[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I. Am. Not. Looking. For. An. Answer.

Shut. The. Hell. Up.

I. Was. Posting. My. Out. Look.

Now. Shut. The F[size=2]uck[/size]. Up.[/QUOTE]
What the hell?

no spam allowed

Hmmmm looks like it's come to the point of me and my gf's relationship where we have to being making time to hang out. Since we met and started going out over summer vacation, we've been pretty much together every day or every other. Now that college is starting up for me and she's going back to school, coupled with both of our jobs, it's going to suck a little. But, I see this as an opportunity to make our relationship stronger by being able to be a part of a period of time and have it be no big deal.

Plus, this means the moments we share together will be more special. Idk, i'm just venting.

In other words drop it, ignore what I said, I'm sick of you guys giving me advice when I didn't even ask for it.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]In other words drop it, ignore what I said, I'm sick of you guys giving me advice when I didn't even ask for it.[/QUOTE]
Then why are you in L&R

Mr. Ron I belive the saying is "Through absence the heart only grows fonder."

[QUOTE=GiB_PlAyEr123]Then why are you in L&R

Mr. Ron I belive the saying is "Through absence the heart only grows fonder."[/QUOTE]
I like that. :)

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]I like that. :)[/QUOTE]
Glad ya do. Just remember to put forth the effort. You are more liekly to make something happen than she does, and don't perpousely(sp?) ignore her. Sure you are busy and thats ok, but don't jsut be lik "meh shell understand" cause after a while that sh[SIZE="2"]i[/SIZE]t gets olld brotha. I wish you the best of luck :thumb:

[QUOTE=GiB_PlAyEr123]Glad ya do. Just remember to put forth the effort. You are more liekly to make something happen than she does, and don't perpousely(sp?) ignore her. Sure you are busy and thats ok, but don't jsut be lik "meh shell understand" cause after a while that sh[SIZE="2"]i[/SIZE]t gets olld brotha. I wish you the best of luck :thumb:[/QUOTE]
Oh don't worry. I'm too much in love with this girl to ever ignor her. I'm very confident that we will make time. Plus, we talked about this situation a good amount and we both understand.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]In other words drop it, ignore what I said, I'm sick of you guys giving me advice when I didn't even ask for it.[/QUOTE]

Just because you don't want to hear it doesn't mean it isn't worth hearing. I'm not trying to get you to change your mind on your abstinence. I'm only trying to clear up your misconceptions about relationships and sex, which are (to say the least) horribly skewed.

Abstinence can be a wonderful thing, but you should never be close minded about sexual activities. Most people who don't want pleasure usually have had bad experiances with it in the past or are just concerned about bad things happening when they do it. The important thing is, is to be very careful about it and have both partners understand the boundries.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]Abstinence can be a wonderful thing, but you should never be close minded about sexual activities. Most people who don't want pleasure usually have had bad experiances with it in the past or are just concerned about bad things happening when they do it. The important thing is, is to be very careful about it and have both partners understand the boundries.[/QUOTE]

/nods head in agreement


So yeah, I was looking at your myspace the other day and went "Wait...these pictures were taken in Wildwood."

[QUOTE=Hep Kat]/nods head in agreement


So yeah, I was looking at your myspace the other day and went "Wait...these pictures were taken in Wildwood."[/QUOTE]
Yup, just came back on the 16th. I stayed at the American inn.

Ok I guess ever since one of my girl friends got raped by one of her old boyfriends I've been really skeptical about the whole outlook on sex.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Ok I guess ever since one of my girl friends got raped by one of her old boyfriends I've been really skeptical about the whole outlook on sex.[/QUOTE]
Well there you go. Obviously that is a terrible situation, and it has skewed your view on sex to be a bad thing. But it is not. Everything has a positive and a negative. If something is used positively, it's good and if used in a negative fasion, it will result in bad things. I think you just need to step back and realize that the person who did that to her simply used sex in a bad fasion and doesn't represent sex as a whole.

I seem to be stuck in the mindset though that sex is only good if its with who you're married with because then there's more trust and knowing that you arent just with them for sex.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Ok I guess ever since one of my girl friends got raped by one of her old boyfriends I've been really skeptical about the whole outlook on sex.[/QUOTE]

You cant let every aspect that happens to other people affect how you feel though, and the way you think.

