[QUOTE=Steerpike]For a good laugh, search MySpace for the emo kids. Half the time you can't even tell what gender they are.[/QUOTE]
hahaha? you cant even spit on myspace with out hitting and emo kid

[QUOTE=Superpeer]I can definitely agree with that. Now I'm not that stingy, if I'm unusually wealthy at the time, sure, I might pay for the girl. The way I see it, it's a relationship between equals and it's crazy that one should carry all the expenses.

When a girl expects things like that, just tell her to go to the kitchen and cook you a meal and clean your room after that. After all, paying for your own things is a part of emancipation as well, so either you take all of it, or you take none.

Anyway, it's hard to find a girl who gives you a lot of freedom, girls need a lot of attention and often they find it difficult to understand you need time for yourself and blabla.[/QUOTE]

Exactly! When you're in a relationship with someone, it's a new set of responsibilities. You have to treat them well, be there for them when they need it, and be willing to make the occassional sacrifice to make them happy.

But that doesn't mean either party should abuse the other person's obligations. That goes for men who just date hot women to stoke their egos, and for women who turn their boyfriends into sugardaddies. It's wrong to do that to people.

And in any relationship, it's going to take a little time to strike a balance. I'm willing to be patient, responsible, and make those sacrifices, but the woman I'm dating had better understand that to make the relationship work, I'm not going to be the only one to pull it along. Relationships aren't about taking advantage of people.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I think you're misinterpreting me. I'm not so selfish that I would never do anything for my girlfriend. But if she does ask things of me, I expect it to be reasonable.

I don't make unreasonable demands on my own friends and family. We can all take care of ourselves.

Let's say for example my hypothetical girlfriend is having a really bad day. She calls me up and says she needs some comforting. That's fine. I'll drop what I'm doing, grab a movie I have that she likes, and be right over there.

Conversely, let's say I'm dating a woman who tells me that despite the fact that I'm on a very tight budget while I'm here at school, she wants to go out once a week and expects me to cover the check for the both of us everytime, I'm going to flat out tell her "No."[/QUOTE]

Even that sounds a little unreasonable (one a week isn't that bad), and I still think that overall you are being a little rigid about this, even in how you are going about it ("I'm not gonna talk in bars", "I'm not gonna talk on the phone"). Being in a relationship means having to make a few sacrifices, and if you are too committed to making movies to be in a relationship, fine, but don't come on here and bitch about it.

[QUOTE=Superpeer].

Anyway, it's hard to find a girl who gives you a lot of freedom, girls need a lot of attention and often they find it difficult to understand you need time for yourself and blabla.[/QUOTE]
A friend working with broke with his girl last night, because she wouldnt give him anytime to hang out with em and our other friends.

He made the right choice, and already had a much better girl lined up for him.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Exactly! When you're in a relationship with someone, it's a new set of responsibilities. You have to treat them well, be there for them when they need it, and be willing to make the occassional sacrifice to make them happy.

But that doesn't mean either party should abuse the other person's obligations. That goes for men who just date hot women to stoke their egos, and for women who turn their boyfriends into sugardaddies. It's wrong to do that to people.

And in any relationship, it's going to take a little time to strike a balance. I'm willing to be patient, responsible, and make those sacrifices, but the woman I'm dating had better understand that to make the relationship work, I'm not going to be the only one to pull it along. Relationships aren't about taking advantage of people.[/QUOTE]




haha, well thats what everyone strives for, but you are gonna have to pick up the tab for a bit to get all of those benefits

I always pay, for what it's worth, because I don't go out on dates very often (let's call it... once a... season? I'm pathetic like that, haha). When I work, I try to save about 75% for uni expenses or other "emergency" expenses (i.e. car trouble [knock on wood], etc.) and 25% to blow on whatever I want, be it music or movies or other things. Paying for a movie ticket for a friend is no big thing for me.

Now, if I went out every single weekend, I'd definitely be broke all the time, heh.

[QUOTE=Illmatic]Even that sounds a little unreasonable (one a week isn't that bad), and I still think that overall you are being a little rigid about this, even in how you are going about it ("I'm not gonna talk in bars", "I'm not gonna talk on the phone").[/quote]

I'm on a budget of $30 a week for groceries and only get 6 cafeteria meals a week. I'm unemployed because my class schedule doesn't leave much room for a part-time job.

As much as I like ramen noodles, I can't live off those 24/7 for a whole semester.

And I never said I wouldn't talk on the phone. I just prefer to talk in person or via email.

[quote]Being in a relationship means having to make a few sacrifices, and if you are too committed to making movies to be in a relationship, fine, but don't come on here and bitch about it.[/QUOTE]

I'm well aware of that. And I'm also aware my standards are high. I think you're just interpreting everything I say to an unnecessary extreme.

