[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]Yeah bro I'm chugging along.. I've seen better days, but things are clearing up here and there.[/quote]

Good to read. Hopefully things will turn around sooner rather than later.

[quote=DBoon's Ghost]Thanks and good stuff to Iscariot earlier. Very good stuff indeed.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, well, I know how it is to go looking for someone and beat the holy Hell out of them because they were giving you shi[font=verdana]t[/font]. You realize it doesn't do anything a couple hours after the fact, and while you didn't think you'd feel bad about it, you do wind up changing your perspective in hindsight.

After all, hindsight is 20/20.

[quote=Tillius]Haha. Pamela's brother doesn't know we're going out. He's in my Theatre class with me, and my teacher found out the two of us were going out. She started making all these hints towards me, and he was confused as hell. Ah, the awesomeness of it all.[/quote]

Haha, yeah. My AP English teacher back in high school would have weekly vocabulary tests, but he would use his students and their stories or relationships in the sentences. It was good times because that made the tests sooooooo much easier. I think I aced every single one of them, but that's because I was a freakin' genius in high school :p

Well, she would look at Thomas(Pam's brother) and be like "Thomas, I saw your sister today. She's really cute."
Then she'd look at me and say "Isn't she cute, Mitch?"
I kinda nodded and said "Why're you asking me?" She just smiled.
Then she'd be like "So Mitch, have you been around any cute girls lately?"
I'd say "Yeah, they can't stay away from me."

Anyway, I'm not going to go into every little detail of every word that was said, but it was funny as hell.

[QUOTE=DBoon's Ghost]:eek:

Geez I'm old.
[/QUOTE]

I beg to differ here.

*goes to find walker*

[QUOTE=Tillius]Well, she would look at Thomas(Pam's brother) and be like "Thomas, I saw your sister today. She's really cute."
Then she'd look at me and say "Isn't she cute, Mitch?"
I kinda nodded and said "Why're you asking me?" She just smiled.
Then she'd be like "So Mitch, have you been around any cute girls lately?"
I'd say "Yeah, they can't stay away from me."

Anyway, I'm not going to go into every little detail of every word that was said, but it was funny as hell.[/QUOTE]

Heh. Your girlfriend's brother hasn't been hit by a dump truck of subtlety lately.

Jared, here's my advice for making the break-up easier.

First, just straight-up tell her that you two are through. She had her chance, and she not only wasted it, she shot it down. [i]You[/i] have to be the one to end it. Don't wait for her to get tired of stringing you along.

Don't even bring Drew into the equation when you do it. That little hog-raping jizz-fetcher isn't worth it. Do not give him the satisfaction of being given any degree of attention.

Then, get your buddies over to your house with a couple pizzas, a case of your canned/bottled beverage of choice, and a really good Tarantino movie. Failing a Tarantino movie, classic action or action/horror films will suffice (i.e. Escape from New York, Dog Soldiers, Alien, X-Men, etc).

Spend the next several hours being unashamedly male. You'll feel better.

When relationships end, we all go through a period of emotional withdrawal that I've unofficially dubbed the "pint phase." Men reach for a pint of Guiness, women for a pint of Ben & Jerry's. It's a tough point, but everytime a friend of mine has gone through it, I arrange the same scenario I described above, and the next day they're fine. Go with what works.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]Jared, here's my advice for making the break-up easier.

First, just straight-up tell her that you two are through. She had her chance, and she not only wasted it, she shot it down. [i]You[/i] have to be the one to end it. Don't wait for her to get tired of stringing you along.

Don't even bring Drew into the equation when you do it. That little hog-raping jizz-fetcher isn't worth it. Do not give him the satisfaction of being given any degree of attention.

Then, get your buddies over to your house with a couple pizzas, a case of your canned/bottled beverage of choice, and a really good Tarantino movie. Failing a Tarantino movie, classic action or action/horror films will suffice (i.e. Escape from New York, Dog Soldiers, Alien, X-Men, etc).

Spend the next several hours being unashamedly male. You'll feel better.

When relationships end, we all go through a period of emotional withdrawal that I've unofficially dubbed the "pint phase." Men reach for a pint of Guiness, women for a pint of Ben & Jerry's. It's a tough point, but everytime a friend of mine has gone through it, I arrange the same scenario I described above, and the next day they're fine. Go with what works.[/QUOTE]

That's actually good advice. Tonight I'm going to tell Lela, "If you can't be open and honest with me and all we're going to do is fight, then I think we should break up." I guarantee she'll go right along with it. I'm going to feel horrible.

Tomorrow, however, Ashley and I are going to go see Final Destination 3 and I'm going fishing on Saturday. Hopefully my distractions work.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]First, just straight-up tell her that you two are through. She had her chance, and she not only wasted it, she shot it down. [i]You[/i] have to be the one to end it. Don't wait for her to get tired of stringing you along.[/QUOTE]
Wow. You know what you're talking about man. There's some situations that call for an air of finality like the one you're describing and Jared seems to be in one of those situations. I'd be inclined to take half an hour to cool off, and end it later in a more civil... but it is absolutely impossible to argue with this. Well done.

