Well, it's strictly that - a rumor. People like spreading rumors and gossip.

Then bring it up like that.

"I've heard a rumor that you might be gay."

You'll have your answer and it shouldn't be awkward.

Never believe rumors. I've had the worst experiences with those. Just ask her if you really wanna know, but do it casually, so if she isn't, she won't be peeved.

But just some random advice, if someone starts a rumor bout YOU, just go up to their face and confront their arse. Works every time. :thumb:



edit: beat twice, again.

Not by the second comment, though. Your absolutely right. Nothing stops the trash talk by confronting the person who started it.

I'm good at that.

I've been getting plenty of practice lately. Someone started some crap that I'm the world's biggest drug addict, when I'm in fact anti-drugs. Now, most of the time, I don't care what people say about me, but the two things that really piss me off are jokes about:

1. My religion/Culture

and

2. Drug Jokes

So now I have this reputation that I have earned over the past few weeks as some crazy-arse kid you don't wanna piss off. Works for me, even though I wouldn't hurt a fly, I'm more talk, but if I have to, I would engage in violence.

[QUOTE=TojesDoLan]Probably she dresses like a guy or does manly things, like milking cows.[/QUOTE]

Just saw this comment and got a kick out of it... because wouldn't a girl who is good at milking cows be good at... other extracurricular activities that require the same motion on a similar-in-shape male body part?

Ahem.

Anyways: rumors aren't fun, especially if they involve you. I've always quashed rumors about me with relative ease, but that's because when I go off on someone I don't stop. That, and chances are I could have split the rumorstarter into two or more pieces.

A girl friend (denote space) in high school admitted to liking me, but I was pretty cowardly because I was really happy with being good friends with her and that I was worried I'd ruin the friendship somehow if we were together.

Now, we're still great friends. And she's a lesbian.

Strange how biology kicks in after so many years, heh. But she's probably my closest girl friend, even though she's in a different state than I am for school.

EDIT: AND NO I DID NOT MAKE HER BECOME LESBIAN BECAUSE OF THIS, SO STFU BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK THAT.

I'm going to make sure she's going to therapy. No doubt about that.

How come I am not satisfied with any solution or answer. I've gotten all of the opinions from this thread, as well as my mother's and a counsellor's, but nothing seems to make me less confused or worried. Why can't I just accept things. It's really pissing me off, and I feel like I'm going nuts or something. :(

Might I just say this on the subject of being gay. Sometimes, women have been so battered by men during their life that turning to women is like heaven to them. So, damn, I don't know quite how to word this because "turning gay" isn't quite right.

Okay, looking to other women for companionship, etc. is a viable answer to them. Doesn't mean they won't entertain the thought of a man, but women don't seem to "batter" like men do, in a relationship.

Things that impact your life substantially will do that to you. I second-guess big decisions - I mean, who doesn't - and these are the kinds of situations that do not have a black-and-white, direct answer.

When I was your age, the world was black and white.

It's not anymore, though.

The light is on or it's off. Or maybe the bulb's burned out. :)

[QUOTE=Jom]Just saw this comment and got a kick out of it... because wouldn't a girl who is good at milking cows be good at... other extracurricular activities that require the same motion on a similar-in-shape male body part?
[/QUOTE]

Oh you crazy crazy labrador. :p

Anyway, I try to be objective in life. I try to narrow choices to either black, or white, whichever suits me better. Because that's the only really, really good thing I learned about logics: There's no gray in logic, there's either black or white. There is or there isn't. That's how it works in my decisions with life.

I don't think the whole turning to girls/boys after being battered by the opposite sex is healthy. I mean, sure it's the quickest way out of it, plus the sensitivity and/or brutal manhood you get from your significant other is just... such a nice thing. Despite I probably am the only guy among my friends that doesn't really like a girl at the moment (or say, for healthy periods of time), I wouldn't go gay because of that... It feels awkward trying to get what you get from the "other sex" out of your own.

