unleashed you onto us? Heavens above!

Yeah I think it's gonna turn a bit rectangular in here.

We all know NPC's a SQUARE!

~gasp~ you said the S word! Now he'll ban us all!

~cowers~

Bring it on Golden Pond.

^Med's right. It makes me sad how many obsessive people there are in the world, and they all seem determined to make good people's lives far more difficult than they should be. Good on you for sticking with it though, you seem to be doing the right thing.

I don't wanna judge your situation Iai, but if you love her and she loves you then really, it should work out.

If she blocks out those negative nigga$$ and just focuses on what you two have, then it should all be gravy.

But, there really isn't a lot you can do, like MAK said just stick by her and keep at it.

Jealous ex-boyfriend cops = teh ghey.

I know. I guess she just wants to put as many things to the side as possible so that she can sort out things one by one. And I'm expendable right now.

I think she still wants to be with me once this has all blown over. I [I]think[/I]. I'm gonna have to talk to her about it.

If nothing else, I at least have connections round these parts (my sister dates a gangster's son :cool: ), so I can get some heads squished. We call this, 'looking on the bright side'. :)

But more importantly - look at Ashtray's user title!

Haha, awesome about your sister.

And take a peek at my user title, might cheer you slightly.

EDIT: Too late, you're way ahead of me.

Make sure that they is on da level if you is going ta' trust 'em to hurt someone... aaaiiiii

Damm you Ashtray!!

Ween shall revolt!

iVIVA REVOLUTION!

Oh my, you little RATS! You'll all be baninated!

SQUARE-eyes.

What side are you on, NPC?

/tempted to make nerdy RPG joke about non-player characters

[QUOTE=Iai]I'm trying to get her to fight back more against them. I can't really do much though. If I go in all guns blazing with either her ex, or her mum, they're just going to have reason to hate me and will constantly put her under pressure to never see me again.

The thing is, her ex has threatened to commit suicide over her. That's bull**** - I've known enough suicidal people to know when someone's geniunely on the edge, and he's not. It's an empty threat. But it's not a chance she's ready to take, because if he does anything to himself, it'll be all her fault (or at least that's how she sees it), and she doesn't want that on her conscience.

Right now I'm the only person who's NOT putting her under pressure to do something. If I do start putting pressure on her, she'll kick back against it. I know her well enough to know that.

The advice is appreciated, though. You're right in what you say.[/QUOTE]

As MAK said, if you can do something to ease the tension, then do so. I think it's good for you to try to be the mediator if you play your cards right. This will prove to them that you're worthy of her. But in the end, it's always the girl's decision anyways. I learned that the hard way. Just give all the support you can and never give up on her, I'm sure it'll pay off someday. Be the martyr.

Sorry couldn't be of much help..

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But those are post-break up albums:p

Heh, I've been meaning to check out The Ugly Organ for the longest time, too.

Yes Happymeal I realised that... silly little filipino.

I have a good mate who's from the Phillipines. His name's Jim, a really good dude. He always tells stories about people taping batteries to their fists...

Darn. I miss pollution. I hope me dad's gonna let me go back there for college. I really don't want to live here(not that it's a bad place).

Taping batteries to their fists??

[QUOTE=Iai]What side are you on, NPC?

/tempted to make nerdy RPG joke about non-player characters[/QUOTE]

The sunny side.

[QUOTE=Happymeal]Darn. I miss pollution. I hope me dad's gonna let me go back there for college. I really don't want to live here(not that it's a bad place).

Taping batteries to their fists??[/QUOTE]

yeah for fights and stuff, he's probably lying...

[QUOTE=no peros calentes]Hum, well since I'm going to be the new Modermalator in here I'd like to get to know you silly saps. So who ever wants to IM me or something can.

AIM: startrekistehnpc[/QUOTE]

Howdy :wave:

/tips hat

I reckon you'll be liked 'round these parts.

Strange, but not that surprising.. Pulp(a well-known magazine there) held a gig in a stadium last summer and everyone ended up getting hit by rocks and soaked in piss from mineral water bottles thrown by the drunks and addicts while the people onstage sprayed out free condoms to the crowd. Fun fun.

[QUOTE=Wanker]Howdy :wave:

/tips hat

I reckon you'll be liked 'round these parts.[/QUOTE]

I hope so my friend.

[QUOTE=no peros calentes]I hope so my friend.[/QUOTE]

Just steer clear of Tangy. He's apt to start a knife fight once in a while.

Other than that, its all dust and tumbleweeds.

[QUOTE=Wanker]Just steer clear of Tangy. He's apt to start a knife fight once in a while.

Other than that, its all dust and tumbleweeds.[/QUOTE]

Bah, nothing the Ol' NPC can't handle.

[QUOTE=Happymeal]Strange, but not that surprising.. Pulp(a well-known magazine there) held a gig in a stadium last summer and everyone ended up getting hit by rocks and soaked in piss from mineral bottles thrown by the drunks and addicts while the people onstage sprayed out free condoms to the crowd. Fun fun.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like a good time. :evil:

Piss and free condoms: what more could you ask for?

Who'd you think would win in a fight?

Edward Scissor-Hands, or Batman?

NPC or Tangy?

ESH is too much of a pacifist to beat Batman.

And NPC and Tangy would kill each other, leaving the rest of us to loot their bodies and sell their organs on the black market.






I mean, 'hey.'