[QUOTE=Gackt]Haha.

I think shes more into it then me you see. Goes around telling everyone shes with me. Always taking pics of stuff saying stuff like 'I <3 Ben' blah and all that girlie ****.

She is always saying she loves me and is generally all over me. That was one of the reasons why i did this as i thought she would really appreciated it[/QUOTE]

That's good then, maybe she just isn't into Valentine's Day or something. I freaked out when I first had one with somebody, because she blew a bunch of money and I really wasn't into it at all.

So just an update if any of you guys are interested. So yesterday morning I go in to lectures as usual and go sit next to her. Apart from saying hi we barely said anything to each other, which put me in a bad mood, so I kinda left quickly after the lecture, thinking she's in a bad mood with me.

Then later that day I get a message from her asking me why I've in a mood with her for the past week, and if I was the one who sent her the flowers (which she thanked me for and said it was ''v.sweet'') Now, I wouldn't exactly say I'd been ''in a mood'' with her recently, though I admit I had been kinda avoiding her a little.

So today I go in to lectures, and this time she's the one leaving quickly. So I catch up to her and tell her I'm not in a mood with her, I've just been in a mood in general. To which she replied '' its ok, I want us to be friends'' which I took as a rejection, although neither of us has mentioned the flowers to each other, so I dunno if she was referring to that or the other thing or both. Either way, we got on pretty well after that, although it feels like nothing's changed from before. Although I do feel I can be a bit more open with her about things.

But to be honest, I'd think I'd be happy just being good friends with her.

[QUOTE=Jonzey]So just an update if any of you guys are interested. So yesterday morning I go in to lectures as usual and go sit next to her. Apart from saying hi we barely said anything to each other, which put me in a bad mood, so I kinda left quickly after the lecture, thinking she's in a bad mood with me.

Then later that day I get a message from her asking me why I've in a mood with her for the past week, and if I was the one who sent her the flowers (which she thanked me for and said it was ''v.sweet'') Now, I wouldn't exactly say I'd been ''in a mood'' with her recently, though I admit I had been kinda avoiding her a little.

So today I go in to lectures, and this time she's the one leaving quickly. So I catch up to her and tell her I'm not in a mood with her, I've just been in a mood in general. To which she replied '' its ok, I want us to be friends'' which I took as a rejection, although neither of us has mentioned the flowers to each other, so I dunno if she was referring to that or the other thing or both. Either way, we got on pretty well after that, although it feels like nothing's changed from before. Although I do feel I can be a bit more open with her about things.

But to be honest, I'd think I'd be happy just being good friends with her.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the update. How do you feel about the whole thing now? What's been the reason(s) for your mood?

And it looks like things shaped up okay for you guys, and that you are content with being good friends. The flowers were a nice gesture, though, admittedly.

[QUOTE=Jom]Thanks for the update. How do you feel about the whole thing now? What's been the reason(s) for your mood?

And it looks like things shaped up okay for you guys, and that you are content with being good friends. The flowers were a nice gesture, though, admittedly.[/QUOTE]
Y'see there's this other guy on the course (who only joined at the start of this year) who doesn't really like me (I don't think) and he's always whispering stuff to her (well, not whispering, but he always talks really fast and quiet so no one else can understand him- even in normal conversation) and cos he talks to her so much and the other guys hardly ever turn up, I end up kinda feeling left out (cos there'll be only 3 of us, and he'll be talking to her all the time) which was why I was in a mood with her.

But to be honest, I feel fine. I was planning on just being bitchy and avoiding her until I got her message yesterday, so now we've talked and I feel good. Hopefully we'll spend more time together though.

I think I'm happy because now she knows how I feel about her. And it seems to have worked out much better than I expected.

'Sup thread, sorry for this irrevelant post, but i'm posting at school, and So yeah. i won't be on for a while, unless its a school, because I just found out this site isn't blocked. I'm grounded at home for bad grades and no computer( so now im screwing around on the intranets at school, ohhh the irony :lol:) So, ill be on for like an hour maybe, but i have to try to get some work done, so I won't be posting much. I'll be back for good in a like, 2 months, unless my parents forget about it earlier.

