i really don't understand the backstory for any of this


did you guys ever do anything besides sitting around flirting


its sounds kind of like you're just an orbiter

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]i really don't understand the backstory for any of this


did you guys ever do anything besides sitting around flirting


its sounds kind of like you're just an orbiter[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's pretty much the whole thing. I don't really care what her problem is at this point. If she doesn't like me, I'm moving on. If she's too busy for me, I'm moving on. If she's too jumpy to be around me (she thinks I'm some sort of sex fiend and I'm pretty sure she's a virgin), I'm moving on.

well half the reason she said that probably was just to see your reaction and judge you on it. especially after the whole "pleeeeease come see me" thing on the phone. it was a good chance to make her want your sex fiend body. how did you react to her saying it

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]well half the reason she said that probably was just to see your reaction and judge you on it. especially after the whole "pleeeeease come see me" thing on the phone. it was a good chance to make her want your sex fiend body. how did you react to her saying it[/QUOTE]

Knowing me I probably said something like "oh, that's too bad." or "oh really?" (in a sarcastic tone) but I honestly don't remember. I was pretty stunned.

It was, however, the first night she's worked since we started dating that I did not walk her out to her car. I said I'd better be going, hugged her, and left.

So, maybe I screwed up. I'm no pro at this.

I'd try to find out what she mean't by "by the time school starts I'll forget you even exist" , just because I'm the straightfoward type that likes to get things figured out. Or you can dump her and see how she reacts.

I dont know how relationships just so fogged up from the beginning. I mean, you asked her to date you a month ago and already things are confusing. I dont know why that happens.

Try to figure out what she wants out of the relationship, and if its not what you want/had in mind then leave. Stay happy, relationships come and go.

Also I may as well post that I can't get this damn girl out of my dreams and head. I know I need to move on but this is friggin' hard.

No advice needed, I'm just bored.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]Also I may as well post that I can't get this damn girl out of my dreams and head. I know I need to move on but this is friggin' hard.

No advice needed, I'm just bored.[/QUOTE]

I just cant figure out why you are so hung up on her.

I can't figure it out either.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]I'd try to find out what she mean't by "by the time school starts I'll forget you even exist" , just because I'm the straightfoward type that likes to get things figured out. Or you can dump her and see how she reacts.[/QUOTE]

Well, there's not really any dumping her- we're dating as in we've been out on a couple of dates. I could just stop talking to her, though.

And I know what she meant by it. Her schedule, according to her, is packed despite the fact that she works three days a week and only has one class right now, and to be honest, I believe her about that. That's not even a problem...I've been in a long distance relationship where we only saw each other once every three months... once or twice a week isn't a problem for me.

Judging by the way her coworkers talk, I really think she likes me. Judging by the way she acts every other time I see her, I think she likes me. She can be so sweet sometimes, but there are times like last night where she makes me feel like I'm doing something out of line.

I know she's got issues, too. She told me...and apparently no other guys that I know, that she was molested/something along those lines a few months ago and it really ruined her desire to be around guys or some such thing. So maybe it has something to do with that.

I don't know...I've been played like a super nintendo before and she seems too attracted to me (even on the lame days) to be jerking me around for my friendship.






She did say I'm more attractive than the series of jarheads that made passes at her. :cool:

okay shes throwing herself at you and you're not doing anything about it

Well just go with the flow, date her some more, if it works out, ask if she wants to go steady.

Then you can brag to us all.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]okay shes throwing herself at you and you're not doing anything about it[/QUOTE]

what more can I do?

tell her how you feel, let her know you really like her and want her to be your gf, just stop beating around the damn bush dude

don't do any of that

just

be alone with her

and when you're alone


[I]be alone with her[/I]


then continue to be fun and whatnot

Is there a really a point to have a relationship in HS. i know its not going to last and i know its a big waste of time, money and emotions. so is it really needed. And even though i know that there pointless why is it that it seems like i need to be in a relationship?? Is it all humen nature or wot??

as for AW i wish i could help but i know nothing when it comes to the ladies. But might i say that i just noticed that your avatar really scares the crap out of me if i stare at it to long.

Yea it's human nature to be stupid. We know HS realtionships rarely last, but something in our minds say that it will. We just want the experience.

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]don't do any of that

just

be alone with her

and when you're alone


[I]be alone with her[/I]


then continue to be fun and whatnot[/QUOTE]

Are you saying it sounds like I might be the distant one in the equation?

Because I feel like I could be.

or what

hes saying be alone with her, just you and her

girls like to be alone, cuz the world can be pretty annoying

[QUOTE=mullets suk]Is there a really a point to have a relationship in HS. i know its not going to last and i know its a big waste of time, money and emotions. so is it really needed. And even though i know that there pointless why is it that it seems like i need to be in a relationship?? Is it all humen nature or wot??

as for AW i wish i could help but i know nothing when it comes to the ladies. But might i say that i just noticed that your avatar really scares the crap out of me if i stare at it to long.[/QUOTE]
They're not pointless. You can learn a lot from them. How to act on a date, how to know where there's a problem, what sort of faults you have, what sort of faults other people may have. If you don't have relationships in high school then it'll be harder to be in one later.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]Are you saying it sounds like I might be the distant one in the equation?

Because I feel like I could be.

or what[/QUOTE]
no

you're the "won't make a move" one in the relationship and she's the "come on what the hell is wrong with him" one


i don't really know anything about how you guys act together though so i mean...


edit:those three dots mean something i think

Plus you never know, the person you're going to marry may be your highschool sweetheart. My parents were highschool sweethearts and have been married for 50+ years. Of course people are different now days, but you still never know.

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]hes saying be alone with her, just you and her

girls like to be alone, cuz the world can be pretty annoying[/QUOTE]

well that works every other week

I told her we should get together and watch some of the movies that we'd talked about and she said it would have to be the week after next

See, I can't tell if she's being honest with me or what

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]no

you're the "won't make a move" one in the relationship and she's the "come on what the hell is wrong with him" one


i don't really know anything about how you guys act together though so i mean...


edit:those three dots mean something i think[/QUOTE]

ok. I had it in mind to make a move next time I got her alone. I know there's no harm in it, so I might as well go for it. The worst that could happen is a rather awkward situation at my favorite hangout...and acting normal after something like that happens is better than gold

Don't think too much into it. If you can't trust her then a relationship won't be cut out for you guys.

[QUOTE=AmericanWeiner]well that works every other week

I told her we should get together and watch some of the movies that we'd talked about and she said it would have to be the week after next

See, I can't tell if she's being honest with me or what[/QUOTE]
oh ok it sounds like you're an orbiter


NEXT her

lol that show is balls

[QUOTE=I Am a Hat]oh ok it sounds like you're an orbiter


NEXT her[/QUOTE]

I would have thought the same thing but her coworkers have told me that she was crushing on me etc etc, and it's not like she's got a ton of other guys hanging around her

but yeah I'm gonna decide this week...it's not like I'm going to meet someone and hit it off like james bond in one night

im starting to miss what the whole problem was...

[QUOTE=nobodyblossomsforever]im starting to miss what the whole problem was...[/QUOTE]

like hat says I'm an orbiter because one of A) she does not have time for me B) she's not really into me C) neither of us is making a move.

A) isn't a problem if she doesn't think it's a problem as long as we can work something out every now and then.

B) isn't a problem because I can just find someone else.

C) is a problem because if she likes me and I like her we should not be screwing with each others' heads like this

Wait wait...I thought you said she is into you? Now she isn't?