I don't mind brutality rght now. I just want answers and ideas. :-/

What's she trying to get out of? If she's wanting to get rid of me, she wouldn't be pulling all these attention whoring stunts and constantly calling me and shizz.



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Bah, nevermind my posts. I just realized I'm just an attention whore too, but I'm finding other ways to suit my needs than she is. For one, posting here isn't really doing anything. I'm just whining and polonging my decisions. I guess to get sympathy or whatever. I don't even know. Maybe I should get therapy too. I'm supposed ot be going soon for OCD anyways.

I'll just screw around with this other girl since we are officially broken up, and let fate take it's course. Brit will ge tpissed and want to have nothing to do with me, and I won't have to worry about any of this.

I'm just as bad as her.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I don't mind brutality rght now. I just want answers and ideas. :-/

What's she trying to get out of? If she's wanting to get rid of me, she wouldn't be pulling all these attention whoring stunts and constantly calling me and shizz.



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Bah, nevermind my posts. I just realized I'm just an attention whore too, but I'm finding other ways to suit my needs than she is. For one, posting here isn't really doing anything. I'm just whining and polonging my decisions. I guess to get sympathy or whatever. I don't even know. Maybe I should get therapy too. I'm supposed ot be going soon for OCD anyways.

I'll just screw around with this other girl since we are officially broken up, and let fate take it's course. Brit will ge tpissed and want to have nothing to do with me, and I won't have to worry about any of this.

I'm just as bad as her.[/QUOTE]
Ok firstly ur not as bad as her. and ur not doing this for attention. ur using this as a way to vent, and a way to get answers for the questions that r going through your head. I'm not saying that she's trying to get rid of you, she's trying to get attention, but in a childish, immature way, that is getting the attention she so desperately wants. This isn't your fault, and if people didnt want to hear about your probs, they wouldn't open this thread:p dont feel guilty for being with this other chick, at least she is treating you right. and if you feel like you need to get therapy, then you could if you want

I've been lurking around here for ages, now I have a question.

This girl I like, well, I overheard her telling her friends that she has a "soon-to-be" boyfriend. How am I supposed to interpret this? Should I still go for her?

[QUOTE=Werny]I've been lurking around here for ages, now I have a question.

This girl I like, well, I overheard her telling her friends that she has a "soon-to-be" boyfriend. How am I supposed to interpret this? Should I still go for her?[/QUOTE]
Of course you should.

I mean, does she know how you feel yet? If not, that could change things completely if she found out, because there's always the possibility of her feeling the same.

Damien:

[b][size=5]THIS GIRL IS MILES AND MILES AWAY FROM YOU IN A PSYCH WARD. SHE IS NOT GOING TO COME KICK YOUR AS[FONT=VERDANA]S[/FONT] IF YOU GO OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS WHO TREAT YOU FAR BETTER AND AREN'T CUTTING THEMSELVES.

FOR THE LOVE OF JEBUS, HAVE SOME FUN WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND STOP BEING A COMPLETE VAG ABOUT THIS.[/B][/SIZE]

:-D

mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance

[QUOTE=crazycool]mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance[/QUOTE]

Well, if your girlfriend is going to act that way, Im guessing she is very insecure and immature at the same time.

I also think that if she likes you and respects you, she would tell that other kid to back off, as it is bothering you.

You just need to talk to her and tell her how you feel.

yea purplefeet is right, if she is going to be immature about it, flirting with some guy just because she thought you were looking at other girls, you should take the mature approach - talk about it.

you could think really deep into what she is doing as i sometimes do :( lol but im sure you are young? so its just some girl.

nvm actually

purplefeet is right.

Wow, this story looks familiar, too.

With me, the Korean kid knew that I could beat the shi[font=verdana]t[/font] out of him if he tried anything, so as soon as he saw me he would back off.

And I always condone fights ;)

Just kidding. But as long as you're assertive when you talk to your girlfriend, as purplefeet said, you should have some notion as to where she stands with you.

she was jealous and more attracted to you at that moment because of it

don't screw up by being insecure

if you're not even worth the effort of trying to make you jealous and beta-ize you THEN you have a problem. but this is normal stuff. i don't even think its worth talking about or treating as a problem.


but if you're girlfriend gets jealous just because you [I]look[/I] at other girls you need a better screening process for girlfriends

Wow new L & R thread; I've been away for too long. First of all how are you guys? To bring any of my old friends up to date on what's going on with me: I finally got one of those girlfriend things I've been hearing so much about. Going on 3 weeks now and it's the best.

