Witty.

hah, i was the same way a year ago, i [COLOR="White"]f[/COLOR]ucked around with this girl, manipulation was used so i would inevitably end up with sex, knowing full well i wanted nothing to do with her, but refusing to acknowledge that i was using her like this. Course, afterwards [COLOR="White"]s[/COLOR]hit hits fan and she's in tears and i feel like dirt. Of course, now i laugh at it all, especially since i understand the whole male stereotype thing much better, have come to terms with it, and see this abuse of another human being as a step forward in maturity. I don't have the stones to keep doing that though, i seem to need a real honest relationship, and as a result have sabotaged all my newly forming relationships with girls because they all start giving off signs that they like me (wanting to go to the cinema alone, telling me they "really really like me" etc), to be fair this only happened twice, and both with 17yr old girls (im 18), and i'm thinking it's all to do with immaturity (damn that gentle bourgeois upbringing this silly little middle class town generates).

I say leave the guy alone, [COLOR="White"]s[/COLOR]hit happens, it's what makes life interesting (go on, tell me i'm an insensitive [COLOR="White"]a[/COLOR]rsehole) we all have to deal with it sometime

I would, but he's habitually childish and irresponsible...he doesnt need to be spoiled any more.

Well i can feel the love in this thread:p

I really like that girl and really want to ask her out, so im thinking of taking the plunge soon



I'll probably wuss out

It doesnt have to be that way. If you can make a pattern of doing that kind of thing over and over, youre life will be great. Ask her and ask the next girl, and the next...

and wat do i hav to lose? the thing is this emo guy keeps popping into our convo, which is destroying my confidence (the story is a couple pages back)

so i did it. and did it work out? no it did not:(

i dont know if this belongs here or not, but i didnt want to make a new thread and it goes w/ relations a lil i guess, but "is it abnormal feel phisycal pain when thinkin??" not thinkin like math prolems or anythin like but like thinkin bout life, and how much ive screwed up(or think i screwed up) its kinda hard to explain and if i try ill end up ranting so if u have any questions post em and itll be easyer for me to explain it thaks (also i have to go to skool, so i dont have that much time)

[QUOTE=Tiger]I would, but he's habitually childish and irresponsible...he doesnt need to be spoiled any more.[/QUOTE]
You don't know sh[SIZE="2"]it[/SIZE] about me, so shut the hell up before you make yourself look like an even larger jackass. The only reason you even post in this thread is to point out the obvious answers, because you think being "harsh" is going to make you look like some kind of internet bad[SIZE="2"]a[/SIZE]ss. If you're so mature and perfect, you'd realize you're providing s[SIZE="2"]hi[/SIZE]t advice that anyone with a brain can see.

my brother has a thing for my gf. ****ed up? yes. am i a prick from staying with this girl that i love or should my brother **** off? advice on what to do please, thanks in advance

[QUOTE=bodger]my brother has a thing for my gf. ****ed up? yes. am i a prick from staying with this girl that i love or should my brother **** off? advice on what to do please, thanks in advance[/QUOTE]
Well if you're brother only has a thing for you're Gf, and you love her....you do the math.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You don't know sh[SIZE="2"]it[/SIZE] about me, so shut the hell up before you make yourself look like an even larger jackass. The only reason you even post in this thread is to point out the obvious answers, because you think being "harsh" is going to make you look like some kind of internet bad[SIZE="2"]a[/SIZE]ss. If you're so mature and perfect, you'd realize you're providing s[SIZE="2"]hi[/SIZE]t advice that anyone with a brain can see.[/QUOTE]

Don't waste your time. The more Tiger tries to be so heavy-handed with people, the more they dig their heels in, but the more you try to convince him of this the more he does the same. Like a retarded circle of life, only over the internet and with text.

Now here's my advice: the standard beer, pizza, and Tarantino movie solution. You're going through a proverbial relationship withdrawal. Obviously, you still care about her as a person, but you [i]know[/i] that she's not right for you. What you need to do is act so shamelessly male for one night, that you have the chance to forget about it. You have a life, you have friends, you have fun.

Trust me, you'll feel a hell of a lot better after you do this.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You don't know sh[SIZE="2"]it[/SIZE] about me, so shut the hell up before you make yourself look like an even larger jackass. The only reason you even post in this thread is to point out the obvious answers, because you think being "harsh" is going to make you look like some kind of internet bad[SIZE="2"]a[/SIZE]ss. If you're so mature and perfect, you'd realize you're providing s[SIZE="2"]hi[/SIZE]t advice that anyone with a brain can see.[/QUOTE]



There is a lot of irony in this post, good job.