And why post this in the L&R thread?

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]And why post this in the L&R thread?[/QUOTE]

Because he's in here a lot and we know he's not spamming the thread, just explaining something.

because I baisically live here. Thats why...

Edit: Thanks, I wuff you, arrow three, at anyrate, I'm gonna search the thread for someone to try to help.

[QUOTE=Guns'n'Zeppelin023]because I baisically live here. Thats why...[/QUOTE]



/I'll get me coat.

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]Ok, so a few days ago I talk about me liking this girl, but it's not that simple:

-I'm 16, Grade10 in school, she's 18, Final year in school(Grade12)

-She's friends with my brother's girlfriend


But somthing changed...My brother broke up with his girl. Meaning that the girl I like is friends with his ex. ok. But my brother is still good friends with them.
We(The girl I like and myself) get along amazingly, and thousands upon thousands of thing in common(music, movies, humor etc.). So wtf. Is it a problem that she's 2 years older, and friends with my brother?

HELP PLEASE:thumb:[/QUOTE]

To be honest, you have things stacked against you simply because of age. Unfair, I know. Girls tend to want older guys (notice: tend). That isn't universally true, but it is generally. It probably isn't a problem at all that she's friends with your brother (if anything, I'd say that is an advantage).

A mistake you do not want to make is coming on too strong. She may interpret that as immaturity and insecurity. If you can't do that, you may be too immature. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, it just means you are 16. Don't push it too hard right now. You never know how things will work out in the end (perhaps in a few years).

[QUOTE=Danish]To be honest, you have things stacked against you simply because of age. Unfair, I know. Girls tend to want older guys (notice: tend). That isn't universally true, but it is generally. It probably isn't a problem at all that she's friends with your brother (if anything, I'd say that is an advantage).

A mistake you do not want to make is coming on too strong. She may interpret that as immaturity and insecurity. If you can't do that, you may be too immature. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, it just means you are 16. Don't push it too hard right now. You never know how things will work out in the end (perhaps in a few years).[/QUOTE]

Thanks. I might just wait 2/3 years. I've got her number so I could just keep in contact and sh!t and see how it turns out.

:thumb:

[QUOTE=Gackt]Heres my problem.

I'm feeling very un-appreciated. I go out of my way to please my girlfriend, so i sent her roses with a msg telling her how i feel about her for V-day.

As i couldn't see her V-day as she had to go to 'college' which she ditched for nothing. So i see her yesterday and i gave her a teddy and some choc's. Also a card that had a poem that i made, that took me close to 6hours to write.

She says awww thanks and seems to be abit of a bitch. Teaseing me all day. Which i just got pissed off at and sat by myself on the sofa for the little while.

So i get home and she tells me how nice it was for me to send the roses and stuff. That kinda annoyed me as why couldn't she have told me in person and said all these nice things. Anyway she goes offline early and we txt each other for abit and she tells me shes going to bed so she can talk to me in the morning.

I go to bed at about 12:30-ish (which is very early for me) and txt her telling me to wake me when she gets up. So next morning i get up no txt or anything. Get on the computer and wait for her for about 3hours. Nothing and i hasn't heard from her all day and she told me to be online.

It just annoys the hell out of me as i do all these nice things and everything. She makes out that she doesn't appreciated it and then asks me to come on i come on and waste my whole day waiting for her. I didn't even get a txt saying why she never came on or anything.

/ends rant.[/QUOTE]

You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you feel like your relationship is a one-way street at this point. Healthy relationships are two-way streets. You feel strongly and sincerely about her and her moves to distance herself from you make you feel rejected and hurt. If she can't accept the way you feel and try to make the relationship work, you may want to break it off. It will only get worse. She may not want the same sort of relationship as you. If so, that's ok, but it isn't fair of her to string you along in an effort to "spare your feelings" (which is what she would no doubt say). Honesty is always the best policy in a relationship. Lying and misleading will always hurt the other person.