[QUOTE=kurrptsenate]haha, well thats what everyone strives for, but you are gonna have to pick up the tab for a bit to get all of those benefits[/QUOTE]

Never said I would always refuse to pick up the tab. I believe in showing some chivalry. But if my budget for that week is already shot...

[QUOTE=Illmatic]Even that sounds a little unreasonable (one a week isn't that bad), and I still think that overall you are being a little rigid about this, even in how you are going about it ("I'm not gonna talk in bars", "I'm not gonna talk on the phone"). Being in a relationship means having to make a few sacrifices, and if you are too committed to making movies to be in a relationship, fine, but don't come on here and bitch about it.[/QUOTE]

This place was created for the sole purpose of bitching. :p About the phone thing, I hate talking on the phone, but I talk to my girlfriend on the phone, once in a while. I got used to it, I still don't like talking on the phone, but I don't mind with her.

That's another thing, she's always asking me to call her and she said she'd like it if I called her every day. Now, she wants me to call her on her cell phone, so I just told her. Sorry babe, I can't afford calling you every day. So yeah, sometimes, you have to make sacrifices (I run all over the place for her, really, I pretty much always come over if she asks me). But sometimes, I just say no.

And she knows I'm not gonna pay for everything, I often pay for her, because she's always broke for some reason. But when I'm broke, she pays for me. And that's it.

And what's with all the bar hate? Pubs are great.


[QUOTE]A friend working with broke with his girl last night, because she wouldnt give him anytime to hang out with em and our other friends.

He made the right choice, and already had a much better girl lined up for him.[/QUOTE]

Those bitches!


My girl is so gonna find this and kick my a[COLOR="White"]s[/COLOR]s. :upset:

haha nah man...


if my girl has seen the countless posts about her, she'd probably just whine a lot and sh!t

[QUOTE=Superpeer]Those bitches!


My girl is so gonna find this and kick my a[COLOR="White"]s[/COLOR]s. :upset:[/QUOTE]
Show that you are a tr00 alpha male and dont back down

[QUOTE=Superpeer]This place was created for the sole purpose of bitching. :p About the phone thing, I hate talking on the phone, but I talk to my girlfriend on the phone, once in a while. I got used to it, I still don't like talking on the phone, but I don't mind with her.

That's another thing, she's always asking me to call her and she said she'd like it if I called her every day. Now, she wants me to call her on her cell phone, so I just told her. Sorry babe, I can't afford calling you every day. So yeah, sometimes, you have to make sacrifices (I run all over the place for her, really, I pretty much always come over if she asks me). But sometimes, I just say no.

And she knows I'm not gonna pay for everything, I often pay for her, because she's always broke for some reason. But when I'm broke, she pays for me. And that's it.[/QUOTE]

This is more or less what I'm talking about here.

As for the bars thing, I just can't stand the atmosphere. It makes me sick.

[QUOTE=kurrptsenate]haha nah man...


if my girl has seen the countless posts about her, she'd probably just whine a lot and sh!t[/QUOTE]

She actually reads posts I make here. Sometimes she'll ask me about it. So I always try to keep it civilised, just in case. :D

She's strong though, she'd hit me. Definitely the strongest girl I know, she beats me in all the sports. Except pub sports.


NP: Burzum - Naar Himmelen Klarner

I think I am exaggerating things but I still think that I have a valid point here. If you really can't devote a lot of time to a girl, I would advise against being in a relationship because that kind of relationship is a frustrating one.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]This is more or less what I'm talking about here.

As for the bars thing, I just can't stand the atmosphere. It makes me sick.[/QUOTE]



well, if i go with a few friends, then its no big deal for me. I kinda put up an imaginary barrier and its just us, and no others annoying the pants off of me...


but i CAN say, one of the last times i went to a bar with just one other friend, there was some drunk guy that figured he knew everything about polotics, and started interjecting his own VIEWS as facts.


I mean, i choose not to talk polotics or religion. I know the kind of arguements that can come out of those discussions.


He seemed to have EVERYTHING figured out, yet he was in a bar.....talking to drunk people


[QUOTE]She actually reads posts I make here. Sometimes she'll ask me about it. So I always try to keep it civilised, just in case.

She's strong though, she'd hit me. Definitely the strongest girl, I know, she beats me in all the sports. Except pub sports.
[/QUOTE]


my girl stays away from the internet. If it doesnt involve TV, friggin movie stars, or some reality show, she really has the attension span of a 3 year old who's missed his daily aderal

[QUOTE=Superpeer]She actually reads posts I make here. Sometimes she'll ask me about it. So I always try to keep it civilised, just in case. :D

[B]She's strong though, she'd hit me. Definitely the strongest girl, I know, she beats me in all the sports. Except pub sports.[/B]


NP: Burzum - Naar Himmelen Klarner[/QUOTE]
Alpha Male?