[QUOTE=Tiger]There is a lot of irony in this post, good job.[/QUOTE]

Uh, dude... now would be a good time to drop it. You've made your point, you pissed people off, unnecessary conflict results, etc. It's run its course. Just let it go, seriously.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Uh, dude... now would be a good time to drop it. You've made your point, you pissed people off, unnecessary conflict results, etc. It's run its course. Just let it go, seriously.[/QUOTE]


Teehee, teehee.

Well I have to now cause Im about to be on the road for a month, but when I come back the constant barrage of sarcarsm and mocking will resume.

I have no doubt it will. If you came back and started actually being nice to people, I'd have to hunt you down and kill you before your evil alien pods had the chance to replace the rest of humanity.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I have no doubt it will. If you came back and started actually being nice to people, I'd have to hunt you down and kill you before your evil alien pods had the chance to replace the rest of humanity.[/QUOTE]
For some reason unknown to me, I found this humorous.

Well, I know nobody cares, but I was just wanting to give this post an on topic subject, but anyway, I kissed Pam for the first time today.:chug:

[QUOTE=Tillius]For some reason unknown to me, I found this humorous.

Well, I know nobody cares, but I was just wanting to give this post an on topic subject, but anyway, I kissed Pam for the first time today.:chug:[/QUOTE]

Has Sarah said any more about that?

And, good on you. :)

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Has Sarah said any more about that?

And, good on you. :)[/QUOTE]
No. Sarah refuses to speak to me right now, says she never wants to talk to me again. I've asker her to call me later tonight, knowing full well that she probably won't.

To bad she doesn't see that it was her that started this whole thing.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]To bad she doesn't see that it was her that started this whole thing.[/QUOTE]
My thoughts exactly.

[QUOTE=Tillius]For some reason unknown to me, I found this humorous.

Well, I know nobody cares, but I was just wanting to give this post an on topic subject, but anyway, I kissed Pam for the first time today.:chug:[/QUOTE]

congrats!

my boyfriend didn't go to school today so i didn't see him.

he's up for the superlative nomination "too cool for school"
he only comes in for photo and band, and even then comes late and/or doesn't come.

[QUOTE=Luster]congrats!

my boyfriend didn't go to school today so i didn't see him.

he's up for the superlative nomination "too cool for school"
he only comes in for photo and band, and even then comes late and/or doesn't come.[/QUOTE]

You're dating one of them badboiz. Does he wear a leather jacket with the collar up, smoke cigs and swear at old people?

[QUOTE=Chrysostom]You're dating one of them badboiz. Does he wear a leather jacket with the collar up, smoke cigs and swear at old people?[/QUOTE]

he wears jeans, a black sweatshirt, a black beanie that he got free from the local gas station, and black sunglasses.

once i saw a guy from the back wearing the same thing, and my mind got very confused.

lmao

Things with my girlfriend are getting better. Even though I never said anything about the problems to begin with. Because of wandering eyes. psmatt

[QUOTE=Tillius]Let's hear it.[/QUOTE]
nothx

I'm capable of handling my problems without the advice. I find this thread is better for just talking about things and getting them out, because half the time the best thing to do to solve the problem is the most obvious. TBH Zack gives the best advice even if he is harsh about it.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]nothx

I'm capable of handling my problems without the advice. I find this thread is better for just talking about things and getting them out, because half the time the best thing to do to solve the problem is the most obvious. TBH Zack gives the best advice even if he is harsh about it.[/QUOTE]

that's half the beauty of the internet.
talking to people you don't know and getting them out of your system.
and then having some kid go "yOu'Re sooo gHeYyy"
really. it's a beautiful thing

*tear*

Zack isn't that brutal, his advice is actually good and works best in most situations.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]Zack isn't that brutal, his advice is actually good and works best in most situations.[/QUOTE]

I haven't really met him yet, but that's good to know, thanks.
It's always nice to meet people that can say things that are actually helpful. :thumb:

Zack=Tiger

I just like it in here because the people are cool.

I whine to Vince (Permanent Solution) about my problems instead.

[QUOTE=Luster]Through the forums? or what

I'm still bummed that there aren't PMs here. they were so handy.[/QUOTE]
No, on AIM.

PMs are ok, they don't take up any more bandwidth than posting normally, contrary to popular belief. But they have caused other problems like people PMing the admins and mods constantly and such. It's better without.