You can probably predict which way this will go based on a few factors: (1) her age; (2) your age; (3) the length of time you've been dating; (4) your sex life. If she is young and inexperienced, you will probably lose out on this one. If you are young and inexperienced (particularly if you are close to her in age) you will probably lose out. If you have been dating for 4 months or less, you will probably lose out. And if you have a limited sex life together, you will probably lose out (though sex will not save your relationship).

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]Thanks. I might just wait 2/3 years. I've got her number so I could just keep in contact and sh!t and see how it turns out.

:thumb:[/QUOTE]

Yea man, that might be a good idea. During that time, you can date other girls and get some valuable experience (which would be especially valuable with an older girl). By pushing things you may push her away inadvertently and you could set yourself up for quite the disappointment when it doesn't have to be that way. You're only 16, you have a lot of time left!

[QUOTE=RIP Ian Curtis]Okay, here's my problem (and it's also the reason I'm such a misogynistic cu'nt on the forums). 2 years ago I got together with a girl. We stayed together for ages, ended up getting (informally) engaged late the year before last. Things go swell up until september, when she meets another guy, leaves me, you know the story. So I'm all fuc'ked up for a while, suicide attempts, self harm, heroin addiction, the usaul sob story. Anyway, time rolls on, as it is want to do, and I find myself cleaned up and feeling undepressed for the first time in a while. What should I do to get "back in the game" so to speak? Should I get back in the game at all?[/QUOTE]

Go to university.

****ING HELL!

My mom got fired.

You have no idea how big this is actually going to impact my family. :angry:

I don't even know what I can say to make her feel better. I'll probably have to give up some stuff, and get a job, but that's alright. She's still crying though... and I can't do anything to make her feel better.

****DIUFy sjggfsdj!@@

[QUOTE=Wizard.]****ING HELL!

My mom got fired.

You have no idea how big this is actually going to impact my family. :angry:

I don't even know what I can say to make her feel better. I'll probably have to give up some stuff, and get a job, but that's alright. She's still crying though... and I can't do anything to make her feel better.

****DIUFy sjggfsdj!@@[/QUOTE]
geez that sucks man.
erm cook her dinner? stuff like that.

sorry to hear - but you'd be doing the right thing to help the family to work you're *** off to help.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]****ING HELL!

My mom got fired.

You have no idea how big this is actually going to impact my family. :angry:

I don't even know what I can say to make her feel better. I'll probably have to give up some stuff, and get a job, but that's alright. She's still crying though... and I can't do anything to make her feel better.

****DIUFy sjggfsdj!@@[/QUOTE]
Dude, that's a bitch.
Sorry to hear that, man.
Yeah, like grif said, make her dinner or something, and yeah, definitely try to find a job so you can at least help out a little bit.

So anyway,
Some of ye may of read that i wanted to go (on valentines) day to fly over to see that girl i was talking about, sierra.
Well as you know that didnt work out and it sucked.

So i was really thinking and we had this like hours and hours discussion on msn today and im like ok gotta do something.

So i asked my mom for a lend of some money and i booked a flight to go see her monday - im selling my surfboard (you may of seen the thread) to pay for it all - and the hours and hours of phone calls too. But yea i kinda feel bad for asking for the money at this time but im selling my surfboard, which i love and spent countless hours cleaning toilets to buy.

So yea as i said i bought a ticket with RyanAir and im going to fly out on Monday to Grenich? Airport? and then i gotta get to Cambridge somehow (anyone know if i can do that?) lol.

But i havent told sierra yet.

Im actually kinda all nervous or excited or whatever.

But i havent told her yet and im gonna burst if i dont. She'l prolly think its a big joke - but omg :S

had to tell someone so i told ye.
There.

*goes for a smoke*

[QUOTE=~grif~]So anyway,
Some of ye may of read that i wanted to go (on valentines) day to fly over to see that girl i was talking about, sierra.
Well as you know that didnt work out and it sucked.