I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]
I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?[/QUOTE]

u just gotta let him know the truth
once he realizes that then it wont be that hard on him
i have the same dilemma so i know excatly what your talking about

[QUOTE=Idiot Martyr]Wow new L & R thread; I've been away for too long. First of all how are you guys? To bring any of my old friends up to date on what's going on with me: I finally got one of those girlfriend things I've been hearing so much about. Going on 3 weeks now and it's the best.

I do have a dilemma though, kind of. My best friend is obsessed with a girl he has no chance with; is there anything I can do or do I have to let him make his mistakes?[/QUOTE]
Well, try to make it clear to him that he doesn't have a chance. Don't just go right out with it and say "You don't have a chance." That would be mean. Just try to, er, sway him away.

[QUOTE=crazycool]mu girlfriend and i went to a party the other day and we went bowling i dont know why we went bowling but thats another story so i was looking for somewhere to get something to drink cause i was really thirsty. but then my girlfriend thought i was looking at a group of girls at another lane. so she was acting kinda. so then after theres this korean kid that i hate because hes always hitting on my girlfriend so then she goes and kinda flirts with him just to make me jealous. i really like this girl but i have to do something about this korean kid and then her being jealous.
what should i do
thanks in advance[/QUOTE]

what do i do about the korean?

So i saw this girl.

I've heard from my friend she was givin me the eye one day.

How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?

[QUOTE=crazycool]what do i do about the korean?[/QUOTE]
if you have a goodlooking girlfriend there will always be guys looking at her and attempting to flirt with her. treating them all as threats and being insecure about her giving other guys attention is not going to help you.
[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]
How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?[/QUOTE]
why do you need to hide that you [I]might[/I] be interested in her

[QUOTE=rocknrollstar]So i saw this girl.

I've heard from my friend she was givin me the eye one day.

How exactly can i strike up conversation without it looking so obvious of what am trying to do ?[/QUOTE]
Go up to her, start a conversation on what is going on around ye. like "ha trust that guy to fall over" or something, she'd laugh - ye talk so on...
I dono - go with the flow as they say.

So things seem to be picking up with that girl, lets call her Julia (Yes, the one that is 3 years older than me). About 15 minutes or so ago I was bored and was looking at her sister's myspace (I knew her first, we've been friends for about 5 years). Then I was looking at Julia's. There was a post that some guy left today. This is it word for word, I copied and pasted it:
"Hey there baaaabeee!!! I can't wait to see you tomorrow, going to be a good time!! Now if only we could get something to drink to make it that much better ;) "
This guy is her age, and is in college, I'm pretty worried/confused about this. I asked her what she's doing tomorrow, and she said she has a volleyball tournament until 5, and tonight she's out with her volleyball team. I don't know what to think about this. Technically we aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. But she's said things like "don't worry no one is taking me from you", but that was last weekend. I don't want to just call her up and be like, who/what the fvck is this? Thanks for any advice.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]
"Hey there baaaabeee!!! I can't wait to see you tomorrow, going to be a good time!! Now if only we could get something to drink to make it that much better ;) "
This guy is her age, and is in college, I'm pretty worried/confused about this. I asked her what she's doing tomorrow, and she said she has a volleyball tournament until 5, and tonight she's out with her volleyball team. I don't know what to think about this. Technically we aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. But she's said things like "don't worry no one is taking me from you", but that was last weekend. I don't want to just call her up and be like, who/what the fvck is this? Thanks for any advice.[/QUOTE]


If there is solid proof on her myspace, ask her about it. It isn't like your just being paranoid or something, because you've seen the message so I think that you'd have the right to ask about it.

it could be a myspace conversation or something.

Ask her about it is the best thing - not to jump to concluesions and get a direct answer...

I looked at his myspace, and she didn't post on his. So I don't think it's a conversation

well i mean, a conversation between him and another through her myspace?
Just ask her about it man to straighten it out

Then post it here :)

wait until she calls

you dont want to come across as too worrisome (lack of better word)

what are you trying to accomplish

I'm trying to see if I can trust her if she's worth a relationship, and whether or not I should still be going to the dance with her.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3] "Hey there baaaabeee!!! I can't wait to see you tomorrow, going to be a good time!! Now if only we could get something to drink to make it that much better ;) "[/QUOTE]

I'd tell you not to worry about this, for the following reasons:

1. She's already said that she's obligated to you (in a sense).
2. This happened on mySpace.
3. This guy is probably a loser to begin with.
4. Maybe they're just friends or social acquaintances from school and nothing else. And if he's thinking poon, he's going to be disappointed if she is 'loyal' to you.
5. This is probably how this guy "talks." Even with the crappy emoticon.