Damien: He's harsh yeah, but a lot of people in here need to stop whining about things without trying to fix them. Sometimes he goes a bit overboard but meh. It's only the internet :-\

Alright, here's my situation. My ex-girlfriend and I are still friends and she said she would consider being my girlfriend again. She also said that she would go on a date with me when the play she's in is over. Here's the problem. There's this other guy that calls her everynight and writes her poems and ****. He took her to this dance. She did say she doesn't know if she likes him or not and that she doesn't think she'll go out with him because she doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone just because she's flattered by them liking her.

I talk to this girl almost everyday during lunch and we get along great. I called her on Saturday and we talked for two and a half hours and she sat with me Sunday when we went with our youth group to the movies (she has other friends). I didn't go and see her the other day at lunch and she kept trying to lure me over there and the next day she seemed really excited to see me. Yesterday at lunch she kind of slapped me and we did that back and forth etc. Her friend was also talking about what she does with her boyfriend and she was like "sam and I do this"etc. Like I was still her boyfriend.

I found out on thursday or so that the guy I mentioned before had been talking to another girl on Myspace and he had been telling her the same stuff he had been telling my ex like "you're beautiful" and he even said "I love you". I told her about this yesterday and she seemed sort of upset and said I was lying but she was just upset. I talked to her later that day at school and she seemed fine and was nice to me. I called her later that night and she didn't seem that excited to talk to me and she asked me to tell her what that guy wrote and I did and then she had to go because she was watching the batchelor.(she really does watch that)

Then this morning I looked at my phone and saw that she tried to call me twice on Sunday within 5 minutes. So in conclusion, I'm pretty confused. On one hand she talks to me forever, agrees to a date, calls me. And on the other that guy calls her and she said she might go to prom with him(I couldn't ask her we're sophomores.) She isn't known to lie so I believe that she won't go out with him. I didn't talk to her at lunch today so she would have some time to miss me. So I don't know what to do. I don't want to seem obsessed and call her all the time, but I also don't want it to be too easy for him to get her.

[QUOTE=smart blockhead]Alright, here's my situation. My ex-girlfriend and I are still friends and she said she would consider being my girlfriend again. She also said that she would go on a date with me when the play she's in is over. Here's the problem. There's this other guy that calls her everynight and writes her poems and ****. He took her to this dance. She did say she doesn't know if she likes him or not and that she doesn't think she'll go out with him because she doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone just because she's flattered by them liking her.

I talk to this girl almost everyday during lunch and we get along great. I called her on Saturday and we talked for two and a half hours and she sat with me Sunday when we went with our youth group to the movies (she has other friends). I didn't go and see her the other day at lunch and she kept trying to lure me over there and the next day she seemed really excited to see me. Yesterday at lunch she kind of slapped me and we did that back and forth etc. Her friend was also talking about what she does with her boyfriend and she was like "sam and I do this"etc. Like I was still her boyfriend.

I found out on thursday or so that the guy I mentioned before had been talking to another girl on Myspace and he had been telling her the same stuff he had been telling my ex like "you're beautiful" and he even said "I love you". I told her about this yesterday and she seemed sort of upset and said I was lying but she was just upset. I talked to her later that day at school and she seemed fine and was nice to me. I called her later that night and she didn't seem that excited to talk to me and she asked me to tell her what that guy wrote and I did and then she had to go because she was watching the batchelor.(she really does watch that)

Then this morning I looked at my phone and saw that she tried to call me twice on Sunday within 5 minutes. So in conclusion, I'm pretty confused. On one hand she talks to me forever, agrees to a date, calls me. And on the other that guy calls her and she said she might go to prom with him(I couldn't ask her we're sophomores.) She isn't known to lie so I believe that she won't go out with him. I didn't talk to her at lunch today so she would have some time to miss me. So I don't know what to do. I don't want to seem obsessed and call her all the time, but I also don't want it to be too easy for him to get her.[/QUOTE]Maybe she just likes the thought of going to prom?

Just keep doing things how you have been, but don't leave it too long, because that's never a good thing. Maybe try and get her to go back out with you before prom comes around.

Damien: Ha. Doesn't matter anyways he's gone for a while.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]Maybe she just likes the thought of going to prom?

