Asking him to hang out again won't seem weird or pathetic at all.

Never making an effort life is a horrible way to live, and you're neer going to be happy that way.

So I've had another day to think about it and I've changed my mind- I'm actually really really unhappy right now. See, I was talking to her again and nothing's changed. At all. I'm still in exactly the same situation I've been in for the past couple of years. In a few months we graduate and I'm never gonna see her again. I was hoping that telling her how I feel would either bring us closer (so we would be better friends) or separate us so I can start getting over her now (I would have been happy with either, to be honest). But it's done neither. I could have just done nothing and saved myself quite a bit of money too. I just dunno what to do now, apart from just distancing myself from her.

If you're just going to part ways in a fe wmonths, getting involved seems like a waste of time really. It may be fun now, but it will be a huge heartbreak down the road. Distancing yourself looks like the best plan. She doesn't really seem to care, so I don't think she'd even really mind...

Yeah. But back home we actually don't live that far apart- I would be more than willing to take the 40 min journey to see her. Thing is, she says she wants to be friends, but I think her definition of 'friendship' in this case is very different to mine.

Girls call everyone friends, even if they're just aquaitances(sp?) by our standards. :|

40 mins isn't bad, so that could work, if she had the same feelings for you.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]So I've had another day to think about it and I've changed my mind- I'm actually really really unhappy right now. See, I was talking to her again and nothing's changed. At all. I'm still in exactly the same situation I've been in for the past couple of years. In a few months we graduate and I'm never gonna see her again. I was hoping that telling her how I feel would either bring us closer (so we would be better friends) or separate us so I can start getting over her now (I would have been happy with either, to be honest). But it's done neither. I could have just done nothing and saved myself quite a bit of money too. I just dunno what to do now, apart from just distancing myself from her.[/QUOTE]
In the end m8, you gotta ask yourself, is she worth it?

[QUOTE=~grif~]In the end m8, you gotta ask yourself, is she worth it?[/QUOTE]
Worth what?

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Worth what?[/QUOTE]
You said you could of saved alot of money.
Is she worth thinking about if you know you have to travel 40mins to see her, or that she dosent talk etc?
all those things you said?
is she worth getting hung up on?
over the years of being with her and "nothing has changed" - is it worth it anymore if nothing is actualyl happening?

[QUOTE=~grif~]You said you could of saved alot of money.
Is she worth thinking about if you know you have to travel 40mins to see her, or that she dosent talk etc?
all those things you said?
is she worth getting hung up on?
over the years of being with her and "nothing has changed" - is it worth it anymore if nothing is actualyl happening?[/QUOTE]
No, which is why I'm distancing myself from her.

I have no choice- I have to see her pretty much every day- so I've gotta find a way to just stay away and not bother with her without her realising something's wrong.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]In a few months we graduate and I'm never gonna see her again. I was hoping that telling her how I feel would either bring us closer (so we would be better friends) or separate us so I can start getting over her now (I would have been happy with either, to be honest). But it's done neither. I could have just done nothing and saved myself quite a bit of money too. I just dunno what to do now, apart from just distancing myself from her.[/QUOTE]

im a giant pansy w/ relationships, so what sometimes helps me is to pretend that my life is a tv show. really, pretend that you have viewers that you want you keep. what would make for better ratings? definetly telling the girl that you like her. (also instead of a tv show you can be more normal and think "which would make a better story to tell my friends, to write in my journal, to remember when im old" etc. you know?)

[QUOTE=Jonzey]No, which is why I'm distancing myself from her.

I have no choice- I have to see her pretty much every day- so I've gotta find a way to just stay away and not bother with her without her realising something's wrong.[/QUOTE]
try finding another girl?
start dating her or something similar...

not just to use to girl to get away from her but like move on and see if you would be interested in anyone else - always worth a go.

[QUOTE=~grif~]try finding another girl?
start dating her or something similar...

not just to use to girl to get away from her but like move on and see if you would be interested in anyone else - always worth a go.[/QUOTE]
Yeah that would be easy. If I could find someone else I actually liked.

I seem to be only attracted to women who are waaaaaaaaaaaay out of my league.

Things are not meant to happen simply to be interesting. Staying safe and happy takes precedence over keeping your life enertaining for others.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Asking him to hang out again won't seem weird or pathetic at all.

Never making an effort life is a horrible way to live, and you're neer going to be happy that way.[/QUOTE]

i just think that the DAY AFTER i saw him is a little weird. im not gonna do it.... i dont know....

[QUOTE=Wizard.]Things are not meant to happen simply to be interesting. Staying safe and happy takes precedence over keeping your life enertaining for others.[/QUOTE]

im saying that doing interesting/entertaining things can make someone happy.

[QUOTE=drunkoveryou]i just think that the DAY AFTER i saw him is a little weird. im not gonna do it.... i dont know....[/QUOTE]
It wouldn't be weird, but if you want to wait, just wait until like a couple days beor e you want to hang out. Perhaps wait til a Thursday or Friday if you want to see him on that weekend. A guy isn't going to care whether you seem pathetic or weird, we won't even think things like that unless you give us a very good reason.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Yeah that would be easy. If I could find someone else I actually liked.

