[QUOTE=pohl_56]I wish my ex would just come around and talk, at least a little, to me. Her being and *** to me is really getting old now. We have some of the same friends, and we are forced to still be near eachother, but yet she is choosing to be an immature person.

/rants

Good luck with your situation.[/QUOTE]
We've always been friends since we broke up. There was some other guy that called her all the time and liked her, but she said she wasn't going to date him and i found out that he had been giving another girl the same bull**** at the same time so I told her. So I don't think he's really a problem.

I've sort of been mean to my (ex)girl all day, and ignored her calls, and he messaged me on Myspace, since she couldn't get ahold of me any other way. I basically told her to F-off and that it was over. Now her friend starts messaging me telling me she's extremely upset, and talking about doing stupid things to herself( :rolleyes: ). She's just trying to get me to feel sorry for her, but I think she's genuinely sad too. I don't want to be treated like a puppet, and I don't want to be alone either...

I want her back, and it hasn't even been a day. :(

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I've sort of been mean to my (ex)girl all day, and ignored her calls, and he messaged me on Myspace, since she couldn't get ahold of me any other way. I basically told her to F-off and that it was over. Now her friend starts messaging me telling me she's extremely upset, and talking about doing stupid things to herself( :rolleyes: ). She's just trying to get me to feel sorry for her, but I think she's genuinely sad too. I don't want to be treated like a puppet, and I don't want to be alone either...

I want her back, and it hasn't even been a day. :([/QUOTE]
If you want her back, get back with her. Just don't let her treat you like a puppet.

But she's acting like a moron just to get me to feel sorry and come back to her, so going back now would be playing a puppet. :(

[QUOTE=Rasta Rockerstat3]Haha, no it wasn't in vain, I think I will talk to her about it. Thanks for the advice, and I might just do what DrunkOverYou said :naughty:[/QUOTE]

hell yeah, you better!

[QUOTE=Wizard.]But she's acting like a moron just to get me to feel sorry and come back to her, so going back now would be playing a puppet. :([/QUOTE]

Here's some advice: Tell her that you want her to leave you alone for a bit so you can have some time to think about things without her distracting her every minute.

She hasn't said anything to me in maybe two hours, so I think she's quit for tonight. I hate not knowing how or what she's doing. I have no way of contacting her other than calling her, and there's nothing I really want to say to her. I want her to call me, but I don't want to seem like I just give in to her.

I'm not sure what to do, or what I'm even thinking/feeling. =S

The first day of a breakup is usually the hardest. See how you feel tomorrow.

Don't give in to her. Although her friend says that she is doing "things" to herself, she surely is not as you have already guessed. It would be a lie to be saying that she is doing fine, but you must realize that the worst that could be happening is her telling people what happened and crying. There is likely nothing more than that, so just be strong. You said not long ago that you wanted to break up with her and that it has happened, you are in shock. I've been there and I know how much it hurts, but you can make it through. Don't give in! :)

Yeah, but what if she decides she just doesn't care when she gets up tomorrow. Then I'll just be alone and completely forgotten, it would be like I passed up my chance or something. I guess I don't even need a girl that forgets me that easy though. =\

I'm sorry, I'm the avergae teenager that get's way too moody and bent out of shape over girls. :(

[QUOTE=Drone]Don't give in to her. Although her friend says that she is doing "things" to herself, she surely is not as you have already guessed. It would be a lie to be saying that she is doing fine, but you must realize that the worst that could be happening is her telling people what happened and crying. There is likely nothing more than that, so just be strong. You said not long ago that you wanted to break up with her and that it has happened, you are in shock. I've been there and I know how much it hurts, but you can make it through. Don't give in! :)[/QUOTE]
No. She'll say she is going to do it, but then she WILL do it. I'm just wondering if she got her friend to say that to provoke me, or if she was being serious between her and her friend. There's no way for me to find out. =\

I think you and I both know that she won't forget about it tomorrow if she is this upset about it tonight. Don't worry about being upset or out of shape, though. I don't think there is much of the population who doesn't get upset over break-ups.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]No. She'll say she is going to do it, but then she WILL do it. I'm just wondering if she got her friend to say that to provoke me, or if she was being serious between her and her friend. There's no way for me to find out. =\[/QUOTE]


If she kills herself she'll leave you alone, think about it.

If youre not in a relationship with her she's not your responsibility, although youre the reason for her hurting herself and stuff. Thats a cool position to be in.

My and Drone's posts, and your answers to them should tell you something.

Why on earth do you need a girl that "hurts herself" or "forgets you that easily"?

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]My and Drone's posts, and your answers to them should tell you something.

Why on earth do you need a girl that "hurts herself" or "forgets you that easily"?[/QUOTE]

Bingo!

