[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm a mouthy mofo is all.

But, you know how you can really rack 'em up in here when it's busy.[/QUOTE]
I used to.
I've kinda tried to stay away from here a bit more lately.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I'm a mouthy mofo is all.

But, you know how you can really rack 'em up in here when it's busy.[/QUOTE]

*looks at postcount that is under 800*

So have you completley moved on from your guy?

[QUOTE=pohl_56]*looks at postcount that is under 800*

So have you completley moved on from your guy?[/QUOTE]

I think I have. We were PMing each other back and forth earlier today, and I kept feeling like I HAD to respond to him. Even if I didn't have anything to say.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]I think I have. We were PMing each other back and forth earlier today, and I kept feeling like I HAD to respond to him. Even if I didn't have anything to say.[/QUOTE]
Don't respond to him if you don't want to. I'm happy for you that you left him.

[QUOTE=Tillius]Don't respond to him if you don't want to. I'm happy for you that you left him.[/QUOTE]

I second what he said. But I amagine it would be kinda hard to just stop messaging, especially if you have to see him still at gigs and whatnot.

so who has a L&R problem then? I really enjoyed reading some last night. :)

Well, we were friends first, and I don't feel any animosity towards him, so it won't be hard to see him or talk to him.

What is concerning me though is it appears when I pulled away from him, he started pulling me toward him again.

[QUOTE=~grif~]so who has a L&R problem then? I really enjoyed reading some last night. :)[/QUOTE]

You just gotta hang out, Kev, and see what comes up. It's busier at around this time.

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Well, we were friends first, and I don't feel any animosity towards him, so it won't be hard to see him or talk to him.

What is concerning me though is it appears when I pulled away from him, he started pulling me toward him again.[/QUOTE]
do you still think you like him?
hm...

[QUOTE=~grif~]do you still think you like him?
hm...[/QUOTE]

*Raises hand in air feverishly*

I'm guessing no cuz I know about the whole situation.

[QUOTE=pohl_56]*Raises hand in air feverishly*

I'm guessing no cuz I know about the whole situation.[/QUOTE]
lol ok il wait for a new one

*waits*
*goes for a smoke*

I don't think I still like him like I did. Which was I REALLY liked him as more than a friend. But, right now, I feel just friendly towards him and nothing else.

Okay, here's my problem (and it's also the reason I'm such a misogynistic cu'nt on the forums). 2 years ago I got together with a girl. We stayed together for ages, ended up getting (informally) engaged late the year before last. Things go swell up until september, when she meets another guy, leaves me, you know the story. So I'm all fuc'ked up for a while, suicide attempts, self harm, heroin addiction, the usaul sob story. Anyway, time rolls on, as it is want to do, and I find myself cleaned up and feeling undepressed for the first time in a while. What should I do to get "back in the game" so to speak? Should I get back in the game at all?

Heres my problem.

I'm feeling very un-appreciated. I go out of my way to please my girlfriend, so i sent her roses with a msg telling her how i feel about her for V-day.

As i couldn't see her V-day as she had to go to 'college' which she ditched for nothing. So i see her yesterday and i gave her a teddy and some choc's. Also a card that had a poem that i made, that took me close to 6hours to write.

She says awww thanks and seems to be abit of a bitch. Teaseing me all day. Which i just got pissed off at and sat by myself on the sofa for the little while.

So i get home and she tells me how nice it was for me to send the roses and stuff. That kinda annoyed me as why couldn't she have told me in person and said all these nice things. Anyway she goes offline early and we txt each other for abit and she tells me shes going to bed so she can talk to me in the morning.

I go to bed at about 12:30-ish (which is very early for me) and txt her telling me to wake me when she gets up. So next morning i get up no txt or anything. Get on the computer and wait for her for about 3hours. Nothing and i hasn't heard from her all day and she told me to be online.

It just annoys the hell out of me as i do all these nice things and everything. She makes out that she doesn't appreciated it and then asks me to come on i come on and waste my whole day waiting for her. I didn't even get a txt saying why she never came on or anything.

/ends rant.

