Well at the end of the conversation she was like "I didnt mean to say you always put me in a bad mood, I was just in a really bad mood before I talked to you and thought talking to you might cheer me up. But it didnt"

I was like, great :(

Well wouldn't you be a little upset if you had a daughter of your own and found out that she's pregnant, and she hasnt gone to college yet or what? I personally would, I'm very christian and plan to keep my virginity until I marry the woman I love. Sex isn't really a big part of relationships in my opinion.

Yea, I've been in that situation before, ATM. Sometimes there's nothing you can do to cheer a girl up, but sometimes when they look back, they notice the fact that you tried and wanted to cheer them up, and that sometimes helps.

Yea, she is one of 8 daughters. Her family is extremely tight knit, and they all live on a farm together. Her parents still suppourt her, so I cant imagine they are going to take this well.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Well wouldn't you be a little upset if you had a daughter of your own and found out that she's pregnant, and she hasnt gone to college yet or what? I personally would, I'm very christian and plan to keep my virginity until I marry the woman I love. Sex isn't really a big part of relationships in my opinion.[/QUOTE]

At 19 I would expect my daughter to make her own decisions.

They live on a farm, so the baby can stay in the pigsty.

True Kim, but if she still lives with her parents, they probably wouldn't take it well.

I doubt they're going to sacrifice a goat or something, but they still may be dissapointed that a baby may not be good for her future. My mom was 19 when she had me, now I dont live with her and she's dirt poor. Parents worry about their children's futures.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Well wouldn't you be a little upset if you had a daughter of your own and found out that she's pregnant, and she hasnt gone to college yet or what? I personally would, I'm very christian and plan to keep my virginity until I marry the woman I love. Sex isn't really a big part of relationships in my opinion.
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I'd be knocked off base, yeah, but I wouldn't be pissed. If you don't believe in abortion then you have to accept that it's her place to choose whether or not to keep the baby or put it up for adoption and stand behind her in every way possible unless she ASKS for your help.

Don't get me wrong, I know that it's a hard life to live, but I've seen it happen, and the people turned out more mature and happier than I've ever seen them.

Well I do wish her the best and hope everything turns out alright for her, but a lot of my family is struggling because of their poor choices.

[I]If you ever plan to rub her, remember to use a rubber.[/I]

[I]And if you want to go in, remember to use a trojan.[/I]

:thumb:

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]I want to maybe go surprise her with some flowers or something.

Any advice?[/QUOTE]
don't reward that behavior


just fu[I]c[/I]k the sh[I]i[/I]t out of her and stop trying to solve her problems (which aren't even her problems). she just seems bored and wants some drama. put her on an emotional rollercoaster. good emotions, bad emotions.

but don't feel bad that you couldn't help her feel better. she doesn't even want to feel better right now. she wants the drama.

Ok, so recently, over the last few months is been pretty depressed. Ive been on and off depressed for a year or so due to problems in the family and relationship troubles (cliché huh?).
Im 17 and have just finished my first of two years Sixth Form. Since a few weeks before Easter ive got to know this girl that I have fallen for since the very begginning of the year and a month ago we started going out, we are both crazy about each other and she is the first girlfriend ive had that ive felt properly loved.
The point in this post is that ive been very depressed recently even though she makes me feel so happy. When im with her im the most happiest guy ever but the second she goes I feel so down. I keep thinking that when we both finish Sixth Form then we are just going to see less of each other, I dont want to get older because I love all our cuddling and hugs and sobby love crap that we have. I feel that when we do finish we are going to be too young to move in together and that if we get a job after Sixth Form we are both going to be working 5 days a week I guess and see each other not much at all especially we live about 20 mins drive from each others.

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]Ok, so recently, over the last few months is been pretty depressed. Ive been on and off depressed for a year or so due to problems in the family and relationship troubles (cliché huh?).
Im 17 and have just finished my first of two years Sixth Form. Since a few weeks before Easter ive got to know this girl that I have fallen for since the very begginning of the year and a month ago we started going out, we are both crazy about each other and she is the first girlfriend ive had that ive felt properly loved.
The point in this post is that ive been very depressed recently even though she makes me feel so happy. When im with her im the most happiest guy ever but the second she goes I feel so down. I keep thinking that when we both finish Sixth Form then we are just going to see less of each other, I dont want to get older because I love all our cuddling and hugs and sobby love crap that we have. I feel that when we do finish we are going to be too young to move in together and that if we get a job after Sixth Form we are both going to be working 5 days a week I guess and see each other not much at all especially we live about 20 mins drive from each others.[/QUOTE]


Well, this is a issue in many raltionships. Finding time is sometimes hard, but if you love her and she loves you as much as you describe, the both of you will be fine. Just FIND TIME. Plus, don't see space as a bad thing. See it as a necessary obstical to see her. Space is a good thing sometimes though, it will make the moments you two are together more special.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]I want to maybe go surprise her with some flowers or something.