But, there is no harm in asking her about it.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]I'm trying to see if I can trust her if she's worth a relationship, and whether or not I should still be going to the dance with her.[/QUOTE]
im sorry but that last one really made me laugh

[QUOTE=Jom]I'd tell you not to worry about this, for the following reasons:

1. She's already said that she's obligated to you (in a sense).
2. This happened on mySpace.
3. This guy is probably a loser to begin with.
4. Maybe they're just friends or social acquaintances from school and nothing else. And if he's thinking poon, he's going to be disappointed if she is 'loyal' to you.
5. This is probably how this guy "talks." Even with the crappy emoticon.

But, there is no harm in asking her about it.[/QUOTE]
yea Jom is prolly right, most of the lads i know talk to all the girls we know like that - babe - hunny - sexy - ugly. Prolly just m8z

Thanks Jom :)

[QUOTE=~grif~]im sorry but that last one really made me laugh[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but I hate dances, I haven't had a good time at one yet. I'll admit it does sound stupid:smash:

Thanks Jom, you're probably right...I'm just being a typical hormonal teenager.

Damn. Recently I seem to have gotten so bad at making an inital move on a girl. Like tonight, there were two girls at the bar, one of which was really hot, and I'm pretty certain was looking at me. Yet I just can't make that initial move, and don't know what to say. Once I get talking to someone I always seem to get on fine, its just the inital move I really struggle with. I just don't really know what to say without making myself look stupid. So yeah, I ended up not saying anything to the girl and they left.

I used to be going out with this girl, it ended pretty nastily with her threatening suicide. I broke it off, because, well, she was MENTAL! I couldn't help her, even though I tried. Anyways, my friend is starting to get an eye for this girl, and it worries me. It would be his first girlfriend, and she cuts herself. I really don't think it would be good for him. What should i do?

cheers :chug:

When i was in 3rd grade my dad died. Well i guess i did know what i really lost and lately i have been impacted by it more than ever. This is really hard to deal with right now. :(

[QUOTE=brood]I used to be going out with this girl, it ended pretty nastily with her threatening suicide. I broke it off, because, well, she was MENTAL! I couldn't help her, even though I tried. Anyways, my friend is starting to get an eye for this girl, and it worries me. It would be his first girlfriend, and she cuts herself. I really don't think it would be good for him. What should i do?

cheers :chug:[/QUOTE]


Tell him that she will F[B]u[/B]ck up his life. Tell him your story with her. (remembers memory of going out with a ****uped girl.

Love

woo hoo post 2000 4 this thread:cool:
[QUOTE=brood]I used to be going out with this girl, it ended pretty nastily with her threatening suicide. I broke it off, because, well, she was MENTAL! I couldn't help her, even though I tried. Anyways, my friend is starting to get an eye for this girl, and it worries me. It would be his first girlfriend, and she cuts herself. I really don't think it would be good for him. What should i do?

cheers :cheers:[/QUOTE]

Just tell him the truth?

[QUOTE=brood]I used to be going out with this girl, it ended pretty nastily with her threatening suicide. I broke it off, because, well, she was MENTAL! I couldn't help her, even though I tried. Anyways, my friend is starting to get an eye for this girl, and it worries me. It would be his first girlfriend, and she cuts herself. I really don't think it would be good for him. What should i do?

cheers :chug:[/QUOTE]
If she is still cutting her self because of you, suggest not to - and tell him that she is.
You should probably talk to her about it. Tell her to stop what she is doing to herself before she really harms herself. Tell that you do care about her as friend still and you are worried.
You're m8, if he dose like her, you should probably let him know. But if he dose to choose to regardless of her cutting herself, maybe it would cheer her up that she has this new guy in her life - might help her to get over you?

[QUOTE=brood]I used to be going out with this girl, it ended pretty nastily with her threatening suicide. I broke it off, because, well, she was MENTAL! I couldn't help her, even though I tried. Anyways, my friend is starting to get an eye for this girl, and it worries me. It would be his first girlfriend, and she cuts herself. I really don't think it would be good for him. What should i do?

cheers :chug:[/QUOTE]

i think first you should make sure she gets help for the cutting. do whatever it takes, if she wont do it herself then tell her parents, or teachers, or whatever. just do that first.

then you gotta tell your friend that this is clearly a person with a serious problem... and to get involved with someone emotionally unstable would be taking advantage of her. thats not right at all, he'd agree im sure. help him meet new girls... try to hook him up with somebody else... ya know.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]When i was in 3rd grade my dad died. Well i guess i did know what i really lost and lately i have been impacted by it more than ever. This is really hard to deal with right now. :([/QUOTE]
If you are not one to talk about things like that like i am, it can really build up on you. Knowing you're dad died at a young age dosent really impact you because you probably never really understood. But im sure now its all hitting you really hard.