[QUOTE=RIP Ian Curtis]Okay, here's my problem (and it's also the reason I'm such a misogynistic cu'nt on the forums). 2 years ago I got together with a girl. We stayed together for ages, ended up getting (informally) engaged late the year before last. Things go swell up until september, when she meets another guy, leaves me, you know the story. So I'm all fuc'ked up for a while, suicide attempts, self harm, heroin addiction, the usaul sob story. Anyway, time rolls on, as it is want to do, and I find myself cleaned up and feeling undepressed for the first time in a while. What should I do to get "back in the game" so to speak? Should I get back in the game at all?[/QUOTE]
Course you should get back in the game m8. From a guy to a guy - course.

Dont let that whole story hold you back. Like fair ****s for getting over it - must of been a tough breakup, obivousley. But love dose hurt.

What you should do to get back in the game? well i dono...what did you do before? Go out clubbing or to the pub as I do, find a friends friend friend. Ask someone to hook you up.
Its not that hard in the end, just be confident about it all.

Ok, so a few days ago I talk about me liking this girl, but it's not that simple:

-I'm 16, Grade10 in school, she's 18, Final year in school(Grade12)

-She's friends with my brother's girlfriend


But somthing changed...My brother broke up with his girl. Meaning that the girl I like is friends with his ex. ok. But my brother is still good friends with them.
We(The girl I like and myself) get along amazingly, and thousands upon thousands of thing in common(music, movies, humor etc.). So wtf. Is it a problem that she's 2 years older, and friends with my brother?

HELP PLEASE:thumb:

[QUOTE=Gackt]Heres my problem.

I'm feeling very un-appreciated. I go out of my way to please my girlfriend, so i sent her roses with a msg telling her how i feel about her for V-day.

As i couldn't see her V-day as she had to go to 'college' which she ditched for nothing. So i see her yesterday and i gave her a teddy and some choc's. Also a card that had a poem that i made, that took me close to 6hours to write.

She says awww thanks and seems to be abit of a bitch. Teaseing me all day. Which i just got pissed off at and sat by myself on the sofa for the little while.

So i get home and she tells me how nice it was for me to send the roses and stuff. That kinda annoyed me as why couldn't she have told me in person and said all these nice things. Anyway she goes offline early and we txt each other for abit and she tells me shes going to bed so she can talk to me in the morning.

I go to bed at about 12:30-ish (which is very early for me) and txt her telling me to wake me when she gets up. So next morning i get up no txt or anything. Get on the computer and wait for her for about 3hours. Nothing and i hasn't heard from her all day and she told me to be online.

It just annoys the hell out of me as i do all these nice things and everything. She makes out that she doesn't appreciated it and then asks me to come on i come on and waste my whole day waiting for her. I didn't even get a txt saying why she never came on or anything.

/ends rant.[/QUOTE]
I get the feeling she has you wrapped around her finger.

The fact that you sent flowers - maybe thats just you..

But more to the fact she dose what she pleases without thinking of you? What you would of liked to of done. You went to the effort of doing what she said and she didnt bother turning up?

And maybe she dosent feel comfortable saying thanks for the roses infront of you...? Going out long? Or maybe she was infront of friends or what ever or felt embarressed?

Hm...

all maybes and so on - maybe thats just the kind of person she is. Try opening her up and such - well not that you should. Maybe have a long chat about eachother and stuff, see what she has to say.


i dono. good luck though.

[QUOTE=~grif~]I get the feeling she has you wrapped around her finger.

The fact that you sent flowers - maybe thats just you..

But more to the fact she dose what she pleases without thinking of you? What you would of liked to of done. You went to the effort of doing what she said and she didnt bother turning up?

And maybe she dosent feel comfortable saying thanks for the roses infront of you...? Going out long? Or maybe she was infront of friends or what ever or felt embarressed?

Hm...

all maybes and so on - maybe thats just the kind of person she is. Try opening her up and such - well not that you should. Maybe have a long chat about eachother and stuff, see what she has to say.


i dono. good luck though.[/QUOTE]

You see were really close, also it was just me and her when i met her yesterday. Also she isn't the kind of person not to say thank you and stuff.

I've been with her for close to 4months now and we don't go a day without talking to eavhother. Shes very open to me, it is just weird as she acted not how i thought.