Any advice?[/QUOTE]

I would advise against that. That's just giving her positive reinforcement for bad behaviour.

Give her some space and wait until she's ready to act more mature. When she starts acting normal again, then surprise her with something nice.

[QUOTE=Yppolitia]Ok, so recently, over the last few months is been pretty depressed. Ive been on and off depressed for a year or so due to problems in the family and relationship troubles (cliché huh?).
Im 17 and have just finished my first of two years Sixth Form. Since a few weeks before Easter ive got to know this girl that I have fallen for since the very begginning of the year and a month ago we started going out, we are both crazy about each other and she is the first girlfriend ive had that ive felt properly loved.
The point in this post is that ive been very depressed recently even though she makes me feel so happy. When im with her im the most happiest guy ever but the second she goes I feel so down. I keep thinking that when we both finish Sixth Form then we are just going to see less of each other, I dont want to get older because I love all our cuddling and hugs and sobby love crap that we have. I feel that when we do finish we are going to be too young to move in together and that if we get a job after Sixth Form we are both going to be working 5 days a week I guess and see each other not much at all especially we live about 20 mins drive from each others.[/QUOTE]

Consider yourself lucky. Imagine trying to [I]build[/I] a relationship where both people work full time and go to school full time. :smash:

My girlfriend I are starting to think we are ready for sex. I'm just worried that it will change things. I'm a virgin so I don't know how sex affects a relationship, so I guess I'm looking for some thoughts or experiences on that. We're 16 by the way if anyone wonders.

Okay...

If you think you're BOTH ready for it, that's okay.

Having sex for the first time will give each of you much more confidence than you ever had before.

It will also change your relationship. You will each either feel closer to each other, or more distanced. Don't ask me how that happens, I just know it does.

If you're meant to be together for awhile, you'll be okay.

My personal advice to everyone is:

Just wait until you're married.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Sex isn't really a big part of relationships [/QUOTE]

lies.

[QUOTE=sexymuffin]lies.[/QUOTE]

Actually (sorry Greg :() he's a virgin.

oh i believe it

but it's definately a big part of any relationship

That's where I'm gonna differ on this.

alright i got some shizz

now, it always seems that i'm struck between 2 chicks at 1 time

so there's this chick i work with. Pretty and cute. But she's also like a stoner/drinker/partier. Now the reason that bothers me is because my one friend is also like that and views everyguy just as another penis to fuc[SIZE="2"]k[/SIZE], and when she did have a boyfriend she cheated on him with like 4 guys (including me). So thats a concern, but might be a misplaced concern. But i still like her regardless, I don't let the hangover look in her eyes bother me. She seems nice enough though.

now on the other hand

this chick i've known for like 3 years. She's cute, a little on the average side. She's funny and interesting for the most part. We joke around and talk about. But she's always dead tired (she has like insomnia) so that stops us from hanging out when i say we should. She might be blowing me off but i'm not sure cause its kinda hard to tell. I asked her out over a year ago, but i think she forgot.

oh, and i hung out with my ex girlfriend, from like a year ago, last night at this carnival. I decided to try to get some, but i didn't push hard enough so it was overly obvious just in case she would freak out. I failed in my quest, but whatever.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]alright i got some shizz

now, it always seems that i'm struck between 2 chicks at 1 time

so there's this chick i work with. Pretty and cute. But she's also like a stoner/drinker/partier. Now the reason that bothers me is because my one friend is also like that and views everyguy just as another penis to fuc[SIZE="2"]k[/SIZE], and when she did have a boyfriend she cheated on him with like 4 guys (including me). So thats a concern, but might be a misplaced concern. But i still like her regardless, I don't let the hangover look in her eyes bother me. She seems nice enough though.

now on the other hand

this chick i've known for like 3 years. She's cute, a little on the average side. She's funny and interesting for the most part. We joke around and talk about. But she's always dead tired (she has like insomnia) so that stops us from hanging out when i say we should. She might be blowing me off but i'm not sure cause its kinda hard to tell. I asked her out over a year ago, but i think she forgot.

