[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Wait wait...I thought you said she is into you? Now she isn't?[/QUOTE]

No, the situation is one of those three or possible A & C

one thing you need to know is girls wait for the guy to make the move

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]one thing you need to know is girls wait for the guy to make the move[/QUOTE]

yeah we already covered this

Like I said I'm ignoring hat's advice to next her for a little bit longer because every time I feel like this, I usually end up getting a little bit farther with her the next time we see each other.

I've always had the opinion that if you're confused about your situation, you need to move on, but I threw that to the wind when I asked her out because I knew she was going to be like this.

Man, it doesn't seem like it's worth the effort.

You don't really sound like you like her enough to care.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]You don't really sound like you like her enough to care.[/QUOTE]

It's not like that at all.

I've been absolutely torn apart in past relationships and I will not let it happen again.

I'd be completely stupid for her if we got closer.

do what you want, i give up cuz i dont even know what it is your looking for

Oh I'm just responding to what everyone is telling me

I know what I'm going to do

whatre you going to do

become much less available, duh

oh.

ok everyone false alarm


she wants to hit it

Does asking girls out scare the bejesus outta anyone else? I Had to go to the bank today to get a new cashflow card since mine got stolen. The girl that served me was pretty nice lookin so I was talkin to her bout it got stolen. It got stolen on a snowboarding trip last week so we started talkin bout snowboarding and sufing and the like. Gettin on pretty good.

She gave me my new card and I left. Why I left without asking her out I dont know. But it was a stupid idea cos I felt even more stupid when I came back ten minutes later and asked to take her out somewhere.

She gave me her number but holy jesus what a scary thing that is, asking out a girl when you havent done it for atleast 7 or 8 months.

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Does asking girls out scare the bejesus outta anyone else? I Had to go to the bank today to get a new cashflow card since mine got stolen. The girl that served me was pretty nice lookin so I was talkin to her bout it got stolen. It got stolen on a snowboarding trip last week so we started talkin bout snowboarding and sufing and the like. Gettin on pretty good.

She gave me my new card and I left. Why I left without asking her out I dont know. But it was a stupid idea cos I felt even more stupid when I came back ten minutes later and asked to take her out somewhere.

She gave me her number but holy jesus what a scary thing that is, asking out a girl when you havent done it for atleast 7 or 8 months.[/QUOTE]
It's normal.
I mean, everybody is always going to be at least a little nervous, no matter what they tell you, because if you've developed enough interest in the person to ask them out, then you have also developed the nervous feeling that they may say no, and even if it's not too big of a deal, nobody likes being turned down by somebody that they have grown to like even a little bit.

It's perfectly natural, but that "what if" voice is one you can learn to tune out.

Alright then, so whens a good time to ring her? Straight away or wait a day or two? Girls, your input would help here...

[QUOTE=BrownSugar]Does asking girls out scare the bejesus outta anyone else? I Had to go to the bank today to get a new cashflow card since mine got stolen. The girl that served me was pretty nice lookin so I was talkin to her bout it got stolen. It got stolen on a snowboarding trip last week so we started talkin bout snowboarding and sufing and the like. Gettin on pretty good.

She gave me my new card and I left. Why I left without asking her out I dont know. But it was a stupid idea cos I felt even more stupid when I came back ten minutes later and asked to take her out somewhere.

She gave me her number but holy jesus what a scary thing that is, asking out a girl when you havent done it for atleast 7 or 8 months.[/QUOTE]

Hey man when I asked the girl I'm dating out I left her place of business, got halfway down the road and turned around because I knew I should have asked her out.

But yeah...it's like a rollercoaster if you're not one of those really smooth guys- it's only scary while it's building up to it. After that, you either get to get over rejection or feel like you're on top of the world. Chances are, if you're asking a girl out on a date after she gives you her number, she's going to say yes.

But...I wouldn't call her. I would think up some ridiculous reason to go back to the bank and ask her out.

Okay, so here is my problem:

Last night I am driving over to my friends girlfriends house to hang out with my group of friends, and I call my girlfriend. She tells me some huge news, that her best friend of years and years is pregnant. I didn't really know what to say, because the girl is only 19 and definantly didnt plan on it. I just kind of stuttered and said "Woah...that's...big news". I mean, I'll stand behind them because I am friends with both the girl that got pregnant and her boyfriend.

So my girlfriend says that they are taking it really well, and they are going to get married at some point after the baby is born. I got off the phone, continued to my friends girlfriends, and had an awesome time.

I get home around 1:30am and call my girl to say goodnight, and she is just being crazy. Bear in mind, she is on her period, but she keeps going on about how I always put her in a bad mood, how she doesnt want to hang out today, etc I was like "What is all this crap about?" And she admits that she is an emotional wreck because of her best friend being pregnant.

I definantly understand that, and I told her, but what bothers me is that she thinks guys cant understand the situation. At one minute she was fine with it, and when I got home she was really upset. I guess it just made me feel ****ty when I couldnt cheer up, and its like she wont let me cheer her up. I want to maybe go surprise her with some flowers or something.

Any advice?