Although you think you need her, you don't. She brought this upon herself, remember. You were the one being treated like crap.

I care for the girl, regardless if I'm in a relationship with her or not. Even if she isn't my responsibility, I don't want her to act like an idiot. She did that alot before I met her, and I got he rto stop. I'd like to think I at least changed some things about her. =\

She wouldn't go as far as to kill herself, but if that did happen, I wouldn't be happy in the slightest. It's sick for you to even think like that.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]....[/QUOTE]
what do you get out of being in a relationship with her



it just sounds like you've finally found a girl that took interest in you so now you're scared that you'll lose that. which is basically also why you were a puppet as you say.


is there really anything that special about her other than the fact that you've grown attatched to her

I know it's hard, but you gotta stick to your guns. It'll pay off in the end... time heals. I know what it's like to get over someone you really love and care about, it's a very hard thing to do, but once you're over her you'll feel a lot better.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]My and Drone's posts, and your answers to them should tell you something.

Why on earth do you need a girl that "hurts herself" or "forgets you that easily"?[/QUOTE]
I know all the answers I need really. I'm just moody and whiny.

[QUOTE=Drone]Bingo!

Although you think you need her, you don't. She brought this upon herself, remember. You were the one being treated like crap.[/QUOTE]
Well, you guys don't really know the whole story since I stopped posting here for ahwile. I kind of cheated on her. KIND OF. =\

[QUOTE=Wizard.] I kind of cheated on her. KIND OF. =\[/QUOTE]
go on.....

Do tell, D.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]what do you get out of being in a relationship with her



it just sounds like you've finally found a girl that took interest in you so now you're scared that you'll lose that. which is basically also why you were a puppet as you say.


is there really anything that special about her other than the fact that you've grown attatched to her[/QUOTE]
Nah, actually, I'm apparently very popular with all the girls around here. I just don't like any of them. This was the first girl that didn't seem like a complete ditz or slut. Bleh

[QUOTE=Wizard.]
Well, you guys don't really know the whole story since I stopped posting here for ahwile. I kind of cheated on her. KIND OF. =\[/QUOTE]


Hahaha, my day has come.

You cheated on her, eh? That changes a lot of things here, does she know about it?

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Nah, actually, I'm apparently very popular with all the girls around here. I just don't like any of them. This was the first girl that didn't seem like a complete ditz or slut. Bleh[/QUOTE]
i though you didn't live anywhere near this chick

so no one in like a thousand mile radius isn't a slut

bullsh[I]i[/I]t


and you're not popluar with the girls around you in [I]that way[/I]

no one with options is this hung up over a low self esteem chick that lives nowhere near them

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]
no one with options is this hung up over a low self esteem chick that lives nowhere near them[/QUOTE]


This is very very true.

What a waste of time this has been.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Do tell, D.[/QUOTE]
A girl named Kristen has had a crush for me for two years, and was never very vocal towards me or anything, so I ignored her. We started talking and hanging out some, and I thought se was just being friendly, since I didn't think people could hold crushes for two entire years. Well we just hung out and stuff, and at a local show, we met up and I ended up kissing her and hanging out with her at a friend's party until 2am. All I did was kiss her, but cheating is cheating, I guess.

Kristen started leaving me comments and stuff on Myspace, which I didn't delete, because they weren't really bad or anything. I had Brit convinced the girl was just being friendly and all. But eventually I had to tell her. i felt so guilty, and I was trying to let Kristen down easily before I let Brit now. =\

It's not like I went and slept with her or anything though.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]A girl named Kristen has had a crush for me for two years, and was never very vocal towards me or anything, so I ignored her. We started talking and hanging out some, and I thought se was just being friendly, since I didn't think people could hold crushes for two entire years. Well we just hung out and stuff, and at a local show, we met up and I ended up kissing her and hanging out with her at a friend's party until 2am. All I did was kiss her, but cheating is cheating, I guess.

Kristen started leaving me comments and stuff on Myspace, which I didn't delete, because they weren't really bad or anything. I had Brit convinced the girl was just being friendly and all. But eventually I had to tell her. i felt so guilty, and I was trying to let Kristen down easily before I let Brit now. =\

It's not like I went and slept with her or anything though.[/QUOTE]

You're right, you didn't sleep with her or anything.

But, the fact that you hung out with her and kissed her means something.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]
It's not like I went and slept with her or anything though.[/QUOTE]

But you cheated on this girl, told her, manipulated her into thinking [I]she[/I] was leaving [I]you[/I] instead of you stepping up to the plate and ending it yourself, and now she's hurt and confused.