So i was really thinking and we had this like hours and hours discussion on msn today and im like ok gotta do something.

So i asked my mom for a lend of some money and i booked a flight to go see her monday - im selling my surfboard (you may of seen the thread) to pay for it all - and the hours and hours of phone calls too. But yea i kinda feel bad for asking for the money at this time but im selling my surfboard, which i love and spent countless hours cleaning toilets to buy.

So yea as i said i bought a ticket with RyanAir and im going to fly out on Monday to Grenich? Airport? and then i gotta get to Cambridge somehow (anyone know if i can do that?) lol.

But i havent told sierra yet.

Im actually kinda all nervous or excited or whatever.

But i havent told her yet and im gonna burst if i dont. She'l prolly think its a big joke - but omg :S

had to tell someone so i told ye.
There.

*goes for a smoke*[/QUOTE]


Oooo your coming to Cambridge. Come say hi, where in cambridge you going? :wave:

[QUOTE=Gackt]Oooo your coming to Cambridge. Come say hi, where in cambridge you going? :wave:[/QUOTE]
i have no idea to be honest, how do i get there from grenich airport? not stansted - the other one.

Good evening thread!!!

So yea. How would you go about gently telling a friend that they really need to move on and forget someone they will not get?

*Is first time I have asked a question in here in a long time. Usually i dish it to other people...*

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Good evening thread!!!

So yea. How would you go about gently telling a friend that they really need to move on and forget someone they will not get?

*Is first time I have asked a question in here in a long time. Usually i dish it to other people...*[/QUOTE]
Tell him to go up to her if he wants her so bad,

if he dose and fails - it worked itself
if he gets it - be happy for him
if he dosent do it - tell him "well if you wont go do it then why bother?"


or something similar









So I jsut rang her and was like "yea im coming to england monday bye"
and she is liek ":eek: "

and im like *cigarette* :smoke:

oh man im excited - i think im nervous about the whole flight, ive never flown before.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]Good evening thread!!!

So yea. How would you go about gently telling a friend that they really need to move on and forget someone they will not get?

*Is first time I have asked a question in here in a long time. Usually i dish it to other people...*[/QUOTE]


tell them that its just not possible and explain the reasons why/

just be nice/

hey Jay!

wats going on?

[QUOTE=Destined_for]tell them that its just not possible and explain the reasons why/

just be nice/

hey Jay!

wats going on?[/QUOTE]

I've told him everything I can. She knows he has a thing for her and he has already been shot down but is remaining tenacious about the whole thing saying that he will never give up. I know a lot about this stuff but dont know what else to tell him. I have been about as blatant about it as possible but he still remains hopeful.

Anywho. I'm doing fine. 4 day weekend so that is great.

How you doing?

Sorry about your mother, Damien, for what it's worth. Hopefully she can find a new job as soon as possible.

I'm sorry about D's mom as well. That sucks.

Hello L&R thread. :wave:

I havent been on in a few days.

Ima gonna read the last few pages, and then ill be here all night long.

[QUOTE=Wizard.]****ING HELL!

My mom got fired.

You have no idea how big this is actually going to impact my family. :angry:

I don't even know what I can say to make her feel better. I'll probably have to give up some stuff, and get a job, but that's alright. She's still crying though... and I can't do anything to make her feel better.

****DIUFy sjggfsdj!@@[/QUOTE]


What did she do wrong to be fired for?

[QUOTE=Tiger]What did she do wrong to be fired for?[/QUOTE]
I don't even know yet. She hasn't said. =\

It took her forever to get that job. Finding a good paying job aroudn ehre is hard. I live in a poor area. ><

a guy i hung out with tonight- nothing happened :( - i want to add him on myspace/send him a message (we have friends in common, thats how i know he's got a profile) a message about how we shoudl hang out again soon, but i dont want to seem pathetic, or weird. so i am restraining myself and will continue to never make an effort in life. please respond that this is the right thing to do.