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]ok everyone false alarm


she wants to hit it[/QUOTE]

lmao

we went through all that and she wants you

dont you love it

good going man :thumb:

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Okay, so here is my problem:

Last night I am driving over to my friends girlfriends house to hang out with my group of friends, and I call my girlfriend. She tells me some huge news, that her best friend of years and years is pregnant. I didn't really know what to say, because the girl is only 19 and definantly didnt plan on it. I just kind of stuttered and said "Woah...that's...big news". I mean, I'll stand behind them because I am friends with both the girl that got pregnant and her boyfriend.

So my girlfriend says that they are taking it really well, and they are going to get married at some point after the baby is born. I got off the phone, continued to my friends girlfriends, and had an awesome time.

I get home around 1:30am and call my girl to say goodnight, and she is just being crazy. Bear in mind, she is on her period, but she keeps going on about how I always put her in a bad mood, how she doesnt want to hang out today, etc I was like "What is all this crap about?" And she admits that she is an emotional wreck because of her best friend being pregnant.

I definantly understand that, and I told her, but what bothers me is that she thinks guys cant understand the situation. At one minute she was fine with it, and when I got home she was really upset. I guess it just made me feel ****ty when I couldnt cheer up, and its like she wont let me cheer her up. I want to maybe go surprise her with some flowers or something.

Any advice?[/QUOTE]

Bottom line is her friend's problem is NOT her own problem and she's way too wrapped up in the drama of it.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Okay, so here is my problem:

Last night I am driving over to my friends girlfriends house to hang out with my group of friends, and I call my girlfriend. She tells me some huge news, that her best friend of years and years is pregnant. I didn't really know what to say, because the girl is only 19 and definantly didnt plan on it. I just kind of stuttered and said "Woah...that's...big news". I mean, I'll stand behind them because I am friends with both the girl that got pregnant and her boyfriend.

So my girlfriend says that they are taking it really well, and they are going to get married at some point after the baby is born. I got off the phone, continued to my friends girlfriends, and had an awesome time.

I get home around 1:30am and call my girl to say goodnight, and she is just being crazy. Bear in mind, she is on her period, but she keeps going on about how I always put her in a bad mood, how she doesnt want to hang out today, etc I was like "What is all this crap about?" And she admits that she is an emotional wreck because of her best friend being pregnant.

I definantly understand that, and I told her, but what bothers me is that she thinks guys cant understand the situation. At one minute she was fine with it, and when I got home she was really upset. I guess it just made me feel ****ty when I couldnt cheer up, and its like she wont let me cheer her up. I want to maybe go surprise her with some flowers or something.

Any advice?[/QUOTE]

Yeah, if you've been dating for a while I would do something like that. She probably just said that you always put her in a bad mood because she was out of it, because I really doubt she'd be dating you if you ALWAYS put her in a bad mood.

Honestly, I would talk to her about how you feel about them, since you seem pretty positive about it. It's possible that she thinks that it didn't impact you too much, but it really is pretty big new.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]lmao

we went through all that and she wants you

dont you love it

good going man :thumb:[/QUOTE]

well she's still going to be busy as hell and all..and apparently thinks I could turn into a huge distraction and mess her school work up and all that. How she could have gotten that idea when we only see each other once a week...I don't know.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Bottom line is her friend's problem is NOT her own problem and she's way too wrapped up in the drama of it.[/QUOTE]

Well, this has been her best friend since 3rd grade, and they are really really close.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Well, this has been her best friend since 3rd grade, and they are really really close.[/QUOTE]

She can feel sympathy for her friend but in the end it's not her problem. Sounds like she's enjoying being dramatic about it.

I enjoy being dramatic if you don't already know me by now.

Well, to dive into the situation even more, the girl who got pregnant, I'll call her "V", has really strict religious parents that definantly wont approve when they find out. Also, the guy that got her pregnant, I'll call him "M", can be nice but can also be a real asshole. He's cleaned up his act a little bit, but hes still pretty crazy. So I think my girlfriend is just upset at the whole situation.

I still think its kinda wrong that she said you always put her in a bad mood, even if she is upset abuot the situation, she shouldn't take it out on you. Of course I learned that girls just do that, and they deny of doing it, but continue to do it.

[QUOTE=ArrestThisMan]Well, to dive into the situation even more, the girl who got pregnant, I'll call her "V", has really strict religious parents that definantly wont approve when they find out. Also, the guy that got her pregnant, I'll call him "M", can be nice but can also be a real spatula. He's cleaned up his act a little bit, but hes still pretty crazy. So I think my girlfriend is just upset at the whole situation.[/QUOTE]

Won't approve of what?

It's a little hard to say "fetus, ungrow" in strictly religious terms.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I still think its kinda wrong that she said you always put her in a bad mood, even if she is upset abuot the situation, she shouldn't take it out on you. Of course I learned that girls just do that, and they deny of doing it, but continue to do it.[/QUOTE]

Ok kid if the three pages of my situation taught you anything it should have been that sometimes people do not think about what they're saying or how it might affect the other person before they say it.

I assume her parents would be pretty pissed when they find out she had pre-marital sex. They're either very christian or very mormon.

Plus, it's not like she's 15.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I assume her parents would be pretty pissed when they find out she had pre-marital sex. They're either very christian or very mormon.[/QUOTE]

It's too bad that some people don't understand that you can't change the past. :(