My brother was stabbed walking down the street, do I refrain from going outside?

Like I know its hard not to be tainted, but everyone is different. And you cant base your feelings with what happens to everyone else.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I seem to be stuck in the mindset though that sex is only good if its with who you're married with because then there's more trust and knowing that you arent just with them for sex.[/QUOTE]
I see where you are coming from. Personally, I will only have sex if it is with someone I trust and in a relationship with. Actually, me and my GF have both agreed not to have intercourse until our relationship is further down the road. But really, you don't have to be married to have sex, but then agin there is nothing wrong with waiting either. If you are in a good relationship where you love and trust a person, doing things with him/her shouldn't be seen as "using" the other person as long as the two people both agree to do things.

yea i know i know i know

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]yea i know i know i know[/QUOTE]
Just remember, improving your outlook on things such as sex takes time and effort. Just take some time and reflect on how and why you feel about things and try to make the right changes. it will not happen overnight, but with work it will help.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Ok I guess ever since one of my girl friends got raped by one of her old boyfriends I've been really skeptical about the whole outlook on sex.[/QUOTE]

Well there you go! You've allowed yourself to become terrified.

Here's a quick myth that needs to be cleared up. Rape is not about sex. It's that ultimate expression of domination over another human being. You mentally and physically abuse and humiliate them. Lust has nothing to do with it.

This is the whole problem we've been addressing. You've allowed a handful of experiences to give you a bad impression, and you haven't made the initiative to actually investigate. You've just taken your perceptions for granted.

And ultimately, that's going to hurt you in the long run. If you maintain this fear of your own and everybody else's sexuality the rest of your life, then when you do get married, the sex is more than likely going to be terrible, and she may end up cheating on you because you simply won't be the lover that she wants.

To say that sex is not a part of relationships is patently false. Some people care about it less, but the passion and intimacy are a very big part of a relationship for the first 5-10 years. And that's not something we should be ashamed or afraid of.

Don't assume virgins are more pure and will stay that way. Don't assume people who have had sex can't be good people. You can't even really say virgins are more innocent because sex isn't even a crime.

I'm telling you this because somebody needs to say it. Your perceptions on sexuality are out-of-date and out-of-touch. You've taken it for granted, and it's time for you to start asking questions again before it bites you in the [size=2]a[/size]ss.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I seem to be stuck in the mindset though that sex is only good if its with who you're married with because then there's more trust and knowing that you arent just with them for sex.[/QUOTE]

Wait, am I reading this right? Marriage is the only way to be certain that you're not with somebody just for the sex? Please tell me I'm wrong.

So my Gf is talking about getting promise rings. What the heck are they?

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]So my Gf is talking about getting promise rings. What the heck are they?[/QUOTE]

Something to symbolize that you guys will be together forever, like a promise to each other that you will one day get married and such.

It's a prelude to an engagement ring.

I see.....hmmm, well I see nothing wrong with that. I was thinking of getting matching Claddagh rings for the two of us anyways.

[QUOTE=Mr. Ron]I see.....hmmm, well I see nothing wrong with that. I was thinking of getting matching Claddagh rings for the two of us anyways.[/QUOTE]

I have one of those. They are beautiful and that is almost perfect for a promise ring, really.

I had to google, but those are really pretty.

Ok, got kinda wasted last night, ended up making out with soem girl I'm really NOT attracted to, major regeret right about now?

How do I stop feeling ****?

you were drunk it doesn't count it never happened

[QUOTE=Ganondorf]Ok, got kinda wasted last night, ended up making out with soem girl I'm really NOT attracted to, major regeret right about now?

How do I stop feeling ****?[/QUOTE]

Learn how to handle your drinks or stop boozing.

Im sick of everyone crying after they drink that they did something stupid. Like, fu[size=1]ck[/size], its really not hard to control yourself even if you've had a few drinks.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]I have one of those. They are beautiful and that is almost perfect for a promise ring, really.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, the whole sybolism is already present in the ring.

But here's the thing. Should I surprise her with them or should we go and pick them out together?