I've seen a more alpha mushroom than you Jelle :p.

Does anyone like Lightning Bolt..?:eek:

[QUOTE=Illmatic]I think I am exaggerating things but I still think that I have a valid point here. If you really can't devote a lot of time to a girl, I would advise against being in a relationship because that kind of relationship is a frustrating one.[/QUOTE]

Perhaps. But if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Whatever comes up, I can and will handle it. Either way, live and learn. As long as I get something from an experience, it can't be a total loss.

I'm not a tr00 alpha male, I'm a nerd who posts on a message board. :\

[QUOTE=Superpeer]I'm not a tr00 alpha male, I'm a nerd who posts on a message board. :\[/QUOTE]

At least you get to be the alpha nerd.

I'm already in beta.

I hate ripping CDs. They always take so long.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]You haven't seen how I write then.[/QUOTE]

Doesn't matter...Anyone can be poetic and flowery :-P

[QUOTE=Superpeer]I'm not a tr00 alpha male, I'm a nerd who posts on a message board. :\[/QUOTE]
It's kinda cool to have a lot of control.

Just before I was in a conversation with a friend of mine and he was buying stuff off me from Ebay (Cathedral - The VIIth Coming and Sunn O))) - White1, just thought I'd name drop), and then this girl comes in, sometimes ya just gotta know when to tell them to back off. :cool:

[QUOTE=guitrguy]I hate ripping CDs. They always take so long.[/QUOTE]
Really? I can rip a cd in like 2 minutes.

[QUOTE=guitrguy]I hate ripping CDs. They always take so long.[/QUOTE]

What do you use to rip them. iTunes usually takes me about 2 to 3 minutes to rip an entire cd.

[QUOTE=CocaineAndCrucifixes]Really? I can rip a cd in like 2 minutes.[/QUOTE]
I dunno what is. I sopped my playlist, and it didnt do much to help the speed.
When I ripped age of silence I had everythig running on my comp and that burned really fast.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Perhaps. But if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Whatever comes up, I can and will handle it. Either way, live and learn. As long as I get something from an experience, it can't be a total loss.[/QUOTE]

The thing is though, Alex, I've been in a relation with this girl for almost two years now, so that's why I can do this and that. But in the beginning, if you want to make it work, you'll have to spend a lot of time on the girl and less on yourself, otherwise it's dubious that it will work out. After a while, you can go back to spending time on yourself and all that, and she will understand that if your relationship is strong.

What you need to do is find a girl with similar interests. If I want to play guitar, I go to my girl's house, her dad has like 5 guitars, a piano, a bass, ... and I'll play there. If I want to see a movie, she just watches it with me. She likes most things, I like. That's why problems about hobbies and free time don't occur that often.

Like, she likes to do all these sport things, snowboard and climb stuff and all. And I hate those things, so she just goes with her friends or her parents, and I have the day off to listen to music and just do nothing, basically.

You need to find the girl that suits you, I think it's necessary to have some things in common.

[QUOTE=Superpeer]The things it though, Alex, I've been in a relation with this girl for almost two years now, so that's why I can do this and that. But in the beginning, if you want to make it work, you'll have to spend a lot of time on the girl and less on yourself, otherwise it's dubious that it will work out. After a while, you can go back to spending time on yourself and all that, and she will understand that if your relationship is strong.

What you need to do is find a girl with similar interests. If I want to play guitar, I go to my girl's house, her dad has like 5 guitars, a piano, a bass, ... and I'll play there. If I want to see a movie, she just watches it with me. She likes most things, I like. That's why problems about hobbies and free time don't occur that often.

Like, she likes to do all these sport things, snowboard and climb stuff and all. And I hate those things, so she just goes with her friends or her parents, and I have the day off to listen to music and just do nothing, basically.

You need to find the girl that suits you, I think it's necessary to have some things in common.[/QUOTE]

winner \m/

[QUOTE=GenuineImitation]What do you use to rip them. iTunes usually takes me about 2 to 3 minutes to rip an entire cd.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, turn or disable all Plugins on WMP and it rips CDs in about a minute, obviously depending on length.

yea, my girl cant stand me playing guitar.


shes starting to get used to the 3 hours a day :lol: . I practice a lot



edit : my girl and I have VERY little in common.

[QUOTE=GenuineImitation]What do you use to rip them. iTunes usually takes me about 2 to 3 minutes to rip an entire cd.[/QUOTE]

Windows media player.