I feel like shi[size=2]t[/size] now. Sarah just now found out about Pamela. :(

[QUOTE=Tillius]I feel like shi[size=2]t[/size] now. Sarah just now found out about Pamela. :([/QUOTE]

And, what happened?

I don't understand why you feel like shi[font=verdana]t[/font] over something that's really none of her business.

I know I shouldn't feel bad, but I can't help it.
[url]http://www.xanga.com/Dawn_of_faith[/url]
Newest post.

The one about never hurting her?

It's kinda hard for me to read...

Yeah, that's the one.

[quote=Sarah]I hate when a guy promises you he'd never hurt you and he does... not once but over and over again...

Secrets can not be kept... There's always a leak... always.

!NEVER MAKE A PROMISE TO ME AGAIN![/quote]

refl

She's so caught up in herself.

Why, for Christ's sake, does she feel like it's okay for her to give him a hard time because he "didn't call her" on their one month and then stomp off in a huff, but it's not okay for him to call her bluff?

That's what I'm saying. I shouldn't feel bad, because I'm not at fault. I guess I'm too caring for my own good.

i thought i had the greatest relationship ever
still pretty much do

except that i just found out that my boyfriend might be going to college in june. rather than being like every other person in the world and going in september, he'd go for classes starting in june. slightly devastating.

Mitch:

This should be a little lesson to her: Don't act like a two year old; people won't put up with it.

[quote=Luster]i thought i had the greatest relationship ever
still pretty much do

except that i just found out that my boyfriend might be going to college in june. rather than being like every other person in the world and going in september, he'd go for classes starting in june. slightly devastating.[/quote]

Is he starting college in summer school? How far away is his college?

[QUOTE=Tillius]That's what I'm saying. I shouldn't feel bad, because I'm not at fault. I guess I'm too caring for my own good.[/QUOTE]


:rolleyes:

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Mitch:

This should be a little lesson to her: Don't act like a two year old; people won't put up with it.

Is he starting college in summer school? How far away is his college?[/QUOTE]

basically, because of medical issues, he didn't do as many classes as they would have liked him to, so they want him to take courses over the summer.

and as of right now, (neither of us are positive which colleges we're going to) he'll be in Pennsylvania, and i'll be at Keene State College in New Hampshire. ~6 hours. truth be told, i don't know what to think about college. i assume we'll call it quits. which i refuse to even think about right now.

[QUOTE=Luster]basically, because of medical issues, he didn't do as many classes as they would have liked him to, so they want him to take courses over the summer.

and as of right now, (neither of us are positive which colleges we're going to) he'll be in Pennsylvania, and i'll be at Keene State College in New Hampshire. ~6 hours. truth be told, i don't know what to think about college. i assume we'll call it quits. which i refuse to even think about right now.[/QUOTE]

If you both can get home enough you can make the distance work. Couples have done it whilst going to different colleges since time out of mind.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]If you both can get home enough you can make the distance work. Couples have done it whilst going to different colleges since time out of mind.[/QUOTE]

thanks, it means a lot to hear that, although i doubt we'll even mention it until it comes to that point... we're not very good at the whole "talking about things that are actually important" bit. we just enjoy each other's company and leave important things to sort themselves out... should be interesting.

[QUOTE=El Krunk]That's actually good advice. Tonight I'm going to tell Lela, "If you can't be open and honest with me and all we're going to do is fight, then I think we should break up." I guarantee she'll go right along with it. I'm going to feel horrible.

Tomorrow, however, Ashley and I are going to go see Final Destination 3 and I'm going fishing on Saturday. Hopefully my distractions work.[/QUOTE]

I'd advise a better movie. My friends went to see it and they really hated it. Bad plot, bad characters, and nothing but tasteless gore.

What else is showing right now?

You're also a lot more tactful about the break-up than I would have been. I would have just outright said, "You don't respect me, you have no regard for anyone but yourself, and you continually insult my intelligence with your cliched excuses for your classless behavior. To be blunt: we're through."

Unfortunately, you can't always tell if the other party is just unclassy, or misdirected. It's how people are. So you try to be as polite as possible.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Unfortunately, you can't always tell if the other party is just unclassy, or misdirected. It's how people are. So you try to be as polite as possible.[/QUOTE]

Talking sh[size=2]i[/size]t behind somebody's back and then using the "I was joking" excuse is about as far from classy as it gets in my book.

A person can have class and still engage in rude, inconsiderate, and downright unacceptable behavior.

[QUOTE=Steerpike]I'd advise a better movie. My friends went to see it and they really hated it. Bad plot, bad characters, and nothing but tasteless gore.[/quote]

Yeah, but she'll be scared. You know what scared girls do. :cool:

[quote]What else is showing right now?[/quote]

A whole lot of nothing good.

Except for Freedomland. That movie looks bitchin'.

[quote]You're also a lot more tactful about the break-up than I would have been. I would have just outright said, "You don't respect me, you have no regard for anyone but yourself, and you continually insult my intelligence with your cliched excuses for your classless behavior. To be blunt: we're through."[/QUOTE]

I actually got a good idea from Josh. He told me tonight in a half-drunkon stupor:

"You two need to take a break. Take like, three days. Three days is nothin'. You can do that. Take three days totally away from each other and then if she can't meet you halfway on anything after that, ditch her."