I wonder why you feel guilty.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i though you didn't live anywhere near this chick

so no one in like a thousand mile radius isn't a slut

bullsh[I]i[/I]t


and you're not popluar with the girls around you in [I]that way[/I]

no one with options is this hung up over a low self esteem chick that lives nowhere near them[/QUOTE]
i don't live near her. Most of the girls around here that I've ever taking a liking to ended up being sluts or just ditz/annoying little girls. I just couldn't get interested in anyone else. brit, i just started talking to online when I was bored, and she seemed different than the othe ridiots around here, so I go attached to her. I had options, but I didn't fancy anyone, so I didn't at on them.

[QUOTE=Tiger]But you cheated on this girl, told her, manipulated her into thinking [I]she[/I] was leaving [I]you[/I] instead of you stepping up to the plate and ending it yourself, and now she's hurt and confused.

I wonder why you feel guilty.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, pretty much.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Yeah, pretty much.[/QUOTE]


You know how I always insult you, belittle you, and question your manhood?

And you know I really don't care?

[QUOTE=Wizard.]And you know I really don't care?[/QUOTE]


Oh, I know you care, thats a given. Do you plan on growing up anytime soon instead of being a spineless little **** who wont take responsibility for his actions?

I'm not ditching responsibility. I know what I've done, and I can still feel bad about the consequences. =\

[QUOTE=Wizard.] I had options, but I didn't fancy anyone, so I didn't at on them.[/QUOTE]
use those girls as practice so you don't fu[I]c[/I]kup anymore relationships with girls you actually do like


you know, if these "options" actually exist

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I'm not ditching responsibility. I know what I've done, and I can still feel bad about the consequences. =\[/QUOTE]


I like how none of you guys ever actually change or try to handle things differently, you just go through with whatever, fully aware of what youre doing, then throw your hands up in the air and say "Oops!" Then you come here to whine about it. Grow up, dude.

You didnt do a thing to avoid it, and that right there is not taking responsibility for your actions, and laziness.

[QUOTE=Tiger]I like how none of you guys ever actually change or try to handle things differently, you just go through with whatever, fully aware of what youre doing, then throw your hands up in the air and say "Oops!" Then you come here to whine about it. Grow up, dude.

You didnt do a thing to avoid it, and that right there is not taking responsibility for your actions, and laziness.[/QUOTE]
exactly. no one in here actually learns a damn thing.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]exactly. no one in here actually learns a damn thing.[/QUOTE]


I dont think they have anything to learn, they are just such ****ing sloths that they'd rather do the wrong thing over and over instead of acting with an ounce of maturity.

Its not rocket science, do the right thing and it will work out just fine. But I guess its too [I]hard[/I] for them to handle.

And they wonder why Im so harsh in here? :rolleyes: Its pathetic.

Its a good thing Kim pity's them, or else they wouldnt have a leg to stand on. Ive tried to talk her out of it.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]exactly. no one in here actually learns a damn thing.[/QUOTE]

Yes, they do, but it's more of actually experiencing life, rather than anything anyone offers up advice-wise.

[QUOTE=Tiger]I like how none of you guys ever actually change or try to handle things differently, you just go through with whatever, fully aware of what youre doing, then throw your hands up in the air and say "Oops!" Then you come here to whine about it. Grow up, dude.

You didnt do a thing to avoid it, and that right there is not taking responsibility for your actions, and laziness.[/QUOTE]
I didn't avoid it, because at the time I didn't care anyway. I didn't feel guilty at all until about a week later. And yeah I'm whining. I've stated many times that's what I use this thread for. Whining here is much better than going off and whining to all my friends and being a nuisance.

I don't give a **** what I've done, or consequences, or whatever right now. I'm not going to use this as a learning experience yet, so save your preaching for someone who is actually going to listen. I'm just going to go to sleep, and see what happens tomorrow. Sitting here and fighting on the internet with some jackass who thinks he has the answers to every situation isn't going to help me in the slighest, since I know everything you're going to say.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]exactly. no one in here actually learns a damn thing.[/QUOTE]

heh i have noticed that

for one.. i definitly learned some things

[QUOTE=Wizard.]I didn't avoid it, because at the time I didn't care anyway. I didn't feel guilty at all until about a week later. And yeah I'm whining. I've stated many times that's what I use this thread for. Whining here is much better than going off and whining to all my friends and being a nuisance.

I don't give a **** what I've done, or consequences, or whatever right now. I'm not going to use this as a learning experience yet, so save your preaching for someone who is actually going to listen. I'm just going to go to sleep, and see what happens tomorrow. Sitting here and fighting on the internet with some jackass who thinks he has the answers to every situation isn't going to help me in the slighest, since I know everything you're going to say.[/QUOTE]


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