I sent her roses as i knew she loved roses and the pure enjoyment of susrise. But thanks for helping buddy.

[QUOTE=Gackt]You see were really close, also it was just me and her when i met her yesterday. Also she isn't the kind of person not to say thank you and stuff.

I've been with her for close to 4months now and we don't go a day without talking to eavhother. Shes very open to me, it is just weird as she acted not how i thought.

I sent her roses as i knew she loved roses and the pure enjoyment of susrise. But thanks for helping buddy.[/QUOTE]
heh np..

what did she get you anyway?

[QUOTE=~grif~]heh np..

what did she get you anyway?[/QUOTE]

Just a card and a necklace. She says she has something at her house for me tho

Butsecks, always is man.

Seriously though, I'd carefully examine the relationship, like maybe you're way more into it that her and you're creeping her out or something.

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]Ok, so a few days ago I talk about me liking this girl, but it's not that simple:

-I'm 16, Grade10 in school, she's 18, Final year in school(Grade12)

-She's friends with my brother's girlfriend


But somthing changed...My brother broke up with his girl. Meaning that the girl I like is friends with his ex. ok. But my brother is still good friends with them.
We(The girl I like and myself) get along amazingly, and thousands upon thousands of thing in common(music, movies, humor etc.). So wtf. Is it a problem that she's 2 years older, and friends with my brother?

HELP PLEASE:thumb:[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't say that its a problem at all that shes 2 years older than you. The only problem may be with your brother. Is he okay with you being in the picture, since he is friends with her too? A lot of siblings don't like having the same friends. Thats the only problem that I can think of. You may want to talk to him about it. If the both of you have that much in common, I can't see why you shouldn't be together.

**** your brother man. Do what makes you happy. If he can't deal with you being involved with someone he knows, then he just needs to grow up.

I'm probably being too harsh though. I don't think you age would really be a problem, unless the girl thinks it is. Some people put alot of importance on age.

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]Ok, so a few days ago I talk about me liking this girl, but it's not that simple:

-I'm 16, Grade10 in school, she's 18, Final year in school(Grade12)

-She's friends with my brother's girlfriend


But somthing changed...My brother broke up with his girl. Meaning that the girl I like is friends with his ex. ok. But my brother is still good friends with them.
We(The girl I like and myself) get along amazingly, and thousands upon thousands of thing in common(music, movies, humor etc.). So wtf. Is it a problem that she's 2 years older, and friends with my brother?

HELP PLEASE:thumb:[/QUOTE]
That's not a problem at all. A little age difference. Big deal. When I was 15 I dated my best friend's 18 year old sister. The two of you get along real well and have lots of things in common. It sounds pretty good to me. The only thing to do is find out if she actually likes you in that way.
Otherwise, no problem.

And, really, I honestly think your brother can get over it. If he can't handle it, then he can learn to deal.
Even if he gets mad at first, he'll be over it in a week.

If she goes away to university or college, you won't be seeing her as often as you do now. Your brother does need to get over it, though. He should be happy for you, anyway. He can deal, or at least should be dealing with it.

Morning, all. :wave:

[QUOTE=Chaindrive]Morning, all. :wave:[/QUOTE]
:wave:

My brother wouldn't have a problem with it, but finding out if she likes me in that way and not just as a friend is the hard part...

[QUOTE=Prince of Darkness]My brother wouldn't have a problem with it, but finding out if she likes me in that way and not just as a friend is the hard part...[/QUOTE]
Indeed, it may be a little difficult, but this kinda stuff is rarely easy.

[QUOTE=RIP Ian Curtis]Butsecks, always is man.

Seriously though, I'd carefully examine the relationship, like maybe you're way more into it that her and you're creeping her out or something.[/QUOTE]

Haha.

I think shes more into it then me you see. Goes around telling everyone shes with me. Always taking pics of stuff saying stuff like 'I <3 Ben' blah and all that girlie ****.

She is always saying she loves me and is generally all over me. That was one of the reasons why i did this as i thought she would really appreciated it

[QUOTE=Tillius]Indeed, it may be a little difficult, but this kinda stuff is rarely easy.[/QUOTE]


any advice on how to tackle this?