oh, and i hung out with my ex girlfriend, from like a year ago, last night at this carnival. I decided to try to get some, but i didn't push hard enough so it was overly obvious just in case she would freak out. I failed in my quest, but whatever.[/QUOTE]

I dunno personally I would never ask a girl to hang out because that's too ambiguous. The first one is a cheater and sluts will be sluts so if you're looking for a relationship you should not look there. So if I was you I would ask the second one out on a date.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]I dunno personally I would never ask a girl to hang out because that's too ambiguous. The first one is a cheater and sluts will be sluts so if you're looking for a relationship you should not look there. So if I was you I would ask the second one out on a date.[/QUOTE]

Really?
I would say it really depends on your personality who he is going to choose.

If you think you are a partier, stoner whatever, than party with her. Have some fun and enjoy the relationship. If you are more quiet and reserved, than be quiet and chill with girl 2.

My boyfriend parties almost every weekend, sometimes I do but nothing like I used to. So, relationships like that can work.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]I dunno personally I would never ask a girl to hang out because that's too ambiguous. The first one is a cheater and sluts will be sluts so if you're looking for a relationship you should not look there. So if I was you I would ask the second one out on a date.[/QUOTE]

Well the thing is, i don't know if the first ones a slut. I'm just basing it off of a similar person i know. I shouldn't judge, but thats the first thing that comes to my mind. On second thought, i know several people like that. One has been in a relationship for god knows how long, the other one was in one for like a year, then i think cheated on him or broke up with him for another guy.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Really?
I would say it really depends on your personality who he is going to choose.

If you think you are a partier, stoner whatever, than party with her. Have some fun and enjoy the relationship. If you are more quiet and reserved, than be quiet and chill with girl 2.[/QUOTE]

Well thats the thing, i'm both. I do that stuff and such, but at times i'm quiet and reserved. Usually i only party every couple weeks or so, which is different from her like every night.

To anyone that cares, I hung out with my girlfriend yesterday, and her friend thats pregnant with her boyfriend, and everything was cool.

My girlfriend was just having a rough night.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]Well the thing is, i don't know if the first ones a slut. I'm just basing it off of a similar person i know. I shouldn't judge, but thats the first thing that comes to my mind. On second thought, i know several people like that. One has been in a relationship for god knows how long, the other one was in one for like a year, then i think cheated on him or broke up with him for another guy.



Well thats the thing, i'm both. I do that stuff and such, but at times i'm quiet and reserved. Usually i only party every couple weeks or so, which is different from her like every night.[/QUOTE]

Well try not to make any assumptions about girl 1 on other experiences (I know its hard). For example, I used to party every single night a while back. I would get absolutely trashed and wrecked and blah blah blah. Not once did I cheat on anyone. So, it really just depends on the person.

But go with your gut. Pick the one you think you would have the most fun with and be happiest with. Its not a lifetime decision, and just have fun with it.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]To anyone that cares, I hung out with my girlfriend yesterday, and her friend thats pregnant with her boyfriend, and everything was cool.

My girlfriend was just having a rough night.[/QUOTE]

Thats good. People get into moods, it passes and everything is fine again after. :) Glad to hear if all worked out.

[QUOTE=purplefeet]Thats good. People get into moods, it passes and everything is fine again after. :) Glad to hear if all worked out.[/QUOTE]

Me too, because when girls get moody it is a scary thing.

Fo rizzle. Theyre like a completely different person.

Im about to hang out with my friend who is also my band mate/friends girlfriend. Its just going to be the two of us. if u where my friend (band mate) would you be pissed that i was hanging out with her. Also is it wrong for me to hang out with her?

note: I do like her, but im not going to make a move on her cause I don’t want to piss her boyfriend off and cause that the break up the band.

[QUOTE=ThePinkPanther]Well the thing is, i don't know if the first ones a slut. I'm just basing it off of a similar person i know. I shouldn't judge, but thats the first thing that comes to my mind. On second thought, i know several people like that. One has been in a relationship for god knows how long, the other one was in one for like a year, then i think cheated on him or broke up with him for another guy.



Well thats the thing, i'm both. I do that stuff and such, but at times i'm quiet and reserved. Usually i only party every couple weeks or so, which is different from her like every night.[/QUOTE]

oic. you could have made the whole "I know someone like that" a tad more clear