I'm okay. Got a gig tonight.

what kind of music do you play?

Classic rock and alternative.

[QUOTE=Mutilated Cadaver]I don't find 3 years' a big gap unless the girl is really immature. Some girls like older guys ya know.[/QUOTE]
Well, it's 3 years at the moment. I turn 17 in about 3 weeks or so. I don't want to sound like...I guess an ***, but I'm more mature than your average junior in high school. Don't get me wrong, I can be immature, but for the most part I'm not. I still can't tell if she actually likes me or not. People say that I'm a 'fun person to go to a dance with' so maybe that's all she thinks. I'm pessimistic when it comes to these things.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think you're past the point of no return, unfortunately[/QUOTE]
Wow I didn't realise that existed...

I'm pretty much best friends with the girl I like, we joke about getting married and stuff which is fine for her as she's probably not attracted to me now I hear about this point of no return thing, but it's driving me mad liking her so much...

I don't want to say anything in case she gets freaked out and we stop being friends...

When I liked this one girl, and I got in the friend zone, I stopped talking to her for a few weeks. Then when I saw her again she was real flirty...but I never pursued it. Maybe that'd work?

There was this girl I had a thing with...twice. First time, we got in a big fight about something, second time, I realized I can't trust her and don't really like much about her.

But this morning, I woke up and started thinking of her. I just liked spending time with her, not so much her personality most of the time. She's quite a bitch and stuff. She hates me now, but we always end up having feelings for eachother again. I want to try to make peace with her, but I don't know how since I have no way of really talking to her.

This is the story about the second time:

I started hanging out with her again about 5 months after the first time. That's when I started smoking again too, and one night I was supposed to be staying the night at a friend's house. I left about 12:30 or so, and went to her house. About 2:00, I come home and plan to just say I got bored and decided to come home. Didn't fly and they found out what had happened, as well as the fact that I was smoking again. Now, last time I got caught smoking(it was more like 3 times in a row) I was put on a sort of lockdown. No computer, phone, going out, anything for like 2 months. So I expected that to happen again this time. I talked to her a few days later and told her all about it, and asked her if she would wait the entire time. A few days later I realized having to ask this meant that I couldn't trust her, and that's when it started to get worse. I found out she had been hanging out with another guy a lot, and I know what that means because I know what she's like. I eventually talked to her about 3 weeks later, and I knew she was pretty much with that guy by then, but she was still claiming to be waiting for me. I told her that was bullsh!t, insulted her, was an asshole. She didn't understand why, I told her how she treated me like **** so much, and this was just me getting a bit even, and that it won't last. About a month ago, I called her and asked if she really did hate me, she said yes. I asked why, because I didn't really do anything out-of-line (meaning nothing she didn't deserve or was unjustifiable). She just gave me one of those "Pfft" things, and I hung up. That was the last I've heard from her, but she sits near me in study hall (I transferred to her school shortly after all that)

Y'know what the real ***-kicker is? I was only grounded for about a week and now I can smoke when I like.

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]When I liked this one girl, and I got in the friend zone, I stopped talking to her for a few weeks. Then when I saw her again she was real flirty...but I never pursued it. Maybe that'd work?[/QUOTE]

That's what I'm thinking of trying. See her one last time, make sure just to have a kickass time then have her come after [i]me[/i]

Forget about it dude, why waste your time with her. She sounds like nothing special. It's been said time and time again, but there are plenty of girls out there. You said it yourself, she's the kind of person that would 'hang out' with another guy without you knowing. She' s not trustworthy. And you guys fight a lot. It wasn't meant to be. Move on.

EDIT:To Baliente

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Forget about it dude, why waste your time with her. She sounds like nothing special. It's been said time and time again, but there are plenty of girls out there. You said it yourself, she's the kind of person that would 'hang out' with another guy without you knowing. She' s not trustworthy. And you guys fight a lot. It wasn't meant to be. Move on.

EDIT:To Baliente[/QUOTE]

But I just want to spend a bit of time with her again. I don't know why, I just do. I wouldn't need a relationship or anything.

Hi. Just here to say that I'm prolly never going to get the girl I want. Because I'm a cowardly bastard. :(

Plus she's never on the f[size=2]ucking[/size] internet.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Hi. Just here to say that I'm prolly never going to get the girl I want. Because I'm a cowardly bastard. :(

Plus she's never on the f[size=2]ucking[/size] internet.[/QUOTE]

Hi right back at ya.

What does the internet ahve to do with it?

There are ways to get over your cowardness, ya know.

Hello thread. entertain me cuz I'm uber bored now and havent been by in a long itme.

Strongbad: does she have a telephone?

Im not good with phone conversations. :/

[QUOTE=Strongbad]Im not good with phone conversations. :/[/QUOTE]

What about face to face? You can always work on these things...