I seem to be only attracted to women who are waaaaaaaaaaaay out of my league.[/QUOTE]
how do you know they are way you of you're league. Like you might be surprised to know what they might be interested it that you have an interest in to. Sure they maybe the kinda hot that makes you feel ugly but ever in a pub or club or school or whatever - walking up to them and having a brief conversation that worked i wont say increases you're chances but ya know - it would get you in there.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]A guy isn't going to care whether you seem pathetic or weird, we won't even think things like that unless you give us a very good reason.[/QUOTE]

cool, tahts good to know thanks

[QUOTE=~grif~]how do you know they are way you of you're league. Like you might be surprised to know what they might be interested it that you have an interest in to. Sure they maybe the kinda hot that makes you feel ugly but ever in a pub or club or school or whatever - walking up to them and having a brief conversation that worked i wont say increases you're chances but ya know - it would get you in there.[/QUOTE]
Nah, I'm just giving up on women altogether.

[QUOTE=~grif~]how do you know they are way you of you're league. Like you might be surprised to know what they might be interested it that you have an interest in to. Sure they maybe the kinda hot that makes you feel ugly but ever in a pub or club or school or whatever - walking up to them and having a brief conversation that worked i wont say increases you're chances but ya know - it would get you in there.[/QUOTE]

I completely agree. I was friends with someone for about a year who I thought was way out of my league. We hung out, chilled everyday at school but we were just friends. Then, we went about 8 months after he left school only chilled once for about an hour. The next time I saw him, something just clicked..we hung out more and mroe and then we started dating. Something I thought wouldnt ever happen as I thought of him so highly. You just never know...

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Nah, I'm just giving up on women altogether.[/QUOTE]

hahaha yeah right. didnt you say you were going to college soon?

[QUOTE=Jonzey]Nah, I'm just giving up on women altogether.[/QUOTE]
You'll always feel like that after any bad experience with a woman, but then another one comes along and you completely forget that other women even exist...

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You'll always feel like that after any bad experience with a woman, but then another one comes along and you completely forget that other women even exist...[/QUOTE]
Yeah... that doesn't happen to me.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]You'll always feel like that after any bad experience with a woman, but then another one comes along and you completely forget that other women even exist...[/QUOTE]
thats true.

if you are heading out to college this year or the next, you will bound to meet someone jonz.

like a friend of mine - when he gets dumped, or dumps a girl or whatever - he dosent get hung up on it - he moves straight out back in the game again. Because you are only young once, if you get hung up on just one girl for years - you are missing all the others that are walking right by you that could quiet possibly be 10 times better then you expected.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]....[/QUOTE]
stop st sto stop


i sang that


but yeah


stop god stop

update: message SENT

[QUOTE=drunkoveryou]update: message SENT[/QUOTE]
:confused:

Anyayways, my girl is pissed at me because she thinks I'm lying to her. She got worried a few days ago because she thought I was flirting with some other girl or something, because she read comments of mine on Myspace (lol). The girl is actually my second cousin, and I told her so. I thought that had been taken care of, but now she's accusing me of lying about the girl being my cousin. Stupid hoe desn't trust me. :mad:

And Jonzey: I know it looks bad now, but you will find other girls. I'm the kind of person that gets hung up over a solitary girl for long periods of time as well, so I know it seems lame to go out and meet new girls at the drop of a hat, but it really is what you should do. It's not hard at all to attract girls, and if you're around enough of them, you'll eventually find one you especially like, and will be happy with.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]:confused:

Anyayways, my girl is pissed at me because she thinks I'm lying to her. She got worried a few days ago because she thought I was flirting with some other girl or something, because she read comments of mine on Myspace (lol). The girl is actually my second cousin, and I told her so. I thought that had been taken care of, but now she's accusing me of lying about the girl being my cousin. Stupid hoe desn't trust me. :mad:

And Jonzey: I know it looks bad now, but you will find other girls. I'm the kind of person that gets hung up over a solitary girl for long periods of time as well, so I know it seems lame to go out and meet new girls at the drop of a hat, but it really is what you should do. It's not hard at all to attract girls, and if you're around enough of them, you'll eventually find one you especially like, and will be happy with.[/QUOTE]

drunkoveryou was trying to figure out whether to send a message telling a guy that she wants to hang out again and she just sent the message.

Did you find out about why your mom lost her job?

[QUOTE=drunkoveryou]im a giant pansy w/ relationships, so what sometimes helps me is to pretend that my life is a tv show. really, pretend that you have viewers that you want you keep. what would make for better ratings? definetly telling the girl that you like her. (also instead of a tv show you can be more normal and think "which would make a better story to tell my friends, to write in my journal, to remember when im old" etc. you know?)[/QUOTE]

My show was cancelled immediately after the pilot episode launched :)

And Jonzey, you can't just throw in the towel at this stage of your life - you're not cursed or anything, but it's all a learning experience. If everything clicked for you right away, I'd be insanely jealous of you, just like I would be for anyone else who can just make things work at the drop of a hat. But the thing is, nobody can admittedly do that, unless they're full of shi[font=verdana]t[/font]. You will meet new people each year at university, and it'll be easier because you can take the things you learned and apply them to new people.

But you can't be defeatist about it - it's just something that you have to work at. Nothing is ever easy or free, and there are no absolutes.

I haven't talked to my mom yet. She left for work(she has 60 days left) before I ever woke up. I'm not sure if I should ask her or not, because it may be a touchy subject for her right now. I don't really know anythign I can say or do to help her. I'm usually a pretty harsh person in person, so I'm not the best person to try to console her... I'm probably going to make dinner for my family tonight. She'd probably like that.

It's good that drunk sent the message. You'll never find out what could have been if you don't take risks.

EDIT: lol, Jom...