My dad isnt dead, my parents are divorced and my dad is this raging alcoholic - i hardly ever saw him, i did go to him at weekends but he was never really a dad, just a father, hed drink while i was there and never talk to me - I was just there watching TV and when time to go home id go.
nearly 2 years ago i was told he was probably going to kill him self definatley with drinking. I didnt really feel anything for it but he still is my father, latley id think about it and i realise that i never really had a dad - he was there but he was just a father to me. Id get really sad about it sometimes knowing he is going to die and ive never had a father son relationship with him. I havent seen my dad in 2 years because i choose not to see him anymore. Knowing he could die any day because he drinks constantly makes me wonder if i should go see him now that im older.
When i watch this movies to do with dads and sons or something i really get pretty sad - i dont watch the movie, i relate with it - them having this great time and something that i could of had with my dad but never did because of it all. I was off my face on alcohol one night - got in a fist fight - walked off covered in blood - sat in an ally way and cried for about an hour and all i could think of is that my dad is dying because of alcohol and there i am getting pissed drunk every weekend not giving a **** about him.
I still havent seen him...

For you though, you can never see him again - and it must be hard. But there is nothing you can do about it but talk to someone to relate to it...he is gone and thats it...

Ive never actually told anyone about what i said up there..

[QUOTE=~grif~]If you are not one to talk about things like that like i am, it can really build up on you. Knowing you're dad died at a young age dosent really impact you because you probably never really understood. But im sure now its all hitting you really hard.

My dad isnt dead, my parents are divorced and my dad is this raging alcoholic - i hardly ever saw him, i did go to him at weekends but he was never really a dad, just a father, hed drink while i was there and never talk to me - I was just there watching TV and when time to go home id go.
nearly 2 years ago i was told he was probably going to kill him self definatley with drinking. I didnt really feel anything for it but he still is my father, latley id think about it and i realise that i never really had a dad - he was there but he was just a father to me. Id get really sad about it sometimes knowing he is going to die and ive never had a father son relationship with him. I havent seen my dad in 2 years because i choose not to see him anymore. Knowing he could die any day because he drinks constantly makes me wonder if i should go see him now that im older.
When i watch this movies to do with dads and sons or something i really get pretty sad - i dont watch the movie, i relate with it - them having this great time and something that i could of had with my dad but never did because of it all. I was off my face on alcohol one night - got in a fist fight - walked off covered in blood - sat in an ally way and cried for about an hour and all i could think of is that my dad is dying because of alcohol and there i am getting pissed drunk every weekend not giving a **** about him.
I still havent seen him...

For you though, you can never see him again - and it must be hard. But there is nothing you can do about it but talk to someone to relate to it...he is gone and thats it...

Ive never actually told anyone about what i said up there..[/QUOTE]

Well im sorry about your father. The thing is with mine, he was a great dad and i never got to really get to know him, which makes me incredibly sad. I miss him so much. I remember a few years ago, i would randomly cry in places that would remind me of my dad. It is so hard not to have him here/ even though i do have a step dad. I just never had a real father influence in my life.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Well im sorry about your father. The thing is with mine, he was a great dad and i never got to really get to know him, which makes me incredibly sad. I miss him so much. I remember a few years ago, i would randomly cry in places that would remind me of my dad. It is so hard not to have him here/ even though i do have a step dad. I just never had a real father influence in my life.[/QUOTE]
I can see what you mean, and im sorry for you're loss but if you just get it out - realise he is gone and not coming back, you will get over the fact that you will never get to see him again or have that dad figure in you're life.

Anyone can be a father, takes someone special to be a dad - and in you're case he is already gone.

Reading about all these father stories really makes me cherish my time with him. I couldn't ask for a better dad but like most people, I selfishly don't cherish it as much as I should. :(

I know going up to him and hugging him and saying "I love you" would mean the world to him (as cheesy as it sounds) but I don't do it... i dont know why

[QUOTE=~grif~]I can see what you mean, and im sorry for you're loss but if you just get it out - realise he is gone and not coming back, you will get over the fact that you will never get to see him again or have that dad figure in you're life.

Anyone can be a father, takes someone special to be a dad - and in you're case he is already gone.[/QUOTE]


Ya. but im dealing with it. Today im not doing so well with my life. Its been a hard day, i have been dealing with a lot of problems lately.

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Ya. but im dealing with it. Today im not doing so well with my life. Its been a hard day, i have been dealing with a lot of problems lately.[/QUOTE]
Piling on problems on you thinking about you're dad latley will get you real down, as it has.
Maybe you should put you're dads death aside for a while. Just dont think about it or try not to. Or put the other problems aside...take one at a time i suggest.

Relax.