Just keep doing things how you have been, but don't leave it too long, because that's never a good thing. Maybe try and get her to go back out with you before prom comes around.[/QUOTE]
That's a good idea. I think she just likes it that this guy is nice to her and stuff. I'm nice to her and compliment her and stuff but I don't write her poetry and say you're beautiful every sentence. I think she may have started to have feelings for me again since she has been acting really glad to see me and stuff. I have the feeling she's under the impression that I'll wait for her to decide if she wants me or him or neither. This is why I"ve decided to stop talking to her at lunch every day, its still like we're going out for her and she doesn't have a chance to miss me or anything. So I'm think that maybe if I keep doing that I can gain the upper hand and she might decide she misses me. She has said she doesn't really feel like having a boyfriend now when I asked her if she was going to go out with that guy, but I don't know if that includes me or not.

Distancing yourself may give the other guy more opportunity to get in there, since you'd be paying less attention to her, and it sounds like she's loving the attention she's getting already.

Could be wrong.

[QUOTE=smart blockhead]There's this other guy that calls her everynight and writes her poems and ****. [/QUOTE]
haha

stop treating that guy as a threat. it's only hurting you. if anything tell her she should go out with that guy because he's so nice and he'll buy her things and treat her nice all the time blah blah. basically any wussy thing you can think of. you'll repel her from him and you won't look insecure.


and stop letting her define the terms of the relationship or you'll end up in an exclusive relationship with your hand
[QUOTE=smart blockhead] I have the feeling she's under the impression that I'll wait for her to decide if she wants me or him or neither. This is why I"ve decided to stop talking to her at lunch every day, its still like we're going out for her and she doesn't have a chance to miss me or anything. [/QUOTE]
this is totally the right thing to do
[QUOTE=Wizard.]Could be wrong.[/QUOTE]
and a big yeah to that

[QUOTE=smart blockhead]That's a good idea. I think she just likes it that this guy is nice to her and stuff. I'm nice to her and compliment her and stuff but I don't write her poetry and say you're beautiful every sentence. I think she may have started to have feelings for me again since she has been acting really glad to see me and stuff. I have the feeling she's under the impression that I'll wait for her to decide if she wants me or him or neither. This is why I"ve decided to stop talking to her at lunch every day, its still like we're going out for her and she doesn't have a chance to miss me or anything. So I'm think that maybe if I keep doing that I can gain the upper hand and she might decide she misses me. She has said she doesn't really feel like having a boyfriend now when I asked her if she was going to go out with that guy, but I don't know if that includes me or not.[/QUOTE]
It may just mean she's not sure.

Your plan sounds good, but keep in mind it may backfire and she may think you've lost interest as well.

Like you said, I just think she likes him because he says lots of nice things to her. Maybe if you go to ask her out again you could write her a small poem or something (If you're good at that kind of thing), since oyu don't normally do that it'll be really unexpected and nice. Where as eventually his non-stop compliments will get redundant because he does it all the time.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]haha

stop treating that guy as a threat. it's only hurting you. if anything tell her she should go out with that guy because he's so nice and he'll buy her things and treat her nice all the time blah blah. basically any wussy thing you can think of. you'll repel her from him and you won't look insecure.[/QUOTE] I told her she should go out with him if she wants to. And when she told me she might go to the dance with him I just pretend like it doesn't bother me. She also tries to make me jealous sometimes by showing me his poems and I either just ignore it or say ok. I don't understand why she would try to make me jealous if she doesn't have feelings for me.


[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]and stop letting her define the terms of the relationship or you'll end up in an exclusive relationship with your hand

this is totally the right thing to do

and a big yeah to that[/QUOTE]
Alright, I'll work on that, thanks for the advice.

[QUOTE=Fire Whispers]Zack isn't that brutal, his advice is actually good and works best in most situations.[/QUOTE]

I wub my cub, but he's not my age, ergo he hasn't experienced the things I have. His advice is always basically "suck it up and get on with your life". Sometimes, that advice isn't good, because you actually need to be READY to suck it up and get on with your life.

Well my gf hates talking on the phone and i know she is shy on it, but i always seem to think that she doesnt want to talk to me or she just doesnt like me even though i know she is in love with me. I know its all in my head, but im so parnoid. Im always like 100% parnoid. How can i stop that?

[QUOTE=Destined_for]Well my gf hates talking on the phone and i know she is shy on it, but i always seem to think that she doesnt want to talk to me or she just doesnt like me even though i know she is in love with me. I know its all in my head, but im so parnoid. Im always like 100% parnoid. How can i stop that?[/QUOTE]

Some people don't do the phone thing well. I'm one of those. The only one I have lengthy conversations with on the phone is Tiger.

Just try to cut her some slack for that.