That's even worse than phone. :/

I suggest working on these, either with friends or just sucking it up and calling or just casually talking to the girl.

[QUOTE=OnTheySlay]I suggest you stop acting like a little bitch and just talk to her.[/QUOTE]

Well said, I agree 100%.

[QUOTE=Strongbad]That's even worse than phone. :/[/QUOTE]

If you wanna get somewhere with this, you are gonna have to work on getting better with your skills. If you want help doing that, we will try but if you want the easy way out you will not make it.

Sorry to be so hard but its the truth.

i had a realy bad few days.
ive been talkign to this girl for like 6 months now
and she lives 100 miles away
ive still never seen her, so that sucks. but anyways
recently shes been akward on the phone
so i asked her whats up, and shes like
i dont want to get attached , and i dont care if you want to meet other girls
which trust me, i dont.
but i cant get her to take me back in the way she use to
i think i should just give up, and find someone closer
but shes to cool to do that, and i feel like i never will

what do i do : [

why do you feel so attatched if you've never met her (serious question)?

[QUOTE=the pope.]i had a realy bad few days.
ive been talkign to this girl for like 6 months now
and she lives 100 miles away
ive still never seen her, so that sucks. but anyways
recently shes been akward on the phone
so i asked her whats up, and shes like
i dont want to get attached , and i dont care if you want to meet other girls
which trust me, i dont.
but i cant get her to take me back in the way she use to
i think i should just give up, and find someone closer
but shes to cool to do that, and i feel like i never will

what do i do : [[/QUOTE]

Did you meet her on the internet, because really..if you did -> vacuum whatever type of fantasy you have brewing in your head of how things could be with a person you havent even met before. And if you cant even talk to her on the phone because it is ackward, what does that say about the stability and communication of your relationship/friendship whatever it is. Maybe it is good that she popped out of her bubble, its time for you to wake up.

Sorry to be extremely blunt and rude if you will, but your relationship:
1. Is not going to work
2.No relationship you have will work/be considered a relationship if your only means of talking are online. I dont care if your aunt, uncle, cousin or whatever have some story of how they met online and now they are married - its NOT going to happen.
3.Get out and meet people.

purplefeet is right. There's no reason in being attached to someone that way if there's no physical interaction whatsoever. Personally, I need to see a person to actually fall for her: the stares, the breathing, the awkward moments of silence and the flirtateous (if that's even an adjective) heat of the moment.

Then again, if she lives far away, why keep on suffering? Either she's getting it going with some other *insert name here* having *insert action here* somewhere 100 miles away from you. The best thing to do in this case: Go out, meet other people. Breaking the shell is always a tough thing to do, but trust me, it's the best thing you'll do to yourself regarding personal development.

Cheers.

^^^ You all have taken the words right outta my mouth.

Though the net might be a good place to get to know people better once you already have met them and maybe they had to go away or something, it will not work if you meet online and try it. Plus it is kinda pathetic, if that is the right word.

[QUOTE=TojesDoLan]purplefeet is right. There's no reason in being attached to someone that way if there's no physical interaction whatsoever. Personally, I need to see a person to actually fall for her: the stares, the breathing, the awkward moments of silence and the flirtateous (if that's even an adjective) heat of the moment.
[/QUOTE]
*Flirtatious.
1. Given to flirting.
2. Full of playful allure.

Gotta say, I love that second definition. It's just kinda funny.


But you guys know what's weird? I was thinking the other night about my future and what I want to do, and Katy's not in it anymore. There was some other girl who I've not found yet instead. Which is cool.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]There was some other girl who I've not found yet instead. Which is cool.[/QUOTE]

It's me.

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]It's me.[/QUOTE]
No it's not. She's pretty.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]No it's not. She's pretty.[/QUOTE]

Hey, you don't know how good I look in a miniskirt and fishnet tights. Don't knock me til you try me.

hey guys. I'm so damn bored right now, I guess I'll tell you my problem. Well, two days ago, my gf left for florida to go on a cruise (I live on the west coast). She'll be out for about 10 days or so. Anyways, I just can't stand being 3,000 miles away from her for this long. She also doesn't have much contact to me, which makes it oh so much worse. Is there anything I can do to make me feel at least a little better? Life is just... unbearable :confused:

[QUOTE=saars]hey guys. I'm so damn bored right now, I guess I'll tell you my problem. Well, two days ago, my gf left for florida to go on a cruise (I live on the west coast). She'll be out for about 10 days or so. Anyways, I just can't stand being 3,000 miles away from her for this long. She also doesn't have much contact to me, which makes it oh so much worse. Is there anything I can do to make me feel at least a little better? Life is just... unbearable :confused:[/QUOTE]
You could start by growing a pair of testicles.