I hope that's readable. but yeah basic idea: "bend it like Beckham" is a fantastic movie.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive] So, damn, I don't know quite how to word this because "turning gay" isn't quite right.[/quote]

I didn't say that. : |

I know you didn't; it popped into my mind and I decided it wasn't what I wanted to say.

Orlando...live a few more years on this earth and you might see why it happens: straight/gay/bi.

Bend It Like Beckham IS an awesome movie, only b/c it features the late, great, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan in the soundtrack..

tere bin nahin lagda dil..nahin lagda dill

[QUOTE=Junooni]Bend It Like Beckham IS an awesome movie, only b/c it features the late, great, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan in the soundtrack..

tere bin nahin lagda dil..nahin lagda dill[/QUOTE]
Oh you crazy arabs.

[B]TojesDoLan[/B]: How do you possibly boil every decision you make down so that it's always black and white.

Pakistani*

Not everything west of Austria is Arab.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Pakistani*

Not everything west of Austria is Arab.[/QUOTE]
My bad. By "arab' I refer to any of those sandy Islam places(:p). No offense intended. I don't know any other term to refer to the whole area.

Middle East works fine. I'm not offended, I realize that many people have not been exposed to this knowledge, and it's not your fault at all. :D

[QUOTE=Wizard.][B]TojesDoLan[/B]: How do you possibly boil every decision you make down so that it's always black and white.[/QUOTE]

That's what I usually do. The toughest is picking between the black and white.

That's why there's a gray option.

So you're not FORCED to choose.

[QUOTE=Junooni]Middle East works fine. I'm not offended, I realize that many people have not been exposed to this knowledge, and it's not your fault at all. :D[/QUOTE]
I almost said "oh you crazy middle easterners" but that doesn't look or sound right.

My (ex)best friend converted to Islam, and I got to hang out with him and the other Muslims at his masjid, so I got to learn a bit about the religion. I don't know squat about the countries though.

He's not your ex-best friend because he converted is he?

That's great that you visited a masjid, dude. Good to spread the love. I've visited a couple churches myself.

I really wish I knew more about this. I'm so ignorant when it comes to the middle east.

Nah, we parted ways because he moved, and he kind of went crazy because his father shot himself. :-/

To be honest, the people I met at the masjid were far nicer and accepting than anyone I've ever met at a church.

Wow..


That's what I've mostly heard, no offense.

Adnan (please tell me I got your name right), who was your last post directed to?

I believe it was meant towards me. :s

Woo! you got it right. And yep, it was to Damien Rhodes here.

Ok, cool on both counts.

I think D's done some looking into Islam. I think.

which one of u is damien rhodes?

Wizard. is Damien.

^ Wizard (will probably be late, but whatev)

[quote=Kimmie]That's why there's a gray option.

So you're not FORCED to choose.[/quote]

I don't really buy that. Adding more colors doesn't solve anything.

I'm talking about just me, here. I'm not saying my way works for everyone, because it doesn't. I have enough self-concept to know that.

You'll get there. Or you'll have mental problems because you didn't get there. :p

Nahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I'm not going insane anytime soon.

"That's the way, uh huh, uh huh, I WANT it, uh huh, uh huh."

That's the way, uh huh, uh huh, i LIKE it, uh huh, uh huh.

I just found my copy of the Space Jam soundtrack yesterday. Coincidence? I think not.

What else is on that? And I twisted the words of the song for Jom.

You want me to upload it for you?

It's got:

01 Fly Like an Eagle
02 The Winner
03 Space Jam
04 I Believe I Can Fly
05 Hit 'Em High (The Monstars' Anthem)
06 I Found My Smile Again
07 For You I Will
08 Upside Down ('Round-n-'Round)
09 Givin U All That I ve Got
10 Basketball Jones
11 I Turn to You
12 All of My Days
13 That s the Way (I Like It)
14 Buggin

I'd say yes, but I'm on stupid dialup. :upset:

Good songs, all, though.

Ah, sympathies. See if you can pick it up somewhere.

My mom said "That's the Way" came out when she was in college. Is it really that old? She's in her 40s too.