I told her tonight that we should take a break for a few days so she can get her priorities straight and figure out what she wants out of this relationship. She hung up on me. I guess the break is on.

Okay so i'm dating this girl and she happens to have more sexual partners than I have. At first, it bothered me a little(her being my 3rd and me being her 5th) but I was ultimately ok with it. But whenever I suddenly think about her being with someone else I get a sick feeling in my stomach and don't want to talk to her for the rest of the night.

I know it's bad to do that to her because it was in the past...but sometimes I feel like perhaps i'm lowering my standards to be with her.

I just need a general consensus if I'm right to feel the way I do. Thanks

Um, no. Her past has nothing to do with you.

[QUOTE=Toolophile]but sometimes I feel like perhaps i'm lowering my standards to be with her.[/QUOTE]

That's quite ridiculous. Not only does what Tiger said ring totally true, but she's more experienced. If you catch my (not exactly subtle) drift...

[QUOTE=Toolophile]Okay so i'm dating this girl and she happens to have more sexual partners than I have. At first, it bothered me a little(her being my 3rd and me being her 5th) but I was ultimately ok with it. But whenever I suddenly think about her being with someone else I get a sick feeling in my stomach and don't want to talk to her for the rest of the night.

I know it's bad to do that to her because it was in the past...but sometimes I feel like perhaps i'm lowering my standards to be with her.

I just need a general consensus if I'm right to feel the way I do. Thanks[/QUOTE]


Yeah dude, I mean, I can see where you're comming from, but try to put it into perspective. It was in the past, and not now. Right now, shes with you, so be happy with that :). Besides, shes not [I]your[/I] first either.

I can see why it would bother you, because it would bug me too, but for different reasons.

The only thing you can do is suck it up and try to ignore that feeling. If you can't even talk to her, you're never going to go anywhere.

You guys are right, it was her past and I feel sorry for saying what i've said to her. Thanks guys and girls, I had to get this out and figured this is a somewhat anonymous way to do so.

Arghhh.. man..
For the past 2, maybe 3 days, whenever I talk to my girlfriend she's always mad or sad about something. I try so hard to help out but she's always telling me "[I]not[/I] to," and "it has nothing to do with me," and she continues on with silence and sadness and it's like I can't do anything about it.
What em I supposed to do? Things just aren't the same.. I feel like I don't mean much to her anymore, even though she tells me I do.. I don't know what to do.. :(

Maybe it's time for a short break from her so she can get whatever issues she has sorted.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Maybe it's time for a short break from her so she can get whatever issues she has sorted.[/QUOTE]
I tried bringing that up yesterday.. I even went as far as to talk with her about a certain one of her guy friends who is "always there for her, for like a year," and yes that is a direct quote.. but I just know that one of the only things that keeps her happy is that "she gets to be with me," and when she told me that, the idea of breaking up with her was basically swept from my mind

She's got issues, all right. But if you stay with her she'll end up dragging you down. She needs to figure out what her problem is and fix it.

So what do I have to do.. should I distance myself?
She'll probably just get the idea that I don't care.. that's how she is at times.
She'll say something like "I don't even feel like you love me anymore" or something like that, and probably run off with that other guy that's always been there, since he's basically been after her for years and she's always telling me how bad she feels for him when we talk about him, and I guess that's one of the problems she has.
I just wish she would let [I]me[/I] be there for her, and not shut me out and tell me I'm "wasting my time on a horrible girl."

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]So what do I have to do.. should I distance myself?
She'll probably just get the idea that I don't care.. that's how she is at times.
She'll say something like "I don't even feel like you love me anymore" or something like that, and probably run off with that other guy that's always been there, since he's basically been after her for years and she's always telling me how bad she feels for him when we talk about him, and I guess that's one of the problems she has.
I just wish she would let [I]me[/I] be there for her, and not shut me out and tell me I'm "wasting my time on a horrible girl."[/QUOTE]

I don't want to make you paranoid, but you can't rule out she's already with this other guy. Particularly given the fact that she called herself a horrible girl. What has she done that's so horrible, you may wonder?

Yeah I've worried about that a bit.. but I trust her..
I sometimes think that the reason she doesn't tell me things is because, honestly, I do get sad when I hear about all the pain she goes through (IF it's true, anyway..)
And yeah, she tells me all the time not to stress about it because it has nothing to do with me, and it's all her.. she assures me nothing's wrong between [I]us[/I], but I do care about what she goes through.. and I just want to be there for her

[QUOTE=Whatsisface]Yeah I've worried about that a bit.. but I trust her..
I sometimes think that the reason she doesn't tell me things is because, honestly, I do get sad when I hear about all the pain she goes through (IF it's true, anyway..)
And yeah, she tells me all the time not to stress about it because it has nothing to do with me, and it's all her.. she assures me nothing's wrong between [I]us[/I], but I do care about what she goes through.. and I just want to be there for her[/QUOTE]

Have you asked her directly to open up to you?