10 days is NOT a long time. Chances are if you really think you have a future with this girl, at some point along the line you're going to have to be away from each other for a few days. Just hang out with some other friends, watch some TV, play some videogames or sports and just chill.

yeah, you're right... Now that I think of it, that was a pretty stupid question to ask. thanks bro

[QUOTE=the pope.]i had a realy bad few days.
ive been talkign to this girl for like 6 months now
and she lives 100 miles away
ive still never seen her, so that sucks. but anyways
recently shes been akward on the phone
so i asked her whats up, and shes like
i dont want to get attached , and i dont care if you want to meet other girls
which trust me, i dont.
but i cant get her to take me back in the way she use to
i think i should just give up, and find someone closer
but shes to cool to do that, and i feel like i never will

what do i do : [[/QUOTE]
From experience... I would seriously reconsider this relationship. If you get very attached to someone who is far away it can be really tough to let go. I think she's making the right decision. By the sounds of things she cares about you, but is scared of getting hurt because of the distance. In this situation, I think you guys would be better off as friends.

[QUOTE=Herbert_da_fish]If you get very attached to someone who is far away it can be really tough to let go. [/QUOTE]

One and a two and a three.

Well I broke up with my girlfriend on Friday. I wasn't really all that upset, just a little annoyed because of the questions from the guy in my religion class.

[QUOTE=Pazz]Well I broke up with my girlfriend on Friday. I wasn't really all that upset, just a little annoyed because of the questions from the guy in my religion class.[/QUOTE]

Well thats good that you are fine with it then. :) Im sure you will find a much cooler chick anyway

If anyone read my post a page back, here's an update.

I decided I'm going to leave her an anonymous note in study hall, just to satisfy me in some way. I thought of a quote to put in it, you guys tell me how it sounds. It's from a song that pretty much describes the situation.

"I'd have sworn that with time, thoughts of you would leave my head. I was wrong, and now I find just one thing makes me forget...Red red wine."

I'm also wondering if maybe I should put the entire song on there. I'd like to make it sort of artsy, sort of gives it some meaning, y'know? Thing is, I'm not that great of a drawer.

[QUOTE=Baliente]If anyone read my post a page back, here's an update.

I decided I'm going to leave her an anonymous note in study hall, just to satisfy me in some way. I thought of a quote to put in it, you guys tell me how it sounds. It's from a song that pretty much describes the situation.

"I'd have sworn that with time, thoughts of you would leave my head. I was wrong, and now I find just one thing makes me forget...Red red wine."

I'm also wondering if maybe I should put the entire song on there. I'd like to make it sort of artsy, sort of gives it some meaning, y'know? Thing is, I'm not that great of a drawer.[/QUOTE]

Hopefully she knows the song

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Did you meet her on the internet, because really..if you did -> vacuum whatever type of fantasy you have brewing in your head of how things could be with a person you havent even met before. And if you cant even talk to her on the phone because it is ackward, what does that say about the stability and communication of your relationship/friendship whatever it is. Maybe it is good that she popped out of her bubble, its time for you to wake up.

Sorry to be extremely blunt and rude if you will, but your relationship:
1. Is not going to work
2.No relationship you have will work/be considered a relationship if your only means of talking are online. I dont care if your aunt, uncle, cousin or whatever have some story of how they met online and now they are married - its NOT going to happen.
3.Get out and meet people.[/QUOTE]
I totally disagree.

For many many reasons.
You are totally wrong in saying it cant work
If you'd like to hear more - do quote me.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Hopefully she knows the song[/QUOTE]

Haha, yeah. I was thinkin of maybe leaving a few over a month or so's time, leading up to one that she would figure out was me. "Kiss me and smile for me. Tell me that you'll wait for me. Hold me like you'll never let me go."

You're a girl aren't you? What do you think?

[QUOTE=Baliente]Haha, yeah. I was thinkin of maybe leaving a few over a month or so's time, leading up to one that she would figure out was me. "Kiss me and smile for me. Tell me that you'll wait for me. Hold me like you'll never let me go."

You're a girl aren't you? What do you think?[/QUOTE]
i'm not a girl, but this chick doesn't even know who'd be leaving these things. she wouldn't even be sure if she knew the guy. it's pretty creepy really.
[QUOTE=the pope.]i had a realy bad few days.
ive been talkign to this girl for like 6 months now
and she lives 100 miles away
ive still never seen her, so that sucks. but anyways
recently shes been akward on the phone
so i asked her whats up, and shes like
i dont want to get attached , and i dont care if you want to meet other girls
which trust me, i dont.
but i cant get her to take me back in the way she use to
i think i should just give up, and find someone closer
but shes to cool to do that, and i feel like i never will

what do i do : [[/QUOTE]
telling a girl you want to be exclusive with her and NOT EVEN MEET OTHER GIRLS especially when YOU'VE NEVER REALLY MET HER is under no circumstances good

either she's uninterested and wants to end this "thing" or she just knows what she's doing and is making you think about her more and is setting you up to chase